How you feel in your own energy influences what you’re drawn to 🪞✨
How you feel within yourself shapes everything you choose even when you don’t realize it. Your internal state becomes a filter for what feels familiar, what feels exciting, and what feels “right,” even if it isn’t good for you
When someone is grounded, calm, and self connected, they tend to be drawn to people and situations that reflect that same steadiness. There’s less urgency in their decisions, less chasing and more clarity. What feels aligned doesn’t create confusion, it feels simple, even if it still requires effort
But when someone is anxious or operating from insecurity, their sense of attraction can shift. Chaos then feels familiar, even if they don’t want it. Emotional highs and lows feel like chemistry, even if they don’t want that type of relationship. Inconsistency can feel like depth because the stress feels “deeper” thus creating the illusion of a deeper bond and proof of love. Not because it truly is, but because the nervous system is trying to recreate what it already knows
This is why two people can look at the same situation and experience it completely differently. One person feels peace and safety, while another feels intensity and attachment. The difference is in the internal state each person is bringing into it
Your energy also influences what you tolerate. When your self worth is low, you may stay longer in dynamics that don’t feel good because they match an internal pattern of “this is what I get.” When your self worth grows, your tolerance naturally shifts. What once felt acceptable starts to feel misaligned. If said before and you have probably seen other people say it by now, that if you were truly operating from a certain place, you would automatically react and feel differently
Over time, your inner state becomes your standard. You don’t just choose differently, you start to see differently. You notice red flags earlier, you value consistency more, and you feel less pulled toward things that create emotional instability. Please remember this especially when other people are telling you who they are, but their actions don’t line up
Personal growth isn’t just about discipline or mindset. It’s about regulating your internal world so that your external world starts to reflect something healthier. When your energy changes, your attractions change with it. You don’t force better choices from the outside. You become the version of you who naturally no longer resonates with what used to feel familiar. And from there, everything begins to shift. IMO this is the goal
