I gotta rant today, sorry chat
So a long time ago (Okay not that long) a system fiasco ended up with me basically being forced to be friends with someone who's generally a problematic person because someone else in the system directly seeked them out to be friends. This was an arrangement I had to deal with for at least 2 months. I don't like doing this. But I feel like I have to for the time being.
Since I'm forced to have direct contact with this person, whilst also being on a server where people constantly talk about what problematic behaviour said person is doing, I thought today "you know what? If I have to talk to them I can at least let them know they're doing shit. Maybe they don't know, after all". I made sure to give NO IDENTIFIABLE INFORMATION since it's not like I even asked any of the people complaining for consent, and I just want to let them know they did something wrong and what they can do to avoid that. They ask to apologise and I'm like "sure but you don't even know who I'm talking about."
"I know who." I WAS SPEAKING GENERALLY. BECAUSE YOU'VE DONE THIS TO AT LEAST 2 OTHER PEOPLE! How tf did you find this out?
Then again, they have been accused of being a stalker so I should have thought about that.
At that point, I then got asked to go to the person they wanted to apologise to and ask for permission for them to apologise to them. Ah yes, let me tell someone I am on good relations with that I basically snitched on them (on accident imo), that will certainly go well. So I was like "just send the apology dude".
Maybe the worst thing I've said to date. Because from the apology it was immediately apparent that they either sneakily obtained information they don't know... or that someone in the server is actively telling them things.
I just wanted them to apologise because last time I checked, apologies are good? Or maybe I didn't have the full picture?
And I can't just stop interacting because the whole reason I'm doing this shit is because Malaika genuinely thinks they needs help and that we're somehow the help? Like yeah they keep going like "everyone is going to hate me" and that's relatable, but I'm not a therapist? This job is draining for me? And now they know all my accounts except this one so unless I block them... but if I block them Lixxie will just unblock them.
Actual lose-lose situation. They won't change, I won't leave, and I might actually get kicked out the server for this ngl I didn't realise how bad this might be until I typed all this. Though tbh this is what Lixxie was setting up day one, so... congrats?
And since Lixxie is not a part of the system anymore dealing with this is going to be extremely tough now. Because we can't go "follow the system rules" and forcing dormancy is bad.
I'm going to bash my head in a wall, I need to stop listening to my system clearly because they're not helping.
Ideally this is the kinda shit you talk through with someone else first, but... Who?
