I hate people who force their preferred top/bottom dynamic onto everyone else or go into public fandom spaces insisting that their interpretation is the only correct one. But I also can’t stand the opposite crowd that goes, “Every ship has to be switch! You have to like every dynamic! That’s the enlightened way to enjoy fandom.”
Can we just respect the fact that fandom is built on personal interpretation?
I’m not even a traditional fujo who’s like “the shorter one has to bottom” or “the feminine one has to bottom.” I don’t give a shit about those stereotypes. If I personally enjoy a character as the bottom, then that’s my interpretation, please leave me alone.
“Oh, you think that character bottoms? That’s because they’re shorter.”
“Oh, it’s because they’re feminine.”
“Oh, you just want to emasculate them.”
“Oh, you’re reproducing heteronormativity.”
Can you all stop writing fanfiction about me for five seconds?
You are literally inventing motivations that I never expressed because apparently it’s impossible for someone to simply… have a preferred dynamic without it being a grand ideological statement. Idk like practice separating fiction from reality for a little bit please?? Like I’m sorry looking at this man with a dick up his ass activates some neurons in my stupid brain, I can’t help it?
The hypocrisy is wild because people will preach “don’t force your headcanons on others,” then immediately turn around and act like preferring a fixed dynamic is somehow morally inferior. Since when did having a preference become a crime?
And before someone starts with the whole “you’re stereotyping gay men” or “you don’t acknowledge the fluidity of sexual dynamics” lecture: I’m vers. My gay friends are majorily vers. I’m well aware that real people’s preferences and dynamics can be fluid, and my own views on relationships aren’t rigid either, which is exactly why I don’t project fandom onto real life.
Also some of this discourse just reek of people who are pissy that fan content are not serving up the flavor they want. Booo hoo cry me a fucking river, if you want something get your ass up and write it. If you want fluidity? Create it! Bitching about people preferring fixed don’t magically make more of vers and fluid shit come your way you idiot.
In conclusion, going under official posts or someone else’s fanart/fanfic just to comment, “NOOOO he’s obviously a bottom,” or “They’re clearly top/bottom” is obnoxious. Nobody asked.
But on the flip side, constantly bitching about people not being into switch or insisting every ship has to be fluid is just as annoying.Both of these behaviors come from the exact same mindset: “My interpretation is the correct one, and everyone else’s is less valid.”
Just. Fandom fucking etiquette. Please.