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I hate people who say, ‘I was born in the wrong generation!!!’

Like really? You’d rather live in an unequal society where women are treated like objects, the LGBTQ+ community is shunned and barred from freely expressing themselves, mental illnesses are ‘cured’ with shock therapy, and women were put into asylums because they read, speak their minds, or both?

Have fun with that.

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I’m bad at consoling people

My roommate is fighting with her boyfriend and I have no idea how to console her

I might just show her cute cat videos to make her feel better

Everyone likes cats, right?

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Help Me

Have you guys ever looked at your name for a long time and think, ‘That’s not my name; that doesn’t look right’? Like, I know that it’s my name, but sometimes I look at it from almost another person’s perspective, if that makes sense. It’s like I have an out-of-body experience or I have two people’s minds in my body or something. It’s freaking me out.

Also in my memories, I don’t see it from my perspective. I see it as like an outsider’s perspective. I still hear myself speak and I can still remember what I was thinking, but I literally see myself in my memories. My memories aren’t through my own eyes and I don’t know why. Is that normal? Do I have some kind of personality disorder? I know it’s not a good idea to ask these questions on a website like Tumblr but I’m sure some of you know what you’re talking about and can actually help me understand why I’m this way.

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That gravel that's in with your goldfish is the exact gravel that they can swallow and choke on. I've seen fish of your size swallow and choke on that size gravel. I would look into switching to sand, doing barebottom, or getting large smooth river stones instead.

This has already been made aware to me, thank you. I will definitely try to buy river stones and sand when I have enough money to do so. However, I don’t have the money do to that now. Thank you for your concern, though! :)

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why are your fish named adolf and lafayette

Great question! Adolf is named so because my genealogy is largely European, mostly German and Belgian, and that name was kind of popular before WWII, so I chose that to kind of mirror my ancestry. Lafayette is named so because when I got them, I was really into Hamilton, and Marquis de Lafayette was and still is my favorite, so yeah. Adolf and Lafayette. 

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Fishy Update

I’m away at college so I don’t get to go home very often.

When I left, Adolf and Lafayette were HUGE and they weren’t comfortable in the tank I had.

Today, my mom bought them a new tank (29 gal) and some sinking pellets and new gravel (I know that sand is technically better, but the gravel that we buy is too large for them to get in their mouths, much less choke on, so don’t worry!! They are and will be fine!) and now my fish babies are thriving! They were confused about the sinking food at first, but they caught on.

They look so tiny now!! And because they got so used to the small tank and to being in close quarters, they’re swimming right next to each other either out of habit or protection.

So yeah there’s my fish update.

Bye

(Photo creds: my mother)

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Cat Story (declawing)

Hi guys! I see a lot of posts about whether or not declawing a cat is wrong. And in cases where ‘it’s just so they don’t scratch our expensive furniture’, it is definitely wrong. However, in some cases, it’s necessary. I’m going to tell you a story about my grandma’s cat, Casey, who we took care of when my grandma moved to a smaller place and couldn’t keep her.

Casey was a turtle-shell cat with beautiful orange, white, and black markings. She was an older cat, but at the time we got her, two of our other three cats were getting up there in age as well, so she fit in just fine. She was also declawed—but only in the front. I assume it’s because my grandma couldn’t get around as much as she used to, so she couldn’t find Casey and clip her nails, but she didn’t want to totally handicap her by declawing all four paws. Casey didn’t seem to mind—she got around just fine and she could still protect herself. She even got an injury on her paw that never healed, and that didn’t bother her a bit either. It didn’t ‘traumatize’ her, because presumably the injury and the declawing happened when she was still young.

When we got her, she was naturally kind of scared because she didn’t see us very often. But once she got out of her shell, she was a lively, adventurous cat who played with her adopted siblings (our other cats). She wasn’t in pain. She still attempted to scratch the couch plenty of times; it was very cute.

With that being said, I DO NOT condone declawing animals unless it’s for health reasons. My grandma’s reason for declawing Casey was understandable, as she couldn’t clip her nails and not many people visited that could catch Casey and clip her nails.

Yes, some cats are traumatized and terrified after they’re declawed. But not all cats. Unless cats can consciously hide their emotions, Casey acted like any other cat. She played with Gizmo, Roxy, and Pepper like any other cat would. She bit and scratched us when she didn’t want to be pet. Casey was the only declawed cat we had, and we usually forgot she was declawed because she acted like all our other cats. She lived a very, very long life (she passed away when she was about 15-17 I believe) and we love and miss her very much.

Before you hate on people for declawing their cat(s), listen to their reasoning first. If their cat acts just like a normal cat, don’t immediately be like ‘oh my god you’re going to hell; that poor kitty!!!1!!’. Some cats ignore the fact they don’t have claws/the tips of their toes. Some of them act like a normal cat would. And before you send me hate mail, none of our cats are declawed; I disagree with declawing to the fullest extent, but some circumstances require it. Stop acting like a hero by shaming others for their way of taking care of their animals. There are certain things that are unforgivable, yes, but declawing is something that many people are uncomfortable with doing, but they do it because they have to. They didn’t say, ‘hey I’m going to torture my cat by cutting its toes off’. Many of them probably went through so many other possibilities of taking care of the problem, and declawing was the last option for them.

This has been my cat story. Don’t send hate mail. I’m just putting my input in the conversation. Thanks.

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Story Time

Hey y’all do ya want to hear a story about how I lost my first long-time boyfriend and any hope of being good friends with him again? No? Too bad you’re hearing about it anyway.

In my sophomore year of high school, I started dating this guy that I’d been friends with for years (note: he was like four years older than me so that should’ve been a huge red flag right there). He was super sweet in the beginning, and then it slowly went downhill when he started asking for things I was t comfortable with. He started saying that I owed him and all this shit, so I left. Shortly after, I posted a song that I’d been writing since eighth grade (which was probably a dumb idea on my part because it could be misconstrued as me attacking him even though I wasn’t) and someone sent it to him (more on that later) and he started yelling at me. I explained that it wasn’t about him and that it was just a song, he apologized, and we went our separate ways.

Fast forward to about four months ago. The whole ‘yelling at me over a song’ thing still bugged me because I didn’t know who it was, so I messaged him and asked. Turns out, my best friend of about five years had a thing for him, and sent the song to him, further tarnishing the friendship he and I could have kept. I’m still best friends with her, and my ex and I are on decent terms, but godDAMN I was so angry when he told me. I never mentioned to her that I know it was her, and I’m not going to. It’s water under the bridge at this point, and it was so long ago that I doubt she remembers doing it.

Anyway that was my story for today. See y’all on the flip side lmao

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How I came out to my parents

First, a bit of backstory: my parents are totally cool with the LGBTQ+ community; they have trans and homosexual friends and they’re extremely accepting of everyone. I don’t know why I was so afraid of officially ‘coming out’ to them as bisexual; I think it’s just a fear that everyone faces even if their parents are generally accepting.

Anyway, it was a little bit before Valentine’s Day last year. My school gave out this little survey to see who your ‘soulmate’ was or whatever ((surprisingly, they gave same-sex options too, which I was happily surprised by)). We all had to do one, but we didn’t have to buy them. My brother bought one just to say he did; I didn’t because I already had a girlfriend at the time and thought it pointless.

My mom came into my room and asked if I’d bought one. Naturally I said no and accidentally said that I was already with someone.

Mom: “Who?”

Me: “Would you be mad if it was a girl?”

Mom: (perplexed look) “...No?”

Me: “It’s [redacted for privacy’s sake].”

Mom: “Oh okay cool, I’ll let your dad know.”

Apparently they figured that I was more than an ally of the LGBTQ+ community, because I got angrier at controversial events surrounding them (oppositions of LGBTQ+ marriages, etc.) than a normal ally would. So technically they already knew, they just needed my affirmation, I guess. My coming out story isn’t as nerve-wracking or amazing as others’, but it was special to me because I didn’t have to worry about my parents or friends judging me.

This was longer than I thought it’d be, but thanks for listening, y’all! 💛

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Public Service Announcement

If you don’t have the space, means, or knowledge to take care of an animal—be it a dog, cat, bird, fish, turtle, axolotl, whatever—or if you’re afraid that you’ll get too many animals for them to live comfortably, DON’T GET A FUCKING ANIMAL. Cats, for example, react to their surroundings. If they’re in a cramped house with an owner that doesn’t know what the hell theyre doing, they’re going to be stressed and might get sick. Pets are not entertainment. They should be considered family. You wouldn’t leave your sibling in a cramped space with little to no resources, so don’t do it to animals.

This has been a PSA from your Friendly Neighborhood Cheezwhiz™️ who is tired of animals suffering because of other people’s stupidity.

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A and L’s new home

Adolf and LaFayette have gotten a lot bigger, so I’m getting them a new tank today. What would be the best size for them? Also, I know that gravel may be a choking hazard, but I looked it up and sand doesn’t allow water to flow through as well, and it would be harder to clean I think. Any thoughts on that would be very helpful. And would live plants work better in the long run? I tried live plants before and they didn’t work out too well, but I want what’s best for my fish.

That’s all I can think of right now, but if there’s anything I missed that would help my babes love long happy lives, that would be very helpful! Thank!!

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I am not pro-choice

I am not pro-life, either. I’m pro-let-a-woman-do-whatever-she-wants-with-her-body-you-fucking-mongoloids. Women are beautiful creatures, but they often get the short end of the stick in some situations, namely in the ability to receive an abortion. This, I do not understand. All these pro-life people say ‘ABORTION IS BAD’, ‘SAVE THE CHILDREN’, and other such things, but they do nothing to help the mother and child when the child is actually born. They are pro-birth, not pro-life, in most cases. There is a women’s health center in my small Virginia city, and sometimes I’m driving by and I see a bunch of protesters outside. When I see them, I just want to stop the car and ask them, ‘What are you going to do when they child is born? What if protesting these abortions causes so many children to go to poor, or hungry, or abusive households? What will these protests accomplish then?’, because it’s so frustrating that we’re attacking each other because of something that could potentially save the woman’s life. People would rather see a dead woman than a ‘dead’ bundle of cells that couldn’t even survive outside of the womb at the time of most abortions, and that is depressing. We’re a race of like creatures; why don’t we accept and respect each other’s choices? We’d rather attack each other. Perhaps to inflate our egos? Perhaps to make ourselves seem ‘worthy’ to our gods? Who knows? I just know that, as a woman, I should be able to do what I want with my body to keep myself healthy and safe.

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Why I Hate Living In Southwest Virginia #719

The fact that I can’t be cast as the male lead because a majority of my school is filled with homophobic assholes with fragile heterosexuality, and they can’t handle a girl kissing another girl, even when it doesn’t really mean anything. It’s literally part of the play. I’m not upset that I’m not getting the part—the guy who is getting it is amazing and one of my close friends and I know he’ll do well with it—I’m upset because where I live is filled to the fucking brim with God-fearing Christians and they’re so fucking closed-minded that my beautiful, amazing drama coach has to take every precaution necessary so we don’t lose funding. It’s fucking bullshit.

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Adolf and LaFayette are still doing great!! LaFayette has a swim bladder disorder, apparently, so she sometimes floats to the top and freaks me out a bit, but she always gets back to her normal self within an hour or so. So she’s all good. Adolf is a total food hog and chases his sister around the tank sometimes, but he's a good fish.

I changed out their decoration from that rough submarine to a brighter, rounder one so they have less of a chance of catching themselves on it. I recently did a serious water change (not too much—just enough to clean the tank pretty well), and they seem so much happier! I was thinking of getting an algae-eater or just getting them a new friend in general, but I think for now I’ll just stick with the two since the tank I have is smallish anyway (still plenty big enough to sustain them on the short-term, but I’ll try to get a bigger tank once I actually have the money for it). I’ll also try to get better tank-bed materials other than the rocks, since I know it’s a hazard for the fish—I’ll talk to my parents and see about getting some sand in the near future. Might also get silk plants instead of these plastic ones—I had real plants before but they didn’t work out too well.

Anyway I think that’s enough for the update. They’ve grown so much and I’m sad that I won’t be able to bring them with me to college I’m a few months, but my mom said she’d take care of them for me, so no worries there. 💛

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I Need (Real) Feminism.

I am a feminist. Not one of these third-wavers floating around, but a real feminist. A closeted feminist. Closeted because where I live, you’re not allowed to be outspoken in your views or people will look at you like you’re insane. But I need feminism.

I need real feminism because I don’t deserve to be used for my body. I don’t have a problem with guys jerking it to ideas of me, but in a relationship, there needs to be more than just sex. There needs to be emotion. And with some guys, that’s not there.

I need real feminism because I can’t wear dresses to school (which are legal; I’ve checked) because it’s a ‘distraction’. Instead of teaching teenage girls—who are already self-conscious—to be ashamed of their bodies and of being female in general, why the fuck don’t we teach boys not to sexualize women? Why don’t we teach them that women are not objects? That we aren’t here for their amusement and to fulfil their sexual desires?

I need real feminism because my then-boyfriend tried to guilt-trip me into giving him sex, even though I told him I wasn’t comfortable with it, because I ‘owed him’.

I need real feminism—ACTUAL, LEGITIMATE FEMINISM—because my female friends will possibly be verbally and physically attacked by a man by the time they get to college, and my male friends will potentially be attacked by some crazy social-justice warrior who thinks that all men are pigs.

Feminism has morphed from a fight for equality to a fight for power. This third-wave shit that’s going on is NOT feminism. Feminism is about treating men and women of every ethnicity and social standing EQUALLY.

We need to work together—women AND men—to make sure that we are treated equally. It won’t bring peace to the entire world. Nothing will—world peace is a myth—but it could potentially make men and women feel safer.

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oh no why me

I want a meaningful relationship. I want a serious, monogamous relationship. I don’t want to be friends with benefits. I don’t want to flirt meaninglessly over text and Snapchat. I want to go on adventures with you. I want to hike and go to the downtown areas of historic cities and go on road trips to nowhere. I want to do all the cute shit that teenage romance movie couples do.

But that won’t happen. It will never happen, and I should just come to terms with the fact that you aren’t into that. We’re different. You don’t want an actual relationship and I don’t want to just be friends with benefits. But goddammit, I love you. I love you more than I should. And I hate myself so much for it. It’s so hard seeing you every day and imagining things that’ll never happen.

They warned me. My friends warned me. But I didn’t listen. I never listen. And if I didn’t want to get hurt again, I should’ve. I should’ve listened to them, and I didn’t. This is all on me. And I should learn to live with it.

All I wanted was for you to actually like me for me. All I wanted was for you to tell me that you loved me. That we could go hiking or on a road trip to nowhere. That we could do all the cute shit that teenage romance movie couples do.

But that will never happen.

I know it won’t.

And I’ll have to live with it.

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Oops not sorry

Adam Driver is cute as fuck ok bye