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My name is Karissa. I'm 25, a Leo, and from the US. I'm married to a beautiful nerd. If you need me to tag anything for blacklisting, let me know.

[markv5]

[mercy-misrule]

one of the most amazing things that has been said to me in therapy is that self esteem doesn’t exist.

and that floored people and the psych went onto say that what she meant was that self esteem is a concept that actually includes a vast array of things and labelling them all as one thing is really limiting and prevents actual improvement

you could have real strong pride in the things you create and hate your body

you could hate your creations but also want to share them with people

you could not hate yourself at all but not take care of yourself, engage in reckless self endangerment

thats all bundled under ‘self esteem’ but saying ‘i need better self esteem’ doesn’t mean anything

whereas if you say ‘i need to work on ways to keeping myself safe, refusing to act on destructive urges’ or ‘i want to be in a place where i believe compliments trusted people give me’

thats concrete, thats a goal.

having it said in therapy helped a lot of people in my group stop saying ‘i have low self esteem’ and start specifying about the actual issue they have

[bead-bead-deactivated20190901]

Wow, that is so, so helpful.

[hobbitkin-deactivated20191024]

[happifying-things]

eek!

[shesaware]

*barges out of coffin at funeral yelling sike*

[teathattast]

*does a weed*

boi I am feeling… wooh! … freakin DANDY!!

[adyke4president]

mother earth 🌍

[batgrll]

[elighmadison]

High Tea ✨

[elighmadison]

Went to a fancy weed party & they had these on the tables🌹🌿

[peachy-faery]

you are my peach, you are my plum

[tackled]

[asph-yxia]

[fatcatartru]

[conan-doyles-carnations]

‘In 1778, two Irish gentlewomen put on men’s clothing and ran away together.  Lady Eleanor Butler had received several offers of marriage but was determined to share her life with her friend Sarah Ponsonby. […] They spent the rest of their lives in a black and white house called Plas Newydd outside Llangollen, cultivating their garden, improving their minds and filling the house with clocks, cabinets and “whirligigs of every shape and hue”.  [They also had] a little dog called Sapho.’

[blottsandquill]

“Friend”

[lolita-princess]

They literally named their dog Sapho

[biomorphosis]

Meoww!

[pulletjes]