[thenatsdorf]

Friends forever (via)

[amour393]

are u a "I can only have 4 tabs open or I will spontaneously combust" person or a "I have 83 tabs open and at least 12 of them are exactly the same" person

[goobra]

my unpopular opinion is that i hate tiktok because now people just publicly watch loud ass videos in public spaces with no regard for anyone else. 100% it was not this bad with youtube, it’s such a different thing with tiktok. put on headphones. you are grown.

[fairypage01-deactivated20221018]

Girl……

[byjoveimbeinghumble]

This is it! This is what social media/smart tech have done! They’ve rotted away any distinction between private and public.

Yes, we do have the right to make demands on public behavior. Of course we do. Have you never heard of laws and etiquette? I’m not allowed to grocery shop naked. You can’t rummage through my purse. I can’t have a work meeting in the middle of a movie theatre.

I remember when it was taboo simply to answer your cell phone in public. The person answering would apologize and try to go to a more private area. Then public calls were normalized. Then putting people on speaker. Then listening to music without headphones. Do you know how many times I have hiked up a mountain or driven to the beach, only to be met with someone blaring shitty top 40 music from their portable speaker, because Heaven forbid you go one hour without noise?

Old woman yells at cloud and all that, but I can’t believe someone is not only admitting this behavior, but saying it’s a good thing! No one likes you! You’re a menace!

[elidyce]

BEING INCONSIDERATE OF OTHERS IS STILL BAD.

It was obnoxious when it was youtube.

It was obnoxious when it was music.

It was obnoxious when it was the radio. 

It was obnoxious when it was dudes wanting to talk to you instead of letting you just read your freaking book.

Do you want to be this guy? Because being obnoxious in shared spaces is how you become this guy. 

Wear your damn headphones like an adult participant in the social contract.

[thenatsdorf]

Friends forever (via)

[everythingfox]

big yawn

[anarchapella]

Please fucking lie to your employer. Like they don’t need to know your mental health issues or what drugs you do. Ffs

[thecolorsfucked]

its not lying if its to employers or cops

and look up ur rights on what they can and cannot ask u many places ban asking about ur record and transportation status and things like that resources will also tell u how they reword sketchy questions so ur prepared

[mixingpumpkins]

Hey. Take it from a former HR person… this goes double right now. I just spent some time putting in some job applications myself (not for HR, lol) and got about 15 interviews. And idk if it’s because of COVID uncertainty or if places just don’t fucking care anymore because they know people are desperate for work, but the amount of straight up illegal shit my interviewers asked me was appalling. (That’s not even counting the questions that were technically legal but clearly fishing for information they’re not legally allowed to ask.)

A tame example? Two questions into a phone interview, the guy on the other end of the line asked: “How old are you?” I said “Excuse me?” - giving him a chance to rethink that. He didn’t. “How old are you?” “Sir, you are not allowed to ask me that question.” “Well, I want to know. I’m asking.” “And you’re legally not allowed to ask me that. I’m not required to tell you my age.” At that point, I guess he managed to remember an old HR bulletin or something (I hope to god he wasn’t actually HR himself), and he said, “Well, I need to know if you’re over the age of 18.” (Which is what he should have asked in the first place… or not, since that was in the application that he could have read.) “Yes. I’m over the age of 18.”  And we moved on. Two questions later, he tried another illegal question. I called him on it again and ended the interview, citing that a workplace with such a clear disregard for the law, especially upon first contact with a potential employee, was not going to be a good fit. (They offered me the job anyway, lol. I didn’t send a thank-you or a response.)

At a different interview, the majority of questions were “fishing” questions - just looking for that info they’re not actually allowed to ask. (This person was also either not really HR or an HR person who was exceptionally bad at their job.)

I could tell they were getting frustrated when I dodged answering the personal stuff, and they actually got extremely upset when I mentioned later in the interview (re: less relevant work experience) I had worked in HR. They were super flustered for the remainder of our time, and I watched them skip over questions on their sheet they had clearly planned on asking. They KNEW they were being sketchy and were counting on me not knowing anything about HR - or my rights - and so they got upset when I did. These were super tame examples. I’m begging you, if you’re job searching right now, PLEASE know your rights. Please know what interviewers are allowed to ask. Please don’t volunteer information or elaborate more than you’re required to about personal things. Save your words (and everyone’s time) by elaborating why you’re good for the position/what you can do. I may create a resource list on this shit later but PLEASE PLEASE KNOW THIS STUFF BEFORE YOU TALK TO AN EMPLOYER. This goes for anywhere you’re interviewing as well as your current employer. This also goes for HR. HR may be the person you go to when shitty stuff happens, but that doesn’t mean they’re your friend (or competent). They don’t need to know your age (beyond 16+, 18+, or 21+, depending on the job). They don’t need to know your medical history. (For the love of god, do NOT answer the “have you been diagnosed with depression?” question.) They don’t need to know if you have kids or whatever. They don’t need to know a LOT of those things that may appear on an application, including your veteran status, whether you’re on/have been on unemployment, etc. They’re not entitled to know specifics about your transportation (unless you’re using that transportation for the job, like Uber/delivery drivers). Look this up for your state/the job’s state. Beware questions like “What year did you graduate?” if you’re like me and don’t put dates on your resume (I just put amount of time spent at employers, not dates of employment). They’re fishing for your age. It’s “Oh, you know, 100 years ago,” if you feel comfortable making a joke, or “About [generic number, like 5 or 10] years ago” if not. Also beware things like the “What do you do in your free time?” question, even if you already work there. This is not a friendly getting-to-know-you question. This is a basis for judgement. Not up to an invisible standard? They’re going to be biased against you for pay raises, promotions, etc. Mention kids/lots of family/social engagements? That’s a tick against you for not being the kind of person who lives to work (yes, it’s gross and stupid). Mention lots of solitary things? Cool, that’s their mental note to ask more from you because you’re “not doing anything anyway.” By all means, be friendly with your coworkers/talk about shared interests if you want, but it is none of your boss’s business, and be aware what could get back to them.  Don’t. Tell. Employers. Shit.

[maplethorn]

I’ve been asked so many illegal questions in interviews and same thing; when you call them out on it they get so flustered and backpedal like crazy.

Also to note, because I know in my last job this happened, if you’re unsure of a question, ask for clarification. My old boss had asked me how much I could physically lift, if I had a bad back, if I was pregnant, etc. Me, knowing full well she wasn’t allowed to ask about health related things, asked for clarification, explaining that I didn’t have to answer those, and she profusely apologized and was just making sure I wouldn’t hurt myself on the job because the bags of flour we were going to be carrying/moving from truck to building were sometimes over 75 lbs.  Here is a list of things they’re not allowed to ask you (copied directly from my business textbook);

·         What is  your  marital status?  Are  you married?  Do  you live  with  anyone? Do  you  have a  boyfriend  (or girlfriend)?  (However,  employers can  ask  your  marital status after hiring for tax and insurance forms.)

·         Do you  have  any disabilities?  Have  you had  any  recent illnesses?  (But  it  is legal to ask if  the person can perform specific job duties, such as, Can you carry a 50-pound sack up a 10-foot ladder five times daily?)

·         I notice  you  have an  accent.  Where are  you  from? What  is  the origin  of   your last  name?  What is your  native  language? (However,  it  is legal  to  ask  what languages you speak fluently if  language ability is related to the job.)

·         Have you  ever  filed a  workers’  compensation claim  or  been injured  on  the  job?

·         Have you  ever  had a  drinking  problem or  been  addicted to  drugs?  (But it  is legal to ask if  a person uses illegal drugs.)

·         Have you  ever  been arrested?  (But  it is  legal  to ask,  Have  you ever  been  convicted of ___________? when the crime is related to the job.)

·         How old  are  you? What  is  your date  of   birth? When  did  you graduate  from high school? (But it is legal to ask, Are you 16 years [or 18 years or 21 years] old or older? depending on the age requirements for the position.)

·         Of   what  country  are you  a  citizen? Are  you  a U.S.  citizen?  Where were  you  born? (But  it  is legal  to  ask,  Are  you authorized  to  work in  the  United States?)

·         What is  your  maiden name?  (But  it is  legal  to ask  What  is your  full  name? o r, Have you worked under another name?)

·         Do you  have  any religious  beliefs  that would  prevent  you from  working  weekends or  holidays? (An  employer can,  however,  ask you  if   you are  available to work weekends and holidays or otherwise within the company’s required schedule.)

·         Do you  have  children? Do  you  plan to  have  children? Do  you  have adequate  child-care  arrangements?  (However, employers  can  ask for  dependent  information for tax and insurance purposes after you are hired. Also, they can ask if the candidate would be able to travel or work overtime on occasion.)

·         How much  do  you weigh?  How  tall are  you?  (However, employers  can  ask you about your height and weight if  minimum standards are necessary to safely perform a job.)

Know your rights, keep yourself safe and away from employers who try to pull this shit on you.

[jessebloom]

sorry i am on cindy's side

[friendly-neighborhood-patriarch]

me too

[excuse-me-im-sorry]

You're laughing, Cindy was just possessed by his grandmother and you're laughing

[inthenameofsephiroth]

[user87262893]

The type of the mother I’m trying to be. Not just encourage bodily autonomy, but reward displays of it, even when it might make someone else in the room uncomfortable.

[swedepea]

I’ve made so many people uncomfortable in supporting my daughter’s personal space. People will try to hug her, she’ll sometimes say “No, thank you” and the adult will look at me to make her do it, but I just say “It’s ok honey, you don’t have to hug anyone you don’t want to.” It makes people irrationally huffy, making me feel even more justified in supporting my daughter’s choices. Creeps.

[misharoux]

I legit had to mom-voice some random woman with a “she said no!” when she tried to force a hug on Madison. (who was not very good at verbalizing to people she didn’t know/trust at the time)

She replied, “I just want a hug, it won’t hurt her.”

Me: She. Said. No.  

There aren’t many things more important than letting my daughter know that I have her back when it comes to something like this. 

[ineeduhnap]

I work with five year olds and I had a very long talk with them about permission and that your body belongs to yourself and no one else. “Even if you want to hug your friend, you need to stop and ask if it’s okay and if they don’t want you to touch them, you should respect that choice and not do it.” they were like “cool” and then every time after that they had no problem asking their friends “can I give you a hug?” Or “can I hold your hand?” Very politely. If their friend said no, they shrugged and went on with their life. They even started asking me if they could hug me or if it was okay to hold my hand when they were sad. And I always ask when they need comfort “do you need or want a hug?” If they say no, I ask “okay, let me know what we can do as a class to help you feel better. Quiet time? Do you want a stuffed animal? Sit on the couch? Do you need some time alone?” They verbalize what they need and they become aware of their own autonomy and their ability and power to say “no.” Just because someone is an adult does NOT give them the right to hug a child who has said “no” or “no thanks.” Teach then that they own their own body, and no one else is in charge of it. Teach them the power of NO.

[lazy-polyglot]

^^^^^this is so important

[publiusmaximum]

Whenever a kid refused to high 5 me for whatever reason, I make a point to say “thank you for stating your boundaries”.

[angiethewitch]

My husbands family get so offended when my stepdaughter doesn’t want a hug. I just tell them “no, she said she doesn’t want one”. They often try to force her to hug them or just grab her. It starts young, and they learn their body isnt their own.

When I first met my stepdaughter, if I asked for a hug, she wouldn’t say no, but she’d go into a protective stance and just wait. She was waiting for me to violate her boundaries. I told her “you don’t have to give me a hug if you don’t want one. You’re allowed to say no”. It took a while, but now she’s happy saying no.

Children have a right to boundaries as much as an adult does. Don’t violate a child’s boundaries.

[xanderae-deactivated20151219]

I’m really over the idea that we “”keep rape/sexual violence levels down”” or whatever like we’re not societies punching bags. We don’t want the pond scum of society seeing us. We don’t want rapists and murderers seeing us “less respectable women” and taking our all their anger on us in order to keep “respectable women” safer.  It’s not our responsibility to “keep male aggression at bay” like wtf. 

[nogodsonequeen]

Fuck this. We’re not here to absorb male violence/misbehaviour.

[botticelliraddie]

“Rape her, not me.”

“Abuse her, not me.”

“Treat her like an object so you can come home and treat me like a person.”

[deaddruid]

“let’s have a designated class of women that violent men can take their aggression out on”

[ms-gay-frogs]

having women take the brunt of male aggression instead of actually fixing male violence. love liberal feminism!

[radfemblack]

The kicker is that this is objectively false. It has been proven by research that men who buy sex engage in more violence against women than those who don’t and are nearly eight times more likely to rape. The only state with legal prostitution, Nevada, is the one with some of the most domestic violence (as well as the most sex trafficking) and that’s not a coincidence. When New Zealand completely decriminalized its sex trade, rape rates shot up. And in the UK, the red light district in Leeds is just now being dismantled because of the absolute hell it unleashed on women, children, and the entire community. Red light districts in general are proven to be hell for civilian women. Literally all “sex work” lobbyist talking points are demonstrably false. And the fact that this is even one just shows how regressive and misogynistic this whole thing is.

[chaoskirin]

I am sorry. I’m bashing Apple here. And for good reason.

This is a plea to my followers.

Stop buying Apple products. I know you’ve used them for most of your life, and I know it’s inconvenient to move to a new brand because in most cases, you cannot take your contacts with you on various chat apps.

I know this is inconvenient. I truly do.

But Apple is not the company it was before. There is now no difference between an Apple computer and a Windows computer in terms of graphic design. I know this for a fact. I had to use both in college 20 years ago, and non-apple computers are now generally better for design work than Apple computers.

Most non-apple companies encourage self-repair of your own devices, while Apple refuses it. I also know this for a fact, as I watched Apple computers become slowly less reparable through the late 90s and early 2000s. Where I was once able to do the repairs on our office computers, we had to start sending out our Apple devices because they started gluing things down on their logic boards. Notably the glue they used was not heat-resistant and led to device damage should the heat sink system fail. But they did this because they wanted to dig more money out of their customers.

Apple software is also designed to fail. I cannot believe people are still buying new devices after the scandal where Apple was slowing their phones in order to force people to purchase new versions.

Apple hardware is designed to become obsolete. Motherboards and logic boards are designed to hold exactly what comes attached to them and will fail if upgrade attempts are made.

Apple refuses to work with software developers despite promises of cross-compatibility. One of the very first coding problems I discovered was to discover a gigantic hole in a software program that made a plotter (giant printer) compatible with iOS. This caused a memory leak, leading to necessary resets of the computer after every 2 feet of printing.

I know that it’s not possible for most of you to just throw your devices away and buy a new one. I wouldn’t be able to do that, either. But eventually there will come a time when you have to upgrade, and I encourage you to take the plunge and purchase a non-apple device. I don’t even have a recommendation for you because literally anything is better than Apple. A rock that you write on is better than an Apple phone.

Unfortunately I expect to be shadow-banned on Apple devices because of this, and I’ll try to report on decreased activity as much as I can.

It’s time to stop trying to beg Apple to change. They won’t. It’s time now to just stop supporting Apple.

[vague-vixen]

Stop wasting your money on easily broken garbage!

[thefloatingstone]

I have a perfectly working iPhone 6. I got it because the iphone 7 no longer has a headphone jack and requires you to buy Apple’s shitty bluetooth headphones. Last month Apple decided they will not be updating the iphone 6 to the new iOS… for no real reason. They wil still release bug fixes but are not releasing version 13 for iphone 6. ALL apps in the istore now require you to be on version 13 of the iOS to download the app. HOWEVER apps I’ve already installed and downloaded work perfectly. There is literally no reason for this other to encourage consumerism and to put my perfectly working phone into a landfill. I’m upgrading to Android as soon as I have the money. I’ve already switched from mac to windows after Apple wanted to charge me $2000 for a macbook with only 100gigs of RAM. That’s less than a fucking PS3. Apple Products are inherently awful, and there is literally no benefit to buying them whatsoever. Other than to look like a complete tool. Fuck Apple.

[tiggymalvern]

This is not hearsay. This is not rumour. Apple settles iphone slowdown case. https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-51706635 They really did deliberately sabotage their products to make people buy the latest ones.

[maryfitzroy]

[maryfitzroy]

HELP

[ryebreadgf]

[kingofeternalfreedom]

interviewer: ppl claim you’re immortal

Keanu:

[feminismisahatemovement]

[northern-storms-deactivated2022]

He'a growing his beard back to start the cycle all over again.

[timmisny]

he absolutely could be charlemagne and paul mounet

[words-i-thought-id-never-speak]

That’s all the confirmation we need

[fluffygif]

‘’My cat trusts my dad way too much.’‘

(Source)

[flourishingskeleton]

Rating: Cute!

oh my god i wish my cats were this good. this is a young cat that has been well taught to have its paws handled without being afraid (many cats don’t like it when you touch their paws because those are delicate and important and they don’t know your intentions!). as a result, it does not find the nail filing stressful and is not struggling. note the upright ears, forward whiskers, and undilated pupils.

nail filing is a good way to keep cat claws trimmed and is actually easier to keep from accidentally exposing or cutting the quick than nail scissors, but most cats will not tolerate it.

when the cat shows interest in the file the person stops and lets it check it out. this also helps to establish that nothing scary is going on. at the end the cat bats at the file, probably because it is moving and looks like a toy.

if you want to replicate this the best way is to get your cat used to having its paws touched and held as young as possible so it sees this as a commonplace and nonthreatening activity.

[anxietyproblem]

[mikkeneko]

not everything bad that happens in the world is because of an oppressive conspiracy actually

“the 40 hour work-week is deliberately designed to keep workers exhausted and downtrodden –” no the forty hour workweek was negotiated by labor power to block the eighty  hour workweek. “american food is full of corn syrup in order to make people obese and sick and weak and unable to revolt against the government –” there are a lot of reasons why Corn is the way it is in the US and this is not any of them. “the concept of ‘coming out’ is a straight conspiracy designed to murder queer people –” please stop

stop assuming that every bad thing that exists is the result of active malice. there is so much in the world that’s bad just by accident, or as an unintended consequence of something else – maybe even something with good intentions. please don’t turn yourself into a conspiracy thinker just with shinier woker labels

[tiktoksijustthinkareneat]

[desaturated7-deactivated2021090]

‘some women choose to do sex work’ okay and some women choose to shoot heroin or drown their infants or steal from charity or take their gum out and stick it underneath a table instead of throwing it away. every single possible action has at some point been chosen freely by someone. ‘x chose y’ is not an argument for/against whether something is healthy or ethical, it is a nothing statement. u are saying nothing. 

[officialweatherwax]

“Some women choose to do sex work”. OK, well, some women choose to stay in abusive relationships, but on that topic even the libbiest of libfems can understand that choosing the best of a bunch of bad options isn’t the same as choosing something because you want it.