Vegantopia Homestead

A place for ideas and living beings who wish to share some kindness. Something between solarpunk and cottagecore. My main blog for all the nerd stuff and daydreams: Bohemian Whovian

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Dismantling the Lies of Abusive Parents Masterlist

Resources

Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum

You don’t owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child

You had the right for basic resources

Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid

What it means when they say ‘This is MY house’

My house = my rules is blackmail

Children don’t owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered

Physical abuse

You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence

If they ‘don’t know they’re hurting you’, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?

Hitting children is irrational and doesn’t work

You cannot ‘provoke’ your parents to abuse you if they’re not abusive

Why do parents hit, manipulate and traumatize children

Blatant Lies

Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak

They’re lying when they say it ‘wasn’t that bad’‘

You wouldn’t have grown up spoiled if not for abuse

You got too affected by it’ is a lie

Your parents are not ‘just too emotionally immature’ to understand abuse

‘You’re not living in the real world!’ is nonsense

You’re not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.

Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse

Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse

Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy

You are not abusive for resisting abuse

When they claim ‘they didn’t mean it’, it’s still abuse

Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you

Psychological abuse

Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing

Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids

If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they don’t 

Parents don’t have the right to enter your room to scream at you

Parents insisting for you to be ‘tough’ are doing it to hide the trauma

Even if a kid acts like ‘they can take it’, it’s still abuse

Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred

It’s inhumane to control and shame children’s reactions to abuse

Why don’t you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills

Acting like they’ll change is escape sabotage

Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm

References to how healthy parenting looks like

Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse

If parents want you to act the way you did when you were little, they’re dangerous

Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you

Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety

Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships

Parents acting like you’re a ‘bad child’ is a shame tactic to control you

There’s healthy and abusive ways to give children chores

Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting

If your parents make you suicidal, they’re abusive

Parents threatening ‘they could be worse’ is abuse

Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong

Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture

If this hits home, also read Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

[kiwirail]

meat eater: after attempting a rounded, wholesome vegan diet of oreos and iceburg lettuce for two days I have come to the conclusion that the vegan diet is unhealthy and made me sick

[anothergoodtime]

You know what people don’t talk about often enough? Playing catch up in life after spending your teens or early 20s suicidally depressed. There’s so many more layers than just being able to say “I don’t want to die anymore.”

The difficulty in academia or a career after spending years thinking you wouldn’t be alive long enough for any of it to matter.

The exhaustion that comes from self awareness and self soothing, with the constant voice in your head saying “don’t go backwards.”

How lonely it is to watch the people your age starting families when you’re just barely learning what stable relationships are, and the sudden societal pressure of being “up against a clock” for these kinds of things.

The judgement from others if you change your image or interests this late in the game just because you finally figured out who you really are under the demons.

Be kind to those who are developing and blooming after years of not planning on being here long. We are living a life we absolutely didn’t think we’d have, and it’s hard enough without society reminding us there’s expectations of our age.

We didn’t get to be young; we were too busy fighting battles few know.

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[a-place-for-growth]

Honey bee hives decrease wild bee abundance, species richness, and fruit count on farms regardless of wildflower strips - Scientific Reports

Pollinator refuges such as wildflower strips are planted on farms with the goals of mitigating wild pollinator declines and promoting crop p

Just needed to post this quick reminder because recently there is a lot of the common 'honey is good for nature' misinformation going 'round again, even on blogs I usually like a lot for being a voice of critical thinking.

While it is true that we need to help wild bees and insects in general, it is a widespread lie that beekeeping actually helps with the issue of biodiversity. Especially in urban areas, managed and introduced bees have become a significant threat to wild pollinators.

Since I once believed the same comfortable lies before I educated myself on the matter, I wanted to provide some links to scientific data I wish I had read earlier to make my decisions based on those and not on the opinions of people who benefit from beekeeping. If you are interested, have a look and make your own decisions.

Mounting evidence that managed and introduced bees have negative impacts on wild bees: an updated review

Worldwide, the use of managed bees for crop pollination and honey production has increased dramatically. Concerns about the pressures of the

Decline in wild bee species richness associated with honey bee (Apis mellifera L.) abundance in an urban ecosystem

The spatial heterogeneity of urban landscapes, relatively low agrochemical use, and species-rich floral communities often support a surprisi

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

“family is important”, “family means everything”, “put family first” do not apply to unhealthy and abusive families

[morethansalad]

Kung Pao Cauliflower / 宫保菜花 (Vegan)

[thegirlthatcriesacademia]

Ocean Vuong, On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous // Alison Pelegrin, from “Collect for the Days of My Youth,” Waterlines: Poems // @sunsbleeding // Doreen Valiente // Stanley Plumly

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[domuum]

[ID: Maslow's hierarchy of needs. bottom basic need: make delicious meals. top basic need: be near the sea. bottom psychological need: kiss my partner. top psychological need: wear weird clothes. self-fulfillment needs: create art /end ID]

[mossworm]

A brief intro to stamp making!

These are regular pink erasers from the supermarket. I'm going to make a flower. First, I trace the eraser itself to get a feel for the size.

I trace the design for each color of ink on separate pieces of tracing paper, then tape them onto the erasers and rub the graphite side down to transfer the image. Any paper that holds graphite will work for this.

Since I'm using red, blue, and yellow ink, I'm layering the stamps over top of one another to produce secondary colors like green and purple. I use a V-shaped carving tool most of the time, just a cheap one I got in a kit at Michael's. Almost anything sharp will work.

I got these Ranger ink pads also at Michael's, they're working for me so far. Slightly nicer ink pad brands usually also sell bottles of refill ink, so you don't need to buy a whole new pad when one runs dry.

Most of the time involved is spent carving the rubber and testing the print as you go. Be careful to carve in the direction away from your hands.

I think these worked out pretty well! Thanks for reading, and have fun!

[postcapitalist-dreaming]

Watterson pulled no punches

[sanddollarpoems]

I grew up on Calvin and Hobbes... this hits harder as an adult.

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for your dash: a chubby succulent in bloom

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[hearthoof]

i used to think vegans were annoying but after coming to understand vegans and turning vegan myself, it's clear to see that most "annoying" vegans arent even annoying. theyre just saying the truth.

like yes, some vegans can go too far and say some whacky shit- but the majority of "annoying" vegans are just telling you how it is and asking why are there contradictions and double standards. you can find it annoying all you want but it doesnt make anything they say inherently wrong or not worth anyone elses time

[chokrihizem]

Are you ready to grow your own luffa sponges? 🧽 Join us as we guide you through the process of planting sprouted luffa seeds in your garden. 🌱 Learn how to choose the perfect spot, prepare the soil, and give your plants the support they need to thrive. With our expert tips and tricks, you'll be harvesting a bountiful crop of luffa fruits in no time! 🌽 Don't miss this must-watch video for all aspiring luffa growers!

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[dreaminginthedeepsouth]

"Transformation is my favorite game and in my experience, anger and frustration are the result of you not being authentic somewhere in your life or with someone in your life. Being fake about anything creates a block inside of you. Life can’t work for you if you don’t show up as you."

- Jason Mraz