Hmm. What about the people who don't "interpret" Dean as straight, but rather "accept" that he is? They wouldn't have metas about why he's straight because they may not be "interpreting" anything in the first place? I interpret Dean as flexible, Sam as bi, and Cas as ace, and I'm aware that my "reads" are based on my own personal experiences and projections, but I accept tptb intentions (or lack thereof, I suppose). If they were to say "yep, this character is this," I'd accept that too.
There’s nothing wrong with accepting what you’re told about a character by the author/creator.
For example, I accept that it was J.K. Rowling’s intention for Dumbledore to be gay. However, I will never forgive her for giving us that information outside of the universe, after the fact, instead of in story.
The thing is that everything you take from any story is interpretation.
For example:“For sale: baby shoes, never worn.” is a complete story written by Hemingway.
What you take from this story is purely interpretation. Did the mother miscarry? Did they place the child for adoption? Was the child stolen? Did a fever take the child before they were old enough to wear the shoes? Was the child, perhaps, born without feet? Possibly the child was born into a hillbilly home where shoes aren’t a necessity and Grandpappy wants to sell the ornate gifts from Auntie Richness who lives in upstate New York so he can make more shine?
Hemingway gives you the bare bones of the story, what you take from it is entirely up to you. You’re allowed to accept what other people tell you they think it’s about, or what they think the story is saying. You’re even allowed to respect that Hemingway later said he’d written the piece about a news article that detailed a family listing baby items for sale in the local paper after the death of their child.
Stories are crafted not just to shovel information at you but to be experienced and the stories that we relate to the most are stories that tell us our own experiences.
I’ve never encountered a demon or vampire. I’ve never loved my brother the way Dean loves Sam. I’ve never felt the kind of fear or confidence either of those men feel on the regular but I see myself in Dean when he has moments that aren’t exactly heterosexual. I see myself in Dean when he’s bumbling and tripping over himself after he’s been flirted with by Aaron. I see myself in Dean when he’s saying “I don’t swing that way” with a coy smile that says ‘well, i don’t swing your way, anyway.’ I see myself in Dean the way he has trouble making friends and then clings to the ones he does have. I see myself in Dean. I see my own bisexuality acted out by Dean and it makes me go, “wait, wait? Is Dean? Like me?”
because for 30 years, I thought I was straight and I can’t help but see my own confusion played out in Dean.
So yeah, there’s no issue is taking exactly what the show says it is intending to give to you. There’s no issue in taking what the creators say and going “This is it for me.” If that’s your thing, you do you. However, y’all need to recognize and respect that the creators, the actors, the story is giving me something else than it’s giving you and that my story is just as valid as yours.