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barbellsandsuch reblogged your link and added:

I thought long and hard about how to respond to...

First things first, yes I genuinely misunderstood what you were trying to say, and thank you for giving me the break down. Some things that stick out:

"Even if he doesn’t MEAN to make a comment about my primary worth. He still is. This doesn’t make him a bad person, or even a bad friend. It makes him a person who’s unaware of male/female power structure.This makes him a victim of our male dominated culture."

-- You mentioned this is where it gets complicated, and I would say so indeed. At face value I see this as him giving a compliment to your physical image, he used the word tight (which is obviously sexual) so I'll assume that's the primary focus. So it's unwanted sexual attention, not only that, but he TOLD you that he noticed you in a sexual way, rather than in a generalized "Healthy/Strong" way you would have preferred. I can see the connection you're making. If I'm seeing this correctly, then comments about one's image should stay strictly platonic from both sides? How would you respond to someone who gave you a compliment that had a sexual tone to it in real life instead of through a message? I can't say that the people I know would do anything other than maybe a "Thanks", and chalk it up to feeling wanted. Of course I'm not a woman, so does that "Feeling of being wanted" have a fine line? Like "How does he want me? Does he want me enough to do something about it? He's obviously stronger than me, could he rape me?" Is that the brain train that comes from a sexual compliment or am I going too far with that one?

"And yes, he is objectifying me. While it is nice that he took the time out of his day to reach out to me, it would have been nicer if he at least would have asked how I was doing/what I’ve been up to lately before he launched into a review of my body. The fact that he didn’t is objectifying."

That I can understand, if it's the first thing he notices it's almost like you're a piece of meat, instead of an infinitly complex human being with your own personality, goals, and voice. It's a barbaric "Hey... I r see you, and u is has nice butt", if I'm following you correctly?

Well I have to say I've been informed and have had my view expanded, which is exactly why I post the things I do, I give my opinion to the best of my knowledge with the full expectation that I could be totally backwards on it. It's very nice, VERY nice to be informed and actually have my view changed. Very well done. I actually have a little smile on my face. I've been humbled. 

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rudepancake reblogged your post and added:

Dude. I checked out your blog. Stop bashing the...

I'm not bashing anyone, I'm saying that not everyone views the feminist movement as "equality for everyone", even if that is what the textbook definition is. A lot of people opt for a "humanist" title, since the Feminist movement doesn't cover the inequalities that men face. Enter the MRA (Men's Rights Association), who focuses on men, rather than women (Since they have the feminist movement), however again, most opt for a "Humanist" title. Not everyone agrees with everything the feminist movement is, it's more confusing to say "I'm a feminist when it comes to ______ and ______, but not ______." when asked the question: "Are you a feminist". Likewise with a member of the MRA. I hope I've made this clear. It's a matter of convenience.

Instead of "I'm a republican except when it comes to __________ and __________ and ________, I tend to be more liberal on those issues"

It's easier to say "I don't like politics, everyone is crazy".

By not defining yourself you avoid potential conflict based off a preconceived notion of what that label stands for from the asking party. It gets rid of any assumptions that the person may have if they said "I'm a Republican". Some people may think, "So you're a right wing nut job Christian that loves guns and hates minority groups". Which of course would be wrong of anyone to assume, but to avoid the whole "You shouldn't assume", people opt out of a title all together. Does this make sense?

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colleenreigh reblogged your photoset and added:

Haha yes. Why the fuck not? My mother spoke, and I...

Women that can potentially hold a government position are rare. Currently men are more inclined to put in the extra hours, work longer for less, not use kids as leverage for time off. They are the expendable work horse needed to provide for the family. At least, that's how the current social state works. 

COULD more women be in government? Yes, but it would take a huge change in social dynamic that I just simply don't see happening, even up to a 50/50 split in the government positions. Why? There just simply isn't enough women with that mind set. It's not instilled into them to work very very hard and provide for a family at an early age. Let's say there are 100 driven women starting at the very bottom of the ladder, this is maybe when they're 23-24. Young, ambitious, goal oriented. How many of those 100 women are going to want to eventually find a man? How many of THOSE women will want kids? How many men chosen by those women would "let" them continue their goals? How many of those women will put their goals on the back burner to take care of said kids? After those women are crossed off, you're left with a small group of women, compared to the amount of men that are also trying to climb the ladder. There just simply aren't enough women. 

As far as "Needing" to be in government? That's interesting because women tend to be more apathetic, caring, and group oriented. Which is why there are more Democratic women, then there are Republican. The only "concern" would be regarding the shit storm we have already when it comes to War. War is profitable, and women probably wouldn't opt to spend as much on defense, which may or may not be a good thing. Personally women in government could work, but as I stated above, the amount of women that could potentially get to the top are but a fraction. It's just not realistic unfortunately. 

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treehugga reblogged your link and added:

You’ve pretty much just stated why women shouldn’t...

I agree that women shouldn't have to be compared to a man to be viewed as successful. This isn't my position, I'm on the same side as you, I'm saying why announcers do it, or at least as far as I can see. Which I don't agree with. But I do agree on the rest of the points you made.

[viridiansunlight]

Opinion: Exalted is feminist. Or at least as much feminist as a relatively mainstream rpg game could be.

Yes, it has its downfalls, (more often than not stemming from the creative differences between the writers). But it is feminist, and it shows in the world it depicts.

From ground down: in great majority of the world, women have the same laws and duties as men, and in two biggest cases of misogynistic society the fault is caused by explicitly supernatural, outside means: (delzahni have been led from the shadows by a misogynistic lunar and the west is plagued by spirits who make it really hard for women to sail). Women are as common as men in the army, positions of education and leadership. The most powerful country in the world was led by a woman, and the biggest movers and shakers of political scene are women (Mnemon, V’neef, and arguably Roseblack).

Going in the past: the Queen of Creation (admittably a figurehead) was a woman, and so was the greatest inventor of the first age (Bright Shattered Ice). Of the seven major gods, six are feminine in aspect (Luna is referred to as she). The only unbound and well-loved Primordial remaining in Creation is also feminine. You could argue that UCS is the chief and the Maidens are aspects of a single deity but that’s still three to one of the major benevolent cosmic forces.

Going forward - the iconic Solar circle has three women and two men, rather than the other way around as it is popular in the modern media, and there is still more of women in exalted.

Though, what actually IS good about that, and why Exalted is feminist?

Those women have agendas. Mnemon wants the throne, Roseblack wants to protect her country, Faka Kun wants to end slavery of her people, the Green Lady wants to destroy the Deathlords etc. When men enter the agenda they are allies, friends, rivals, tools, lovers. 

Whats more, men portrayed as using women are not glorified, never portrayed as ‘misunderstood, nice guys’ - at most they are depicted as just what they are, and the reader generally reaches their own conclusions.

Of course, there ARE problematic books or parts of the writeup.

[barbellsandsuch]

Today an old friend hit me up on Facebook. For the sake of proper context: He’s a nice enough guy, with a girlfriend, a nice home and a dog. Without getting into detail, his opening line went something like: "Hey, you ran right past me today at (insert location) :(, btw have you been hitting up...

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Or maybe he wasn't basing your worth on anything? Simply commenting on a feature you have? Just accept the compliment and move the fuck on? Did you want him to first compliment you're mind first? Maybe your proper use of quotes? I don't get it, do you just expect everyone to think everyone else is a grey blob and just be only looking at the mind? People notice the body, he noticed yours, and gave you a compliment. This.. is bad to you? Wow. What an interesting view you have indeed.

[farcries]

You can’t be an anti-feminist but want equality for everyone. Feminism is about wanting gender equality. Your statements are contradictory.

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Eh... feminism has a little bit of a bad rap. For instance, if you call yourself a MRA (who are their core want to be equal), people may shy away from that because of some mixed views. It's not contradictory because it's complicated. 

[treehugga-blog]

It’s really starting to piss me off that the announcers for the Olympics are constantly comparing the women to men athletes. “She’s the male [name here]”. “See she’s the male version of [male athlete here]”.

Why can’t women just be recognized as being good athletes without needing to constantly...

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Because sports are dominated by men. Men do pretty much every Olympic sport better than women. That's why they don't face each other in sports, I'm assuming you know this. As to why they do it? Simple, men are marketed more than women in sports. Shaun White, Usain Bolt, Michael Phelps, Kobe Bryant, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Muhammad Ali, every one of those names pulls up an image in your brain. People underestimate how good women are in sports because they are... well... women. So when you hear "She's the female Shaun White", people make a connection and they know that she's one of the best. However, if they for instance listed her awards, her record, her achievements, people at the end of the day go: "Yeah... but... that's a woman...", when they mention a male counterpart, it gives the impression that they are just as good as them, when often times they aren't.

[whoneedsfeminism]

I need feminism because “Blurred Lines” (a sexist song that reminds a woman that “she knows she wants it”) was the top selling song of 2013.

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Yeah, because it was catchy... not because of the social points that you're making it out to be. You're acting as if men everywhere are in favor of the song because of the social point you're mentioning, and that's not what men did at all. 

[killer-queeens-blog]

still don’t know why its a considered a social rarity for guys to know how to cook like how else are you gonna survive?? how are you going to live without basic knowledge of sustaining yourself on your own?? its almost like we teach guys that they can never be fully responsible by themselves and need everything handed to them well into adulthood oh wait

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It's not a social rarity, most people don't take it upon themselves to actually learn how to cook. Not to mention people don't have that much money, so people are looking for fast and easy things to cook. Men more so than women can scarf something down because it's good for them, not because it's particularly tasty or looks good. 

[gynostar]

Plus-Size Princess (x)

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Why not? Because that's a health risk, there haven't been any fat princes all the ladies are swooning over. Fat isn't attractive, period.

[brokenbutbright]

Feminism is like the red pill in the Matrix.

Suddenly you’re watching everyone walk around in this delusion and reality is terrifying.

[abc-perspective]

Yes.. everyone you see, like what? What do you see on this daily life that scares you so much little man?

[nuchka]

CSU femsoc yeah yeah!

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Then be clear.

[feimineach]

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The American Association for University Women (AAUW) has released a report which finds that, one year out of college, millennial women immediately face a wage gap, making just 82 cents compared to their male counterparts’ dollar. “Graduating to a Pay Gap” focuses on men and women who...

No.

[notrealjohngreen]

Okay so I’m at the appropriations committee and there’s a long row of middle aged balding males and 1 lady They’re all representatives

FEMALES NEED TO BE IN GOVERNMENT

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No.

[of-another-broken-heart]

Alright, so this is related to my misogyny posts.

But it’s actually about the complete and total lack of female support throughout the whole ordeal, and not the argument itself.

I was completely alone in calling bullshit.

I got nothing but dismissive comments, red herring sarcasm, failed...

[abc-perspective]

Just because they're female doesn't mean they're going to agree with anything you have to say. You assume too much, you can't be all vagina's in arms together, people are people.

[viridiansunlight]

Opinion: Exalted is feminist. Or at least as much feminist as a relatively mainstream rpg game could be.

Yes, it has its downfalls, (more often than not stemming from the creative differences between the writers). But it is feminist, and it shows in the world it depicts.

From ground down: in great majority of the world, women have the same laws and duties as men, and in two biggest cases of misogynistic society the fault is caused by explicitly supernatural, outside means: (delzahni have been led from the shadows by a misogynistic lunar and the west is plagued by spirits who make it really hard for women to sail). Women are as common as men in the army, positions of education and leadership. The most powerful country in the world was led by a woman, and the biggest movers and shakers of political scene are women (Mnemon, V’neef, and arguably Roseblack).

Going in the past: the Queen of Creation (admittably a figurehead) was a woman, and so was the greatest inventor of the first age (Bright Shattered Ice). Of the seven major gods, six are feminine in aspect (Luna is referred to as she). The only unbound and well-loved Primordial remaining in Creation is also feminine. You could argue that UCS is the chief and the Maidens are aspects of a single deity but that’s still three to one of the major benevolent cosmic forces.

Going forward - the iconic Solar circle has three women and two men, rather than the other way around as it is popular in the modern media, and there is still more of women in exalted.

Though, what actually IS good about that, and why Exalted is feminist?

Those women have agendas. Mnemon wants the throne, Roseblack wants to protect her country, Faka Kun wants to end slavery of her people, the Green Lady wants to destroy the Deathlords etc. When men enter the agenda they are allies, friends, rivals, tools, lovers. 

Whats more, men portrayed as using women are not glorified, never portrayed as ‘misunderstood, nice guys’ - at most they are depicted as just what they are, and the reader generally reaches their own conclusions.

Of course, there ARE problematic books or parts of the writeup.