love, life

Alycia Debnam Carey- bareftoo princess and partner to Paul Mescal

[limelightlerman]

would you do another role like fear of the walking dead again? Like the whole zombie and scfi genre?

[alycicdebncm]

Such a great question but I feel like my answer is so short for it. Um yes, I mean why would I turn away from my bread and butter at this point?

[rachbrosnahan]

Happy birthday, my love!! I hope today is full of everything that makes you happiest, good food, good company, lots of laughs, and absolutely no one bothering you unless they're bringing cake. Also, I'm so happy to hear things are going so well. Fully moved in together is such a big step, and I love that you're settling into London and this new chapter with him. I can't wait to see you, though. Any chance you're coming to LA anytime soon? I'd go to you, but I'm stuck here filming Superman.

[alycicdebncm]

Thank you so much, lovely! Honestly, that sounds like the absolute dream birthday itinerary, the no one speaks to me unless holding cake rule. Paul and I had the sweetest, most relaxing day together. It really does feel like such a massive, exciting shift being fully moved in and getting settled into London life. He's pretty damn good to live with. I miss you so much! Superman?! Oh my gosh, that is incredible, congratulations! You are going to absolutely crush it. I wish I could pop over to LA right now to celebrate with you!

[cailspaeny]

we will! i would think they aren't? sometimes it can feel like the door is only a little open. especially with a world that is as big as that one is. we really sign up for grief with these shows. that and so many other feelings! do you think you'd ever go back to doing a series again? i know you're focus has been movies lately.

[alycicdebncm]

That is so true, specially like when you get a little pushback or catch a judgey eye in a audition. We all seen some nos on the callbacks. Only good shows are meant to break you. I would right now location limits me a bit on a series though. Yeah think thats the only limit right now for me.

[limelightalex]

alex: thank you, lol. I feel like random questions will always spark friendship faster than small talk, if that makes sense. i totally get what you mean about staying back and taking the time to listen. because listening to someone yap about themselves is only fun for so long, you know? I’m the same way. if I had to pick something, I would say I’m pretty decent at encouraging people to keep going in the hard moments. whether that comes from playing soccer for so long or having older sisters who encouraged me to try things until I got it, I don't really know where it stems from. but that would be my answer for sure! what about you? do you have any siblings? where did you grow up?

[alycicdebncm]

alycia: Random questions immediately skip past the boring surface level stuff and give you a real glimpse into how someone’s mind works. That is simply a fact. Also, being the person who encourages others during hard moments is such a great quality to have, and when you out it in the frame of where it comes from, team sports and having older sisters. That kind of support leaves a real impact on people. I have one younger brother I am incredibly close to . With our mom in Sydney she put together children's programs so think that impacted me growing up alot.

[thelongingforpax]

[mscalpaul]

Lys, ( @alycicdebncm )

I wish you the happiest of birthdays, my love.

It's the greatest privilege to have you in my life, to get to call you my partner, my favourite person, my home. Every day beside you feels like a gift I never quite know how I got lucky enough to receive, and today, on your very special day, there won't be a single moment that isn't devoted to celebrating the wonder that is you.

I hope every wish you whisper into the universe, no matter how small or impossibly big, finds its way back to you. I hope your heart always stays as brave as it is gentle, never having to carry the weight of being broken again. I hope all the love you give so freely, without ever stopping to count the cost, comes back to you tenfold. I hope the light in your eyes never fades, your laugh never loses the way it fills every room it wanders into, and that you never forget just how extraordinary you are. The world is a far lovelier place simply because you're in it, and everyone lucky enough to know you gets to carry a little more light because you've crossed their path.

I don't usually go quite this mad with birthday presents, but I've always loved giving you things that make me think of you the second I lay eyes on them. Little reminders of you seem to find me everywhere. And that bag... well, it practically had your name engraved on it. I can already picture you pairing it with one of your gorgeous dresses, looking unfairly beautiful as always, and giving me yet another excuse to take you out somewhere nice just so I can admire you properly.

The tiara, though, was an absolute necessity. I'll never understand how they invited you to the Cartier event and somehow neglected to put a tiara on your head. It feels like a rather shocking oversight on their part, so naturally I had to correct it myself. There simply ought to be a tiara resting on that gorgeous head of yours. It's only right.

And, seeing as I do occasionally have a practical thought, it doubles as a necklace too. Wear it whichever way makes you happiest and suits whatever you've decided to wear that day... though, if I'm being entirely selfish, I have to admit I'd find it awfully distracting if the tiara (or necklace) ended up being one of the very few things you decided to wear at all...

Forever yours,

Paul

Gifts include:

A flower bouquet

Breakfast for two

A Cartier mid-20th century diamond tiara-necklace

A Chanel Constellation Globe Minaudiere

[alexasdemles]

Do you ever rewatch some of your old work and cringe? My sister thinks she's so funny by sending videos of my earlier acting roles into the family group chat and it makes me want to run away for the rest of my life and never return. I know we all have to start somewhere, but I thought I would at least keep my dignity. Apparently not. @alycicdebncm

[alycicdebncm]

Yes I cant help it. As good as 100 was I just cringe cause feels a lifetime ago, nothing wrong with it it just makes me do so at how young I was. Oh see that's different not sure I could handle that either. Daw but you also have been amazing from jump let's say that

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[rachbrosnahan]

Thank you, my love! It was honestly one of my favorite birthdays. I spent it with Anne, the boys, and lots of cake, so I really couldn't have asked for anything better. It was one of those days that reminds you how lucky you are. How are things on your end? I miss your face.

[alycicdebncm]

Oh that sounds so sweet. Im glad it sounds like you got everything you wanted for it. Stop if you ask me that is exactly what birthdays are really about. I love that our birthdays are almost a full week, well week and day apart. They are just grand we fully moved in together in London and well aside from getting really use to living in London Im also getting really use to living with him, fully domesticated. I miss your face too.

[limelightstevens]

Don't worry, you weren't far off - it's quite nice having one in each level of school. Yeah, I always want what's best for them, and that usually means it's not what's easiest for me, but I choose my job not them, you know? London always has plenty of opportunities to jump at, especially if you love a period drama. Is he a good person to live with? I'm a nightmare. Already driving Liz crazy with how messy I can be.

[alycicdebncm]

It’s a classic parenting juggle, isn’t it? Having one child in each school level feels like you’re constantly navigating three different worlds.. It’s admirable that you prioritize their stability over your own convenience; that kind of parent-first mindset definitely shapes the environment they grow up in, even if it adds miles to your commute or stress to your schedule. No he's really good, he's neat and also attentive like that is crazy.

[maggielinde]

it would be the greatest dream to be audrey in sabrina, but classics should stay as classics. it's better to have studios create new, original stories instead of revisiting the past!

[alycicdebncm]

Right? exactly how I feel about it. Though it is my birthday tomorrow so Im a little excited to recreate any moment of it. Yeah well it also makes us actors more excited.

[azionodessa]

i would say yeah, probably a very different one. i think the badass shit i did was stuff that drove my parents insane. any cool tattoos or obsessions? i have a couple of tattoos, some of which were done at home. low key obsessed with true crime but that's not out of the box. too many to count!

[alycicdebncm]

haha fair enough, think Id like to be like that but nothing I did was ever too shocking. You have some self given tattoos? See thats badass I got my first recently for my boyfriend and admittedly that shit hurts, I cant think about giving it to myself

[mscalpaul]

Think we’re just professionals at pushing each other’s buttons, hm? You’re the perfect mix of menace and sweetheart, do you know that? I’m absolutely obsessed with you, baby. You can prove me wrong as many times as you like. That’s one thing I’ll happily be wrong about every single time, cause it’s the sweetest way to be proven wrong.

Can’t wait to be the old version of myself you imagined, still wandering about in short shorts, looking at you and telling you you’ve just gone and said or done something that’s made me fall even more in love with you all over again. I’d call that a life well lived.

I’m the one who’s dangerous, yet you’re the one telling me you know exactly who you belong to? Then you go and tell me I can leave as many marks and little tattoos on your gorgeous body as I want? Jesus… fuck me. Luckiest lad on the planet, without question. Though I’m about to get distracted all over again… Might have to shelve any thoughts about tattoo ideas and placements for the minute if we’re actually hoping to keep this conversation going. And I’d quite like to keep talking to you right now.

Only problem is, I’ve completely forgotten where we were before you went and scrambled my brain. Which, in fairness, has become a bit of a habit of yours.

Actually, speaking of getting distracted… can I ask you something? I know we’ve kind of touched on it before, here and there, but… I’ve found myself thinking about the future quite a bit lately. And I suppose I was just wondering what sort of future you picture for yourself… and, well… for us?

I hope that’s not too big a question. I’m not trying to put you on the spot or anything. I was just curious what’s been living in that brilliant head of yours.

[alycicdebncm]

I agree I love the climb on the tension of playing bantering with you, or pouring out my loving devotion. Same ride that high feelings in both and it's always so satisfying so I must do it again, and again, and again. Even without the sex after. I know that in your eyes only. You boil me up and free my soul. I know exactly that feeling so too. I want to count every little freckle on you, I want to curl into your heat as much as I can, smell your scent to ground me throughout the day. I have said this all before but my point is I can be even more obsessed with you then this, this is just tip of iceberg, this is all I can fit into the words the rest I have to show you..right now. If you knew all the little things I think about and crave...gladly my love and then we can make love again in a position I got on my mind.

Older me is still going to be obsessed for your sex mhmm. You are going to have broken hips and a bad back all cause of me pal. Then after the sex Ill read you your favorite book to fall asleep too. And we will be there all entwined and feeling nothing but each other's naked skin.

I knew that would stay in your brain. If I used the words 'from behind' I fear I'd turn you into further nonthinking mess. But I do like you seeing me from that angle so. Alright alright Ill put that aside for a moment

Oh, so now I’m the one scrambling brains? You’re the one writing whole love letters in the middle of a conversation and then pretending you lost your train of thought.

Oh have you now? Hope you didnt strain yourself but you have me all curious as to what it might be? I don't feel on the spot babe. I see me and you forever. Im not being shy about that. I see us with kids whether biological or adopted. I dont need a engagement ring or wedding band, this is the securest thing Ive ever been in. But just the same Id love your rings on my fingers. Id love to try to have your children and if it doesnt work we can explore other options...if that is okay with you?

[jvckscn]

did you have a dream job as a kid that was different than what you do now or did you always wanna do the job you have currently. for me, i did fencing for the longest time before i convinced my parents to let me be an idol. i think i wanted to be a fencer due to both my parents being former athletes but that changed since now i'm known as a music guy instead. @alycicdebncm

[alycicdebncm]

That's a fair question, I think, least i hope we change types as we grow up. Like to be real I wished I was a wildlife trainer and it make me cry if that was actually a achievable job but I think with all of us reality shifts things, maybe not a lot for others but I think everyone's dreams change? Oh that is so interesting. Do you think you could have continued on with fencing or is it a naturally limited sport?

[alycicdebncm]

Paul: Not a humble bone in your body, is there? And the worst part is you’ve made it incredibly difficult to argue with any of it, especially when cocky you is really just you stating facts. Doesn’t exactly help that you’re ridiculously hot and sweet while you’re at it, if I may say so. I quite like that thought, Lys. If the universe had a plan, I’d say it was running a bit late, but I’ll forgive it because it got the job done in the end. And for the record, if you’re my version of the underworld, I’ll happily spend eternity there. We’re both bound to it. Alycia: Why be humble when Paul F*cking Mescal loves me huh? You are a incredible ego boost. I have always beautifully known what I deserved you are the living breathe of me remembering and living it all. I love when I see all the wheels turn in your sexy brain about it though. Have I mentioned the way you see me makes me want to undress because Im already vulnerable and I want to be more vulnerable in those rosey colored glasses. I knew you would it's like I stole it from a Shakespeare book. Mhmm and this is the happiest and sexiest time of my life mhmm. You better get naked if you are going to continue to talk about bounding us to one another. I think it jsut calls for it.

[maggielinde]

is there a dream role or genre you'd love to explore next? @alycicdebncm

[alycicdebncm]

I have a brief fantasy of being Audrey Hepburn in Sabrina but I dont think they should remake that either cause original is so perfect.

[cailspaeny]

of course they did, because that's just how it goes. i hope that one day justice is had! i was going to say, i don't mind if you do? though if you want to just wait and see my reaction? that is fine too! oh that just tells me heartbreak is coming my way, isn't it?

[alycicdebncm]

Me too we will see. I like to think none of the acting doors is closed. I think if they felt closed completely I would be sad so we keep them a little bit open and the belief I could go back at any point, however delirious, is still there. Not specifically but you know we sign up for some level of grief in these shows.