Minh

Mr. Steal-Your-Girl's-Food. Long walks with your dog.

[escuerzoresucitado]

[birdblogwhichisforbirds-deactiv]

I cannot emphasize enough how much of a life hack it is to exclusively be friends with, date and marry people who are not constantly mean assholes to you.

[angstmonsterwrites]

This may seem like basic common sense, but one interesting (and kind of terrifying) thing I recently read was that some individuals who grew up in an emotionally abusive environment find that their anxiety level actually decreases in the presence of those who are mean or overly critical of them because it's familiar. Their nervous systems are hard wired to react to that kind of treatment as "normal" in the sense that it knows what to do with it--what defense mechanisms to employ when, etc.

Meanwhile, kinder, more peaceful, and healthier relationships are quite a dramatic adjustment, and ironically feel less predictable because of all the threats that are absent and never materialize. It feels suspicious or too good to be true, which in turn ratchets up hypervigilance and hyper-arousal. Instead of knowing what BS is coming because it always does, there's the nebulous sense that the other shoe is just waiting to drop. Safety and respect can feel the most unsafe for a while, because as far as the traumatized nervous system is concerned, those things don't exist, or if they do in any form, there must be a million unseen strings attached.

This is part of what traps a lot of people in abusive relationships, consistently draws them to want to please assholes, or keeps them moving from one unhealthy environment to the next--a highly toxic comfort of familiarity where being on the receiving end of cruelty feels like "home".

[gardensandghosts]

The more I learn, the more infuriated I am about my past.

[depsidase]

[ruinedchildhood]

[mr-deep-downer]

dark science beyond belief

[mr-deep-downer]

dark science beyond belief

[highfunctioningfool]

[endminx]

[cervinesatyr-deactivated2021083]

I have to reblog this every time because frankly this is absolutely genius prose

[sugarpkts]

[sugarpkts]

jeopardy prompt

[beardedmrbean]

[tweets-i-have-saved-on-my-phone]

[everythingstarstuff]

[kill4yu]

deets.

[dunkstein]

[misery-lake]

Bakes an evil cake

[rainbow-femme]

Considering the declining retention rate I don’t feel like they have the room to lose 20 years of Catholics, Pope should just write them a note to give to St. Peter saying they’re excused

[butchexboyfriend-deactivated202]

Kin

[pitbolshevik]

absolutely obsessed with the people who apparently think john green is the target of a sexual harassment campaign because of the fucking cock manifesto