hey so, as a man who works with other men, here’s a quick relationship tip: if he doesn’t much like cats, that might be just a personal preference. if he hates cats, if he tells you he hates cats as soon as he hears that you have a cat and love your cat, he’s an asshole. he’s telling on himself.
every guy i’ve ever worked with that makes a point of telling me how much he hates cats as soon as i mention that i have a cat and love my cat, is always someone who is regularly cruel for fun and who laughs in the breakroom about the mean things they do for fun to their girlfriends and children.
I wish I could articulate all the ways this makes sense and why it makes sense and stuff but it’s just like… something something misogyny something something resentment of creatures that don’t need you and don’t hang on your attention and approval all their lives.
My dad gave me this exact same advice when I was a kid. “Anyone who hates cats is a control freak and an asshole.”
In regards to the two replies above mine. I think this goes beyond “hating cats”? You could replace “cats” with anything. It’s a great example, sure, but I feel like you’re focusing too much on the hated thing in question. Generally, people who immediately shit on something as soon as its announced to be favored by someone else can’t be trusted to be a good person. They are telling on themselves as there’s no need to say things like this. It’s not pleasurable conversation. They want to be offensive and confrontational, it’s not about the cat. This most commonly happens with animals though in my experience. I have heard it about cats, snakes, rats, rabbits, and tarantulas. Anyone who immediately feels the need to voice that they hate something, especially a living creature, that you love-you most likely cannot trust them to treat you with respect. There’s just no need to piss dominance all over a topic like that.
