So your argument is that if people want boundaries, they shouldn’t rely on common sense and common courtesy and should instead exclude themselves from using several social media services all together. Is that correct?
Here are some things you may not have considered:
1) different people utilize social media for different purposes. While there are no doubt people who only have Twitter accounts specifically to search for words like mansplain so they can berate total strangers (hey, maybe I’m even talking about you right now, imagine that? Just replace Twitter with Tumblr? Yeah?), there are hundreds more who use it for following brands, newspapers, keeping up with friends at work, sending memes to their friends, and so on–hell, I have a secondary twitter specifically for getting alerts about school bus cancellations and seeing pics on my kid’s private classroom Twitter feed.
The point is, twitter is a micro-blogging platform, and plenty of people use it for benign purposes. Any tweet on a non-locked account can go viral, and going viral invites in all sorts of variations on that first kind of person. People have the right to curate their social media experience without the expectation of answering to people who think they are improperly using the platform, and it’s very disturbing that you seem to not only accept but also support the idea that if you exist online in any capacity, you deserve randos telling you what’s what.
2) many people do not have the choice of not having social media, especially if you work in any sort of entertainment position. You can decide not to have a twitter, but your business will suffer for it. You shouldn’t have to be forced to either neglect your livelihood or be down with people spitting vitriol on your face becaise you can’t lock your account and still get work.
Lastly, I hate to break it to you but mansplaining isn’t when a man says “anything to a woman in an informative manner”–men explain things to women all of the time and it is welcome and well within understood boundaries, because there are, in face, men out there who understand that context is important.
Mansplaining is where a dude gives unsolicited, unwelcome commentary, critique or instruction to a women because hearing himself talk is more important to him than whether or not she already knows this information (because he will never actually ask), wants this information or wants this information specifically form him rather than someone she knows whose opinion she trust and who isn’t coming at her out of left field and being insufferably smug or condescending. Generally mansplaining comes with a lot of overt or subtle sexist implications or undertones.
I’m a man, and if a woman accused me of mansplaining, I’d examine what I said and make an effort not to do that anymore, to catch myself before it happened again, because other people’s feelings, comfort and boundaries matter to me. I am comfortable with self examination and changing the way I do things, so when I see people like you frothing about how it’s important that you get to be a dick to women, it makes me wonder whst your damage is that this is the hill you want to die on. You seem deeply insecure, buddy. Maybe you should take a break and ponder on why blasting your mouth at women is more important to you than any of those things?
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