Malak

⋆｡˚౨ৎ Slice of life ౨ৎ ⋆｡˚ She/Her

[anirnisiaq]

O Allah, safeguard me from making decisions that I may later regret. Bless me with clarity of thought and direct me toward what is best for me. Grant me the strength to trust in Your plan. Fill my heart with tranquility and protect me from choices that will bring sorrow. Ameen

[fluffy-appa]

If you truly understand this, you realize that marriage is not about finding the “best” person in the world, but about being faithful to the one you chose. +

After marriage, life does not suddenly stop presenting alternatives. You will meet people who seem more attractive, more emotionally expressive, more intellectually stimulating, or more aligned with certain parts of your personality.

That is not a failure of marriage, it is a reality of being human. The mistake is believing that these encounters mean you chose wrong. They don’t. They simply test your contentment.

The idea that one person must meet every emotional, intellectual, romantic, and spiritual need is unrealistic and, as said, dangerously close to idolizing a human being. Expecting that only breeds resentment.

Contentment in marriage is a quiet strength. It is choosing gratitude over comparison. It is waking up and intentionally remembering why you committed, your spouse’s values, their character, their loyalty, their efforts, their presence when life is hard.

When you constantly measure your partner against others, you will always find someone who excels where they fall short. But when you measure your partner against your covenant, your responsibility, and your fear of Allah, your heart stays protected.

Love in marriage is not sustained by feelings alone. Feelings fluctuate. Commitment does not. Marriage is an amanah, a duty, a conscious choice renewed daily, even on days when emotions are low, attraction feels dull, or someone else momentarily appears “better.”

Protect your heart by lowering your gaze, not just with your eyes, but with your comparisons. See your spouse’s best parts, nurture them, and remember that a successful marriage is not built on finding perfection,

but on practicing loyalty, restraint, and contentment for the sake of Allah.

[viagginterstellari]

Caravan of camels - Danakil depression, 2018

[academic-vampire]

ℭ𝔞𝔣𝔢 𝔉𝔯𝔞𝔫𝔷 𝔎𝔞𝔣𝔨𝔞 🧺🍂🤎

(Kafka would’ve hated this cafe)

[anirnisiaq]

Montreal.

[anirnisiaq]

[anirnisiaq]

Chinatown, Montreal.

[anirnisiaq]

Days like this ❤️

[anirnisiaq]

Salon de thé~

📍Montréal

[northnodal]

current state of the union

wednesday, october 18, 2023 🎧

IN

people who feel authentic and grounded

simplicity and the right priorities

energizing focus sessions

privacy and exclusivity.

renewal

connection to my intuition and the divine in each present moment

discernment with which people are worth my energy

heart-to-heart connections

simple, quality styled outfits

what would pluto do LOL

OUT

people pleasing

trying to prove myself to anyone other than a) myself and b) those who want to see me grow

artificial external validation

artificial/convenience connections (including excessively public social media)

playing oddly sad/mellow music for no reason

[anirnisiaq]

Ramadan Mubarak~

[anirnisiaq]

My cat sheds so much that I am literally coated with fur..

[anirnisiaq]

[anirnisiaq]

[anza-langblr]

敬語の5分類｜The 5 Types of keigo

In the Japanese language it is possible to show respect towards another person by replacing words, mostly verbs, with politer equivalents. This can be done by using elevating expressions for the actions of your superior or degrading expressions for your own actions.

Overview: Verb Formation Rules for sonkeigo 尊敬語, kenjōgo I 謙譲語Ⅰ and kenjōgo II 謙譲語Ⅱ (also known as teichōgo 丁重語).

In a guideline released by the Japanese Agency for Cultural Affairs in the year 2007 keigo has been divided into five types: 尊敬語・謙譲語Ⅰ・謙譲語Ⅱ（丁重語）・丁寧語・美化語. The first three types demonstrate the most complex rules, hence why I summarized them in the chart above for a quick overview. Hereafter, you can find thorough introductions to each type.

尊敬語｜Respectful Language

Sonkeigo is the most basic method to pay special respect towards a teacher, a superior or a client. This can be done by switching the verb (refering to the action of your superior) with its passive form.

e.g.　読みます　→　読まれます

However, the degree of politeness isn't that high. Hence, it is important to learn the following formation rules as well:

１）特定形 ｜Special forms

Some verbs have a fixed forms. If a verb has a special form it is to be used.¹

e.g.　いる・行く・来る　→　いらっしゃいます

２）サ変動詞＋なさいます

In this context サ変動詞 refers to nominal verbs. Basically, nouns that can be turned into verbs by adding する. It is possible to add お or ご infront of the verb but it can be also omitted if unsure which prefix is the right one.

e.g.　出発する　 →　（ご）出発なさいます

３）お＋Ⅴます＋になります

This formation rule is for all verbs that do not belong into either of the two categories above. Omitting ます leaves the so-called renyōkei 連用形 or conjunctive form of the verb. Here, the prefix added is always お.

e.g.　待ちます　→　お待ちになります

It is not uncommon to apply this formation rule to サ変動詞 as well. Depending on the nominal verb お needs to be changed to ご.

e.g.　参加する　→　ご参加になります

However, there are exceptions. Some nominal verbs are not idiomatic and end up sounding unnatural to native ears.

e.g.　運転する　→　ご運転になります　✕ 運転する　→　運転なさいます 〇

謙譲語 Ⅰ｜Humble Language I

Kenjōgo I + II have the opposite effect of sonkeigo. They degrade one's status and are therefore applied only to your own actions or the actions of someone from your inner circle (e.g. a co-worker, or a family member).

In contrast to kenjōgo II, kenjōgo I is used when your action (or the action of someone from your circle) is directed at the person you want to pay respect to. It is also used when you do something for said person.

The formation rules are as listed below:

１）特定形 ｜Special forms

Some verbs have a fixed forms. If a verb has a special form it is to be used.¹

e.g.　言う　→　申し上げます

The translation would be "saying sth. to sb." or "telling sb. sth." implying that your action is directed at the person you want to pay respect to.

２）お・ご＋サ変動詞＋します

Again, there are some verbs that sound unnatural when this formation is applied.

e.g.　ご運転します　✕

In this case, you can formulate the sentence with ～させていただきます or switch to kenjōgo II.

e.g.　運転させていただきます　〇 運転いたします 　 〇

Note that, depending on the situation ～させていただきます might give of the impression that you are putting yourself down too much. This can result in making your counterpart feel uncomfortable.

３）お＋Ⅴます＋します

This formation rule is for all verbs that do not belong into either of the two categories above. Omitting ます leaves the so-called renyōkei 連用形 or conjunctive form of the verb. Here, the prefix added is always お.

e.g.　伝える　→　お伝えします

謙譲語 Ⅱ｜Humble Language II

Kenjōgo II is used when your own action is unconnected to the person you want to pay respect to. Therefore, this type of language can often be found in anouncements, news reports or broadcasts elevating its audience. At train stations one often repeated phrase is:

e.g.　もうすぐ電車が来る　→　まもなく電車が参ります

In the example above you can see that not only the verb has been switched with a politer equivalent, but the adverb as well. There are many words that can be switched with politer versions. Unlike verbs, they do not need to be inflected and can be studied like regular vocabulary.

It can also be pointed out that the action does not have to be conducted by the speaker, but can be an object (like in the example above) or a third party as well.

The formation rules are:

１）特定形

Some verbs have a fixed forms. If a verb has a special form it is to be used.¹

e.g.　言う　→　申します　(as in 私は◯◯と申します)

When introducing yourself you simly "say" or "state" your name. This is not considered an action that is directed at the person you want to pay respect to, hence it falls into the category of kenjōgo II.

２）サ変動詞＋いたします

e.g.　応募する　→　応募いたします

３）丁寧語

For all verbs that do not fall under the categories above, teineigo is used, or in other words the です・ます form.

e.g.　話す　→　話します

In case the ～ている form is used, the degree of politeness can be elevated by replacing it with ～ております which is the special form of いる.

丁寧語｜Polite Language

Teineigo is the neutral polite language. You're probably already familiar with this one, since this is the most foolproof way of speaking politely due to its absence of any kind of seesaw principle. It is used everywhere outside of your circle of friends and the safest way to talk to strangers. However, in certain situations it is expected to raise the level of politeness.

e.g.　聞く　→　聞きます

美化語｜Refined Language

There is a certain number of words, especially nouns, that can be turned into more elegant sounding versions. It can be easily understood by just looking at some examples.

e.g.　金 　→　お金 酒 　→　お酒 料理　→　ご料理 米　 →　お米 散歩 →　お散歩

Adding the respective prefix お or ご takes away the roughness of a word. This, however, can only be done with a few selected words. Refined words are commonly used in both formal and informal speech.

‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾‾

¹ I will follow up with a compilation of all the special verb forms 特定形 you need to know in order to master keigo. There are quite a few, hence why I decided to leave this post at an introductory level. Since honorific speech is quite a difficult topic (for me too), I definitely see a few more posts coming!

[anirnisiaq]

she is a dreamer

a deep thinker

she is a mystery

a secret keeper

she loves too much

she says too little

she feels too much

she expects too little

she is a believer

a lover

a healer

she is a keeper

- shefali dang

[anirnisiaq]

Sunny but cold..