so first things first, i don’t care about camren, i don’t care if tyren is pr or not, i just like fifth harmony and i feel a particular connection to lauren as a 21 year old bi girl. now, i’ll be honest, i really did support and love laucy because lauren came out and laucy started to be confirmed around the exact time i started dating my girlfriend (the first time i’ve been with a girl and the first time i ever really had to acknowledge my bisexuality to others and accept it for myself). it’s also worth noting that my girlfriend is latina and similarly to laucy, my girlfriend and i were best friends for many years before we started dating, we were friends long before either of us recognized our own bisexuality, let alone our feelings for each other. needless to say, we felt close to them. on top of that, OTHER THAN LAUREN AND LUCY, i can’t name a SINGLE celebrity/notable relationship with two bi girls, so both my girlfriend and i felt a strong affinity to them and obviously it was a happy feeling to have some representation. there are LOTS of bi celebrities, which is nice and great sure, but almost none of those girls who have come out as bi have ACTUALLY openly come out in a gay relationship. it’s nice to hear the words but it was inexplicably comforting to see it for real, especially with two girls who are a very similar demographic to my girlfriend and i.
of course, lauren doesn’t owe it to anybody to stay in a relationship for their comfort or representation. im not saying laucy was a good or healthy relationship, we only see what we see on social media. and if lauren is genuinely happier with ty then that’s an upgrade no matter what and im happy for her in that regard.
the sour spot for me, which has truly been a deflating feeling as a bi girl, is to see her complete 180 in terms of posting/appearances/ acknowledging/flaunting her relationship with ty compared to how private and secretive she was with lucy. she let lucy and herself be like pretty much HARASSED for literal months, without defending lucy or debunking rumours. SHE LITERALLY POSTED THOSE PICTURES WITH LUCY AND THEN TOLD REPORTERS TO NOT ASK ABOUT HER SEXUALITY AND REPORT HER BRAIN!!!! NOW OKAY CHILL OUT I KNOW THERE’S LOTS TO THIS: A). why should we care or feel like we have any say in what she does, it’s her life right? B). maybe she HAD to be private about lucy because she wasn’t out yet to her family, maybe she wasn’t comfortable enough yet in her sexuality. i know better than anyone that it takes time to be comfortable enough with YOURSELF let alone your family and i can’t even imagine what it would be like with millions of fans watching and speculating. C). maybe she’s genuinely more in love with ty! maybe she feels more desire to post about him because she’s having more fun, she’s in a healthier relationship, and she finally wants to show off her happiness, yas bitch!!
here’s where i stand on all those points. ONE: obviously lauren’s life is her life. she can be public when she wants and she can be private when she wants. however, she is a fucking celebrity and curiosity and speculation comes with the profession. what’s MORE IMPORTANT THOUGH is that she is an OUTSPOKEN ADVOCATE against the trump administration, for all kinds of marginalized individuals, and she has become maybe the most relevant bisexual representation/advocate for our generation right now. she accepts that!! she did strangers with halsey which was amazing. she did the coming out photoshoot with laucy. she wrote letters and she’s spoke out about it and so no matter what you say about her personal life being her OWN - in my opinion, as someone who literally owes a LOT of my own security in my identity to lauren, look up to her as a bi role model and to acknowledge that part of herself and see her as someone who makes me feel accepted and normal. SECOND: male or female, lauren has always been private with her relationships, the guys she was with before lucy, like we don’t even KNOW timelines because that’s how private she was!! she never was this outward about her previous relationships with men and even AFTER she came out, she was rarely open about lucy. we got some really cute birthday messages but never at the constancy and legitimacy as we are seeing with ty, which is odd considering lucy and lauren seemed to be a very long friendship/relationship.
THIRD: this is the big one for me. because all of this can come down to MAYBE THERE’S A CHANCE that lauren is LITERALLY in a whole new world with ty, whatever happened with lucy to end their relationship so abruptly, whatever we have NO IDEA about, but MAYBE let’s just say regardless of lucy, lauren has never been more in love and happy with life and with her relationship!!! sure. that’s a possibility. but the hurt on my end lies in the fact that she has almost completely disregarded her relationship with lucy. WE ALL KNOW ABOUT IT OF COURSE, but the general population has never had it confirmed. majority of people outside of the 5h fandom, who know of lauren jauregi but don’t know much else about her, all they see was that she said she was bisexual and now she’s dating ty dolla sign. this whole situation isn’t about me or us or people who KNOW lauren, it’s about the general population who don’t know and those who, for the most part, DON’T ACCEPT OR UNDERSTAND HOW BISEXUALITY IS LEGITIMATE AND VALID. im hurt because i thought lauren would recognize the responsibility she has to the bisexual community to show that YEAH my relationship with a girl existed and was real and is just as serious as my relationship with a man. by acting how she’s acting with ty ,so open and lovey and NORMAL!!! KEY WORD NORMAL!!!, she’s a living breathing proof to all those people who stigmatize bisexuality – “oh bisexuality is just experimenting” “bisexuality is either a stepping stone to coming out fully or it’s just girls who want to have some fun with another girl, but ultimately return to a man.” perhaps the biggest instance of this is the fact that she did not even release her own statement on the laucy photoshoot pictures. that would’ve been a PERFECT opportunity to be like we dated and we wanted to come out and it’s more pressure in the latin community but we wanted to show that girls can be tender and loving towards each other just as they can be sexual and friendly and whatever else, we wanted to show the truth of our relationship as women even though we’re no longer together. BAM there’s a great little statement to sum it up and acknowledge it and end all speculation. not only did she like pretty much ignore the pictures, she was ANNOYED by them to the extent that she tweeted that she didn’t want to be asked about her sexuality!!!!! that’s literally like? so fucked up to me im sorry. ASKING ABOUT ONE’S SEXUALITY IS NOT THE SAME AS ASKING A DUMBASS QUESTION ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL LIFE. it’s progressive and gives a voice to MILLIONS OF BISEXUAL PEOPLE!! instead she literally became hostile towards her fans and reporters and pretty much displayed her own resentment to the relationship, but instead it came off as resentment to her bisexuality.
it is, in a way, a display of her own internalized homophobia that she had such a hard time to even acknowledge her relationship with lucy but is so willing to post about ty. and I. GET. THAT. it’s obviously EASIER emotionally and socially to be in a heterosexual relationship!!!!! i can RELATE and sympathize with that. and i also recognize that maybe lucy and lauren ended on bad terms and now it’s put her in an awkward position where obviously she can’t keep talking about an ex that way. but the sad truth is i really don’t know if lauren would have ever taken the leap from “i’m bisexual” to “i’m bisexual in a relationship with a girlfriend who i love” and by completely erasing over her relationship with lucy with her new relationship with ty, it’s left me at least, and probably a lot of other bisexuals who looked up to her, out here hanging, feeling like maybe they’re not as represented and understood as they thought they were. and it genuinely has hurt my feelings and not because of any of this stupid bullshit about camren or ty being a misogynist like fuck all that. she technically doesn’t owe us anything, i know that. i kinda just like feel almost like i was given a taste of being represented and then it got, not just taken away, but was almost replaced with a sense of hopelessness of like “of course bi girls end up with boys.” idk, im sorry lauren that this burden has been placed on you and your personal life but that’s just what is kinda shitty about this whole thing
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