Within the past 2 years, I have lost many people that are close to me, both family and friends.
Here I am again in the same position trying to accept that a loved one is most likely going to die. The last of this generation - everyone else is already gone. I often wonder how people think, feel, and react when they are close to death.
Do they question their lives? Wonder if they lived with a purpose? Ask if they were a good mother, sister, grandparent? Made the world just a tiny bit better?
What is it - as humans - that makes us want to change the world in one lifetime? Did we love enough? Did we hate enough? Did we make something of ourselves for our own benefit and for those we love and care about?
I don't know if I will every be prepared to say goodbye to anyone - I think I have got it right in my head, and that I understand the emotions I will go through - but I never do. It's always a different scenario, a different feeling, a different recovery.
Moderate believers like to think we will meet our "maker" in heaven and reuinite with our loved ones. But modern science has not physical proof of this - SO DO IT NOW, SAY IT NOW, HELP THIS PERSON get through their last days as a happy person. They know it's coming, they are more prepared to go than you think. Make it a good memory instead of a sad one.
Loss is such a horrible emotion, is it possible to make it a positive? YES it is, you can look back on this persons life, celebrate them, remember how they helped you grow up, cherish the memories. It is so often that we forget to do this. We just try so hard to move on by ignoring the obvious - we are hurt, someone is no longer there, we may be angry, we may feel guilty for things left unsaid or undone before this person died. We never focus on the good things - the mark this person left on us, and on others. If we focus on that - it is easier to accept the fact that they are in fact gone.
At any second someone can be taken away from this earth, out of our lives - whether there is an afterlife or not - this person can live on in our hearts, in our everyday actions, in our thoughts, and stories of them.
With that said - my grandmother has aggresive cancer that appeared out of nowhere. She is the last grandparent I have. The last of that generation. It's her decision whether she goes through with treatment or not. I do know that this will be hard, and I am more worried about how I can take care of my mother, and my family than myself. Only time will tell. In the meantime the best I can do is stay positive not only for my own well-being, but for my family, and especially my grandmother. No one should ever feel alone or unloved when they are dying. They need to know that they lived a good life.
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