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Bulgari Serpenti Vintage Pink Coral Bracelet-Watch, circa 1970
When you see a Prep in hottopic
“This Prep is ready for war bring it you emo fuck”
why are people reblogging this again
this post is like 11 years old
WHY AREYALL DOING THIS
We’re all having a midlife crisis leave us be
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hate when people say something along the lines of "we must get along so well because you are/i am [some astrological sign]" to me. what are you fucking talking about. we get along because im fucking nice. a decision which i regret when you say shit like that
this post is a good rent lowering gunshot. in case anyone needs one of those
Still the greatest magazine cover of all time. Why are they framed in shadow. Why is the text so stark. Why is this being framed like the poster with the villains on it for a superhero movie. This summer: a new sexual identity emerges. The bisexuals will change the hierarchy of the DC Universe forever
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the key idea of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is that "thoughts cause feelings" but upon reflecting on it, I realized that all the successful skills I developed for emotional regulation and coping assume the exact opposite: that feelings cause thoughts
My reason for my opinion is practical: "Thoughts cause feelings" made my situation worse, whereas "feelings cause thoughts" allowed me to make a huge amount of progress.
The cognitive behavioral therapy workbook says that people have "automatic thoughts" like "I am a failure" "this is awful" "this is terrifying" that cause them to feel negative emotions, but closely observing my own mind, I realized that these types of thoughts emerged when there was something wrong physiologically.
For example, when I was trying to do something difficult while hungry, I would have very angry and hateful thoughts and would be saying to myself, "This is terrible! I hate this! I fail at everything I try to do!" When I was tired and overstimulated, I would be more likely to have thoughts like "This sucks...I need to get out of here...I hate this place..."
I have found that these "negative thoughts" are shockingly reliable indicators of when my body needs something, whether a break, a snack, some quiet time, something fun to do, a shower, a walk, or something else. I got to the point where if i was doing something and I got to the point where i was thinking "I fail at everything I try to do!" I would stop and evaluate my emotional state. What feeling was the thought expressing?
I found it incredibly helpful to do the opposite of what the cognitive behavioral therapy book suggests and sink down into the pre-verbal level of the thought, exploring how it felt in my body, to learn what animal-self instinct it was coming from.
What did my animal-self want to do? Bite? Run? Hide? Burrow into a dark, enclosed den? Find something to eat? Roam? Play? I understood emotions to ultimately be instincts that promoted survival behaviors.
If the Animal-self feels angry and wants to lash out and bitebitebitebite, that means Animal-self is in a state where aggressive behavior is more likely. The survival purpose of aggressive behavior in an animal could be to defend territory, to protect resources, or to assert oneself against dominance behaviors by conspecifics.
Therefore, to cope with the angry emotion, I ensure that my survival needs are met and engage in an appropriate survival behavior: eat (so Animal-self feels more secure in terms of resources) go for a walk (so Animal-self has plenty of space and feels less trapped) take some alone time (so Animal-self feels that she can defend her own territory) complain to a friend (so the tension of intraspecific aggression and dominance displays is defused)
This has helped me SO much more than the cognitive behavioral stuff ever did.
I think Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has a really good application when you are trying to overcome negative messages that other people or the world have told you, for example if you have a habit of thinking to yourself "i am so ugly" it would help to change your thinking and tell yourself things like "I don't have to be beautiful to have value."
I think it would also work if you got in the habit of using negative thoughts to punish yourself? Like if you were afraid of failure so you started telling yourself things like "I am so lazy, I will never succeed at anything" because you felt that you needed punishment in order to motivate yourself to try harder, or if you felt you needed to rationalize why you don't try so you don't get exposed to failure.
And definitely there are some manifestations of anxiety that it would be helpful for?
But I think it is not good to use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as the basic generic therapy
CBT was incredibly helpful for me dealing with PTSD from abuse. It did fuck all for my depression. A wonderful therapy that absolutely has a specific use case and is not helpful outside of that use case.
what's the best star wars movie? easy. the memory of the memory of the memory of the memory of watching a star wars movie as a child. all the rest are, of course, derivative drivel
"Really, we're just good friends."
Eliza Dushku & Sarah Michelle Gellar in Buffy the Vampire Slayer Season 3 (1998-1999)
i think if your kid is precociously good at an adult hobby like cooking or sewing or whatever and you try to monetize it by turning them into a three-year-old influencer you should be locked in a funhouse until you change your mind
I'm against capital punishment even in my tumblr posts #consistency
"Reviewer 2 wants better citations" moodboard
'dignity of risk' is a good phrase for when you're looking for something inspiring to mutter to yourself before making a questionable choice
Buffy’s bouncing on it crazy style and Spike is like what are we? do you like me?
that said nobody is team autistic ppl the way adhders are team autistic ppl. i feel like yall forgive our rudenesses very readily and try to see everything we do in a positive light when nobody else does. id like to see some adhders lovingly roast their autistics bc more often than not i see it flowing in the opposite direction
Andrey Remnev, The Unplaiting of the Hair, 1997. Egg tempera and oil on canvas, 100x100 cm.
