I'm sure the majority of girls grow up dreaming of being married. I always dreamed about my husband and made plans for our future life together. I wonder if many girls know what they're even getting in to. This year of being married has been amazing but it hasn't been easy. I think getting married must surely be the time you realise just how selfish people are. Even if you think you're a fairly selfless person. Before marriage, you live for yourself. You make every decision for yourself. You do what you please with your time, your energy, your efforts, your money, you eat what you like, see who you like, do what you like, exactly when you would like. Maybe these decision are made in the interest of other people sometimes, but you still decide everything, all the time. Then, suddenly, it seems like a good idea to marry.. for one to become two, and two to become one. And with someone from a completely different upbringing, background, family, culture, status, career etc. And you're forced to do life together. Crazy, huh? And, it's beautiful, but not easy. Suddenly you can't just make decisions anymore, you always have to consider the other person. You have to decide together how you spend your money, what you're going to eat, what time you'll go to bed, where you'll go on holiday, how you'll spend all your free time, etc. Not being controlled, but being considerate. Living with someone is hard. You realise all the annoying habits of each other, you realise how selfish each other are, you realise a lot and you have to continually make adjustments, adaptions, trying to change.. not only to be better for the other person (less annoying) but also growing in patience, acceptance and love every day for the other person so they become less annoying. Marriage is crazy, it's hard, it's new, it's challenging, it's always changing, but it's beautiful, it's exciting.. and I definitely chose the most perfect person to share this journey with. I wouldn't want to do it with anyone else but him.