so one of my problems is that I think gender and sex are both tools the patriarchy uses to subjugate, oppress, and control the class that controls the means of reproduction. this comes about from my experiences as an intersex afab trans person. I strongly disagree with a lot of the bioessentialism I see radfems spouting because of the research I have done, my own experiences, and the people i have met.
i think a massive amount of misogyny comes from quite simply the fact that people who are born female are assumed to have a particular set of characteristics, most notably the ability to be impregnated. that is a vulnerability the other class of people do not possess. even if you diverge from anatomical "norms" or present differently, if you are clocked as part of that impregnable class of person, you are going to be mistreated, and if you actually are born into the class the patriarchy denotes as incubators by virtue of what organs we possess, you can never truly escape from it, your entire life then becomes hinged on passing, which is its own prison to me.
but I don't think it's male vs female as categories, i think it comes down to who can perpetuate the species and everything else becomes informed by that, and that is why we are treated like cattle regardless of our relationship to "sex" or "gender."