How do you embrace your feelings when they don't make sense or aren't fair or reasonable? I struggle with that a lot but I want to improve
from what i’ve gathered about my own emotional regulation journey is that “feeling your feelings” is a lot more literal than you’d think. When they say that they literally mean that you sit down, and locate where in your body that emotion is like “okay so where in my body is this feeling? What does it feel like? Is it moving? Where to?” etc.
And you just sit with that for like a solid five minutes, and it will literally go away. And once that’s over, when you’re out of that dysregulated state, that’s when you take out the notes app and write down wtf just happened and what may have caused it.
That’s the basic gist of processing emotions! Not trying to make sense of them /when/ they’re happening, because trying to ignore them or fixing the problem without addressing the emotion is by definition suppressing them, and is just gonna temporarily pause the dysregulation as opposed to coming down from it.
there’s no need to attach moral labels onto emotions if you know that they’re unreasonable or unfair; they don’t have to be true or justified to occur, they rarely are actually, so just feel them, process them, then act. Having had an emotion is morally neutral.
