When perfection comes the imperfect disappears

These are my thoughts.

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Gosh, I didn't realize how much I missed my husband being on day shift.

To just go to bed at the same time is so nice.

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I would appreciate prayers for my husband this week. After two and a half years he is moving to day shift. He is going to be tired and being tired with his job is not safe.

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The other day I saw a video where an author was discussing if explicit content had a place in books and she was like, "of course, if we can include a battle sequence, why not what happens in the bedroom? It's the same thing."

And I haven't stopped thinking about it because What do you mean it's like the same thing?!

People don't live and struggle in shame with damage to their personal and romantic relationships because of a compulsion to read books with vivid battle scenes.

Brain rot. It's brain rot I tell you.

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I realized I have such a strong reaction to some content in books, particularly spice, but not exclusively, because I guard my imagination.

That is how I see and understand the world and how I view sex hits straight at my marriage.

I will not compromise on what I read. I don't care how popular it is.

It feels like people understand on some level that it shapes how you see the world, but a lot of people don't realize the trash that has already warped their view of the world.

I see people who discuss how terrible their relationships are, how depraved the books they read are, and then call me foolish for not following.

Nope. I am good with my peaceful, happy marriage and romance stories that point me back to Christ.

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I feel like when people say "it isn't hurting anyone", they are almost without exception referencing something that is hurting people.

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Romance readers that read spice, promote and market books using the spicy content, will also complain that people equate all romance with smut.

Well, when you present it that way, what do you know, that is how it's perceived.

My sil does this and it drives me nuts. "It's just a little heat." Then markets almost entirely with the spicy scenes.

Girl. You did this.

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Anyone know how to get the smell of vomit out of a couch?

We have a shampooer that we used twice and we drenched it with fabreeze and it is still rancid.

I am worried the problem might be the gap between the cushions where we can't really reach. ☹️

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I have been listening to my poor dog bark for over 2 hours now from the fireworks. Nothing is calming him down. He has never been this bad before.

I have a migraine setting in and I just want to sleep.

Thankfully my kids are sleeping through all this.

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On threads my algorithm was shifting cause I have a morbid curiosity and click on things that horrify me, so I made a post like, "where are my closed door, no-spice peeps?"

And 90% of the authors replying have some variety of ace or lesbian/bi romance.

I think I am messing my algorithm up in a completely new and unexpected way.

This is not what I meant.

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You have to read all the books in your bedroom before you can leave. How long will you be trapped?

There's no books in there, I can leave immediately

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You can't die from hunger or thirst or lack of medication etc.

It doesn't matter which books you've already read. You have to read them all, starting from now.

Physical books only - if you have an e-reader in there you don't have to read your entire digital library.

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I genuinely can't get my head around publicly requesting recommendations for books with spice. Like specifically being like, "The spicier the better "

Like, you want to put that info about yourself out on the Internet, forever?

The whole culture around normalizing and recommending these books is wild to me.

That is just out there now for everyone to know about you.

That's weird guys! It's weird to be like, "can you recommend me some book porn?"

Or even, "I loved how this turned me on, you should read it."

That's what I see at least. They probably don't see it that way. I am sure they don't but I am cringing to death quietly in the background.

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I have been having my son repeat back when I tell him a rule and he keeps telling me what I said, but framed in the positive.

Me: Don't open the dryer while it's running.

Him: you can open the dryer when it's done.

Me: Don't throw toys in the house.

Him: We can throw toys outside.

Me: yes...... But that's.... Okay, yeah.

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Okay, warning: girly issues in this post.

I downloaded flo because I got a new phone and needed a new cycle tracking app and I am so uncomfortable with it. Why is it trying to tell me about sex toys and how to masterbate?

Can it just tell me when my period is coming?

It's weird.

I am gonna try a different one.

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Also so annoying to try new apps, put the info in just to find it requires a subscription. Am I going to have to pay for this? That's dumb. Put some ads in it and be done with it.

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Okay, warning: girly issues in this post.

I downloaded flo because I got a new phone and needed a new cycle tracking app and I am so uncomfortable with it. Why is it trying to tell me about sex toys and how to masterbate?

Can it just tell me when my period is coming?

It's weird.

I am gonna try a different one.

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I did a sample edit and she sent it back and it's the first time I have had someone outside read any part of it to give feedback.

It was so helpful and I am excited to know I can actually accept criticism and that the chapter is more fixable than I anticipated. All the parts I didn't like but didn't know how to fix, she had a suggestion.

I am so excited for more feedback now. 😂

I know there are so many things that I wouldn't catch cause I have rewritten it so many times. I have way too much in my head to notice something missing.

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The discussion of purity culture fascinates me because I feel like they weren't really taught a lie, though maybe it wasn't always age appropriate and if you don't have the proper understanding of people and the world, it would land strangely.

But also, yeah, it's better to keep sex within the marriage covenant. There are consequences for not keeping it there. There is grace for that, but it still doesn't nullify the natural consequences.

I am particularly curious when people say it impacted their marriage. Like, did it attach shame to proper intimacy? Did the consequences surface from former promiscuity and it got attached to purity culture?

It feels so complex and I wish people were calmer about it and more self-aware so real conversations could be had about it.

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Lol every day once in a while I check in and one of my bigger posts has made another round.