I offer an array of Tarot and Oracle readings and their prices depend on the complexity of each reading. If you would like to book a reading with me dm me. The prices are as follows:
General Readings (General check-in with your guides):
General Tarot Reading: $5.00
General Tarot Reading with Oracle: $7.50
General Reading only Oracle: $3.50
Specific Question Readings (prices are per question):
Tarot Reading with Specific Question: $10.00
Tarot and Oracle Reading with Specific Question: $12.50
Oracle only Reading with Specific Question: $7.50
Love Readings:
Future Partner Love Reading only Tarot: $18.00
Future Partner Love Reading with Tarot and Oracle: $22.50
Future Partner Love Reading only Oracle: $14.50
Future of Current Relationship Reading only Tarot: $15.00
Future of Current Relationship Reading only Oracle: $12.50
Future of Current Relationship Reading both Tarot and Oracle: $20.00
The Finding Love Readings are a deep dive into you and how you approach love. It is intended to help you with finding love in the future. So, it will be talking about some of the negative mindsets and behaviors you display in love and how you can change them so you can have healthier relationships in the future.
Finding Love Reading only Tarot: $15.00
Finding Love Reading only Oracle: $12.50
Finding Love Reading both Tarot and Oracle: $20.00
The Feeling Readings I do involve your feelings for this person, the things you are unaware of. Such as; hidden triggers/baggage you are bringing into this relationship that you are unaware of, how you view this person and how that affects your relationship with this person, and how you can start to heal these parts of yourself or change these mindsets. Also, you do not need to be struggling in a relationship to have this reading done for you, this reading is intended for anyone who wants more insight into their mindset regarding any relationship, romantic or not.
Feelings Reading only Tarot: $15.00
Feelings Reading only Oracle: $13.50
Feelings Reading both Tarot and Oracle: $20.00
Future Month Readings:
Tarot-only Reading of the Next Month: $20.00
Tarot and Oracle Reading of the Next Month: $25.00
Tarot-only Reading of the Next Six Months: $25.00
Tarot and Oracle Reading of the Next Six Months: $28.00
Tarot-only Reading of the Next Year: $30.00
Tarot and Oracle Reading of the Next Year: $35.00
Miscellaneous Readings:
One of the Spreads Iâve Posted: $15.00
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As this is a general collective reading, some things may not resonate with your personal situation. DO NOT try forcing it to fit. If you would like to book a personalized reading with me, please visit my profile and follow the instructions in my pinned post.
Pile One:
What is your present circumstance?
Craftsman of Fire:
The Craftsman of Fire emphasizes the importance of developing your skills and designing the life you want to experience. If it comes across as something you're currently wrestling with, it shows that you've been finding it hard to tap into your creative spirit, or that part of you that desires to pursue your goals. You may have been facing depression for some time, which has resulted in a diminished passion for life.
What does your body require to feel secure, healthy, supported, and nourished?
Two of Air:
Now is the time to let go, to trust, and to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Vulnerability may not come naturally to you, but it's important to release your control issues so your body can receive the support it needs. You might be holding stress in your body, which could explain the unusual physical symptoms arising from your mental struggles. You need to let go. Spend some time in nature at this moment to find the calm you seek. Breathe, and as you do, the trees breathe with you, sharing the breath of life. Be conscious that you are always nurtured by the world to which you belong. Itâs time to open yourself to the safety of the ever-present divine Love. All you have to do is breathe it in. Work with the air to clear your mind. Breathe slowly, fully, and deeply. Your breath is the breath of the trees, and the trees are the lungs of the world. Inhale. Each breath connects you to the trees and the earth. Exhale. Let the love within you expand outward. Listen to the wisdom that the wind brings to you.
What will comfort your heart and allow you to both give and receive love?
Eight of Water:
Trust your instincts, your intuition, the wisdom that resides in your heart and body. They possess knowledge that your mind struggles to articulate. For millennia, we have been conditioned to dismiss and stifle our instincts, believing them to be too dangerous to depend on. Yet, embrace the magic that lies within you. It is an integral part of your true essence, just as you are a part of Nature. Let the wild spirit within you break free, and pursue whatever calls to you. Wholeness and fulfillment await you. When the next full moon arrives, shed your clothes, remove the protective shell that confines you. Immerse yourself in Water, be it the ocean, a stream, or even a shower. Experience the invigorating cold water as it makes your heart race within your chest. Emerge feeling more alive than before. Stay attuned to your intuition.
What will help you maintain clarity, focus, calmness, and productivity in your thought process?
Four of Water:
Experiencing betrayal, heartbreak, and loss is an inevitable part of life. You have gone through these feelings quite often, which has led you to close off your heart and intellectualize your emotions rather than truly feeling them. Nevertheless, it is impossible to live without feeling. Like the Whales represented in this card, your heart is vast enough to embrace both the sorrows and joys of existence. In the depths of sorrow, healing your mind in this moment comes from revitalizing your connections to nature and to others, including friends and family. Reach out. Allow your feelings, all of them, to connect you to the world. They are a source of beauty. The Whale is a wise and compassionate creature that will help you navigate the currents of your emotions and teach you how to live in a connected way. Invite them into your life. Journey, dream, meditate, pray, learn about, and volunteer for Whales. Let the energy of the Whale flow through you. You may be surprised to find a sense of enhanced telepathy, gratitude, light-heartedness, and mystery. Let the Whale guide you in learning to sing.
What will link you to a deeper sense of truth and purpose during this period?
Seven of Fire and The Wisdom Keeper:
You are living in a time filled with challenges, where many cherished truths have been forgotten. However, if you look inward and observe the natural world, you will find the convictions and values that can provide your life with meaning. Defending and embodying these does not require anger, violence, or aggression; it requires clarity, commitment, and consistency. This is what integrity is all about, and it will grant you both strength and joy. Reflect on the journey youâve been on. When did it all begin? What were your hopes and fears? What have you learned about yourself? You have gained a wealth of knowledge, yet you cannot truly know who you are until you understand your current circumstances. Mother Earth is the great Wisdom Keeper, and her wisdom is what you need most right now. The blueprint of the cosmos is spiraled within every cell of your bodyâintuitive, instinctive, and certain, just waiting to be acknowledged. Nature serves as your teacher; her wisdom and her ways are encoded in your very bones. Set aside your phone, close your laptop, and step outside.
Bottom of the Deck:
Ancestor:
The Ancestor appears to ask the question: âWhy are you here?â Maybe youâve just been idly passing the time, letting life go by. Itâs time to reflect: âWhich direction do I want to pursue from here?â If you seek the Ancestorâs counsel, she will tap her chest and say: âYou must follow your heart.â Then, she will tap her head and caution: âToo much reliance on this can simplify the journey, but it wonât bring you true happiness.â Take a moment to reflect on the choices youâve made. Recognize the unconscious patterns from your childhood, the coping mechanisms for the traumas and sorrows passed down from your parents, who inherited them from their own. Understand that every thorn protects a rose. Acknowledge the secret gifts youâve received and the strengths youâve cultivated that will aid your unique purpose now. Itâs time to navigate life by your inner compass. No one can tell you which path to take, and no one can stop you from discovering your own way. So, move ahead. Trust your heart.
Your spiritual team holds immense power. Many of you share a profound connection with your spiritual team, particularly with your Ancestors. Some of you could be a water sign, specifically a Pisces, or have notable placements in Pisces, particularly a Pisces Rising. Additionally, the colors purple and blue could hold special significance for some individuals.Â
Extended Reading (what can you specifically do for each category?)
Pile Two:
What is your present circumstance?
Justice:
It looks like you have been dealing with a considerable amount of injustice in your life. Usually, you are a very happy person, but you have been experiencing some difficulties lately, which is probably the reason you turned to this Tarot reading. You could be a Libra or have prominent Libra placements in your chart, or you might just be someone who genuinely cares about fairness. This pile exudes a sense of newness and vitality. Itâs as if many of you are just starting to explore spirituality or self-care.Â
What does your body require to feel secure, healthy, supported, and nourished?
Broom (Death):
If you resemble the witch illustrated in this card, you might find yourself collecting anything that has even a hint of magic or intrigue: crystals, bottles, seashells - the list goes on! Yet, the appearance of this card suggests that while you may enjoy having a plethora of items, they can quickly turn into clutter if you donât utilize them in a meaningful way. This stagnant energy can hinder every aspect of your life. Consider this your cue to declutter and organize (both literally and metaphorically). Bid farewell to the people, places, things, and narratives that no longer contribute to your well-being and identity in this current chapter of your life. By taking this step, you will create space for incredible opportunities that were previously out of reach.
What will comfort your heart and allow you to both give and receive love?
Knight of Swords:
The Knight of Swords embodies a dynamic and potent energy that drives swift action. As I previously noted, you are currently facing a significant imbalance in various aspects of your life, whether itâs in your career, personal relationships, or within yourself, and this has caused you considerable distress. The Knight of Swords represents decisiveness, intelligence, analytical thinking, strategic planning, and a willingness to take risks in pursuit of your aspirations. This is the kind of energy you should harness to mend your heart. Consider drafting a pros and cons list regarding the issue at hand, and make your decision based on what you discover. If you are interested in crystals, think about carrying a garnet with you, as it can assist in keeping you grounded in the present moment. While pursuing your dreams is commendable, itâs equally vital to savor the experiences along the journey.
What will help you maintain clarity, focus, calmness, and productivity in your thought process?
The Chariot:
The Chariot tells you, âYouâll never get anywhere if you keep standing still!â Although the witch depicted in this card dreams of having a flying broom like those in films, they refuse to let that desire hinder their determination to pedal as swiftly as they can! After all, they have places to go. Donât sit idly by waiting for extraordinary events to unfold; take the initiative to pursue greatness and create those opportunities yourself! Some of you might be contemplating a significant change, yet you feel uncertain about how to begin, causing your plans to stall. Well, gather your motivation, because now is the perfect moment to choose a path and embark on it! Dress in a way that makes you feel empowered, as this will enhance your confidence to accomplish your goals. Take a moment to appreciate how far youâve come and give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back, as this will help lift you out of the negative mindset you find yourself in.
What will link you to a deeper sense of truth and purpose during this period?
Nine of Swords and Ace of Pentacles:
You have been out of touch with your spiritual self for a considerable period, largely due to your anxieties. Perhaps you fear reconnecting with that aspect of yourself for some reason, or maybe your numerous anxieties have consumed all your mental energy. However, the appearance of the Ace of Pentacles alongside the Nine of Swords indicates that now is the perfect moment to reconnect with your spirit. Drinking herbal tea can be an excellent way to soothe your mind during this time. If you are drawn to crystals, Lapis Lazuli and Amethyst are soothing crystals that can assist you in achieving the reflective state necessary for deep exploration and rejuvenation. Remember to prioritize three nutritious meals each day, regardless of how hectic your schedule becomes.
Bottom of the Deck:
Ace of Cups:
A wave of freshness is entering your life, as indicated by this card being at the bottom of the deck. You are being offered a bountiful cup of opportunities: perhaps a new source of inspiration or even a heartfelt connection that could be beneficial to you. The real question is, will you take a sip from this enchanting coffee mug? As always, you possess the freedom to make the choice that feels right for you, a decision only you can truly understand. If you decide to embrace this chance and take a drink, you will be opening the door to the possibility of something beautiful, but remember, thatâs all it is - just potential. If your heart is fully invested and your intentions are sincere, it could turn out to be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your life.
Extended Reading (what can you specifically do for each category?)
Pile Three:
What is your present circumstance?
Three of Fire (Wands):
You are a person who thrives in a fast-paced environment. Yet, it appears you are in a position where patience is essential for progress. Things may not be unfolding as swiftly as you wish in your life, and this frustrates you. You find it challenging to wait for your efforts to yield results; you may even struggle with control issues, as this scenario demands you to have faith in the universe, which is difficult for you. There is a notable presence of Taurus and Capricorn energy in this situation, along with some fiery elements. Therefore, you might be one of those signs, but also possess fire in your birth chart, particularly in your Mars placement, which could lead to issues with patience.
What does your body require to feel secure, healthy, supported, and nourished?
The Empress:
The Empress embodies compassion and nurtures all those in her presence, including herself. For some of you who selected this pile, your body might not be functioning as you desire at this moment, leading to significant frustrations within you. For others, it could simply be that your body doesnât appear as you wish it would. Regardless, the appearance of this card serves as a reminder to practice patience with yourself during this period and to prioritize self-care. Donât rush the process.
What will comfort your heart and allow you to both give and receive love?
The Chariot:
The Chariot symbolizes determination and progress. As Iâve mentioned before, you tend to struggle with patience, and right now, you find yourself in a situation that demands it, making things even tougher for you. It feels as though your motivation to advance has vanished, leading you to think, "Whatâs the point?" I envision someone giving up, hands raised in defeat, and thatâs the state you find yourself in right now. The appearance of this card serves as a message from your guides, urging you to be resilient and continue pushing forward. Donât throw in the towel just because things arenât going your way. The Chariot suggests that the struggle is almost at an end. Take a moment to reflect on your journey so far. Youâre making great progress. Take pride in your achievements.
What will help you maintain clarity, focus, calmness, and productivity in your thought process?
The Magician:
This card radiates an incredibly powerful and raw energy. It embodies the sacred spark of creation. When it appears in a reading, it unmistakably indicates that you possess the ability to manifest your goals at this very moment. The moment is perfect for fresh starts. You have the cosmic green light. Focus on your inherent potential and transform it into something real. You possess all the tools necessary to conjure your own brand of magic in your life. A divine energy is swirling in your mind like a sparkling whirlwind. Your creativity is either currently flowing or is about to; this is an excellent time for significant brainstorming sessions, so keep a small notebook handy to capture every idea that arises. Itâs easy to be swept away by the whirlwind of raw energy that surrounds The Magician. Remain grounded by activating your root chakra. To achieve this, stand tall with your head held high and gaze straight ahead. Envision red, stabilizing energy at the base of your spine, where the root chakra resides.
What will link you to a deeper sense of truth and purpose during this period?
Eight of Air (Swords):
The Eight of Swords appears in a reading when you find yourself feeling trapped, confined, or cornered. This sensation has been your reality for quite a while now. No matter what struggle youâve been enduring, youâve faced it all on your own. This solitude has likely left you feeling quite melancholic, isolated, and perhaps even drained. However, your guides want you to know that there is still hope. Being a Swords card, the key to overcoming this situation lies in how you perceive it, so consider viewing things from a different angle! You possess the strength to break free from this feeling. Concentrate on addressing the issues that weigh heavily on your spirit. Share your thoughts over coffee with a friend, or consider scheduling a therapy session.
Bottom of the Deck:
The Star:
You have been experiencing a challenging phase in your life, leaving you feeling exhausted and disoriented. Nevertheless, the presence of The Star at the bottom of the deck indicates that a glimmer of hope and renewal is on its way to you. The Star serves as a reminder from your guides to maintain faith that brighter, better days are just around the corner. Remember, the universe operates in incredible, mysterious ways that may not be immediately clear to you. Have trust in the universe and your guides during this period, as they truly know what they are doing. Everything will ultimately turn out for the best! Keep pushing forward, keep dreaming, and keep believing.
Extended Reading (what can you specifically do for each category?)
Pile Four:
What is your present circumstance?
Six of Wands:
You are very focused on pursuing recognition and success at this time. However, it seems that this is not coming to you easily. You have encountered many obstacles, and instead of pausing to create a plan to navigate through these challenges, you have charged ahead, thinking that sheer willpower is the solution. Yet, the fact that this card has come out here suggests that this is not the right approach. There is a lot of chaotic energy associated with this situation. You have been quite busy in your life, which has left several areas in disarray. Some of you may currently have a very messy home, or it could be your emotional state that is quite chaotic.
What does your body require to feel secure, healthy, supported, and nourished?
Eight of Wands:
The Eight of Wands signifies that rapid changes are occurring in your life right now. Thereâs a surge of activity surrounding you, and while this card suggests that itâs a beneficial development, it can also feel quite overwhelming. As mentioned earlier, you have been incredibly busy lately, which might be leading to significant stress. Your body requires you to adapt to this fast-paced lifestyle, but to do so in a healthy manner, create a to-do list and check off tasks as you complete them. This approach will assist you in managing various aspects of your life. Once youâve finished all the items on your list, reward yourself! Ensure youâre consuming nutritious foods that will sustain you during this hectic time, and donât forget to take your vitamins! Additionally, engage with nature by starting a small herb garden. Caring for plants can be immensely rewarding and soothing - plus, having fresh herbs readily available is always a bonus.
What will comfort your heart and allow you to both give and receive love?
The Hierophant:
The Hierophant is a tarot card that highlights the significance of hierarchies, structure, tradition, and organized communities. It symbolizes conformity and a sense of social belonging. When this card appears in a reading, it may suggest that you are currently experiencing considerable instability in your life. What your heart truly seeks at this moment is to find solid ground through established and reliable methods. Now is not the ideal time to forge your own unique path. Additionally, it may signal a period for increased friendship and camaraderie in your life. If you are part of a spiritual or religious community, seeking comfort there can be incredibly beneficial right now. If not, surrounding yourself with individuals who share a strong sense of community is essential at this time. There is power in community. Consider joining a crafting group or starting a book club. Being around people who affirm your identity will provide a much-needed boost in confidence. Engaging in physical activities with others will also enhance your well-being and fulfill your need for community. Participating in an exercise group, joining a sports team, or signing up for group meditation can help nourish your heart in this moment.
What will help you maintain clarity, focus, calmness, and productivity in your thought process?
Two of Swords and Six of Swords:
The Two of Swords signifies that you are faced with a challenging choice. You are experiencing difficulty in reaching a decision. The presence of the Six of Swords alongside it indicates that itâs essential to release what no longer serves you, and you are conscious of this fact. You have been dwelling on this understanding for quite a while. You find yourself hesitating and avoiding the decision, but this cannot continue forever. This dilemma will not simply disappear. The resolution requires you to take a step back and find your center, enabling you to gain a clearer perspective. Consider the bright futures that lie ahead. By letting go of the old, you will pave the way for greater and more fulfilling experiences. Be kind to yourself. Be cautious of self-judgment and remember that you are doing your best.
What will link you to a deeper sense of truth and purpose during this period?
Ten of Cups:
The Ten of Cups symbolizes a happy and beautiful time in life; everything feels just right. This card shines like a bright smile from the universe. It suggests that lucky stars are currently shining upon you. This is the perfect opportunity to reconnect or establish a connection with your spiritual side. You are a spiritually powerful individual, whether you realize it or not, and now is the right time to tap into that power. Celebrate your successes. Whether youâve just bought a house, received a promotion, or paid off a loan, take a moment to acknowledge how far youâve come. Youâre doing exceptionally well.
Bottom of the Deck:
The High Priestess:
The High Priestess's presence is a signal to explore more deeply. Take the time to think through your decisions carefully, and be fully aware of every choice that is available to you. Investigate your options in depth to make choices that are well-informed and based on logic. While you may be facing difficulties with this, it is a skill you must develop to navigate this challenging time effectively. Dedicate time to reflect on what truly motivates you. Be sincere with yourself about your current position in your journey and the direction you wish to take. What are your goals and intentions? What hurdles are blocking your path? Analyze your plan of action to ensure it is in harmony with your true intentions.
Extended Reading (what can you specifically do for each category?)
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
Masterlist
Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
In the grand spectacle of life, the Sagittarius woman stands out as the most likely contestant to claim the crown. With her luminous and royal presence, she commands attention, radiating an aura of entitlement towards everything she wishes to attain.
Given that her sign is governed by the planet Jupiter, which represents the astrological Principle of Expansion, embodying optimism, growth, and prosperity, it follows that she inevitably views life as a scenario where the stakes are perpetually elevated.
As a woman born under Jupiter, the biggest planet in our solar system, which is associated with the Greek god Zeus, the mighty king of gods, the Sagittarius woman draws her essential energy from his female counterpart, the great queen goddess Juno, known in Greek mythology as Hera.
The Sag woman embodies the archetype of a proud matriarch: A fiercely proud, even arrogant, figure who sees herself as the ideal representation of womanhood. Even though this arrogance may often be a reaction to insecurities about her true femininity, it is a fact that she shows a strong sense of self that requires everyone to treat her like royalty.
She firmly believes in the value of relationships, particularly in marriage, and she is not one to overlook any slight on this topic. Junoâs governance over women and marriage aligns closely with the principles of the Sagittarius woman - the goddessâs realms are reflected in the works of Archeresses such as Jane Austen, Joan Didion, George Eliot, and Louisa May Alcott, just as they are in the everyday lives of every living, breathing Sag woman globally.
For her, the most sacred of unions provides a way to grow, both materially and spiritually.
For the Sagittarius man, known as the zodiacâs little Dionysus, patriarchal power is his undeniable birthright, as if given to him on a silver platter by Zeus. In contrast, the Sagittarius woman, astrologyâs own powerful Hera, does not require permission to feel omnipotent - it is her inherent right; yet, she frequently finds herself in conflicts with a partner whose male ego struggles to accept the elevated position that Sag usually holds.
She needs a partner who is at least as powerful as she - in modern terms: rich, successful, socially esteemed, if not famous, and of good mental, physical, and moral integrity - to prevent the emergence of jealousy or resentment directed at her in the partnership.
Sag author Dawn Powell once stated, "Luxury is living within your means." While this message may seem admirable at first glance, the frequently overlooked aspect of this statement is that luxury, from the perspective of a Sagittarian, can and must be experienced regardless of income - it is the one vital element for the Archeress.
The 9th Astrological House governs experiences that go beyond the ordinary. This aligns well with Jupiter's connection to the energy of growth. Together, these factors create a desire for excitement, glamour, and fame in women born under the sign of Sagittarius.
In contrast to her male counterpart, who experiences the sign's energy internally, constantly pushing him towards exhilarating experiences, the Sagittarius woman requires external enhancement. This need shows itself in various forms, particularly in her wish to be recognized as significant, if not extraordinary.
Sagittarius is the sole mutable-fire sign in the zodiac. While many interpretations and representations can be attributed to this designation, the image of lightning - that ever-changing fire in the sky - most effectively conveys the sign's deepest meanings.
Sagittarius, as the name implies, is associated with flashes of sagacity, inspiration, dreams, and visions, additional attributes of the 9th House.Â
The Sag woman aims to express her thoughts and emotions in a striking (lightning-like) way that will create a lasting impression on people's minds.
Another concept from the 9th House, the worldview, is something she strives to penetrate and shape with ideals that are fundamentally focused on empowerment, particularly for women, simply because society has historically mandated that her sex should remain in the background during the worldâs socio-evolutionary progress.
In the grand scheme of the universe, Sagittarius emphasizes the importance of connecting with universal energies and cultivating a more open mindset that unites us on a mental plane, transcending the boundaries of our conscious thoughts. In simpler terms, the Acheress woman inherently "rises above" and channels her thoughts beyond any constraining outside circumstances or emotional scars, no matter how deep they may be.
The more challenges the Sag faces in life, the more she distances herself from harmful influences and moves towards what she imagines as a perfect, elevated life experience. Usually, her superconscious mind guides her to personal environments and careers where she can connect with a worldwide network of thinkers, or even gather her own followers, in fields like academics, publishing, commerce, big business, science, law, or religion, all of which are influenced by her signâs 9th House.
She represents the saying "knowledge is power" - from a young age, she is the ideal student, committed to achieving excellent grades, which will act as a means to escape her childhood surroundings.
Her parents conform to a particular stereotype: her mother is an overbearing personality, conceited and indulged, and her father is the ultimate "Mr. Nice Guy," who still finds it hard to satisfy his wife's relentless, huge demands.
While she may seem bossy, her mother is usually a fragile person, someone who enjoys treats but resents the need to help out and carry her share of the load.
Her mother, a materialist at heart, is always wanting more, and Dad is the one who feels the weight of her frustration.
Her father is indifferent to his obligations as a parent.
Her father is typically some kind of adventurer, often resembling a grown-up child who chooses to spend his earnings on extreme sports, cultural pursuits, hobbies, distant travels, or other expensive activities.
Itâs not unexpected that Sag often comes from a broken home. Even if her parents stay together, her mother might venture out looking for everything she feels she has missed, using her own money from a solo career, which usually begins later in life and is primarily for financial benefit. Alternatively, she might just wish for a lavish lifestyle to influence her by mingling with those who live in the right neighborhoods.
Meanwhile, her father ventures farther away on his usual excursions, emotionally distancing himself from his wife and often regrettably sacrificing his close relationships with his children. This is particularly true for the Sag woman, who feels the impact of this dynamic the most during her early years.
She feels caught between the two. Like her mother, with whom she will eventually share a bond of bitterness when times get tough, she craves more from life than what is seen as "sufficient" by those who are well-off; still, in her desire for a fatherâs love, she elevates her dad to the status of a more daring adventurer than he really is. In the same way, she agrees with her motherâs description of him as an underachiever, even as she might grasp his viewpoint - that her mother is a habitual money-chaser.
To cope, she directs her focus away from the overwhelming domestic duality and looks ahead to the future. She sets specific goals for her lifelong dreams, often choosing a career path and starting to chase it as early as her teenage years, provided it meets two criteria: first, it must promise significant financial gain to impress her mother, and second, it should involve a cultural or adventurous endeavor that would captivate her father's imagination.Â
These same two conditions will also define what she seeks in a partner regarding their life aspirations.
Sag does a great deal of self-parenting. The lessons from her upbringing teach her to recognize both sides of any significant argument, a quality that shields her from experiencing resentment.
Indeed, Sag is quite forgiving, or more accurately, she often fails to see when she is being wronged. This is likely a result of not acknowledging that she may have been emotionally abandoned as a child, which is usually the case for her.
You can frequently critique a Sagittarius, and somehow, with a "thank you," she will find a way to reinterpret your words, in her own perspective, as a compliment, shining even brighter at the idea that you have been thinking about her.
She refuses to acknowledge the negative. She can never truly picture herself as someone who has caused any damage. This mindset stems from her upbringing: She manages her emotional turmoil by striving for excellence, and she seldom views herself in any other light, remaining unaware of her flaws.
She might be a classic type-A personality, to the point that teachers could be concerned about her overworking and risking burnout. Sag has always been known for her maturity, responsibility, and serious demeanor from a young age, which aligns perfectly with her zodiac sign's connection to the âestablishedâ age group of 56-63.
Even though she often comes across as nerdy and sometimes awkward or clumsy as a girl, many observant adults can recognize her as someone who could be a stunning beauty. This is merely one instance, in a continuous series of moments, illustrating how Sag feels the pressure to catch up with herself. As a teenager, while most girls focus on superficial things and looks, Sag is more concerned with her SAT scores, internships, and getting early admission to her preferred top school.
Without a doubt, among all the women of the zodiac, Sagittarius stands out as the most forward-thinking. She often struggles to stay present, which can lead to anxiety issues.
For her, the grass always appears to be greener up ahead, leading to a constant sense of dissatisfaction with her current situation, regardless of how excellent it may be.
She is notoriously troubled by thoughts of paths not chosen. Yet, like a shot arrow, she frequently finds herself propelled to high positions in life, receiving leadership roles that, despite her aspirations, can leave her feeling unworthy or overwhelmed. This intensifies her feelings of anxiety or impostor syndrome, as if she has bypassed the challenges and hardships that others typically face.
Itâs a classic Sag woman dynamic, one that makes her highly self-conscious.Â
While a Sag man tends to adopt a third-party viewpoint on life, being neither fully objective nor subjective but more of a tertiary observer, the Sag woman pushes that dynamic a little further.
She senses that she is always being observed from a third-person viewpoint, as if a camera is perpetually filming her, showcasing her to the world. For the Sagittarian, experiences are consistently intensified and oddly celebratory, much like a queen who is under unending public observation.
In a similar metaphorical sense, throughout her career, Sag usually ascends to prominent roles, often being asked to guide others as an "expert," even though she frequently feels somewhat inadequate.
Still, as one might imagine, she puts on a great show - though always somewhat faking it, which only fuels her feelings of being, well, a fake. In time, though, she will come to terms with herself, gaining experience through the ambitious tasks she undertakes.
For Queen Sag, life is a continuous training experience, and she faces each challenge with a natural smile and an exceptional ability to delegate. In fact, her hallmark of success lies in empowering others - while she may not have all the expertise, she compensates with her trust and confidence in those who assist her, follow her orders, and - they better - enhance her image.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied to Rising signs as well:
She seems to be the ideal leader, possessing everything - intelligence, charm, attractiveness, and the skill to gather as much loyalty from people as she does wealth for her treasury.
Wealth, it would seem, is her personal birthright.Â
Although she shines brightly, she can be quite anxious, often struggling with feelings of insecurity and emotional distress.
From the day she was born, she has known the significance of first impressions, and she is forever eager to make a remarkable one.
For her, life combines showiness with circumstance, and she treats each day like a celebration - in the same way, she looks forward to being celebrated. Provided she gets attention and recognition, Sag is a radiant, cheerful person, glowing as if she were actually lit from within.
Having been born with a strong athletic frame, she is solidly built and lean, making her just as likely to be a tomboy as her fire sign sisters, Aries and Leo. Yet, in contrast to them, she does not fully accept her boyish side or mix it into a tough-girl persona. Rather, Sagittarius aims to tone down her more muscular traits, going to great lengths to present herself in a feminine way.
Usually, she lets her hair flow into long, beautiful strands, frequently brightening her hair while removing any stray hairs on her body or face through plucking, tweezing, or bleaching.
She has a distinctive look with a prominent forehead, dramatic cheekbones, a small nose that has flared nostrils, deep nasal folds, thin lips, and a strong jaw that often juts out. There is an extreme quality to her appearance.
Her chiseled countenance might even lend a masculine or handsome air, which she takes great pains to compensate for, thinning her brow, plumping her lips cosmetically, or altering her appearance to appear more feminine.
With broad, squared shoulders and strong, muscular arms, she chooses to wear draped clothing instead of fitted styles that flow from her body, adding to her divine appearance. These styles also balance a short waist while highlighting her most impressive feature: her incredibly long legs, which she displays to their fullest potential.
She usually has small breasts that hardly cover her prominent pectorals, along with a smooth torso that narrows down to slender, Sag-ruled hips and a fairly flat backside.
She tends to have a wide pelvis.Â
The Sag places great importance on her appearance, knowing that her body is the ultimate showcase for attracting a superior partner.
With such foresight and the influence of Jupiter's immense power, Sag can look past barriers and effectively pursue her goals, whether they are sexual or not. The downside, though, is that she occasionally overextends herself by being too open and may not always be ready for the emotional demands of the iconic role she portrays.Â
Consequently, this leads to a disconnect, where, despite presenting herself as a grand figure, she also withdraws into a childlike demeanor, trying to shield herself psychologically from the high expectations she creates (of herself) in others.
Men commonly view this contrast in personality as a modest appeal in the girl-canât-help-it manner; on the other hand, some women might often confuse her often authentic giggly naivety as just another weapon in her collection of self-serving tricks.
She might also be to blame for overextending herself, presenting herself as a significant personality keen to shed any modest or underdog origins - even though she never fully shakes off the more rustic traits of her equestrian sign. Simply put, Sag can be very noticeable, putting on a performance - that is, dressing to catch the eye - in a way that reveals her intended goals.
If she is set on becoming the chairwoman of the board, for example, she will wear the most traditional attire and have the most teased and sprayed hairstyle imaginable. If she aims to be perceived as stylish, she will showcase a direct imitation of what Vogue has presented in its most recent issue.
In her youth, Sag may be the ideal junior beauty pageant contestant who, instead of being urged by her parents, actively asks them to let her compete, as she naturally craves admiration. She longs to shine, famously attracted to glittering sequins, bold styles, and vibrant colors.
This sign does not signify the "best" in life, but the "most." If itâs brand new and high-priced, Sag will take two.
She appears to lack any sense of subtlety, much less a calm piece of attire in her wardrobe. She is an obvious, determined diva, albeit a frequently flashy goddess, if she is to be worshipped.
The Sag woman tends to ascend to leading professional positions, seemingly jumping over any competition, as her opponents suggest, because she fits the image.
What many individuals overlook is that she has genuinely placed herself in that position: Her giggly little-girl persona isnât merely a facade but a response to her understanding that sheâs the most power-hungry (or ruthless) woman in the astrological realm. Partly because she wishes to avoid being labeled a bitch, and partly because she feels guilty for often acting like one, she increases the sweetness even more.
When she is with a man, she often adopts a harmless and even passive demeanor, subconsciously trying to balance her imperialist intentions. She tilts her head while speaking, expressing agreement with soft sounds as she listens, her famously whiny voice fluctuating with what seems like enthusiasm and excitement. She deliberately touches a guy during their conversation, maybe running her hand up and down his arm in a reassuring or flirtatious manner. This behavior conveys a sense of complete availability and being fully present in the moment, which, in reality, she rarely is. She is increasingly focused on the future, considering how her current actions and demeanor might affect her goals, aware that appearing attentive (or pretending to be) while looking appealing is the key to making friends and influencing others.
In line with her positive Jupiter influence, she is the most persuasive supporter in this journey we refer to as life. She will never, ever dismiss an idea. She consistently encourages others to believe they can accomplish anything they aim for, exactly the type of grateful individual one desires in a friend, community fundraiser, chief financial officer, or steady sex partner.
A single glance into the eyes of a Sagittarian makes everything feel perfect - it feels like anything can happen - and that charming, captivating glow dazzles a person, making them oblivious not just to their own fears, but also to any imperfections she may have.
Sag lives in a constant winner's circle, and while she starts by seeing the good in everyone, she shows no compassion when that belief is challenged. Although she is associated with the zodiac sign of kindness, which is often accurate, the Archeress's mindset of abundance may prevent her from fully grasping the struggles of those who are less fortunate than she is.
This lack of sensitivity manifests in subtle ways. For example, she is well-known for being dismissive towards people in service roles, such as waiters, janitors, hotel maids, and shop clerks, whom she views as inferior, failing to comprehend that these are merely jobs and not indicators of inherent inequality.
More obviously, she might avoid participating in charitable activities, perhaps only writing a check now and then. Otherwise, she tends to have a rather dismissive attitude towards hardship. It seems she is so inclined towards optimism that she struggles to recognize pain and suffering - it just doesnât align with her lofty view of life.
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Sagittarius Woman Interested in Men:
Not one to depend on love alone, she successfully pairs with a man who fits the mold of a "power couple," drawn to charming father figures who fulfill her distinctive fairy-tale aspirations.
No sign in the zodiac features a more extraordinary lineup of beautiful women, a group of living embodiments of supreme femininity, genuine goddesses that seem unattainable for mere mortal men. And thatâs exactly how she enjoys it: Especially when searching for a partner, Sagittarius doesnât want to attract anyone who isnât a similarly distinguished figure of masculinity, one she believes stands out significantly from the crowd.
Whether in a professional environment or intimate situations, Sag's method is to uplift those around her, often by means of basic flattery, which, from her experience, causes individuals to become putty in her hands.
A typical trait of a Sag woman, particularly when she is with a man she sees as a possible partner, is her tendency to agree with everything he says. This makes him feel like a true genius. Additionally, she shows that she aligns with his impressive ideas on various topics, from politics to the meaning of life, creating a strong intellectual bond between them, if not a spiritual one.
Miss Heightened Experience is unable to recognize that she and a first date might, for example, have much in common - to her, these shared emotions mean they are soulmates.
She can be so straightforward in her pursuit of a man she is attracted to that, at times, it seems like she could simply wear a sign revealing her romantic (and sexual) interest.
Just as she is known for stretching herself too thin in work situations, depending too much on her subordinates, and often creating chaos, she also has an exaggerated perception of love and relationships.Â
The event-focused Sagittarius loves to celebrate, even announce, the smallest achievements in a romantic connection, placing the responsibility on her partner to recognize every little anniversary they may have experienced together.
She teaches the world, by example, how to truly commemorate our existence.Â
That third-eye perspective of hers, akin to a camera rolling, often leads to an over-analysis of her emotions, making her feel compelled to convey her feelings rather than just keeping them to herself. For the Sag, there is little in her life that remains unspoken; her natural feeling of being under a lens turns into a strong urge to be seen.
For example, she might share with her friends the specifics of what was supposed to be a romantic moment for two. This kind of behavior could be irritating if it didnât stem from such a sincere place - in fact, itâs difficult not to be swept away by Sagâs genuine enthusiasm.Â
However, at some point, she will have to face reality and align her lofty self-perceptions with her true feelings inside.
The positive aspect is that most Sagittarians eventually learn to "mind the gap," addressing any emotional voids that their broad idealism may have caused. Still, before she can truly catch up emotionally in her life, she will experience a recurring cycle of challenges, particularly in her romantic and sexual encounters.
Having been ahead of her peers in her early years, Sag is itching to break free from her childhood by the time she enters college. She is eager to find a guy whose lifestyle resembles the one she wishes she had, already looking forward to diving into that scene and starting a new chapter in her adventurous life.
As shallow as it may sound, she latches onto guys who, to some degree, have had far more privileged upbringings than her own.Â
In the usual Sag manner, she balances objectivity and subjectivity when it comes to a guy: She secures her high-value boyfriend based on the belief that she is just as much a catch as (she believes) he is, if not even more so.
Similar to the male Sagittarius, she seeks vulnerability in a partner that could enable her to penetrate their defenses and, in a way, gain the advantage.
A young Sag woman frequently connects with a wealthy or privileged individual who, despite his background, feels deprived. In this relationship, the healing process is mutual; she helps him overcome any emotional voids he may have faced, while she also gains the sense of entitlement she believes she deserves.
With her naturally gorgeous looks, the Sagittarius woman certainly appeals to a man's vanity, willing to take on the position of trophy wife or girlfriend and excel in it.
Following Sag's philosophy of "the future is now," she tends to marry early, looking forward to becoming a young socialite. This approach enables her to pursue her lofty ambitions from a standpoint of comfort rather than from a place of intense desire.Â
To put it simply, the would-be power marriages that a Sagittarius woman tends to pursue too early are generally just part of her journey to truly understand what she seeks in love. Thus, many Sagittarians will likely marry at least twice in their lives.
If anyone is likely to move on from an early relationship, it is the Sagittarius woman, particularly if she has given up lust for financial security or an inheritance. Especially as she nears her sexual peak, she will demand a partner who can connect with her feminine brilliance on deeper, more instinctual levels.
With her perfect partner, Sagittarius experiences all the pampering she might have lacked in her youth. For some time, she allows herself to be treated to the extra luxuries her romantic partner can provide. Naturally, if she and her significant other are genuine equals, their powerful relationship will endure through the years.
Sadly, as is frequently the situation, the compromise Sag accepted by taking on a weak yet affluent character could come back to haunt her. In time, the red flags or deficiencies she may have overlooked for the sake of fast-tracking her career will begin to impact her authentic self.
Since a lot of what young Sag looks for in a partner reflects the lifestyle she wants to pursue, she and her first love or husband may become too focused on work matters, making their relationship feel more like a business partnership than a romantic connection.
Usually, a significant absence of sexual connection drives Sag to seek new romantic avenues. To be fair, she tends to be less passionate in her initial relationships, but among all the aspects she overlooks while focusing on the future, her own sexuality is the most relentless in how it ultimately catches up to her.
Being half of a business partnership begins to pale in light of her wanting nothing less than worship.Â
One thing she cannot accept is being neglected, even if only slightly. A deficiency of attention makes her quite distrustful; her lively imagination leads her to think that the attention she doesn't receive must be aimed at another woman.
Sagittarius has a reputation for these kinds of projections. Often, this reflects her own discontent, as envy can distract her from her own deep-seated feelings of deficiency. In reality, as critical as she is of other women, whom she often sees as rivals, she tends to be even more unhappy in her personal circumstances, even if she is loath to recognize it.
The nature of Sagittarius is to desire something superior. A partner who is too complacent might be taken aback when his wife suddenly departs with someone who is more wealthy, more successful, more handsome, and more talented. More, more, more.Â
The secret is that they need constant attention to activate their mutable-fire magic in a man's life, encouraging the belief that nothing is beyond reach.
The only way to take a fabled genie from her current master is to value her more than he does. This is typically how it goes when Sag decides to leave a relationship; she rarely does it to be alone. Instead, she moves from one man to another, seeking the most mutual appreciation and benefit.
Driven by a desire to experience life fully, the Sagittarius woman, even at a young age, may find herself forming a romantic bond with an older man. Not one to shy away from attention, she is destined to take on the role of the madame, which strongly reflects her sign's link to the older 56-63 age demographic.
The majority of men who can meet her criteria for being "accomplished" are usually older, distinguished men. Even in a relationship with someone her own age, they tend to act older - while their peers are out seeing bands and eating at street vendors, Sag and her partner are studying opera and building a wine cellar.
Displays of grandeur act as an aphrodisiac for the Sagittarius woman, yet frequently, materialism takes center stage, causing sex and love to fade into the background.Â
In fact, an excessive emphasis on possessions can render the Sag woman one of the more spiritually hindered individuals in the zodiac. Nevertheless, when it pertains to nurturing her soul, she ultimately strives to make up for that deficiency as well.
With an older man or a foreign guy, or both - like Leo, she craves those who are different. But while Leo looks for passionate Latin or Mediterranean types, Sag is drawn to Northerners, whose inherent stoicism captivates her. The lady Centaur hopes to feel more desired because of her youth and, relatively, her exotic appeal.
Another way the Archeressâs notorious far-reaching sensibility appears is in her frequent moves to far-off places, often through extravagant partnerships, like a bejeweled queen being sent away to marry her king.
Usually, she relies on her parents' unhappy marriage as a clear example of what to avoid. However, without a solid foundation in this aspect, her relationships often feel unrealistic - her romantic life must be dazzling and extravagant, the home she shares with her partner occasionally absurdly luxurious, and both her body and her partner's are perfectly toned and sun-kissed.
No matter how she truly appears, Sag often envisions herself as a tall, slender, leggy "babe" - this mindset clearly illustrates the sign's emphasis on the power of thought over physical reality.
Should Sag be even a little attractive, her home could be filled with mirrors and photos of herself, frequently in elaborate poses. These photos convey that her lover adores her so much that he needs reminders of his beautiful girl everywhere.Â
Subtlety is not a strong suit for this daughter of Jupiter, as her often flamboyant energy results in passionate, frequently public displays of affection.
Many Sagittarian women form romantic relationships at work. While some may consider it inappropriate, the adventurous Sag woman feels no obligation to adhere to rigid social norms if the right suit-and-tie happens to pass by.
Rarely does she interact with a subordinate, but fueling the gossip with tales of her flirtation with a charming executive brings her a hidden excitement.
When she is in a relationship, she can't resist showing her emotions, cuddling, and draping herself over her partner in public, leading to unspoken thoughts like "Get a room." A Sagittarius woman craves clear displays of affection from her partner, which she can envelop herself in like a pashmina shawl, as evidence that he is equally captivated.
Appropriately, she enjoys sleeping with her partner all wrapped up together; taking showers with him is yet another way to act for that constant camera she thinks is watching her all the time. Carrying this inclination to show off into the bedroom, one has never heard such moaning, squealing, or even outright whinnying at the peak of her voice.
Through the perspective of a third party, she envisions an idealized version of lovemaking. However, she needs to remember that when sex is elevated to such theatrical heights, it could leave her partner feeling unqualified to provide the desired pleasure.
Undoubtedly, it requires a man with a strong ego, along with remarkable endurance, to meet Sag's intense sexual desire and to avoid feeling deflated even with her enthusiastic encouragements.
Size matters to the Sag woman. Particularly when it comes to girth, her lover had better be as thick as his bankroll if he plans to stick around.Â
Focused on results, Sag insists on reaching orgasm in every sexual encounter, and if her partner is adequately endowed, she is more than willing to take control from that point on.
She prioritizes her own pleasure in bed, firmly believing that everyone should be accountable for their own pleasure.Â
Nothing excites her more than herself: As if the countless pictures of her weren't sufficient, there are usually many mirrors nearby where she can admire her reflection before, during, and after sex.
The Sag woman loves to see herself in the throes of passion, especially when her man is groveling at her feet.Â
It's not that she prefers a passive man specifically, but she wants to feel uplifted by the sexual experience, never pressured or made to feel submissive herself.
Her favorite position is on top (preferably watching herself), riding her man to orgasm.
She finds pleasure in oral stimulation, though it's not something she is fixated on, and she doesn't really enjoy reciprocating.
In the same way she operates in business, she excels at delegating in the bedroom, always providing her partner with subtle cues or even direct instructions on how to enhance her pleasure more intensely.
For the most part, action is focused below the belt, since her boobs usually provide minimal erogenous stimulation.
Control is significant for her during intimacy, and with her usually athletic physique, especially her powerful thighs and legs, she can maintain intense positions longer than many women.
Whatever she may lack in limberness, she more than makes up for in sheer stamina.Â
Enthusiasm, however, appears to have its limits for her. Men might observe how her behavior in bed differs from what they would have anticipated based on the extensive buildup of courtship, or, for that matter, foreplay, in which she writhes, pants, and groans.
She will try out new experiences, including places that many women wouldnât think to explore, but in terms of specifics, Sag is really a "good girl" who just imagines herself as someone with unusual tastes. The furthest she goes is in the pursuit of her exhibitionist urges.
Nearly every Sagittarius woman finds pleasure in masturbating for her boyfriend much more than she does when alone. Just as the Sagittarius man takes his own self-pleasure to new levels, his female counterpart also turns her solo enjoyment into an art form, delighting in her talent to dazzle her partner with vividly intricate exhibitions of self-love, as being 'naughty' transforms into a sort of fetish for someone who is as inherently kind and wholesome as she is.
Regardless of her flaws, Sag firmly upholds the idea of truthful representation. She has granted herself a sense of greatness, exuding such magnificence in her relationship with a noble companion, and she is determined to ensure that their intimate life is nothing short of outstanding.
As "showtime" approaches, the excessively eager Archeress is compelled to fulfill the image she created for herself in preproduction. This brings about additional sources of suppressed anxiety and her overachiever's lingering doubts about her self-worth.
At her core, Sagittarius has a naturally laid-back view of sex, yet she feels the need to bring some flair to every intimate encounter. Unfortunately, it often appears far more appealing in her imagination than it does in reality, especially when faced with the aftermath of a steamy situation, not to mention the hassle of changing the sheets, which is a good reason to consider hiring a maid. Generally speaking, Sag is truly enamored with the art of seduction and romance, rather than the physical act of sex.
She and her partner are always secretly touching and kissing, even in the best restaurants and at the most esteemed events.
For Sag, life should be a continuous build-up, a long period of extravagant foreplay. Naturally, she also appreciates a good amount of shock factor. The reality is: The more she embodies a seductive vixen image, even around unfamiliar faces, the more she begins to view herself in that light, a reference to the endless self-pleasuring mental journey she is always experiencing.
She needs to view herself as incredibly attractive, and woe to any partner who suggests otherwise. Just a fleeting glance from a boyfriend or husband can trigger her into a fit of jealousy; even the mere thought that another woman has piqued her partnerâs interest can lead Sagittarius to unleash days of anger and accusations.
Envy is the Sagittariusâ fatal flaw.Â
Although it may appear hypocritical, if she finds herself in a lackluster relationship, she will often flirt freely and openly with other men, particularly the husbands or boyfriends of the many "couple friends" in her social circle. To her, people are meant to be in pairs. And when she is a married woman, she has minimal contact with single women.
Hera, among her many attributes, is known as the goddess of marriage, and Sagittarius shares a fascination with marriage similar to the famous Sagittarius woman, Jane Austen. Scenes featuring couples, while not typically involving swapping, often represent the fantasies she indulges in. Nevertheless, these daydreams usually start and conclude, as they ought to, with the 'other man' feeling a strong desire to possess her - she must always be the most desired woman in the narrative.
Sagittarius Woman Interested in Women:
Sagittarius is not widely known for having a significant number of strictly lesbian natives. Still, regardless of her sexual orientation, the Archeress is instinctively and intensely attracted to other strong women.
Similar to her fellow fire sign Leo, she usually keeps a group of women around her at work, whom she refers to as "delegates" that carry out her wishes. However, as a leader, she tends to be a calm and kind boss who avoids playing mind games or mistreating her "bitches" as a Leo might.
Similarly, in same-sex relationships, she doesn't aim to dominate a woman like her sharp-tongued fire-sign cousin.
In her relationships with men, she is attracted to successful, self-fulfilled leaders who represent a higher social, educational, financial, or intellectual status than she possesses. Whereas, in same-sex relationships, she finds herself in love with women who embody everything she aspires to be, a mix of desire and jealousy woven into an intense infatuation that carries more than just subtle narcissistic hints.
In a commanding Sag spirit, she absorbs the qualities and flavors she admires in other women, seamlessly integrating them into her own growing personality, though in a naive manner, similar to a young schoolgirl developing crushes and emulating the popular girls.
Regardless of her sexual orientation, she is an amazing girlfriend, always caring and overly generous, openly affectionate, and comfortable holding her partner's hand or arm while casually walking down the street.
A conservative heterosexual Sagittarius sees lesbianism as perfectly natural and normal. In line with her character, a straight Sagittarius may enjoy various friendships that navigate the delicate boundary between closeness and deep intimacy.
The sexual connection she has with a friend might indicate her suppressed desire for intimacy and gender identity, which could largely be traced back to her self-centered mother.
In any situation, Sag exudes a strong sexual energy when she is with other women, portraying an exaggeratedly feminine character in her indulgences, which, of course, are quite lavish.Â
She commonly attends spas and resorts, gets massages, or goes on grooming and shopping excursions, gaining a feeling of empowerment as one of two girlfriends out enjoying themselves.
She looks for validation irrespective of her sexual orientation. Although she is usually confident in the affection she receives from men, she fears creating feelings of resentment and jealousy in other women. Thereâs always a hint of vanity in almost all her emotions, and she is eager to show that she can form bonds with other women.
If a sudden kiss after an intimate conversation or an excess of wine has happened between the Sag and a close girlfriend once, well, itâs happened a thousand times.Â
When the Archeress openly identifies as gay, her admiration for remarkable women becomes even clearer. Within same-sex relationships, she aspires to find a mentor who is serious-minded and can guide her into a realm filled with knowledge and extensive cultural insights.Â
Just as, from a young age, she connects with teachers, bosses, and other mentors who inspire her on that unique Sagittarian superconscious level.
With such figures, she may form intense sexual and psychological bonds, oftentimes lasting no longer than a few months.Â
The issue is this: The strong and independent individuals she is drawn to usually like to stay that way. At the same time, Sag is a devoted lover, consistently offering as much pleasure to her partner as she can with the same enthusiasm and respect.
In obedience to her loverâs whims, she may be more experimental in the sack than her straight counterpart.Â
Keep in mind that there is often a touch of narcissism involved: Being attracted to Pulitzer Prize winners, CEOs, and highly paid professional model-athletes, Sag views herself as a (typically younger) reflection of a partner she wishes to influence, or at least find the right guidance for, her ambitious aspirations, which will, remarkably, align closely with those of her partner.
The broad-minded Archeress usually seeks to enter the sophisticated world of her lover, perhaps even more than she desires intimacy. For Sag, the most thrilling aspect is having both - a partner she genuinely craves and one who embodies that crucial element of access.
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Pile One:
The card to represent 2026:
Ace of Pentacles:
This year, new opportunities are on the horizon for you. You might encounter fresh job prospects, embark on a new venture, or perhaps focus more on your health. I sensed strong Gemini or Libra energy with this pile, suggesting you might be one of those signs or have significant placements in them. However, if you felt a connection to this pile without being one of those signs, that's perfectly fine. The spirit guides associated with this pile were quite talkative initially. Before I asked them to provide one card for each question, numerous cards were coming out. But once I asked for just one card per question, itâs almost as if they clammed up. So you may be the type of person who has a lot to say but struggles to be concise when they need to. Â
Rainbows were popping in my head throughout this reading, so you may love rainbows, or you could be a part of the LGBTQIA+, or be an ally. The colors purple and orange may hold some significance.Â
The main challenge of 2026:
King of Pentacles:
This year, your key focus will be on materialism. However, you might find yourself overly fixated on materialism, which could lead you to miss out on what is truly important in your life. You may notice a sense of stubbornness within yourself this year, as you hold onto outdated perspectives that won't aid you. Remember this as we embark on this year: strive to keep a healthy balance between the material and spiritual realms.
The lesson of 2026:
The Hierophant:
The key takeaway for you this year will be recognizing when to stick to traditional methods and when to embrace innovation. As mentioned earlier, you may face challenges with stubbornness throughout the year. There will be a tendency to cling to old beliefs and habits that are no longer beneficial. The Hierophant serves as a reminder this year that while some adherence to convention is valuable, excessive rigidity can be detrimental. This year, you will discover how to strike a balance.
January:
Page of Cups:
At the onset of the year, your outlook will be filled with optimism for the months to come. You will be open to trying new experiences and releasing what no longer serves your purpose. This month, you will embrace a childlike sense of wonder about the year ahead.
February:
The Magician:
In February, you will gain enhanced willpower to fulfill your goals. You will be laser-focused on performing the vital work needed to transform your dreams into reality. Your dedication to manifesting for the year ahead will be remarkably intense.
March:
Six of Wands:
You are set to experience significant success in March. The efforts you invested in February will come to fruition and be acknowledged this month. You will feel a strong sense of pride in your accomplishments and will be eager to showcase them. Expect to find yourself in the limelight, surrounded by many who will be singing your praises.
April:
Nine of Cups:
April is a time when your dreams can become a reality, and you can reach your aspirations. You are likely to feel a great sense of joy in April. You'll find satisfaction in seeing the results of your efforts begin to manifest. However, it took some time for a card to reveal itself while shuffling for this month, indicating that there might be a growing disconnect between you and your spirit guides during this period.
May:
Five of Cups:
Following the peak you experienced in April, May is likely to bring a considerable downturn. This month, you may face some form of loss that could leave you feeling quite disappointed. Given that your primary focus this year revolves around material aspects, I suspect this could manifest as a job loss or a substantial financial setback.
June:
Six of Pentacles:
This further explains that the loss in May will be related to material possessions. June will offer you some form of material help. You can expect someone to come into your life to support you in regaining what you have lost.
July:
Three of Pentacles:
In July, you will no longer pursue your goals by yourself. You will establish a partnership with someone who has similar aspirations. Together, the two of you will collaborate to reach your common objectives.
August:
The Star:
August is set to return the optimism that faded in May. You will heal from the pains you endured in May, and you will uncover your inner light once more, feeling thoroughly rejuvenated.
September:
King of Wands Reversed:
In September, you might find yourself feeling rather arrogant, riding the wave of confidence from last month. Yet, this arrogance could turn into a vicious streak as you pursue your desires. You may find yourself in a position of authority, using that power to undermine those beneath you. This behavior likely stems from unresolved pain you endured in May, leading you to believe you have the right to inflict hurt on others as you were hurt. It's important to recognize that this approach is misguided, so keep this in mind as you step into the new month.
October:
Three of Wands:
October is set to create some positive energy as the year draws to a close for you. You will find yourself looking forward and strategizing to wrap up the year on a high note. Additionally, thereâs a chance you might travel in some capacity this month.
November:
Four of Swords:
You will be taking some much-needed rest in November. You will be retreating into yourself this month in order to find some inner peace as the year comes to a close.
December:
Five of Wands:
Expect some rivalry and ego clashes in the last month of the year. This could be influenced by the time you spend with family during the holidays. You may also notice some communication difficulties that have been lingering for some time. Additionally, this may reflect a personal struggle you are dealing with internally.
Extended Reading (what should you focus on each month to ensure you stay on track throughout the year)
Pile Two:
The card to represent 2026:
Nine of Wands:
In 2026, you will encounter numerous challenges. Nevertheless, you will hold your ground against each one, confronting them directly. By the end of 2026, you will have grown more courageous and resolute than ever before. The guides connected to this pile were incredibly quick. They do not hesitate; they have an answer for every situation. This pile exuded strong Capricorn or Virgo energy. The words "Chip Chop" kept popping into my mind during this reading, which might be meaningful for some of you, along with the number 3. Some of you may struggle with being patient or may have anger management issues.
The main challenge of 2026:
The Emperor Reversed:
In 2026, you might find it challenging to maintain structure and organization. It may feel like you are adrift in life this year, moving without direction. This could stem from existing control issues, and this year will push you to confront them in unprecedented ways. You will need to relinquish some of your control and allow events to unfold naturally. Some of you may have Saturn in the 6th house natally, and this year may even be your Saturn return.
The lesson of 2026:
The Fool:
This year's lesson will focus on encouraging you to step outside of your comfort zone. The Fool is often depicted as someone who leaps into situations without a second thought, which is not your style at all. You are the type of person who requires a strategy for everything before taking action, and this year will challenge you to abandon that approach. You will find yourself thrown into the deep end this year without any safety net. The Universe and your guides are assessing your capacity to learn in high-pressure situations this year. I believe they have been attempting to impart this lesson to you for quite a while, but you haven't been receptive, so they are now compelling you to confront it.
January:
Queen of Swords:
January encourages you to focus on the truth. This month, you will face many tough realities, not only about yourself but also about your life. You are encouraged to assess yourself and your life with a critical and unbiased perspective, putting your emotions aside when examining these issues critically.
February:
Two of Pentacles:
February asks you to balance some things in your life. Last month, you discovered some important truths about yourself, and now your attention will shift towards achieving the balance necessary for your personal growth. This month may be quite slow for you, but it is essential for you to make progress.Â
March:
Seven of Pentacles:
March ushers in essential growth and harvest for you. You will begin to witness the fruits of your labor. Nevertheless, this is merely a seven, not a nine or ten, so the outcomes may not be substantial, but they represent a positive initial step for you.
April:
The Hanged Man:
To make strides in April, you will need to make a sacrifice. You may have enjoyed a taste of success last month, but as I pointed out, it was just a sample. Now, in April, you will encounter the truth that you must let go of something to move ahead. This month urges you to look within to identify what that sacrifice is.
May:
The Chariot:
In May, you will find yourself conquering the obstacles that troubled you last month and making significant progress. This month, your focus on your ultimate goal will be sharper than ever. Nothing will divert you from your journey ahead.
June:
King of Swords Reversed:
In June, you will enter a phase marked by selfishness. You may misuse your mental prowess and authority, perhaps even intentionally using elaborate words around particular people to confuse them and boost your own feelings of intelligence. You might also be struggling with bouts of anger and issues with patience. These are elements that have been hidden deep within your unconscious for a long time and must be addressed.
July:
Page of Pentacles:
In July, you will shine as a star student, absorbing all the lessons that this year aims to impart. You will be intensely focused on your objectives, ensuring that you maintain the ideal mindset to accomplish your tasks. Nevertheless, this month might unfold at a pace that feels slower than you would prefer.
August:
The Devil:
In August, you may find yourself feeling somewhat confined in your life, acutely aware of the minimal progress you've made towards your aspirations. You might feel a sense of helplessness when confronted with the obstacles you've encountered, and these emotions could push you towards indulgence and addiction. It's crucial to keep a close eye on your behaviors this month and ensure that you don't fall into patterns of excess.
September:
The Hierophant:
It appears that September will prompt you to connect with various institutions for support and assistance. This could involve rehab, a church, spiritual guidance, educational institutions, or other organizations that offer traditional help. During this month, you are encouraged to seek out professionals who can provide guidance in your life. This month may also move quite slowly for you.Â
October:
Knight of Cups:
During October, you will likely feel a stronger pull towards your emotions instead of your logical reasoning. This may create some discomfort, as you are accustomed to relying on your intellect to handle life's situations. Yet, this month encourages you to harness your emotional intelligence to make further progress.
November:
Four of Cups Reversed:
In the final months of the year, you will take charge of your own happiness. You will yearn for a fresh approach to life and wholeheartedly accept the lessons youâve gained throughout this year. You will desire to enter the new year with a renewed outlook on existence.
December:
Seven of Swords:
In December, you might find yourself yearning for some solitude, feeling the urge to break away and pursue your own interests. The desire to leave behind aspects of your life that no longer benefit you will be strong. Yet, you may find it difficult to acknowledge this truth, leading you to contemplate slipping away quietly, believing that this will resolve your concerns. Remember, this month, that avoiding the problem is not a constructive approach to dealing with such matters.
Extended Reading (what should you focus on each month to ensure you stay on track throughout the year)
Pile Three:
The card to represent 2026:
The Hierophant:
This year, your emphasis will be on adhering to a traditional and more conventional path. You will find yourself more willing to heed the advice of authority figures and to turn to established institutions for direction. Some of you might consider returning to school or enrolling in a course of some kind. Additionally, some may find themselves becoming more religious this year, attending church more frequently, or seeking some form of spiritual guidance. Furthermore, many of you may participate in various ceremonies, rituals, or religious practices throughout the year. You will likely be more inclined to abide by a set of rules instead of pursuing your own methods, which may have been your approach in 2025.
This pile had some very interesting energy. I was getting some pretty grounded energy, but at the same time, very chaotic. Some of you may be Taurus with Aries energy, specifically a Taurus Sun with an Aries Mercury. Many of you may feel a sort of calm in chaos. Also, some of you may overheat very easily. And the colors green or blue, specifically turquoise, may have some significance.Â
The main challenge of 2026:
Eight of Swords Reversed:
This year, you will be breaking free from whatever has been holding you back in 2025. However, you will come to realize that the true barrier last year was yourself. Whether it was due to certain behaviors or a restrictive mindset, you will uncover throughout this year that the lack of progress you experienced last year was your own doing, which may lead to some internal conflict. It's crucial to keep in mind that this year will release you from those self-inflicted limitations, which is a positive development. Focusing on the past will only keep you from moving forward.
The lesson of 2026:
Six of Pentacles Reversed:
This year's lesson is designed to make you confront your own selfishness and the inequalities present in your relationships. You will be challenged to be more generous this year and understand that you might find it difficult to give without receiving something in return; this is the lesson you must learn this year. For some, it may reveal that you are a very giving person, and those around you are exploiting that generosity for their own purposes. This is a crucial lesson you will need to learn this year. You will have to either address this issue and start saying no or come to the realization that these people do not truly care about you and should be removed from your life.
January:
Eight of Pentacles:
In January, your concentration on work will be at its peak. You might have noticed the substantial tasks ahead of you to achieve your goals, and this month, you will commit yourself to completing that hard work. Some of you may channel your focus into crafting something this month, whether it's constructing, sewing, painting, or any other hands-on activity.
February:
The Empress:
In February, you will connect deeply with your femininity. This month, you will feel a surge of creativity and beauty. It's important to mention that this card relates to fertility, so some of you might find yourselves experiencing heightened fertility this month. However, this fertility could also pertain to a mindset or a material harvest rather than pregnancy. Expect to experience immense joy throughout this month.
March:
Ten of Pentacles:
March promises to bring stability, prosperity, and familial harmony. This month, you might find yourself dedicating more time to your loved ones. You'll relish the affection and togetherness that fill your family during this period. Additionally, you'll concentrate on strengthening this foundation for your family's future.
April:
Ace of Pentacles:
An exciting opportunity is on its way to you in April. This could manifest as a new job, a new endeavor, or perhaps just an increased focus on your health this month. Whatever it turns out to be, expect to experience great abundance this month.
May:
Four of Wands Reversed:
Following that wave of affection and togetherness in your family during March, it seems that May is set to bring some challenges to your family life. This month, you may feel a lack of support from your family.
June:
Broom (Death):
In June, you will find yourself in a cycle of release. You will be parting ways with something that doesn't truly benefit you anymore. This could stem from the family issues you encountered last month. You may have recognized that certain family members no longer support you, and instead of loving you freely, they attach conditions to their affection. This realization will prompt you to create distance between yourself and them. It's crucial to keep in mind that while it may hurt at first, letting go of what no longer serves you is a vital step towards flourishing as you are meant to.
July:
Eight of Wands:
In July, expect some swift changes in your life. You'll feel a surge of excitement, which may lead to impulsive decisions. This thrill comes from witnessing positive advancements in your journey.
August:
King of Wands:
In August, your creativity will be at an all-time high. You will channel the dynamic energy of the King of Wands, especially his leadership traits, to advance towards your objectives. This month, you will feel empowered and in control of your ambitions, which will help you move forward effectively.
September:
Page of Wands:
September will awaken a courageous side of you that you havenât experienced in quite some time. You will be more willing to face your self-imposed limitations this month.Â
October:
Six of Wands Reversed:
It appears that the bravery you experienced last month didn't assist you in confronting your inner struggles as you had anticipated. Consequently, in October, you may feel like you've failed. You might start to question your capacity to achieve the success you desire so much. Seeking support from an external viewpoint, whether it's a therapist, a friend, or another individual, will be essential to help you navigate through this.
November:
Six of Swords:
In November, you'll find yourself shedding the negativity that lingered from the previous month. You'll become more open to embracing the lessons this year has aimed to impart. This shift will enable you to recognize the progress you've been yearning for.
December:
The Patient Witch (The Hanged Man):
In December, you will find yourself pondering a sacrifice that must be made to reach your objectives. You might feel reluctant to go through with this sacrifice, fearing it may not be essential and that you could end up regretting it. This uncertainty is precisely what you require this month, as it is not yet the right moment for significant decisions. Keep this in mind throughout December, as it will be vital for your success.
Extended Reading (what should you focus on each month to ensure you stay on track throughout the year)
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
Masterlist
Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
Ruled by Jupiter, the planet named for the Roman king of the gods (Greek: Zeus), Sagittarius represents the Principle of Expansion within the zodiac.
As the third sign in the astrological Third Quadrant of the Mind, and a mutable one, Sagittarius merges the energies of the two contrasting signs that come before it on the astrological wheel into a single, cohesive understanding of existence: Libra, with its Apollonian view of the world as a "conscious" civilized place filled with light (reason, order, beauty, social harmony), is followed by the nihilistic Scorpio, which presents a Chthonian (subterranean) perspective of existence as a dark, mysterious realm, focusing on the unseen forces of nature and the unconscious. Mutable Sagittarius emphasizes that these viewpoints can coexist, suggesting that the world is neither entirely good and bright nor completely shadowy and pessimistic, but is instead defined by a reality that goes beyond such dualities.
He personifies the expansive Dionysian Principle, which is a chimeric amalgam of Apollonian and Chthonian forces.Â
Imagine a tree that represents, much like classical architectural columns, the order and harmony of Apollonian ideals; now think of the roots of that tree as symbols of the hidden, chaotic underworld where Nature is still at work. The Dionysian aspect is a blend of these forces, a vine - since Dionysus is the god of the vine - that reflects the tangled roots, now it's above ground in the visible world, intertwining its tendrils with those trees and columns for support. This serves as a fitting metaphor for how the Sagittarius man approaches life: he brings to light what has been hidden, suppressed, wild, or considered taboo in society, creating a new model of civilization that mirrors the untamed essence of the natural world.
Nietzsche, the philosopher, linked Romanticism to the Dionysian experience, viewing it as a movement that stirred the subconscious wildness while also celebrating those elements found in nature. However, since it aimed to root itself in the structured world through art, philosophy, music, and architecture, Romanticism intertwined with areas that were distinctly Apollonian.
This is the everlasting purpose of Sagittarius energy: to take shape as a new grapevine of dialogue, wrapping its untamed, lively, and organic expression around the foundational elements of society.
To sum it up, a Sagittarius man is a true maverick, the ultimate freethinker, who stirs things up and transforms the foundations of society from within, rather than being an outsider trying to bring them down from the ground up.
Just like the untamed Dionysus is destined to take over Zeus' throne, the Sagittarian man isn't rebellious against mainstream society; instead, he sees himself as its rightful heir. Once he secures it, he aims to broaden the collective consciousness, which aligns with the Sagittarian domain of the 9th Astrological House, by reintroducing nature into the equation.
He embodies the previously unstructured Chthonian feminine, brought to life through the authoritative Apollonian male - the creature that is part wild beast and part human archer, represented by the Centaur.
Like a leafy vine, he runs wild along the walls of civilized restraint, simultaneously indicating its downfall and admiration, while blending the human-made with the natural world - art, science, ideology, and everything considered societal advancement back to Nature itself.
The Sagittarius guy is the zodiac's free spirit. A wild adventurer, no one enjoys life more than he does.
The journey of a Sagittarian guy revolves around a natural craving for growth and positivity. He genuinely believes that overindulgence can lead to moments of ecstasy, which in turn gives him the insight to know when to stop and realize that there is a limit.
Always challenging the status quo, he lives life on the edge, achieving his goals by embracing significant risks.
Sagittarius is not a sign of disorder, but rather of new order.Â
When abstract expressionism, jazz, and poets first emerged, they appeared chaotic, frantic, and a bit mad. However, once they took root, these movements showed themselves to be legitimate ways to convey the deeper truths of life. The Sagittarius man embodies this seemingly untamed, haphazard energy that only the gift of time reveals isnât as directionless as it may seem at first glance.
Being the sole mutable-fire sign in the zodiac, Sagittarius charges through life, unrestrained by any rules or boundaries. It's in his nature to "break on through to the other side" of imposed limitations, including the constraints of a mind that's been overly conditioned.
In astrology, fire represents the essence of life, while mutability indicates flexibility and the ability to adjust. Sagittarius embodies the Dionysian vine, modifying its vitality to whatever it entwines and envelops. Similarly, Sagittarius showcases the traits of lightning, a dynamic, fiery element that swiftly coils around trees and pillars like a vine.
The Sagittarius man radiates such intense joy that it feels like a fantastical journey, viewing the world as a mighty force where nothing stands in the way of achieving his most ambitious dreams.Â
This makes sense since the 9th Astrological House, governed by Sagittarius, is filled with qualities like aspirations, the higher or super-conscious mind, and a sense of inspiration, dreams, visions, and the desire to experience life beyond the usual limits.
He is involved in life on a large scale, both in his thoughts and actions, whether itâs through business, travel, sports, or exploring higher philosophical ideas or distinctive religious, indeed shamanistic, interests.
The Sagittarius guy has this amazing ability to completely reinvent himself in an instant, making huge shifts in his way of living, setting off on extraordinary adventures, whether they're real or just in his head, leaving his so-called close friends in a state of shock. You can never tell when or from where the Sag man will pop back up, or in what form. He's just that open and expressive.
The 9th House encompasses the collective consciousness, in addition to all varieties of major businesses and international trade - and it's on this broad level that the Sagittarians exist. Itâs no wonder that his sign is tied to the ages of 56-63, those classic years when a man is at the pinnacle of his authority and impact, with nothing to prove or lose - Sag represents this confidence throughout his entire life.
He can only connect with the world in a way similar to an all-powerful spirit - on a vast level - grappling with his close relationships like a farsighted tailor, unable to concentrate on the material (of life) right in front of him.
The Sagittariusâ Archer sign represents his tendency to put himself "out there" across time and space. He lives life with a figurative bow and arrow, which means he must cling tightly to his ambitious dreams and visions while also being prepared to release his close, familiar relationships, which often need to be sacrificed to achieve those goals.
Connections are established on the widest spectrum, whether itâs his ability to blend into influential global networks or his skill in accessing the shared consciousness through his creative endeavors. In any case, he possesses a sense of all-knowingness. Fittingly, the two mottos of his sign are "I understand" and the collective "We think."
Among all the guys, the Sagittarius is the one that other men seem to accept the easiest. He's seen as a true man's man - always the first one chosen for a game of basketball.
He effortlessly integrates into the intimate sweat lodge gatherings of male-only societies, and it is through these male bonds that he experiences comfort, validation, and, most crucially, a feeling of being celebrated.
A typical Sagittarian vibe has him celebrated by a distinguished circle of men, regardless of his skills.Â
Generally, the top players in his preferred field or creative realm are the ones who appreciate his remarkable brilliance.
His father is a caring, affectionate, nurturing presence, almost like a mother. In contrast, his mother takes on a more expectant, commanding role, acting as a strict disciplinarian like a father.
He is his fatherâs son, a tiny version of his dad, whom he loves dearly.Â
He tends to be more cautious around his mom, as he feels a strong urge to make her happy.
His father is a real softy - always up for fun and games. Yet, he's also a busy guy, frequently away due to a hectic travel schedule and the demanding nature of a creative, glamorous, or sometimes even frivolous profession.
When his dad is around, Sag goes wherever his dad goes and does whatever his dad does. As he matures, he finds joy in being an honorary member of the male camaraderie that his father cultivates.
He enthusiastically plays the sports his dad is into, picks up the hobbies his father enjoys, and often dreams of following his dad's path by taking on the same or a comparable career, or one that his father had wanted to pursue but couldn't. Most importantly, Sag's dad teaches his son the value of pursuing one's dreams.
On the other hand, his mom has a pretty rigid idea of what her son should be doing, which usually involves serious studies or business activities. She often hints at or outright states her views, using her husband's failures as a manual for how not to live. Consequently, in his desire to bond with his father and satisfy his mother, the Sag man aims to accomplish everything and give it his all.
Unlike the Libra guy who dabbles in everything, heâs focused on standing out in every endeavor he takes on - heâs going to be the president of the student body, the captain of his sports team, lead in theater productions, and if heâs smart enough, heâll also be the valedictorian of his class.
Mentally, the Sagittarius learns to merge what he views as the requirements of both his parents into a unified approach to life, a skill he will eventually perfect without having to juggle so many aspects. As he develops, one method he might use to please both parents is to exceed his father's accomplishments (in that same field or a similarly âfunâ career) to such a degree that his mother has no grounds for complaint.
He engages in what feels right to him, fulfilling his (Chthonian) cravings, while also leaving a significant impact on the world to meet any cultured (Apollonian) goals.
On a practical level, Sag is thought to possess everything, including strength and intelligence - yet, it's his talent for devising alternative solutions that earns him admiration from others.
In his career, he especially earns the title of an "answer man" or a kind of wizard, someone who creates solutions that don't require either party to give anything up. His unique skill lies in crafting broader perspectives while keeping a keen eye on fully integrating differing needs.
Thus, the zodiac's shape-shifter transforms into whatever is needed for each person, deepening - in himself and in others - a sense of being all-seeing. By transcending the stark black-and-white perspectives and moving beyond any gray areas of agreement, Sag experiences life in full color.
Being from the 9th House of dreams and visions is quite a remarkable trait - Sagâs entire existence resembles a vivid daydream, with reality revealing itself to him as though heâs conjuring it into existence.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied to Rising signs as well:
Anyone who knows him well will tell you that the word "canât" is just not part of his language. Forever getting lost in the fantasies of life, he might be the most daring individual on the zodiac wheel.
His way of living might seem wild to some, but what others call "out of control" is actually just his normal state, where he feels completely at ease. It's a pretty stable situation that can throw him off balance.
He is a risk-taker, which can lead to either amazing personal rewards or serious danger.Â
Among all the traits of the 9th House, the one that stands out the most in the male Sagittarius is his ability to grow through experiences. He is destined to dive headfirst into the world, gaining insights that bring both excitement and joy.
In general, his escapades are authentic, and he explores the extent of his human capabilities through activities like skydiving, mountain climbing, or a range of extreme sports. Meanwhile, other Sagittarius men embark on journeys of consciousness, leading this bright kid, with his third-eye troubleshooting talents, to become a full-fledged shaman who seeks to preserve his enlightening experiences throughout a lifelong vision quest.
In one way or another, the Sagittarius male seeks release. Fortunately, most of them look for it in the adrenaline rush of extreme challenges or exciting adventures instead of in substances.Â
Experiencing a natural high, like the one brought on by endorphins, definitely adds to the Sag male's sense of openness and his unique feeling of being invincible.
People frequently comment on how elusive Sagittarius men can be, while we are left wondering, Sag is out there, lost in his daring fantasies. Similarly, when he does make a social appearance, he has a wild, distant gaze. This often leads to him being seen as either shy or arrogant, but he is not really either; he is just an odd blend of both.
He wishes to stay free, even when surrounded by a crowd. He usually avoids making eye contact, mumbles a few words of excuse, or shows complete disinterest if a chatty stranger comes near. In short, he feels uneasy; he seldom socializes and prefers to find a spacious corner to relax in, often turning his back to the action to stay as distant from the chaos as he can while still observing everything happening around him.
Undoubtedly, he gives off an air of superiority, whether he means to or not; he is frequently quite literally head and shoulders above everyone else. Even if he isnât particularly tall, he displays a certain largeness in various aspects, like a large head, thick arms and legs, a strong barrel chest, or other exaggerated features of his body.
Regardless of his size, the body language of Sagittarius is best described as spread out: He is constantly standing with his limbs extended or moving back and forth like a tennis player waiting for a serve, lifting his arms, arching his back, sitting with his legs spread, and lounging as if, like Dionysus, he is eternally resting on a spacious dais.
This extensive self-expression, a tribute to the expansive energy of his planet Jupiter, comes with a hint of arrogance, suggesting that everyone present is there just to amuse him.
Like other fire signs, Sagittarius is truly a man's man, often drawing a group of male friends around him. They engage in what seems like locker-room talk, frequently sharing jokes that lead to loud, hearty laughter that surrounds him, all while he maintains his trademark self-satisfied grin.
He constantly evaluates every woman he sees, usually judging her by her appearance and attractiveness, and he openly disregards those who do not meet his rigid, though hidden, sexist standards.
Women, even those who are very confident, may turn into shy schoolgirls when he is near.
Sagittarius appears to have a sense of entitlement, a trait that even his well-known self-deprecating humor cannot hide.
All Sagittarius men share a common arrogance, convinced they deserve the most glamorous, loving, and attractive woman in the world.
Being from the 9th House of dreams, Sagittarius doesnât just aim for greatness; he expects it. In fact, he assumes that magnificence is a given in every part of his life. And while he often looks ruggedly handsome, even the less conventionally attractive Sagittarians can be known for dating models, leading to the question, Is she really going out with him?
In the meantime, staying true to his eccentric planetary ruler, when Sag is charming, he can be exceptionally so; and he knows it, using this exhilarating self-awareness to his advantage.
More than any other guy, Sagittarius embodies a womanâs wild, assertive sexual dream come true. He has a strong masculine presence, a commanding energy, and an instinctive freedom that make him the ultimate stud.
He tends to be a large dude - a bit gangly if you will, with a solid build and long limbs.
His shoulders are frequently impressively broad, if not entirely square; his arms are defined with thick muscles, and his rugged hands are usually rough and calloused, regardless of his line of work, which only adds to his which only contributes to his hearty, attractive presence.
On top of his usually large head sits a thick, dense mane of hair, which can be coarse or wild, resembling a dog's fur. It is frequently styled with a flip or feathering effect that starts from a natural middle part.
The area between his eyebrows is a broad, flat region - his "third eye" spot stands out even more due to the contrast with his small, sad-looking, puppy-dog eyes, which are slanted like chunky almonds.
His forehead might look bony or stick out, with his face tapering at the temples, then dipping down sharply at the cheekbones, before rounding out again at his jaw and full chin.
His nose tends to be flat but flares out around the nostrils. His lips are full and sensuous, naturally curling upward at the corners to form a Jokerâs smile, which is usually more gummy than toothy, featuring small, square teeth that are quite spaced apart.
He sports a droopy expression, which makes him seem easygoing and serene, if not a bit breathless.
Sag has a unique love for quirky facial hair styles - soul patches, goatees, muttonchops - and he also enjoys sporting various piercings on his face, tongue, nipple, navel, or even in other places.
He sports a similarly imaginative fashion sense, often taking it too far with bright colors or being too literal with current trends. No matter how loud or sparkly his attire may be, he tends to fidget with his clothes as if he's uncomfortable, showing clear evidence of his fundamental urge to embrace a more natural look.
He has a strong, slightly rigid torso - heâs constantly straining muscles and getting hurt, as shown by his fashion accessories like splints, crutches, and slings - which might clarify why he always appears to be stretching, even in the most formal situations.
He's got a naturally muscular build, with bulging or knotted muscles, nicely rounded and defined pecs, and a stomach that effortlessly forms a tidy six-pack. However, even with his impressive physique, it's his Sag-ruled steel thighs that really catch the eye, leading to sharply indented flanks and a solid rear, all clearly visible under his pants, becoming the source of much of the attraction he stirs in a woman.
While he may not be the biggest player in the penis game, Sag's athleticism definitely hints at a guy who's ready to go all night. And you know what? That assumption is spot on: With unmatched stamina and endurance, this wild stallion can keep going for hours without needing a break; given his incredible ability to keep it up, you might just find yourself grateful if he's packing some serious size.
Naturally, there are a lot of drawbacks to being tagged as (wo)mankindâs thoughtless lay; however, throughout his youth and well into his adult years, Sag man remains oblivious to them. His main focus is on discovering a woman who shares his perspective on sex: as an exhilarating adventure where every potential route to pleasure is worth exploring.
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Sagittarius Man Interested in Women:
The Sagittarius guy is super lucky when it comes to women. As soon as he hits puberty, he realizes he has plenty of chances to make a move on them.
During his youth, his outstanding athletic skills make him a hero and a heartthrob to girls who are dealing with strong hormonal feelings, resonating with them on an instinctual level.
When it comes to love, he's incredibly romantic and expressive: His feelings come out intensely, and he often shows his affection in extravagant ways.
He finds himself attracted to perfect tens and, unlike many guys, he never hesitates to go after those glamorous women.
Heâs looking for a female partner who can be his playmate, someone who shares his upbeat view of life as an exciting journey.
Sex is yet another experience that delivers those signature thrills he seeks. In truth, he can become addicted to this behavior, especially in his longing to achieve the bliss of climax.
When heâs not having sex, heâs usually thinking about it, or, as is often the case, taking pleasure in it alone. Among all the zodiac signs, no male is more notorious for masturbation than the Sagittarian - and itâs not just a quick release, but often a detailed celebration of pleasure.
Even when engaged in an intense sexual relationship or dating multiple people as he often does, he still takes pleasure in his solitary activities.
For him, any kind of sex is enjoyable, and he desires to engage in it with women, and occasionally men as well, regardless of their size, shape, background, or personality.
More than anyone else, he exemplifies the type of man that women fantasize about - a magnetic yet laid-back figure, naturally fit but a little untidy and rugged. In the fierce arena of romantic conquests, the Sagittarius man is seen as a major catch.
While he frequently fulfills a woman's deepest fantasies, many women might choose to limit such a man to the realm of imagination or a casual fling, opting for a more gentle, practical man for a lasting relationship.
Even though Sag wishes to have a range of sexual experiences, he is ultimately aiming for a committed, monogamous relationship after he has explored those options.
While he often searches for his dream partner among women with model-quality beauty, he actually values a sense of humor and a relaxed, joyful spirit more than mere attractiveness.
Even so, Sagittarius is drawn to glamour, relishing the opportunity to flaunt a breathtaking beauty that will undoubtedly be noticed by other men.
Sag is often attracted to flamboyance or fame in a mate; this isn't about seeking status, but about the excitement such connections bring. Notoriety, especially on a global level, is a characteristic of his ruling planet, Jupiter, reflecting Sag's expansive nature - more is more, and bigger is better.
In the same way, Sag avoids superficial or casual relationships: He either has a brief encounter with someone and then moves on, occasionally checking in if he chooses to return to that person later, or he aims to fully integrate a woman into his life, much like a big corporation absorbing a smaller, essential business.
For a woman to be in a long-term relationship with a Sagittarian, she must recognize that resisting his imaginative life perspective is useless. The rare woman he meets may already have her own elevated view of life, but typically, a Sagittarian is interested in someone he can help see the world through his optimistic lens, introducing a more introverted partner to his expansive vision.
The irony, however, lies in the fact that Sagâs companion needs to be extremely confident to never feel threatened by his wish to make such a spiritual change. He rarely seeks to modify her external features or superficial traits - nevertheless, it is possible to see a significant shift in the Archerâs companionâs look as he begins to impact her, because, like Dionysus, "the Liberator," Sag desires to free a womanâs deeper self from any psychological and emotional barriers.
Ultimately, a person as vibrant as he is needs a partner who is just as lively, energetic, and perhaps even flexible.Â
In his enthusiasm to elevate his partner's mood, often without our cheerful Sag realizing it, he gradually transforms his woman into a female version of himself.
His goal is to save a woman from the depths of mediocrity, particularly that which is caused by fear or societal standards.Â
He aims to enlarge her outer views while enhancing her inner awareness - for the Sagittarian male, self-discovery is the most important aspect of experience.
Ironically, he believes that the easiest way for his beloved to reach that state is by emulating him, the self-declared example of an unbounded spirit.
The Scorpio man, a native of the 8th House of sleep, tends to seek to almost numb his partner, whereas Sagittarius, linked to the 9th House of dreams and visions, wishes to be on the same wavelength with a woman, to connect with her as deeply as possible, particularly on a superconscious level.
As one of the zodiac's four mutable signs, Sagittarius excels at merging life's inherent opposing forces, a fusion. To him, one and one equals one. Yet, when Sag is with his true love, they create something that transcends the mere sum of their individual parts.
He struggles to avoid seeing himself and his lover through a third-party lens, a habit that results in over-romanticizing their relationship.
The Sagittarian man showcases an elevated perception of reality, where his experiences, including his relationships, evolve into a lively, magical child that is worthy of nurturing and celebration.
No man is more likely to celebrate his romantic connections with extravagant gestures like showering his partner with gifts, taking her on surprise trips, or engaging in signature acts such as strewing rose petals in the bedroom to honor a special moment - every day - or to elevate the intimate experience.
His large fire-sign ego believes that any woman would gain significantly from being with him. Therefore, the emphasis is placed on the growing power of their union, rather than on the personal, individual needs that are felt privately within the relationship.Â
He also shows little concern for what he views as the trivial details of his own life - he rarely takes the time to reflect on, much less heal, any psychological or emotional wounds he may have.
He effortlessly directs his immense energy towards pursuing greater ambitions. He believes his partner should follow suit: Never linger in despair; always strive to dispel the fantasies of life.
 While his opposite sign of Gemini makes numerous attempts to engage with positive thinking, the Sagittarius man, on the other hand, often cannot seem to deactivate it. This leads many potential partners to think he doesnât handle his internal challenges well enough to foster a healthy relationship.
What these people do not realize is that Sag handles his personal battles by letting them grow unchecked, like a wildfire, until they finally burn out on their own.
Sag enjoys freedom from the self-gratifying impulses of his fire-sign counterpart, Aries, and he does not feel the pressure to please his partner, a struggle that affects numerous men.
He is fundamentally indifferent to his own pleasure or that of his partner. As a result, he can immerse himself in the experience of the sexual act more completely than anyone else, regardless of gender.
Sex is inherently ecstatic; however, for men, maintaining this blissful state can be quite difficult. But this is not the case for our devoted Sagittarius: Gifted with the talent to fully immerse himself in the physical experience, even amidst the intense pressure of an approaching orgasm, he can further relax into the heightening pleasure and sustain it for an extended period without reaching climax.
It is commonly stated that engaging in sex with a Sagittarian man is, to put it briefly, outstanding. At times (though not all the time), without even being aware, the Sagittarian's typical submission to the sexual moment allows a woman to seize the opportunity and lead.
Just as Sag wishes to liberate the woman he loves from the existing norms, he equally strives to free her from any sexual limitations. There is nothing that turns Sag on more than a woman who surrenders herself to sexual experiences.
Sagittarius is the one male who relates to the deeply satisfying pleasure principle within a woman, a connection he feels he is specially equipped to explore and elevate to new, infinite levels. If anything, the Sagittarius male often seems to forgo his own pleasure to enhance that of his partner.
If anyone is going to have a mirror on his ceiling, it is the Sagittarius man.Â
As present and penetrating as his pounding may be, there is a sense that he is somewhere else, as if undergoing an out-of-body experience.Â
Even in the height of sexual ecstasy, his partner may feel that Sag is playing the role of an observer, often sporting a nearly voyeuristic smile, regardless of how engaged he is in ensuring her pleasure.
Whether there's a mirror or not, he envisions himself from a kind of bird's-eye perspective, striving, in his imagination, to become a sex symbol worthy of the screen, if not delivering one endless money shot.
He is unpredictable in sex - anything can occur, and you can't anticipate where his fingers, tongue, or penis will touch next.
Typically, heâs a legs and ass man, a womanâs boobs sometimes generating little more excitement than his own.Â
Whether it's due to a genuine appreciation for this part of the body or because it embodies a greater sense of taboo, Sag, similar to his neighbor Scorpio, is more inclined to explore anal sex than many other men.
He enjoys watching his partner push past established sexual boundaries, hoping that she will one day plead with him to engage in something she initially thought was outrageous.
For Sag to be consistently satisfied by a woman, she essentially needs to adopt a more pleasure-seeking attitude, if not a more provocative one, regarding sex and, in fact, life itself.
Each day, a Sagittarius man demonstrates his belief that transcendence comes from a specific feeling of freedom. It's no surprise that he can be quite addicted to sex, a pursuit where there's always a new experience to discover and a growing chance to lower oneâs defenses.
He is kinky by nature.Â
He displays a blend of characteristics in his temperament and sexual behavior - this might appear as a basic exchange of underwear with his lover or develop into more intricate scenarios such as role reversal, swinging, or engaging in group sex.
If any man is open to his wife or partner putting on a dildo and giving him a good time, it would be the Sag man.
His well-known third-party viewpoint indicates that he is quite interested in threesomes. While many signs may be open to having a third person join the bed they share with a partner, a Sagittarius man often prefers to be that third person himself. He grows weary of only focusing on himself and eagerly dives into the lives of couples seeking to enhance their sexual experiences.
Sagittarius takes pleasure in stepping in, with a grand reputation and notorious stamina, to delight a woman with a proper thrashing. Here, itâs not merely the nation of a sex-starved woman pleading for relief that turns him on, but the humiliation directed at the comparatively "lesser" husband or boyfriend that also hits an erotically sadistic note.
In some situations, if all parties are willing, Sag could go even further in a notorious way, by "topping" the other person and thereby both gratifying and humiliating him in front of his partner.
The Archer, as a sexual figure, embodies a stunning masculinity combined with a profoundly open mindset, creating limitless opportunities for the quest of pure enjoyment.
Sagittarius Man Interested in Men:
No matter if he sees himself as straight or gay, the Archer feels most comfortable around other men. Even the straightest Centaur is so secure in his masculinity that he never feels threatened by or fearful of the gay community.
With guys, heâs a major player, only committing to a partner who has exceptional beauty, charm, and a very liberal way of thinking.
From a young age, Sagittarians live in a world dominated by testosterone, diving headfirst into the rugged and adventurous experiences that define masculinity.
As a young boy, he develops notorious crushes on older men, happily taking on roles like batboy or other subtly suggestive positions where he can channel his admiration into something productive.
The Archer boy seeks to impress the guys around him and will either observe or take part in any fleeting romantic interests that often emerge among the hormone-driven older teens he looks up to.
âSharingâ with the somewhat older males he admires sets him up for feeling psychologically superior to boys his own age.Â
He usually appears as the straight-acting stud that many hopeful guys want to connect with. He is almost entirely masculine in his demeanor. Similar to other fire signs like Aries and Leo, he often embodies the ultimate "top," but unlike those other personalities, he is attracted to delicate, pretty boys, or even flamboyant men, as partners.
Ironically, among all the gay men in the zodiac, Sagittarius might be the most misogynistic, as if he takes his sign's astrological connection to patriarchal experiences far too seriously. In his unique gay universe, women are completely unwelcome: He discovers all the femininity he desires in the beautiful Tiresias he aims to sexually befriend.
Similar to his heterosexual counterpart, the gay Centaur challenges a partner to their extremes, and his interest in gentle, reserved, if not overtly uptight, young men is where this magnificent fantasy starts.
His romantic and sexual desires are intricate: Similar to a wild stallion who finds comfort in the presence of geldings, a gentle, submissive partner tends to bring him peace, while more assertive individuals like him present a challenge, igniting his passion, a dynamic that is better suited for Sag's athletic or physical activities.
Indeed, a gay Sagittarius often finds joy in a big circle of similar-minded friends, mostly straight and masculine, but these tough guys are seldom the ones he looks to partner with.
In addition to providing a soothing presence, the shy and somewhat delicate partner he chooses should be compliant enough to allow the Sagittarius to feel dominant during their intimate moments. It's a delicate balance: the Sagittarius requires a partner who can handle whatever he throws at them, but not so submissive that there is no exciting challenge in meeting the Sagittarius's expectations.
Women often admire the skills of the straight Centaur, while gay men claim their most memorable encounters are with a Sag. However, true to form, these meetings seldom go beyond one-night stands, primarily because the Archer struggles to find that ideal partner who can truly appreciate the exceptional erotic pleasure that Sag is famous for providing.
For a Sagittarian, ideal sex should always make him feel like he is seen as "too much," reflecting his strong Jupiterian influence. Pushing a lover to their limits might mean introducing them to the more adventurous aspects of gay life, taking them on journeys through wild group parties and late-night clubs, and possibly inviting another assertive partner to thoroughly investigate, if not take advantage of, their lover's growing submissive nature.
Even in what could be seen as a chaotic spiral of sexual depravity, the noble yet wild Centaur always maintains his balance - a quality that cannot always be attributed to his partner, whom Sag will surely be there to "catch."
For Sag, part of the excitement lies in taking his lover to the brink, even nudging him past it, and then embracing his ultimate Dionysian role, serving not just as an orgy master but also as a savior.
Engaging in relationships, and even sex, with a Sagittarian man is essentially a lengthy trust exercise. He is quite a character - and he is aware of it: A single night with this remarkable individual shows that he can provide an exhilarating, passionate, and carefree experience that no other man can match.
This reading will delve into what is currently nurturing your soul and what is not, as well as how you can find comfort in the quiet moments.
As this is a general collective reading, some things may not resonate with your personal situation. DO NOT try forcing it to fit. If you would like to book a personalized reading with me, please visit my profile and follow the instructions in my pinned post.
Pile One:
What makes you feel good at the moment, and what nourishes your soul?
The Magician and The Moon:
You could be at the start of your exploration into spirituality, becoming more attuned to your intuition. You take pleasure in looking beyond the surface and exploring the depths of the unconscious. Previously, you might have approached this from a logical angle, trying to grasp what motivates you and those around you. This could have led you to seek therapy, or you might be a therapist or have pursued studies in psychology. Now, it seems you've recently discovered a passion for spirituality and are keen to learn about the spiritual aspects of life instead of just the logical ones. You might also be very interested in the concept of manifestation.
What does not feel good or is disrupting your life?
Ace of Wands:
I felt a significant block while trying to connect with this pile, and I think this could be the reason behind it. You are genuinely passionate about spirituality and eager to delve into your intuition, yet you feel lost on how to begin, which is creating internal obstacles that reflect outwardly. You have a multitude of ideas about how to pursue this newfound passion, but the starting point remains unclear. I also sense that you are a very logical individual, and this makes it difficult for you to trust that signs are indeed messages from the spirit rather than just coincidences. Pile one, you have an abundance of energy and passion, but youâre unsure how to direct it properly, which is quite uncomfortable.
What can offer you peace and safety?
Ace of Swords:
You have this newfound passion, but youâre unsure of how to channel it. The card that has come to you is a reminder to take things one step at a time. Achieving peace and safety in stillness requires you to allow it to come to you and to embrace it fully. By accepting your spirituality and learning to harness its power, you will gradually find peace in the stillness. You will realize that itâs perfectly acceptable to slow down and truly savor the journey. Your attention is so fixated on the end result of becoming a deeply spiritual person in the future that you may overlook the importance of focusing on the present and taking the necessary steps to achieve that outcome. Everyone starts somewhere; no one has all the answers at the beginning of their journey. Itâs crucial to understand that itâs okay not to know everything, allowing you to appreciate every detail of this work. Take it one step at a time. Engage in some research and devise a plan to reach your aspirations. In doing so, you will find yourself feeling much calmer throughout the process.
What should you do to reconnect with your higher self when you feel out of place?
Strength:
You must connect with your inner strength when you find yourself feeling lost. There is a fire burning within you, yet you might find it difficult to acknowledge this. Your guides suggest that in moments of feeling lost or out of place, it's essential to look inward and discover the courage that lies deep within. It's important to reflect on your feelings during these times so that you can take the necessary actions to navigate through them. As a deeply intellectual individual, you may often find it challenging to understand your emotions, leading you to suppress them instead of feeling them. It's crucial to recognize that emotional signals are your unconscious mind's way of indicating that a change is needed. This change could be internal, such as adjusting your approach to a problem, or external, like deciding to leave your job. When you act in alignment with those emotions, you will find a sense of calm. Challenge yourself to access your inner strength. Whenever you experience a hint of fear throughout your day, face it directly - confront it rather than avoiding it.
Bottom of the Deck:
Three of Cups:
The Three of Cups is all about celebration and community. For you, at the bottom of the deck, it signifies that the community you are part of right now can be a great source of support. Alternatively, you may want to look for a community of deeply spiritual individuals who can guide you in enhancing your own spirituality. This could be in an online setting or in person, based on what feels most comfortable for you. I was also feeling very jumpy and shaky when channeling for this pile, so that may resonate with some of you. Some of you may have also been drawn to pile three; if so, you should check that pile out, too.
Advice From Spirit Extended Reading
Pile Two:
What makes you feel good at the moment, and what nourishes your soul?
Strength:
The energy radiating from this pile was incredibly intense; I got a headache the moment I began to connect with it. Those of you who selected this pile are profoundly spiritually gifted, whether you recognize it or not. There are significant ancestral connections associated with this pile; your guides have presented themselves with some potent energy. Therefore, itâs possible that you have witches in your lineage or simply some highly spiritually attuned individuals in your family history. Your spirit guides are always looking out for you, and if anyone tries to harm you, they will face some serious karma. What makes you feel good right now is your inner strength. You are a survivor, and this strength that you possess is something you take great pride in.
What does not feel good or is creating disruption in your life?
Eight of Wands:
You might find it challenging to adapt swiftly; you are the type of person who requires time to acclimate and devise a strategy before taking action. Lately, you may have encountered some rather unforeseen changes that forced you to make rapid decisions, which likely left you feeling quite uneasy. Your sense of comfort is rooted in gradual and consistent progress, and your recent experiences have been anything but that.
What can offer you peace and safety?
Five of Stones (Pentacles) Reversed:
The Five of Pentacles reversed signifies a shift towards positive transformation. If you've recently faced financial difficulties, this card suggests that those tough times are nearing their conclusion. Staying committed to your path and regaining stability will lead you to a sense of peace and security. On the other hand, if financial instability hasn't been part of your experience, this reversal might be a sign that you've been overly concerned with material wealth. Now is the moment to nurture your spiritual well-being, as this self-care is essential for achieving inner peace and safety. Let go of your worries about the material aspects of life; it's time to turn your focus inward.
What should you do to reconnect with your higher self when you feel out of place?
Four of Cups:
It appears that you often feel out of place when boredom or exhaustion sets in. You tend to be someone who is always doing something, whether with others or alone, and you rarely allow yourself to slow down. In fact, you associate slowing down with feelings of boredom, but thatâs a misconception. Your mind, body, and spirit require moments of stillness to rejuvenate. Continuously pushing forward does not support your journey. You are so preoccupied with what lies ahead that you miss the opportunity to be present in the moment, leading to a sense of disconnection from yourself. Itâs important to take a moment to consider how your expectations impact your feelings of disillusionment. When we have high hopes that reality does not meet, disappointment can be profound. Reflect on whether your expectations were truly reasonable. You may find that there is more to be grateful for than you first believed.Â
Bottom of the Deck:
The Hermit:
As I mentioned earlier, you are a person who rarely finds yourself alone. You are constantly engaged in activities and often overlook the importance of taking a moment to look within, which has led to some challenges in your life. This card, appearing at the bottom of the deck, indicates that itâs time for you to dedicate some time to yourself to truly implement positive changes in your life. I was picking up strong energies from Virgo, Leo, and Sagittarius from this pile, so you may have significant placements in these signs. If thatâs not the case, and you still feel drawn to this pile, thatâs absolutely fine. Additionally, I noticed some physical sensations while channeling this pile; my left eye was quite itchy, and my left ear was ringing, which may hold significance for some of you.Â
Advice From Spirit Extended Reading
Pile Three:
What makes you feel good at the moment, and what nourishes your soul?
Four of Cups and Two of Cups:
Something that nourishes your soul: pile three. Slowing down and spending time with the people you care about. You enjoy taking a moment to pause and reflect on everything around you, deciding whether your life is how you want it to be. You care deeply about having balanced and healthy relationships in your life, and taking the time to really evaluate if the relationships you surround yourself with are working for your best interest is something that makes you feel good. You know your worth, and you are unwilling to accept anything less than you deserve. I was getting strong childlike energy with this pile. Almost an insecure childlike energy. Like a kid who has been bullied and is now left feeling unsure about themselves and everything around them. This is your inner child, I believe, and I think that your inner child has been behind a lot of the decisions in your life, whether you are aware of it or not. You were hurt deeply as a kid, and you have never truly done the work to heal that little kid inside of you, so now you are left feeling deeply insecure and nervous, which is why you tend to evaluate these relationships in your life, because you tend to find yourself in relationships that do not serve you. You know your worth, but itâs almost like this side of yourself doesnât come out until youâre already in too deep with someone. This is why it feels so good for you to take moments to reevaluate these relationships, because once they're out of your life, you feel good again. There is a strong feminine energy with this pile; regardless of gender identity, your soul is a deeply feminine soul. You are very sensitive; you may even be an empath.
What does not feel good or is creating disruption in your life?
Five of Wands Reversed and Death Reversed:
As I mentioned earlier, you are someone who isn't hesitant to reassess the relationships in your life. Yet, I sense that you might be apprehensive about taking the crucial steps needed to implement the changes when a relationship is no longer serving you. I believe there is a particular relationship in your life that no longer benefits you, and you are aware of this, but the thought of initiating a conversation about ending it frightens you. This could be due to the fact that this individual has been a part of your life for a long time, or perhaps they are a family member. Regardless of the situation, you fear disturbing the status quo and addressing how their actions affect your feelings. For many of you, I believe this person has caused the most harm to your inner child, which is why your inner child has been in control for quite a while. You have been living in a triggered state for some time now, and you may have forgotten what it feels like to experience anything different. Your guides are indicating that this situation must change, and it is time for you to start overcoming those fears. This relationship has significantly influenced your self-perception, and it is essential for you to acknowledge this. It is time for you to shed light on the patterns in your life that stem from these fears and understand that they do not define you. You need to recognize that you are not who this personâs treatment forced you to become so that you can truly begin to heal this wounded version of yourself.Â
What can offer you peace and safety?
The Sun and Nine of Cups Reversed:
As I previously mentioned, you have been living in a perpetual state of being triggered for quite a while now, which has resulted in a deep sense of unhappiness in your life. You may not even be conscious of this because it has become your standard way of living. Your spirit guides are indicating that the path to peace and safety is through happiness. Although this may appear simple, it is far from easy for you. You have been unhappy for an extended period, and you might have forgotten what it truly feels like to be happy. You have tricked yourself into thinking that you are satisfied with your life as it is, but that is not the reality. Take some time to consider what truly makes you feel good and what brings you joy, and start to weave those things into your daily life. It is time for you to envelop yourself in joy so you can remember what it feels like to not be triggered constantly.
What should you do to reconnect with your higher self when you feel out of place?
Seven of Wands:
It's time for you to start advocating for yourself. For far too long, you have settled for much less than you truly deserve from this individual, and your guides are indicating that it's time to put a stop to this. Reconnecting with your higher self involves standing firm and demanding nothing short of respect.
Bottom of the Deck:
Queen of Wands:
I believe that your higher self is the full embodiment of the Queen of Wandsâ energy, but you are not there yet. At your best, you are someone who is deeply charismatic, confident, and has a strong sense of your own power. But you are not at your best right now and havenât been for quite some time. This card, being at the bottom of the deck, is here to remind you of who you are at your core and to help give the push you need to get back to it. There were a lot of wands and cups that came out with this pile, so you could be a fire sign (Leo, Sagittarius, and Aries) with some water sign (Pisces, Cancer, and Scorpio) placements, or vice versa.
Advice From Spirit Extended Reading
Pile Four:
What makes you feel good at the moment, and what nourishes your soul?
Strength Reversed and The Magician:
This pile has an energy that is quite confusing. It feels like you are experiencing a struggle between two parts of yourself, each trying to take charge. One aspect is overly rational, dismissing anything spiritual or magical, while the other is filled with hope that this could be real and beneficial for you. I believe that you clicked on this reading, perhaps to prove it wrong. You are deeply skeptical, yet you are also in a lot of pain right now, searching for any form of help, even if it comes from something you donât fully believe in. You have been facing challenges with self-doubt and fear, which have led you into a dark place. Yet, as I mentioned, there is a part of you that is hopeful this reading can assist you because you feel so worn down that you are willing to try anything to escape this darkness. So, what makes you feel good at this moment? It is simply the hope that something might come along and magically change your current situation.
What does not feel good or is creating disruption in your life?
Seven of Swords Reversed and Eight of Swords Reversed:
As I was channeling for this pile, I got the sense that you have been hiding things âeither from yourself or others â and refusing to acknowledge them. The two cards that have shown up reversed indicate that you have been released from something that was causing you profound fears, and a truth has been uncovered. This revelation may not be easy for you to handle, as you are feeling a heavy sense of guilt, and this guilt is what is disrupting your life. For some of you, you have yet to be fully transparent and are still holding back due to fear of the outcomes, but concealing the truth will only result in more harm than being open and honest.
What can offer you peace and safety?
Death Reversed:
A world devoid of death would be one lacking transition - a world frozen in time. Eventually, a world without death would also be a world without life. Life and death are interdependent, much like how an animal's death and its subsequent decomposition enrich the soil, fostering the growth of plants. When we hold onto things that no longer benefit us, we become stagnant; we cease to flow with the river of life. This describes you, and it has been your reality for quite some time. You may think that your comfort lies in resisting change and sticking to the familiar, but that couldnât be further from the truth. Just because something feels comfortable doesnât mean it is safe. The key to finding peace and safety lies in recognizing what isnât working for you at this moment, so you can start distancing yourself from it.
What should you do to reconnect with your higher self when you feel out of place?
The Chariot:
The Chariot is a symbol of progress and the ability to face challenges head-on. Its presence here indicates that to reconnect with your higher self, you need to accept the changes youâve been resisting. Itâs vital to start taking responsibility for your actions. This could involve maintaining a list and sticking to it, or finding an accountability partner to motivate you in pursuing your goals. Now is the time to prioritize your own well-being and personal growth, and holding yourself accountable is essential for accomplishing this. Donât forget that even the smallest tasks can help keep your momentum going. All the work you put in will accumulate over time.
Bottom of the Deck:
Four of Swords:
The Four of Swords signifies a period dedicated to healing, self-protection, and self-care. This is your moment to engage in some essential introspection. Take the time to thoroughly assess your current circumstances; reflect on everything from various perspectives, and allow yourself the space to devise a plan for moving ahead. I sense that you may struggle with solitude, often seeking distractions in the company of others, whether in romantic contexts or otherwise. The appearance of this card at the bottom of the deck suggests that itâs crucial for you to spend some time alone, so you can confront whatever it is you might be avoiding.
I was getting strong Air sign energy with this pile (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius) as well as Scorpio. So you could be one of those signs or have significant placements in those signs. If not and you still feel drawn to this pile then that is okay.Â
Bugs or spiders could be significant for some of you.
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
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Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
The Scorpio woman, co-ruled by Mars and Pluto, is a blend of fire and ice. The fierce aggression and sexual urgency tied to Mars are enveloped in the chilly, elliptical energy of Pluto.
On a physical level, the small but mighty Pluto governs the hidden regenerative powers within the body, operating at the cellular level, while psychologically, it oversees the transformative processes of the subconscious.
Unsurprisingly, Pluto, which is named after the Roman god of the underworld (Greek: Hades), is linked to the astrological concept of transformation through elimination.
Originally, Pluto was an ancient female god, once synonymous with Persephone, who later turned into the wife of the male god. The narrative of Pluto and Persephone is also carved into the mythological lore, showing their descent into the underworld, which signals the beginning of autumn, only for her to come back to the bright surface world in spring.
This is a true representation of a Scorpio woman: Those who are close to the female Phoenix of the zodiac will quickly agree that she can't be kept down. It seems that the tougher the fall, the stronger she rises after dusting herself off.
In Scorpio, the masculine energy of Mars is deeply embedded within this richly feminine sign, creating a Chthonian outlook on existence. The term "Chthonian," meaning "subterranean," highlights the hidden sides of life in every way, from the wormy womb-tomb of Nature to the dark depths of the human subconscious, as well as the lively chemistry or buzzing physics that characterize life at the micro level.
Chthonia is yet another name attributed to the Black Demeter, also known as Pluto-Persephone in her capacity as a death goddess.
In the zodiacal Third Quadrant of Mind, the emphasis of its native signs - Libra, Scorpio, and Sagittarius - mainly revolves around the understanding of existence. Scorpio explores these subjective, previously mentioned Chthonian realities, particularly those related to the subconscious, aiming to isolate and document, if not eliminate, what she finds there.
There is no one who thinks more highly of herself than the Scorpio woman.
She is so self-assured that she doesn't need to fight for her goals; instead, she gathers a group of supporters who help clear the path for her, if not literally laying out the red carpet.
She exudes a captivating feminine charm mixed with a daunting sense of self-importance, inviting potential partners to "approach," yet warning them to proceed with caution.
She stands as the zodiac's clear femme fatale.
She created the art of being elusive, mastering the skill of subtly embedding herself in the minds of those she wants, all without even raising a finger.
Sheâs an enigma, always sporting a constant poker face - enticing, provoking, and keeping all the cards close to her chest.
No one understands her feelings better than a Scorpio woman. Being the only fixed-water sign in the zodiac, which represents emotions, she aims to manage her feelings rather than let them manage her.
This fixed-water nature can sometimes give her a frozen appearance. Plutoâs distant energy helps to temper Marâs impulsive expressions, providing Scorpio with a safe distance from emotions, which means she seldom acts impulsively on them.
She believes that engaging in any way, whether itâs through fits of anger, tears, sentimental feelings, or even too much excitement or happiness, is a clear squandering of energy that could, and should, be utilized for better purposes.
She exhibits an extraordinary level of composure when under pressure or in times of crisis. She remains unflustered by sudden changes, is not easily influenced by flattery, and does not feel wounded by blatant insults. The Scorpio woman does not view herself as a victim, nor does she feel intimidated or challenged, despite the efforts of others to affect her.
 In any kind of relationship, whether romantic or not, it often feels like it's her way or nothing at all. Scorpio holds firm to her beliefs, which are not open for discussion.
The ability to perceive beyond the five senses is a characteristic of the 8th Astrological House, associated with Scorpio. This is why those born under the sign of Scorpio are often said to possess a sixth sense.
The Scorpio woman exemplifies the principle that sometimes, less truly is more. She shows us that individuals who aggressively pursue, scheme, or carefully strategize their goals can become overly fixated, losing sight of the broader perspective and missing out on the opportunities that life may effortlessly present.
Scorpio patiently awaits her moment, having faith in the cyclical nature of life, ready to leap onto the carousel of time when the perfect opportunity arises. Her greatest strength is her patience.
Another significant characteristic of the 8th House, particularly related to the Scorpio woman's psyche, is the concept of self-sacrifice. This crucial factor of release that contributes to her growth is indeed the essence of who she is. It has its origins in her early childhood experiences.
Scorpio is often born into a somewhat chaotic family environment, yet this chaos is frequently (not always) joyful, defined by changes in location or the lively presence of many children.
Her father could be absent in some way, either physically or emotionally.
Rather than adding to the disorder or being overlooked, the Scorpio girl steps up as a voice of authority, regardless of where she stands in the birth order. She typically adopts a parental role, sorting through the household disarray by explicitly directing everyone on what to do and when to do it.Â
Her obvious assertiveness is appreciated by both parents, while her siblings view her as a stabilizing force, giving her a higher status in exchange for the ongoing support and clarity she provides in their lives.
Teaming up with her more laid-back mom, they make up a single maternal entity.Â
Scorpios typically have a tight-knit, respectful connection with their mothers.
By stepping into such an important role, she often gives up a carefree childhood, delving deep and accessing her hidden maturity long before it would have naturally surfaced.
She works hard to find peace, spinning a web around her emotional struggles to revisit later, aiming to build a more stable space where she and her siblings can tackle their many challenges - school, family duties, making friends, and eventually, dealing with sexual matters - all from a place of tranquility.
In a family where a Scorpio woman is present, there's a notable unity among the siblings, who come together in a collective effort to thrive, with her at the forefront, encouraging them and empowering them with her innate feeling of superiority.
For her, life is meant to be unpredictable and wild - it turns into complete chaos only because of our frantic responses to it. If someone surrenders to the disorder, it will eventually lead to a natural balance. The key, she discovers, is to make way for fate by removing any barriers in its way.
It's easy to see why the Scorpio woman is seen as the zodiac's embodiment of the Destroyer goddess: her sign is filled with connections to figures from the underworld and afterlife, like Persephone, similar to how the Scorpio 8th Astrological House relates to death and renewal.
The symbols of Virgo and Scorpio show a strong link between these signs, especially through their shared connection to the Demeter archetype, where the capital Mâs are seen as different representations of Mother Earth.
In mythology, the earth goddessâs "virgin" aspect, Kore, is taken by Hades-Pluto during the autumn equinox, marking the end of Virgo. She subsequently transforms into Persephone, the death crone - a frozen Mother Earth - who lingers in the autumnal sign of Scorpio.
Similar to the Scorpio woman, her carefree childhood has been completely given up, but this sacrifice allows her to possess a power that can truly terrify anyone, whether divine or human. She is death itself, giving a person either a thumbs-up or a thumbs-down regarding their eternal destination. She is the final verdict, the ultimate decision.
The Scorpio woman embodies a similar role in life - she is the one who ultimately makes the decisions in all her relationships. Just like Persephone, who sits still on her icy, jeweled throne, the stoic Scorpio shares her views like commands, determining the destiny of everyone she meets, always considering what they can provide for her.
To a Scorpio, people hardly exist unless they relate to her in some way. Family is there. Friends are around. Enemies? She doesnât have them, as she promptly eliminates any negative distractions from her life. All others are just pawns - she simply cherishes some pawns more than others, intentionally moving them forward in this game called life.
Embodying the traits of the 8th House, which encompass both sexuality and other people's finances, the Scorpio woman is not above exchanging one for the other. She doesnât adhere to any clean, moralistic view of her sexuality, believing thereâs no reason not to leverage it for her own benefit.
Nothing she does can truly reduce the high opinion she has of herself. Moreover, the difficulties and pressures of life only make her tougher and more valuable to others.
She occasionally goes on intense psychological journeys, usually no more than two or three times throughout her life, with each episode potentially lasting a year or even longer.
These feelings go beyond the baby blues; they delve into something darker, a more intense and tumultuous shade of indigo.
The Chthonian realm represents the mysterious inner feminine, and as the most authentic embodiment of this archetypal force, Scorpio harbors hidden storms within her, no matter how composed she appears on the surface.
During these pivotal moments in her life, which often arise as turning points, she finds herself somewhat compelled to reflect on herself. As it stands, no one else has the same level of focus that she does, which is clear to anyone who witnesses the Scorpio in action, especially when engaged in a creative endeavor. She frequently seems to be in a trance.
This same talent for shutting out the outside world and diving deep into her subconscious can turn into a bit of a curse. She can't just switch off that endless connection she has whenever she wants. So, while others might manage to suppress their inner excitement or struggle to even connect with it, the Scorpio has no option but to be engulfed in that abyss, much like Persephone, confronting every last secret, skeleton, demon, and desire that, for most, would just be quietly hiding in the subconscious. But for her, they are igniting bonfires and starting holocausts within her mind.
When she finally reemerges, she carries a sense of complete tranquility, as if, much like her symbolic phoenix, she has been entirely reborn without any sign of the struggles that once nearly defeated her.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied to Rising signs as well:
The Scorpio woman has a look of anticipation, as if sheâs always on the lookout for something to happen or someone to show up.
In conversation, she seems to predict everything you say, frequently speeding things up with rapid nods or whispered yeses, clearly irritated by even the smallest deviations.
She tends to seem like she's only half paying attention, as if she's caught up in her own thoughts or just waiting for a chance to jump in with her own strong opinions.
This comes from the power of Scorpio's intuitive senses, picking up on the mood of discussions and feeling the need to decipher the hidden meanings.
She never settles for surface-level conversations; she looks for hints of underlying meaning, insincerity, or dishonesty, paying attention to how easy or difficult it is to read someone's voice or body language.
True to her fixed-water nature, the Scorpio woman acts like a crystal radio, picking up on silent signals. This might be why she often has a blank, almost trance-like expression; she seems to prioritize listening over looking for signs in others, opening herself to all the frequencies her well-honed intuition can detect.
She always appears to be gazing past a person, quietly observing other interactions, subtly keeping track of every little arrival and departure. When you step into a busy room, her gaze will catch you right at the entrance. If she finds you intriguing, whether in a romantic sense or not, she wonât take her eyes off you. With a probing stareâalmost as if to say, "Do I know you?"âshe focuses on someone, her narrowed eyes and enigmatic smile quietly conveying her heightened interest.
In contrast to the male Scorpio, who is always on the move, she truly immerses herself in her surroundings. Not one to bounce from party to party or even to make more than one plan in a day, she will only step out of the comfort of her home if sheâs sure that when she arrives at her destination, usually by the fastest route possible, she can settle in and be pampered.
As fate would have it, the Scorpio woman is naturally still: Like a fine portrait whose eyes seem to follow one around the room, she emits a glacial (fixed-water) composure - she can be downright frosty when she wants to be.Â
She seeks answers, and she has a way of getting someone, especially a possible romantic interest, to open up - even the most tight-lipped individual will end up sharing their innermost thoughts with her.
She embodies the Sphinx, putting a guy, especially, in the hot seat, making him talk fast, while she stays as quiet as a tomb, as mysterious as the zodiacâs Persephone, eternally captivated and seated on her throne.
When she finally decides to speak, sheâs brief, to put it mildly, as if sheâs holding back a lot of her thoughts, which are clearly swirling in her mind. Yet, she manages to convey more with fewer words than anyone else on Earth, often leaving someone with the impression that theyâve received a subliminal message instead of engaging in a friendly chat.
She can seem really cold and calculating to other women, who may feel that she's hiding a secret sting operation beneath her unexpectedly icy facade.
With the fiery influence of Mars and the icy touch of Pluto, Scorpio hides any intense feelings she may have for someone behind a completely cool exterior.
Oblivious of this, guys just keep rambling on, while she gives her subtle Mona Lisa smile, a look that art historians have often linked to the idea that the subject is pregnant-expecting. Meanwhile, that legendary artist's model was probably a Scorpio, a woman who is always in a metaphorical phase of preparing to hatch some new scheme.
On the subject of actual pregnancy, as well, Scorpio tends to be the broodiest baby on the astrological block.Â
Indeed, even though she is often portrayed as a sex-obsessed harpy, Scorpio is not typically on the lookout for sex just for the sake of it. Rather, she seeks a long-term partner with whom to reproduce.
In the meantime, she doesnât enjoy being single, and instead of dating, she typically dives into one serious relationship after another. Even when sheâs convinced that a partner isnât âthe one,â she still chooses to engage with them, treating it like a hobby, preoccupying herself with reshaping them to fit her vision - chewing them up just to spit them out again, thinking sheâs left them better than she found them.
In many of her relationship situations, Scorpio believes sheâs doing her partners a favor by being with them, whether itâs for a couple of weeks or for the long haul. It might sound a bit vampiristic, but anyone she gets involved with is, in some sense, hers forever. Considering the lasting impression she leaves on those sheâs been with, they would all readily agree.
The beauty of a Scorpio woman is often characterized as Gothic. She possesses a serene charm akin to that of the Mona Lisa, embodying the essence of the "eternal beloved," which aligns perfectly with her role as the zodiac's everlasting Persephone.
Thereâs a ghostly quality to Scorpioâs appearance: Often seen with either dark raven hair or an icy blonde hue, she seems to be drained of color or lightly dusted with frost.
Oftentimes, her eyes are pretty far apart.Â
Her hairline typically sits low and is often characterized by a widowâs peak, often surrounded by the softest peach fuzz, which may also extend to her neck, creating a hooded or cowled look.
Her nose tends to be long, straight, and sharp, which enhances her skeptical look, along with her well-known sly grin.
Although her neck isn't particularly long, it seems stiff: she might look like she's turning her whole body to face any direction, which could be a symptom of her fixed nature.Â
She often dresses in stylish, well-fitted clothes - her favorites lean towards minimalist or mint vintage aesthetics - and she often shows a lot of skin, not from any desire to attract attention, but because she feels so deeply private that she doesnât realize sheâs on display.Â
She generally appears lean and sinewy, but simultaneously, she has a round and meaty aspect. This is due to the masculine, athletic influence of Mars on her otherwise feminine, water-influenced body - even when sheâs petite, she resembles a refreshing, cool drink of water.Â
In recognition of the snake-like impact on her zodiac sign, Scorpioâs strong yet substantial breasts showcase strikingly fierce "snake eyes." This might be a result of the blend between Marsâ assertive energy and Plutoâs nippy influences.
She usually has a tiny waist and slim hips, yet she never appears bony or boyish. Much like an Aries woman, who shares the rulership of Mars with her, and also tends to be long-legged and short-waisted, a Scorpio woman can easily wear a pair of menâs jeans; they wonât hang boyishly on her, but will fit snugly in all the feminine areas.
The shape of her breasts, the soft curve of her stomach, and even her pubic mound are frequently noticeable through her clothing, which is understandable given that she tends to wear form-fitting materials.
Her personality is all about being free and easygoing, as sheâs well-known for not stressing over looking perfect. She might not even be super careful with her beauty routine, just throwing on some makeup without bothering to wash her face, skipping deodorant, and only shaving, plucking, or waxing every now and then.
Sheâs entirely at home in her body, and her new lover will soon find out that sheâll relax in the nude without a second thought about crossing her legs. She inadvertently flaunts her Scorpio-governed "ruby fruit," which acts as a guiding force for this sex-driven woman, just as Persephoneâs pomegranate shaped her fate.
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Scorpio Woman Interested in Men:
If there's any woman who truly understands her sexual identity, it's a Scorpio.
Scorpio represents the realm of sexuality, driven by the dynamic energies of Mars and Pluto that fuel the desire for love. For this zodiac's deep and mysterious woman, it's not a lofty, intellectual, or refined longing; instead, it's a raw, instinctual attraction.
She exudes sexuality, as if she's encouraging each enticing pheromone on its path into the atmosphere to be picked up by any man.
She inherently believes she is better than anyone she interacts with. She can't help but view a man based on what he can offer her.
She doesnât need a man to make her feel like a natural woman; she was born that way.Â
Sheâs distrustful of men and their goals, which she mainly sees as lacking substance.
In a relationship, she aims to bring out the best in a man while eliminating his negative traits.
She doesn't make a big deal about losing her virginity; she's not easily impressed - often quite the contrary - by what men can provide regarding physical traits or their abilities in bed.Â
Itâs somewhat disconcerting that Scorpio usually looks so indifferent and spaced out, particularly during intimate moments, as if theyâre trying to suppress a yawn the whole time.
Chemistry works both ways, and Scorpio tends to follow her gut feelings, which could explain why she doesnât have a particular âtypeâ of man sheâs into. She trusts her intuition way more than what she sees, and even though she can appreciate a good-looking guy when she spots one, sheâs definitely not one to judge based on looks.
Being a resident of the mental Third Quadrant of the zodiac, Scorpio looks for a meeting of the minds; however, itâs less about an intellectual bond and more about a psychic one.
She needs to get a vibe - itâs one and the same with chemistry, the heights-and-depths dynamic of Pluto demanding both a psychic and yonic attraction.Â
She usually doesn't care much about common interests and beliefs. Instead, what she really desires is an unspoken connection rooted in a shared need to completely blend together, to transform into a single entity as much as two individuals can manage.
Scorpio doesnât just team up; she takes ownership. She approaches her partner like she does herself - with a searchlight and a pickaxe - diving deep into a loverâs personality to help him discover and fully embrace any hidden talents worth cherishing, while also aiming to identify and eliminate issues or bad habits.
She aspires to awaken a man to his true self, guiding him to evolve by removing obstacles that may be holding him back. It may sound a bit new agey, but the Scorpio ice queen is akin to a crystal, serving to alter the surrounding energy, neutralizing negativity, and fostering more uplifting vibrations.
Of course, she enters relationships with nothing to lose and absolutely nothing to prove. Having been brought up to view herself as a perfect gem since she was a kid, she possesses a solid self-esteem, and trust me, she doesnât hesitate to let a man know that.
One of her fatal flaws, however, is her struggle to admit when she's in the wrong - a hard truth for Ms. Flawless to face - and occasionally, she finds herself losing friends or even love interests due to her strong dislike for taking accountability.
Scorpio tends to dive into serious relationships pretty early on, eager to explore the mind of some guy. Sheâs that girlfriend who locks in a guy as soon as eighth grade, listing out her rules and guidelines.
She has a sexual maturity about her that is surprising for her age; the cues she gives off, sometimes unknowingly, attract the attention of older men and peers her age.
She may even be the one to make the major moves on her boyfriend, and as she always has a steady one, she could have already deflowered a string of guys before hitting her twenties.Â
She has a strong sense of self-worth and expects to be treated like treasure; however, being openly sensual, she shatters any outdated double standards regarding women that a young man may hold.
All the guys she usually likes seem to share one common trait: theyâre generally mamaâs boys. While she can handle more macho behavior than many women, a guy needs to have this specific kind of emotional respect for women to really catch her interest.
Having shared the motherly role with her own mom for so long, she swiftly connects with a guy by dangling apron strings in front of him, pushing aside the mother he was once close to.
Beyond that, she values "potential," leaning towards a guy who is somewhat lacking in confidence and still developing his grasp on how to fulfill his life ambitions, rather than one who feels like they have it all together.
Someone with a well-defined goal presents a challenge for Scorpio, as it hinders her from adding the right ingredients for his success into the "pot." Conversely, a man with high aspirations who simply doesn't have the skills to bring them to life is an ideal candidate.
Once sheâs done with him, heâll really be something special; but watch out for any guy who thinks heâs too good for her - sometimes she pumps up a manâs self-esteem so much that he starts to feel superior, even implying that he can "do better" by getting involved with another woman.
Be careful: In this unfortunate situation, Scorpio will either deliver a sting so intense that it leaves her partner in shambles or sheâll initiate a cold-shoulder tactic that could chill a guy to the bone.
Being the Sphinx of the zodiac, itâs always up to the man in her life to act quickly, fulfill her requests, and provide whatever she wants. On the flip side, he canât expect anything from her - she doesnât owe anyone anything and doesnât feel the need to justify her behavior.
She is always candid with her thoughts on others, but even when she's in a tough spot, she keeps her lips sealed, as asking for help is akin to admitting weakness - something she just can't bring herself to do.
She seeks to be a manâs obsession, a perfect embodiment of his deepest desires.Â
Even though she puts on a cool, femme-fatale act, she craves physical intimacy, and her desire is only intensified by her calm, unapologetic demeanor.Â
If thereâs any woman who would make a guy go down on her in that cab sheâs taken to skip a short walk, itâs definitely the bold Scorpio woman.
Known for her experimental nature, particularly in the initial phases of a relationship, she truly has a knack for impressing a guy - drawing him in with her allure, securing that psychic bond she wants to create.Â
Sheâs a real tease, that girl whoâll play footsie with a guyâs crotch under the table, groping or even briefly going down on him, offering blatant titillation to stay erotically connected with her man at all times.Â
She is not at all sentimental regarding sex. Truly, she could be seen as Machiavellian in her approach, using it strategically as a means to an end.
Since she puts so much emotional energy into her partner right from the start - something he might not even be aware of, thanks to her usual chill demeanor - the Scorpio woman might employ sex as a means to secure the relationship.
She can indeed act like a succubus, even getting with her partner while he is asleep.
For this Chthonian character, almost nothing is off-putting, as her hands and mouth can venture into areas where the sun donât shine.
She takes pleasure in uncovering the core of a man, being well-versed in the concealed regions that serve as the male G-spots.
She is wholly unflinching and tends to relish in things like "swallowing" or, for example, indulging in a man's feet or armpits - even water sports might be permissible for the Scorpio woman.
Generally, she finds an uncut penis more appealing, favoring individuals in their natural form.
She likes a little messiness in a man - fussy types who wax, shave, or excessively groom themselves won't remain in her favor for long - just as she loves to work up a sweat and soak the sheets, fully aroused by a healthy body odor, especially the musky scent of a man.
In rare cases, she might skip showering after sex, possibly even exchanging underwear with her partner to maintain the thrill for the rest of the day.
Her oral skills would put many sex workers to shame. Naturally gifted with a deep throat, she eagerly devours her partner, capable of handling even an extra-large penis.
Although it might require some time for her to reach her own climax, the intensity of her eventual release could be so overwhelming that it nearly renders her unconscious.
She becomes one with the sex act, which seems to put her into a trancelike state.Â
Not at all cerebral, the bedroom is a domain where she does not engage in any mind games, barely communicating with her partner, although she might express herself through a lot of deep, guttural noises.
In the throes of passion, she becomes so absorbed that she sometimes forgets her own power; her lover should be strong and capable of lasting, as she seeks a prolonged, vigorous encounter.
She requires a daily dose of sex. In fact, she seems to always look as if sheâs just had a good romp - her hair disheveled, her lips somewhat swollen or chaffed, her gait a bit stiff, her appetite forever hardy.Â
In fact, few women benefit as readily as her from the sexual physiological shift that sexual release elicits - Scorpio is famous for wearing a look of just fucked freshness.Â
Among all the women in the zodiac, she might just be the most receptive to anal sex. She enjoys the built-in naughtiness of it, always aiming to be a bit more "advanced" than her female friends, surprising the more conservative ladies in her circle.
Variety adds excitement, and she feels equally at home shopping for dildos as she does for lacy doilies. If there's a woman who has a toy or two tucked away in her underwear drawer, it's the Scorpio, who is always looking to elevate her experiences by the most daring methods imaginable.
Similar to the male Scorpio, the female Scorpio also possesses a slight sadistic side. She takes immense joy in making a man feel powerless, binding him, and teasing him with, at the very least, a bit of tickling.
Disciplinarian fantasies align perfectly with her psychological needs - she could be a full-on dominatrix, excited by the idea of dominating a submissive man, watching him beg for her sexual attention, while she polishes her leather gear in the process.
Naturally, her desire for control doesn't usually show in such an intense or fetishistic way - usually, she simply directs her partner, instructing him on where to touch, lick, nibble, or penetrate, and when to do so.
She is not the submissive woman who pretends to be innocent or unaware just to make a man feel powerful.
Even though she is very authoritative, she is not really the jealous type. In fact, Scorpios tend to be quite open and forgiving towards partners who stray - sex is just sex, not something to get morally upset over.
Sometimes, she might agree to allow another woman to join in, with the unfortunate third being treated like a toy for their fun.
In these situations, Scorpio's hidden sadism comes to the surface as she may unintentionally punish the other woman just for being present.
Scorpio Woman Interested in Women:
She usually admires women more than men, and her connections with them are both spiritually and sexually profound.
Sapphic by nature, she is highly romantic in her gay relationships.Â
Pretty women pretty much turn every Scorpio woman on.Â
 When she feels attracted to a woman, she tries to hide her nervousness by acting overly confident, quickly taking control of the situation.
She is attracted to wholesome, girl-next-door types. With them, she takes on a worldly-wise attitude, aiming to be both a mentor and a motherly figure.
The girliest girls have the greatest allure for her. Taking on a masterful demeanor, the Scorpio seeks to teach them, effectively uncovering the sexy instincts that could be lying dormant beneath such a flawless psyche.
Playing the elegant lady, she charms that naive beauty in such a delicate way that it initially appears completely innocent. It might start with an invite to the gym, a beauty treatment, or just a fun âsleepoverâ filled with story swapping and pedicures, all while sipping cocktails or champagne. However, before long, the chat shifts to sex, with the Scorpio probing her âfriendâ about every detail of her erotic past, touching on the topic of queer encounters.
Considering Scorpio's natural intuition, she feels pretty assured about her gaydar. She relishes the idea of uncovering the hidden romances of closeted women, hoping to add her own chapter to their stories.
In her teenage years, she would be out partying at clubs every night, but as an adult, she stays away from queer bars, as she finds the vibe too explicitly centered around sex.
Tapping into her desire for control, she gradually guides a woman through an erotic adventure, fully in command of the situation, just like she always is.
As the daughter of Pluto in the zodiac, she demonstrates to a partner the thrilling heights that can be attained through the depths of - occasionally degrading and hedonistic - sexual experiences.
Unlike her gay-male counterpart, the queer Scorpio woman tends to hop from one relationship to the next, rarely being single for too long, and frequently overlapping her romantic entanglements.
Having a keen sense of sexuality from a young age, she likely experienced various schoolgirl moments, whether sparked by older mentors on a sports team or through close friendships. If there were to be a head cheerleader dating the football captain while secretly being gay, it would definitely be the Scorpio, whose early lesbian experiences could be described as steamy, or even pornographic, though aimed at a male audience.
She'll be the first in the neighborhood to have participated in group sex, involving both guys and girls, and she might have even thrown a sex party while her parents were away.
For the queer Scorpio girl, sex represents power, and she loves to tease the more reserved femmes around her. This playful dynamic carries on into her adult years, as she playfully challenges, if not outright pokes at, the strict standards of other women, aiming to lead them astray with her naughty actions.
She frequently finds herself in fields dominated by women. Usually, sheâs at the very top, where her assertiveness shines the most.
Whether she decides to mix work with pleasure or not, Scorpio exudes authority over the women she connects with, methodically leading a woman through her sexual exploration.
She uses the element of surprise in the bedroom, introducing new techniques and toys that will continually push her lover to the edge.Â
Every Scorpio, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, enjoys a bit of pain blended with their pleasure, but the queer Scorpio woman stands out the most in this regard.
Introducing her partner to thrilling new experiences, she aims to establish her dominance, immersing a lover in her unique style of intimacy.
She might be way more driven by her sexual desires compared to her heterosexual counterpart, but that's mainly because the straight Scorpio often replaces the act of sex with the idea of procreation.
Still, the queer Scorpio, despite being the dominant female, can also tap into her motherly instincts - she often is the one in her long-term relationships who opts to give birth.
The queer Scorpio aims to take on multiple roles in her relationship, including being the breadwinner, the head of the household, a mother, a mentor, and a sexual master.
Her partner must find joy in, and truly appreciate, devotedly following her lead, wrapping up all the loose ends, and managing life's minor details - Scorpio's bold way of living demands the support of such a willing companion.
In this reading, we will delve into what the future holds for your love life and uncover the factors that have been blocking your path to love.
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Pile One:
What is your current situation in love?
The Devil:
The Devil card in Tarot represents themes of obsession, addiction, and excess. In relation to your current love life, this suggests that you might not be approaching love with the seriousness it deserves. It seems you are driven more by lust than by genuine feelings. You may be someone who enjoys partying and prefers casual flings or one-night stands over a committed relationship. Yet, your decision to seek this reading could indicate that you are now prepared to settle down and embrace a more serious commitment.
What are some possible obstacles between you and your dream love life?
The Magician:
The Magician represents manifestation, willpower, skill, and desire. This indicates that your challenges in advancing in love stem from a struggle to communicate your desires and emotions. You tend to shy away from addressing your feelings in relationships, resulting in more casual flings than meaningful connections. Spirit is urging you to recognize that to achieve the love life of your dreams, you must prioritize expressing your feelings to others and to yourself.
What are some influences from your past that are holding you back in love?
The Hermit:
You tend to put yourself first and prefer to keep your vulnerable side private, sharing it only with yourself rather than with others. This behavior is what is hindering you from pursuing a serious relationship. It's essential for you to start feeling comfortable with the idea of showing your vulnerabilities to others. You need to begin opening up to people instead of handling everything by yourself.
What does the next few months look like for you in love?
Ace of Wands and Queen of Cups:
An exciting new relationship is on the horizon for you in the coming months, pile one! This individual will embody the nurturing energy of the Queen of Cups; they will be kind, compassionate, and incredibly supportive. You wonât feel any insecurity in their presence; instead, they will create a safe space for you to embrace your vulnerabilities. They are deeply romantic and thoughtful, and they will approach you and your fears about love with gentleness and care. The appearance of the Ace signifies new beginnings. It seems like this is someone you have never encountered before, or at least not someone with whom youâve shared a connection previously. In fact, the bond you will form with them will be so fresh and unique that you will find yourself experiencing a type of love you have never known, filling you with immense excitement.
This person may be a water sign, Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces, or they might have key placements in those signs. The energy here is primarily Cancer.
What does the next few years look like for you in love?
Seven of Wands:
The Seven of Wands is all about protectiveness and defending yourself and your territory. In terms of what the upcoming years hold for love, it indicates that both you and your partner are ready to defend this relationship fiercely. You might find yourselves in situations where you need to safeguard your bond, whether it's due to disapproval from those around you, an ex trying to interfere, or perhaps fears from either side about potential disruptions. Regardless of the challenges, pile one, you can rest assured that they wonât abandon you when times get tough; they are dedicated to fighting for you and the connection you share.
What are some outside influences that are affecting your love life?
Temperance:
Temperance represents balance, and as we discussed in the initial question of this reading, you are currently experiencing excess in matters of love. Therefore, regarding the external factors that may be hindering your progress, it suggests that your way of living is creating an imbalance in your love life. It's essential to address this if you wish to welcome this relationship into your life. At this moment, you should concentrate on achieving emotional balance, practicing moderation, and managing any conflicting desires in your love life.
What is some advice/guidance from Spirit?
King of Cups Reversed:
The King of Cups in reverse highlights the darker side of his nature: unpredictability, emotional manipulation, and irritability. When he is at his lowest, his innate ability to approach situations with empathy and wisdom is completely overturned. He finds it difficult to balance the demands of those who seek his counsel, showing warmth to some while being indifferent to others. His knack for navigating the emotions of those around him may be exploited for questionable purposes, twisting situations to align with his desires. This king is devoid of consistency, compassion, or ethical principles. In love, he can exhibit manipulative and self-centered behavior, using his emotional insight to fulfill his own wishes. The love interpretation of the King of Cups may indicate a degree of selfishness in your romantic endeavors. You might not be investing the necessary effort into your relationship; rather, you might prefer fleeting encounters or short-term flings, only to move on quickly. You could even be leading others on to fulfill your own needs, only to discard them once you have what you want. Your guides are urging you to change this behavior; it is not beneficial for you and is transforming you into a person you do not wish to become.
Bottom of the Deck:
Two of Pentacles Reversed:
Your love life is currently out of sync, pile one, and this lack of balance is negatively influencing other areas of your life. You have been ignoring the parts of yourself that long for a meaningful, committed relationship, instead pretending that you are much more content as someone who parties excessively and hops from one person to the next. But deep down, this is not who you truly are, pile one, and you know this. Now is the moment for you to initiate the necessary changes to find the person you have always dreamed of.
Brown eyes could be significant, whether you have them or this person does. The song "Brown Eyed Girl" might resonate with some of you, too. Similarly, the color teal could also be significant.
Extended Reading (who will this next partner be?) 18+
Pile Two:
What is your current situation in love?
Pilgrim (The Fool):
The Fool in Tarot symbolizes fresh starts, innocence, and a sense of spontaneity. For you and your current love situation, this suggests that you've recently adopted a new perspective on love. The vibe Iâm picking up from this pile is a strong, grounded earth energy. You might be an earth sign (Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn), or perhaps you just have a deep appreciation for nature. This grounded energy indicates that youâre pretty chill in all aspects of your life, but with the Fool appearing to reflect your current love situation, it suggests that something has shifted your viewpoint, making you feel lively and childlike about love at the moment. Maybe some of you have a crush on someone who is igniting these feelings in you.
What are some possible obstacles between you and your dream love life?
Priestess (The High Priestess):
The High Priestess represents intuition, inner wisdom, and spirituality. You find it hard to connect with your intuition, or at least to have faith in it, particularly when it comes to love. Perhaps you experienced pain in the past because you placed your trust in someone who didnât deserve it, and now, as a consequence, you have difficulty trusting yourself when it comes to selecting a partner. This lack of self-trust is whatâs keeping you from finding love.
What are some influences from your past that are holding you back in love?
Five of Water:
I brought it up earlier, but it really stands out in this question, too. Your previous heartbreak is what's keeping you from finding love. You're scared of experiencing heartbreak again, which means you not only lack trust in yourself but also in anyone who might be a future partner. You carry unresolved trauma from past relationships, and that's what's preventing you from moving forward.
What does the next few months look like for you in love?
Witch of Fire (Page of Wands):
The Page of Wands symbolizes excitement and adventure. This means that in the next few months, you can look forward to some exciting changes in your love life. You might find yourself in a passionate connection with someone who shares your dreams and aspirations. This card often indicates a crush, which suggests that this relationship may only be infatuation for now. However, that doesnât mean it canât turn into something more; it will just require some slow progress before you both are ready to commit. The next few months will be filled with excitement as you both get to know each other better.
What does the next few years look like for you in love?
Maze (The Tower) Reversed:
The reversed Tower indicates avoiding disaster and resisting change. For your future with this person, it suggests that either you or they might be apprehensive about change, which could lead to anxiety about the feelings this connection brings. There may be some negative patterns that need to be tackled by one or both of you; if not, the relationship might struggle. It will require effort and a gradual approach to develop, but that doesnât mean itâs destined to fail. In fact, I believe itâs quite the opposite. I think this relationship has the potential to positively transform both of you, but to reach that transformation, there will be a period of adjustment where you both need to modify certain behaviors to collaborate more effectively.
What are some outside influences that are affecting your love life?
Seven of Water:
Some distractions in other areas of your life are affecting your love life. There could be people in your life who have unrealistic expectations of how you should be, and you are struggling to keep up with them. Because of this, you are very distracted and canât seem to focus your attention on a relationship right now.
What is some advice/guidance from Spirit?
Offering (The Hanged Man):
The Hanged Man symbolizes the need for sacrifices and the importance of waiting. Your guides are advising you to practice patience with yourself and the circumstances you find yourself in. This relationship is not something to rush; it will require you to make sacrifices for it to thrive, so remember this during this time.
Bottom of the Deck:
Messenger of Water (Knight of Cups):
The Knight of Cups is seen as the most feminine of all the Knight cards in the tarot deck. However, this does not imply that he is any less of a knight. It shows that he has a strong connection to his emotions and intuition, which he uses for his own gain and in his various romantic and seductive endeavors. He is often very attractive and charming to everyone, no matter their gender. When making decisions, the Knight of Cups follows his heart, even if the choice may not be the most rational one. He can also symbolize an event or a person in your life, or even a part of your own self. He acts as a messenger, bringing an invitation or the arrival of something or someone that will provide you with emotional benefits.
Green was a meaningful color for this pile, so it may hold significance for some of you.
Extended Reading (who will this next partner be?) 18+
Pile Three:
What is your current situation in love?
Seven of Cups:
The Seven of Cups represents the challenge of decision-making, where you find yourself confronted with numerous options and the necessity to select one. Pile Three, you have a variety of romantic possibilities in your life, whether you recognize them or not. However, many of you are aware of these options and may feel a sense of boredom with them. It seems as though you are overwhelmed with the various directions you could pursue in love, which has left you feeling perplexed for quite a while, leading to a sense of disinterest. Many of you appear to be trapped in this situation, hesitating to make a decision; you understand that the power lies within you, yet you still prefer for things to unfold without your active involvement, rather than taking the reins yourself. Pile Three, you tend to be the kind of individuals who would rather allow the universe to dictate your path instead of embracing the responsibility for it, and this tendency is evident in your romantic endeavors.
What are some possible obstacles between you and your dream love life?
King of Cups:
You often feel overwhelmed by your emotions; it seems they have the upper hand, and this has been a significant obstacle in your journey of love for a long time. Emotions hold immense power - they can either wreak havoc or be directed towards positive outcomes. When they surge like a tumultuous wave, are you able to steer them? Their intensity can be daunting, but is it possible for you to transform your feelings into something beneficial? The King of Cups excels at keeping his calm in the face of adversity. This is the quality you need to cultivate in order to make strides in your love life.
What are some influences from your past that are holding you back in love?
Eight of Pentacles:
The Eight of Pentacles represents skills, talents, and mastery. When this card appears as a past influence that is hindering your progress, it suggests that you may be lacking the necessary skills in love to reach your desired destination. It doesn't matter if you've never been in a relationship or if your experiences have been brief; that isn't the main issue. The issue is that you present yourself as if you are experienced and skilled enough for love, but the truth is, you are not. It is crucial for you to acknowledge this and engage in the inner work necessary for your growth in love.
What does the next few months look like for you in love?
Six of Swords:
In the coming months, you will be engaging in the essential inner work required to advance in love. The Six of Swords symbolizes the journey of moving forward and embracing the lessons learned; this is precisely what you will be focusing on during this time. Although these months may prove to be challenging, keep in mind that it is all for your greater good. Emotions such as sadness, grief, shame, failure, and loss provide us with the context necessary to lead a meaningful and fulfilling life. Instead of attempting to suppress these feelings, acknowledge them and strategize your path away from them. Release your past self; it is different from the one you are currently nurturing and creating. Focus on the person you want to become. Allow yourself to grieve and say goodbye to the parts of yourself that no longer align with your highest potential.
What does the next few years look like for you in love?
Ace of Pentacles and Three of Pentacles:
A new, grounded, and stable relationship is on the horizon for you in the coming years. You will create a strong partnership with this individual. This relationship will bring you great joy. Both of you will have aligned aspirations in love and will be eager to invest the effort needed to cultivate a lasting bond.
What are some outside influences that are affecting your love life?
Page of Cups:
There is an individual in your life who is shaping your perceptions of what you desire in love. While this person may mean well, their views on what constitutes a healthy relationship may not align with your needs. Each person has unique requirements in a partnership, and you might be mistakenly believing that their needs reflect your own, which is simply not the case. You are different from them, and now is the moment to turn your focus inward to discover what it is that you truly require.
What is some advice/guidance from Spirit?
Six of Cups:
Now is the moment for you to reconnect with your inner child and recall what truly brings you joy, as it appears you may have lost touch with that part of yourself. Recently, you have been feeling quite disillusioned with life, which has led to feelings of bitterness, particularly in matters of the heart. Your guides are here to remind you that beauty and goodness exist all around you; you simply need to open your eyes to see it. It's time to push your boundaries and step outside of your comfort zone. Reignite your sense of wonder and amazement. Look inward to discover what it is you truly desire, and then practice articulating that desire clearly and effectively.
Bottom of the Deck:
Ten of Swords:
The bottom of the deck shows the underlying themes of the reading as a whole, and the Ten of Swords is the card of bitterness, failure, and hitting a dead end, which shows where you are in love. Throughout this reading, your guides have emphasized that your attitude towards love must evolve, and that once you initiate this shift, a strong and healthy love will be drawn to you.
Extended Reading (who will this next partner be?) 18+
Pile Four:
What is your current situation in love?
Hierophant:
The Hierophant is all about tradition. When it comes to your present romantic situation, this indicates that you tend to see love conventionally. You would much rather pursue love through traditional means instead of through the internet or other 'modern' approaches. As a result, this has contributed to your prolonged period of being single and has made you feel increasingly impatient. Right now, you are feeling quite exasperated, longing for your dream love to manifest.Â
What are some possible obstacles between you and your dream love life?
Sun:
You appear to be an incredibly optimistic individual, which is wonderful; however, this perspective may not be serving you well in your romantic endeavors. The reason for this is that you tend to see love through a lens of idealism. Your perception of love is quite innocent, almost childlike, and while that is endearing, it doesn't necessarily aid you in achieving your desires. You hold expectations that are somewhat unrealistic regarding what love should entail, and this mindset has caused you to miss out on valuable opportunities, as you tend to overlook potential partners who donât meet all your criteria. You struggle with allowing others to make mistakes, seeking a fairytale-like romance, and you seem to resist acknowledging that reality often differs from the stories told in fairytales.
What are some influences from your past that are holding you back in love?
King of Air:
The King of Swords signifies a commitment to discipline and elevated standards. He frequently represents an individual who is quite demanding, and I believe this is a person from your past who has impacted your current behavior. There was someone who dismissed your hopeful nature and pressured you to be more pragmatic in your romantic endeavors. Yet, you are not truly realistic in love; instead, you are excessively rigid in your views on love and relationships. As a defense mechanism, you have become the very person who shamed you for your dreams in love. Although your optimism remains, you also seem to struggle with self-doubt, convincing yourself that you cannot maintain that perspective. When you catch yourself in this mindset, it often leads to frustration and withdrawal. Your guides are indicating that this pattern must shift for you to attain the love you desire.
What does the next few months look like for you in love?
Queen of Earth:
The Queen of Pentacles is a symbol of stability, and in relation to your future in love, this means that establishing a nurturing and secure environment will be your main priority in the coming months. You will take the necessary steps to ensure that you are stable enough in your love life to open your heart to someone new. During these next few months, it will be essential for you to focus on personal growth and to examine your views and expectations about love.
What does the next few years look like for you in love?
King of Earth:
The upcoming years are set to elevate your situation from the Queen of Pentacles to the King of Pentacles. This truly exudes power couple energy, with you embodying the Queen and your future partner taking on the role of the King, regardless of gender. The King of Pentacles represents a partner who is both financially and emotionally stable, someone who prioritizes the protection of their relationship and is dedicated to being an excellent provider. A period of stability, security, and prosperity lies ahead for you in the coming years. Your relationship will be established on a strong foundation rooted in trust, mutual respect, and financial stability. However, you must put in the necessary effort to reach this point.
What are some outside influences that are affecting your love life?
Ten of Air:
Someone from your past or even your present has betrayed you, whether in love or friendship, leading you to change your perceptions of not just yourself but also of others. Because of this individual and their actions, you now find it difficult to believe that you deserve a stable and nurturing love; instead, you feel as though you are fated to endure the toxic love that has ensnared you. Your elevated expectations of those around you stem directly from having trusted someone who ultimately betrayed you. This situation is preventing you from discovering the love you truly deserve, and it is crucial for you to acknowledge this and release it. Some of you might believe that you have already let go and started to move forward, but it appears that you have not completely achieved that; rather, you are suppressing your feelings and pretending that you have. This pattern must change. It is time for you to confront your fears. Often, when we face our fears, even when we are compelled to do so, they turn out to be less daunting than we had anticipated. In comparison to the ongoing anxiety, it can even feel liberating. Reflect on all the pain you have endured as a valuable learning experience and take stock of your regrets. Consider what you wish to create once you have emerged from and healed through this challenging experience.
What is some advice/guidance from Spirit?
Five of Fire:
The Five of Wands signifies conflict, and its appearance here indicates that your guides are acknowledging the challenging phase you are currently experiencing, especially in matters of the heart. For some of you, this struggle may be occurring within yourself. It's crucial to stop allowing your ego to obstruct your path to love. Your guides suggest that to transcend this conflict, you should embrace a variety of perspectives to create something enduring. Now is the moment to reflect on your present circumstances and detach your ego from the equation. Consider how you have contributed to your current situation and explore ways to initiate change.
Bottom of the Deck:
Two of Fire:
The Two of Wands emphasizes the importance of balance and careful planning. Its position at the bottom of the deck reinforces the message that you must create a plan to achieve personal stability before embarking on a new relationship. Establishing a strong foundation within yourself is essential, as it increases the chances of a lasting connection when you invite someone into your life.
I was getting strong Aries and Sagittarius energy from this pile, so you could be one or have significant placements in these signs. If not, and you still felt drawn to this pile, that is okay.
Extended Reading (who will this next partner be?) 18+
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
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Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
Scorpio stands out as the only sign in the zodiac that is governed by two planets, Mars and Pluto. Their influences are felt equally, delivering a consistent one-two punch in Scorpio's approach to life.
Mar's objective (masculine) perspective dives deep into the hidden subjective (feminine) world of mystery, sparking investigative thinking, 'science,' and various deductive methods aimed at revealing the secrets of nature.
Scorpio engages with life as if he were astrology's scientist, philosopher, or detective. He struggles to accept life at face value, especially the arbitrary notion of "pleasure," without at least attempting to reveal some underlying meaning.
It's no surprise that the sign rules the 8th Astrological House, which deals with things like regeneration, sleep (the body's regeneration), sex (the regeneration of the species), and death (the soul's regeneration) - some of the biggest mysteries of life. Importantly, this house also represents one's inner spiritual essence, and it's at this deeper level that the Scorpio truly exists, as he seeks to reveal his own secrets and hidden desires, preferring not to get caught up in what he sees as pointless external distractions. He'd rather be on his own, even though he often can't shake off feelings of loneliness.
The Scorpio man is known for being tough, with a rigid attitude towards his behavior and values.
He tends to be very self-involved, regularly putting his own interests before any responsibilities he has to others.
He is inherently a curious individual, interested in delving into the mysteries of existence, motivated to look deeper into every scenario. It's no wonder that people perceive him as intimidating; he tends to elicit strong reactions and often makes those he meets feel uneasy.
His typical outlook is one of pessimism, or to be more precise, nihilism. This approach shields him from being tricked by deceptive appearances and enables him to uncover the underlying challenges ahead.
Scorpio embodies what can be referred to as the Chthonian Principle - with Chthonia and Chthonios being suffixes that mean "subterranean." These were added to the names of goddesses or gods to highlight their connection to the underworld.
The Chthonian aspect of Scorpio not only informs his scientific inquiry into life's puzzles - his fundamental need for proof - but it also underscores his hallmark self-indulgence: the internal experiences of Scorpio are what he values most.
In the fixed-water sign of Scorpio, the assertive energy of Mars is firmly established in every area that the feminine aspect of water implies - feelings, the subconscious mind, intuition, and mystery. With fiery Mars honing in on the underground level, it creates a hidden, aggressive personalityâand one that could be potentially explosive.
It also directly points to Pluto, the signâs secondary ruler. Named after the Roman god of the underworld or the Greek god Hades, this planet governs the hidden Chtonian forces on both macrocosmic and microcosmic scales. Pluto is linked to the regenerative powers in the universe, including cell growth and root functions in nature. The 8th House of Scorpio also oversees growth through elimination, similar to how a plant sheds its leaves to focus energy on its roots, where new growth may arise - Scorpio, being an autumn sign, aligns with these events. Pluto operates similarly to Mars, but on a subterranean level.
Mars, while often seen as a symbol of war in mythology, serves as the main source of life in the zodiac system, suggesting that existence is a battle for survival. Similarly, Pluto, representing death in mythology, is linked to the renewal of life in astrology. The Scorpio man appears to accept this contradictory perspective, as he navigates life by embracing darkness as a path to transcendence.
He considers positive thinking to be naive nonsense, crushing optimistic views beneath his feet and viewing life through a lens of pessimism and nihilism, believing that starting from this point, things can only improve.
He sees optimistic people as those who get caught up in superficial hobbies and social distractions instead of facing their deeper issues, especially fears, failures, and feelings of self-loathing. He thinks that being overly positive can actually blind someone to reality, leading to a dark and unhappy life.
Scorpio tends to dwell on the hidden, darker aspects of life, frequently indulging in negativity as a way to draw positivity into his life.
His signâs motto is "I desire," which refers not just to simple wants or wishes, but to deeper, often darker, hidden longings that can be intimidating, if not terrifying, to confront. According to the Scorpion perspective, living in quiet desperation stems directly from failing to acknowledge oneâs genuine desires or confronting suppressed psychological problems.
However, living such a committed life comes with its costs. It demands that one eliminate all distractions, which is precisely what Scorpio achieves through his seemingly antisocial actions. Yet, by doing this, he risks turning into an empty void - a destiny from which he can never completely break free.
He perceives his entire life as a lonely expedition into the depths of his own mind, while also serving as a quest, often in ritualistic ways, to uncover lifeâs profound mysteries. This is why many Scorpios turn to organized religion or strict philosophical beliefs - they think that by committing to a rigid, formal framework, they might find a way to escape the depths of despair they feel they were born into. In essence, they hope their chosen beliefs will absorb their negative karma.
The Scorpio sign is linked to the age range of 49-56, a period when individuals may begin to sense the initial chill of life's autumn. For men in particular, this phase often leads to deep introspection, as they are no longer preoccupied with family responsibilities or career ambitions. This is frequently a time when many men experience divorce, enter into new marriages, or chase after dreams and aspirations that they had previously set aside. It can be a challenging time, filled with feelings of disillusionment; individuals search for genuine meaning and, consequently, seek redemption for time or energy that feels wasted. In many ways, the Scorpio man embodies this fiftysomething persona throughout his life.
Scorpio sees himself as entering a cursed reality, frequently feeling doomed to a youth where he was emotionally alienated, if not treated like a complete outcast. The affection from a mother is especially deficient for the Scorpio, who is generally born during a challenging phase in his parents' marriage or when the family is dealing with struggles or, in extreme cases, even death.
As a small child, he could be perceived as a nuisance rather than cherished as a joy. Thus, he feels flawed; at the same time, he may embody the traits that others have imposed on him, evolving into a "living terror" for his family and a source of distress for other children, often engaging in psychological bullying rather than physical.
The journey from rejection to redemption will be long and challenging, especially for those who interact with Scorpio during his childhood and young adulthood. However, the good thing is that he grows more compassionate as he matures, learning to let go of the hurt he faced in his formative years.
The expression, "children can be so cruel," was probably first used in reference to a Scorpio boy, whose well-known devilish behavior twists the noble might-is-right principle of boyhood, as seen in the Leo boy-king, into a harsh Lord of the Flies survival of the fittest attitude, where the weak must be eradicated.
Unsurprisingly, he struggles to make friends, often facing the anger of nicer kids who might, if necessary, still push him aside. Naturally, his bullying of others is merely a misguided response to how he is treated at home, particularly by his older siblings, who often regard him as invisible, while his indifferent parents provide minimal or no emotional support.
He might create small groups with other bullies, staying on the outskirts of child society, targeting any so-called weaklings who come his way. As he matures and leaves this behavior behind, having made little to no close connections, Scorpio will withdraw into an increasingly isolated life.
His masculine planet Mars pushes him into an early puberty: All of a sudden, heâs the boy in the back of the classroom, drawing battle scenes and developing facial hair, much to the disapproval of his still youthful classmates who canât help but call him "weird." Heâs eleven, he enjoys playing with G.I. Joes, yet heâs almost entirely covered in pubic hair - itâs not an appealing sight. At least not to his peers.
Older girls notice what his classmates miss. Even the occasional female teacher will look at him with desire. Scorpiosâ mature appearance often attracts seduction at a young age, with some approaches coming from older boys or men. In any case, early sexual behavior appears to be standard for the Scorpio male, simultaneously bringing forth hidden desires while fostering feelings of shame, if not guilt. This self-hatred only intensifies Scorpioâs sting.
Among all the male zodiac signs, Scorpio stands out as the one most prone to showing a sadistic side. While he often displays a confrontational attitude towards other men, he can also be harsh towards women he doesn't find appealing, playfully teasing them with a hint of negative attention, all the while exuding a confident sexual vibe towards those he is attracted to.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied to Rising signs as well:
Scorpio is not very open about his sexual experiences, which may be surprisingly limited. Yet, he radiates a powerful sexual aura; his presence is charged with eroticism. This might stem from being objectified and sexualized at such a young age.
Having experienced emotional mistreatment or feeling like an outcast during his childhood, he becomes somewhat numb to the painful sides of human interaction by the time he reaches adulthood.
Scorpio discovers that his "loner" routine is effective, particularly in drawing in women who perceive him as "hurt" or "deep," which are usually accurate assessments.
Not shy in any way, he is a strongly present figure when engaged in a face-to-face interaction, while still keeping as much space as politeness allows.
He creates quick and clear connections, making sure to recognize the important people, attending social events only when necessary, and slipping in and out of gatherings mostly unnoticed.
His torso is usually slim but wide, much like a cobra, with his oblique and lateral muscles tapering down to a typically narrow waist. He often has the lowest body fat percentage of any guy in the zodiac, possibly only matched by Aries, with whom he shares the rulership of Mars.
His torso can appear really long, with his lower stomach extending endlessly towards a pelvis that juts out.
He usually stands taller than the average man, yet his movements are light and graceful, rather than clumsy.
He moves silently, a reference to his connection with Hades and his cloak of invisibility; at times, he appears to materialize from nowhere.
Many Scorpio men have a dark complexion, which complements their characteristic brooding nature. However, some are quite pale and ghostly, frequently sporting icy white hair, giving them a vampiric appearance that is even more striking compared to their darker-skinned counterparts.
He frequently deals with the challenges of combination skin, which means his characteristic shine is due to a damp complexion that can also be dry, flaky, and, frankly, chalky at times.
As Mars is his co-ruler and is connected to outward and excretory functions in the body, Scorpios can be quite sweaty, and they may also have a hairy and greasy appearance.
His hair is typically coarse, wiry, or similar to pubic hair. It usually extends down to an unusually low hairline. Occasionally, a Scorpio may have hair that is unusually thin, even wispy.
Like a snake, his facial features are all squished together at the top of his face, his distinctive wide-set eyes bulging and perpetually half-closed, hinting at his 8th house's link to sleep, frequently crowned with a serious unibrow.
He usually has thin, lizard-like lips.Â
Despite the trouble he can cause in his younger years, adult Scorpio still finds a hidden excitement in teasing others. Due to his inquisitive astrological traits, he enjoys throwing sharp remarks at male friends or coworkers, while keeping a similar, yet more subtle, jab for women.
He takes great pleasure in riding the more ditzy women around him, casually mocking what he views as bimbo-like colleagues or acquaintances, though he does so in such a subtle way that it goes unnoticed. He enjoys watching his jabs and insults fly right over the heads of oblivious targets.
Playing mind games is among his favorite activities.
He is always looking for friends and partners who won't let any of his insults, often masked as jokes, affect them.
Those who successfully navigate Scorpio's dual challenge of intellect and patience gain access to his inner circle, no longer subjected to his teasing remarks.
Contrary to the common belief in astrology that Scorpios are merely promiscuous or overly sexual, they are actually among the most selective males in the zodiac. Therefore, in his secret pursuit of the ideal beauty to reveal his true nature, he acts as the ultimate undercover agent.
Scorpio men are not the carefree types; instead, they are mysterious individuals with secret motives and the appropriate style to go along with it. Many Scorpio men dress like spies, sporting trench coats, turtlenecks, and dark sunglasses, with their manhood often visibly outlined in tight, fitted trousers, and their notoriously high-water booty filling out any material in the back.
Scorpio doesnât rule the sex organs for nothing: This boy tends to be healthier than most in this area; his penis is typically thick, impressively long, and prominently veined, much like his limbs, especially his snake-like forearms.
In any situation he encounters, whether sexual or not, he cannot help but seem intrusive, if not aggressive, resembling a relentless reporter or detective initiating an investigation.
Every comment he makes feels a bit sharp, almost like it's meant to probe deeper into the thoughts of the person he's speaking to, assessing their responses as he looks for weaknesses in their defenses.
Appropriately, he doesn't shy away from making crude remarks or employing vulgar humor to elicit reactions or discomfort.Â
He is always digging for the truth, seeking the genuine narrative behind the countless subtly desperate smiles. His ongoing exploration of people's minds is not a futile endeavor; instead, it has a clear aim: to quote a brilliantly enigmatic Scorpion songwriter, Neil Young, he is an eternal "miner for a heart of gold."Â
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Scorpio Man Interested in Women:
When it comes to women, particularly, he tends to be attracted to someone who can break down his defenses, a genuine beauty who does not acknowledge any brutish aspects of his personality. This kind of down-to-earth character is what softens Scorpioâs icy heart and plays a much greater role in sparking his romantic interest than any surplus of feminine beauty.
He's quite hesitant to open up emotionally, so he takes his time observing potential partners until he's sure that a woman has the inner beauty that matches the bright, cheerful appearance and personality that he, ironically, is drawn to.
Focusing all his attention on his partner, he aims to be her everything, which leads to a secluded way of life.
During their teenage years, while other boys were eagerly trying to tarnish their innocence in any way possible, the Scorpio was focused on mending the "harm" he had experienced both at home and/or from his early sexual encounters.
Compared to others, he lives inside out, not so much seeking to make his mark, but to erase the marks he feels have unfortunately been left on him.Â
 Ricky Fitts, a character from the movie American Beauty, embodies the true essence of a Scorpion. He stands apart from society, looking down on its shallow antics, while struggling with a lack of affection at home. He focuses his energy on the intricate art of filmmaking, which often feels like an invasion of others' privacy. Among all the footage he has seen, the moment that he finds most beautiful is a long shot of a plastic bag dancing in the wind - a representation of nature transformed into art.
This is the Scorpion view in a nutshell: Life and art should be about nature revealing its beauty secrets, as well as its uglier aspects, not the imposition of human ideas onto nature.Â
Scorpios have a similar perspective on love; it shouldn't be pursued with a fixed idea of perfection in mind, but instead, it should unfold quietly, as one observes and waits.
 This represents the exact dynamic of the Hades myth: alone in his shadowy realm, this melancholic god sought the perfect companion; then, with a single decisive action, he took the lively Kore-Persephone from her hilltop, setting her on the throne he had prepared.
The fairy tale of Beauty and the Beast picks up from there, with Belle, who chooses to be a captive. Her love saves the hairy beast, leading to his transformation into a handsome prince thanks to her affection. Similarly, a Scorpio man's love life tends to follow these exact patterns, whether positively or negatively.
Feeling trapped in shame and loneliness, a lot of Scorpio men find themselves acting out in harmful ways during their youth - experiencing various forms of addiction or compulsion from an early age, be it drugs, sex, food, rage, or marathon games of Dungeons & Dragons.
Just out of his teenage years or early twenties, he might believe he has already faced the lowest points of human despair. Therefore, similar to anyone who is "in recovery," Scorpio intensely concentrates on his own self-preservation, frequently becoming so entirely self-centered that he continues to isolate himself from others.
Being labeled as "a bad seed" has its advantages, he finds, as it arouses the interest of women who seek nothing from him but sex, giving him a carefree escape while he looks for his own innocent and unsuspecting Kore, a name that implies true worth. Engaging in this kind of almost anonymous sexual encounters mistakenly earns him a reputation as a predator or heartless villain - in reality, this couldn't be more inaccurate. The truth is simple: Until Scorpio finds "the one," he believes he cannot let himself be sidetracked by flawed relationships, fearing he might miss out on the genuine connection when it finally appears.
He remains completely detached from these temporary sexual partners, often doing no more than unzipping and receiving oral service, all while appearing utterly composed. This self-serving "position" is very much a Scorpion trait, reflecting the notorious distance he maintains from others. It showcases his unique dual dynamic: being entirely dominant over those he doesn't care for, while yearning to shower affection on a true love. Yet, regardless of where he stands on this spectrum, Scorpio will inevitably assert his distinctive control.
On the one hand, he values an unblemished soul, where the genuine expression of femininity aligns with nature's intent rather than society's expectations. Generally, he enjoys lively, curvy, or even enticingly bottom-heavy, rural figures who are blissfully unaware of city sophistication or cynicism.
On the other hand, as sexist as it sounds, he feels that a straightforward, innocent girl from the countryside would be at risk of falling under his frequently controlling nature. After all, Taurus, his opposite sign, with its motto, "I have," is all about material possessions, while Scorpio, which has the alternative motto, "We have," leans towards emotional, if not spiritual, ownership.
Ultimately, he is the Serpent, a child of Hades, and his wicked nature is definitely not to be underestimated. The legendary ruler of the underworld didnât gently guide Kore-Persephone to his underground domain. He lunged and dragged her down, body and soul, in one calculated action.
On a subconscious level, Scorpio feels the need to trick that "innocent" woman into wanting him, a result of his past experiences where he was treated like a pariah.
He does this by behaving in a manner that is entirely different from his usual demeanor - treating her as if she is invaluable, being empathetic, and addressing all her requirements. At times, he becomes so much like the overly sensitive type that it can feel quite intense; thereâs a certain type of Scorpio man - although all of them display this behavior at some point - who becomes so in tune, even synchronized, with a woman that you might think this once macho man has morphed into a woman. This man will be preparing tofu, organizing crystals, and knitting tampon bags, all for the sake of his partner's comfort and happiness. Just as the Libra woman is seen as astrologyâs gay man in a womanâs body, the Scorpio man is the zodiacâs male lesbian.
In offering himself at his "lady's" feet, striving to meet her every desire and be her "everything," we catch a glimpse of Scorpio's ongoing secret motive: He wants the woman in his life to depend only on him.
Hades, known as Pluto in Roman mythology, which translates to "riches," attempted to make up for the abduction of Kore-Persephone by lavishing her with jewels and other treasures from the underworld. In fact, she transforms into a gem herself, feeling cold and alone in his underground realm. He is frequently called the narcotized god, as he, similar to the animal, the scorpion, creates a state of suspended animation that aligns with the 8th House's connections to both sleep and death.
To be honest, Scorpio craves a complete immersion in a relationship, so much so that he doesn't consider the chance that his partner might not feel the same way. Fixed water symbolizes deep emotions, and when Scorpio expresses his feelings, he often immobilizes his lover, making her a permanent part of his life, if not restricting her to a somewhat limiting role as his everything.
He expects his partner to be his bridge to the outside world and often to manage all the responsibilities - better known as the home, the kids, and all administrative tasks - in what will certainly develop into a more established relationship, enabling him to pursue his unique solo career interests even more deeply.
What, she might wonder, happened to the man who prepared homemade aromatherapy treatments for her cramps? Letâs not forget that the same Scorpion songwriter, Neil Young, penned the lyrics "a man needs a maid," which, in some way, inevitably turns into the Scorpion guyâs personal anthem.
The Scorpio man allows only the one he truly loves to see his profound vulnerability. The intimidating man that others see is actually yearning for some cuddles; heâs starved for love and needs a touch of motherly affection mixed with adoration from his partner.
Within a real love relationship, he begins to reveal his feelings as well, a challenging experience for him because he was taught not to do so when he was younger.
In defense of Scorpio, he understands that life with him can be challenging, and he often feels the need to apologize to his partner each morning before she faces the difficulties ahead. At times, this struggle can be quite severe, as, similar to Persephone, Scorpioâs partner is frequently taken away from her familiar environment and moved to unfamiliar places.
Being inclined to melancholy, he can only do so much to improve her life, and in any case, she typically wonât see him often. A dedicated workaholic, Scorpio starts his day at dawn and wraps it up late, rarely taking breaks for regular meals.
A relationship with a Scorpio is primarily unspoken, relying on trust and usually lacking in frequent conversation or excessive overthinking.Â
Sex is a crucial element in enhancing a relationship with Scorpio. Indeed, what frequently occurs in bed with Scorpio is too inappropriate to mention in public. He may choose to separate the vibrant, attractive figure he wakes up next to from the sultry woman (typically of his own design) he spent the night with.
Being intimate with a Scorpio man who is in love can be quite sentimental. When he is with the woman he adores, he immerses himself completely, enjoying every part of her body, feeling no hesitation, and wanting to explore every avenue of pleasure.
He will start by sharing with his partner his lighter sexual pleasures, such as anal sex, which usually focuses on her backside. And then, a bit of bondage will typically make its way into the Scorpio's bedroom, initially as a spontaneous idea; however, like many other turn-ons he quietly introduces, it soon becomes a regular feature in their activities.
Being in a relationship with a Scorpio, both inside and outside the bedroom, can feel like being possessed. Over time, he may unintentionally cut off his partner from many social interactions, while simultaneously filling her schedule with his own needs. He also (re)programs her sexually, gradually getting her used to his desires. He wishes for her to genuinely want them, but whether she actually does is always up for discussion.
With Hades, Kore, the spring goddess, transforms into Persephone, the queen of the underworld, a female replica of her controlling husband. At least she enjoys six months of freedom for good behavior, which is more than can be said for Scorpio's bride.
Echoing the distinctive orbit of his planetary ruler, Pluto, the Scorpio man guides a woman on an unconventional adventure into the depths of sexual desire - revealing her profound, hidden cravings - as a way to attain the heights of ecstasy and, in fact, self-discovery.
Sex with him is no quick endeavor. In fact, he appears to have learned well from the teachings of his earlier, more seasoned partners. Scorpio completely dominates the experience, playing with his partnerâs emotions from the very beginning; by heightening her expectations, he creates an atmosphere of suspense that leaves her squirming with eagerness and impatience.
He enjoys having his partner lie completely still as he gently caresses and kisses her. He might even stay fully dressed, intentionally putting his partner in a vulnerable position, using his famously large, long fingers to explore and pinch, gliding his teasing fingers along her body.
In the mind of a Scorpio, using restraints or blindfolds can enhance the focus on pure sensation and amplify the feeling of having complete control.Â
The rise of sexual excitement to a heightened climax holds greater importance for Scorpios than the act of release itself. Even after he has set his dick free, he may make his woman beg for it, rubbing it against her face, breasts, or vagina, teasing and 'torturing' her with the tip.
He is usually well-endowed and has considerable stamina; if anything, he takes too long to reach climax.
He likes to go deep, often only being able to finish when heâs bottomed out.Â
Although he is rarely aggressive in bed - his movements are as smooth as his snake-like connection implies - there is a significant psychological aspect to his intimate relationships.
All feelings, such as love, tend to feel like obsession for him. He expects his partner to exhibit that level of intensity as well.
At times, due to his more indulgent desires, Scorpio understands that his partner will never be willing to engage in certain activities, nor does he expect or desire her to. Some bondage, role-playing, or a few toys are acceptable, but his intense cravings often go beyond that, and he wisely keeps them separate from the typical bedroom experience. These interests might show up in a hidden collection of adult films or through online interactions where he can delve into hands-off scenarios of master and servant.
 If he is attracted to more intricate "scenes," which may even call for a leather outfit or whips and chains, he might be wiser to stay single. He understands this: Not one to live a double life, the Scorpio man finds it almost impossible to conceal something as intense as an S&M lifestyle from someone he cares about. In these situations, he may deliberately choose to avoid the cheerful, bright women he feels a romantic bond with and instead seek out a woman of the night who shares his fetishistic interests.
In such extreme circumstances, Scorpio's desire for control grows even stronger, and he certainly takes the lead in this drama of psychological sexual games, which may involve dominating willing women in a dungeon he has created or at late-night clubs that offer such venues for sexual transactions.
Acts of degradation and humiliation directed toward self-declared submissives are radical examples of his need for psychological worship and utter obedience to his powerful will.Â
Despite his fantasies of dominance or, in fact, as a perverse consequence of them, heterosexual Scorpios, who are born into such a strong feminine sign, place women on a pedestal. This means he can recognize attraction between two women, whether theyâre gay or straight, but he canât quite make the connection when it comes to his own sex.
Scorpio Man Interested in Men:
In true Scorpion style, a queer Scorpio embraces his queer feelings completely, not really coming out of the closet but rather never stepping into it at all. He also experiences the same sexual allure during his teenage years as his straight peers, showcasing his full dedication to his sexual identity.
When it comes to men, he is interested in those who have wealth and power that match his own, and he is willing to be entirely consumed by a bond that is intense both psychologically and sexually.
The Scorpio guy, who identifies as queer, usually hangs out with strong female friends. It's pretty rare for him to connect with other gay male friends, and he often steers clear of spending time with a group of them. Instead, heâs more inclined to have a few straight male friends, which happens quite frequently.
The Gay Scorpio generally tends to be a bit more of a recluse when compared to his straight brother. It seems he enjoys taking in the world from a distance instead of diving right into it.
He, similar to heterosexual men of his zodiac sign, enjoys working independently. A remote corner office probably won't cut it for him; he craves total solitude. He tends to be drawn to careers that require isolation, like being a scientist, cartoonist, designer, architect, or even a superhero. For a Scorpio, having a private workspace is essential as it provides a haven for comfort, renewal, and creative expression.
He needs to be by himself to work properly, but many people don't seem to understand this and try to make small talk with him. It looks like heâs looking right through people, almost like theyâre not there, and it seems he has no time to give to anyone other than himself.
One reason for his success is that he doesn't feel pressured to always impress or make a huge impact, despite his ambition. Rather than chasing publicity or networking to accelerate his success, he tends to steer clear of those activities. He has faith in his ability to succeed and doesn't feel the need to rush or get flustered.
So donât forget, if a Scorpio seems to be shutting you out, itâs not meant to be taken personally - and this is especially relevant for gay Scorpios.
He doesnât casually date. Heâs holding out for the real thing.
When he was younger, he sought the company of a refined man with whom he could bond on all levels. While other guys his age were busy hitting bars and dating, the Scorpio preferred to spend time at his mentorâs place, absorbing knowledge about the more exquisite aspects of life. Their relationship often carried sexual implications, with the Scorpio adopting a more submissive stance towards his mentor, who played the role of a dominant figure. In certain situations, this dynamic could even result in the Scorpio being groomed as a submissive to a highly dominant master.
This trait is somewhat ingrained in Scorpio's essence, illustrating a representation of the submissive role that Scorpio could have been attracted to in their youth. Frequently, Scorpios will eventually free themselves from the hold of this friend or sexual mentor and focus on independently achieving their goals.
If he's single, a Scorpio may have a small group of friends with benefits who share his non-emotional, no-strings-attached approach to sex. Even though Scorpio is a deeply emotional person, he can't connect emotionally to purely sexual experiences.
When this takes place, he consistently takes the lead and delights in the act of oral pleasure before bending his friend over. Maintaining emotional detachment is key, and he showcases his physical dominance by wearing a cock ring to strengthen this image.
His ties to those people probably won't be disclosed to anyone else. To the people he engages with throughout the day, Scorpio's private life remains an absolute enigma.
Many queer Scorpios are confident in their own sexuality, but they often choose to remain silent about it to maintain an air of mystery. If someone dares to bring up the subject, they might find themselves excluded by the Scorpio, freezing them out of social circles. Some people may label the Scorpio as a sexual anomaly, dismissing or misunderstanding them. Then, unexpectedly, it could be revealed that the enigmatic Scorpio, who has kept their preferences hidden for years, is in a relationship with a wealthy and well-known man, often someone linked to their own professional field.
Many people might wonder how such a secluded guy ever ended up meeting someone so influential. But if we think about it in a typical Scorpion way, the question itself is the answer. By patiently waiting and not being tied down by other distractions, Scorpio has made himself available to seize the 'perfect' opportunity when it comes along.
However, we can also explain it in simpler terms: Scorpio's aloofness creates an air of self-importance, and by focusing on his career, he starts receiving attractive social invitations that he finally decides to accept. All he needs is to be introduced to a successful and appealing individual, and before you know it, they are starting a life together.
He is most at home with people who are wealthy and influential, as indicated by his patron's name, Pluto, which means 'riches'. To Scorpio, money is very significant because it represents power. Furthermore, the 8th House denotes both sex and, importantly, the finances of others, which are closely connected in Scorpio's intense thoughts. When he comes across a powerful individual, Mr. Aloof experiences a sudden shift, enchanting them with his compelling yet intense gaze.
He wants to see the same level of self-assuredness reflected in the eyes of this bigwig. Unlike his heterosexual counterpart, a queer Scorpio isn't a fan of vulnerability. What he seeks in a man's eyes is confidence, conviction, and courage, and maybe a hint of commanding charm.
Having a combination of sex, money, and common career goals is exactly what he's looking for in a relationship. It might seem superficial at first, but it's not as shallow as it sounds. Due to his intense focus on his career, he doesn't have much time for a deep emotional connection, so finding someone who shares his professional interests just makes sense for him.
Similar to his straight counterpart, he wants to share everything with his partner. In terms of romantic commitments, Scorpio can be the most selective gay man in the astrological realm. Sexually, he and his lover will aim to satisfy all of each otherâs desires.Â
In casual encounters, Scorpio often plays the dominant role, but in love relationships, their submissive side can also surface without completely overshadowing their dominant needs. The bedroom activities can vary from night to night, and anything from the naughty to the beautiful is possible.
Sure, he has a touch of a rebellious nature, which doesn't prevent him from diving into some unusual experiments, but he only does things to his partner that he would feel comfortable having them do to him.
For him, group sex isn't usually on the table, and he wouldn't even think about including a third person unless it was a relaxed situation where that person is more like a paid companion, catering to both him and his partner. They seem to view the third person as a mutual source of pleasure, much like two vampires eagerly savoring their meal from different angles.Â
Ultimately, in matters of love and sex, the Scorpio attitude is focused on sharing and ensuring that everyone is treated fairly.
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
Masterlist
Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
Aries is ruled by the fiery planet Mars, which represents the objective or Masculine Principle in astrology. As a result, the Aries personality is recognized for its energy, assertiveness, and goal-oriented nature - qualities that are commonly associated with 'masculine' output power, unlike the passive, subjective, and receptive input energy often regarded as 'feminine'.
For the Aries woman, life is all about choosing the simplest path. She's a real minimalist, avoiding any extra obstacles, responsibilities, drama, or complicated emotional ties in her life.
As a woman born under such a dominant male sign, the Aries woman embodies masculinity in a feminine way. It's no wonder that those who know her would surely agree that she is the least "girly" girl you could ever come across.
The first sign of astrology is associated with birth, not only personally - Aries rules the ages 0-7 - but also on a larger human level, signifying the start of all existence. One might argue that Aries embodies astrology's interpretation of Genesis, or even the Big Bang theory: Fittingly, Aries is the sole cardinal-fire sign in the zodiac, seen as a starting flame, spark, or flashpoint.
She is the least submissive character in the zodiac, one who takes herself most seriously. She is incredibly guarded and doesnât impress easily. Rather, she is fully focused on her own objectives and the assertion of her infamous strategies, which sheâs forever plotting and enacting to her sole satisfaction.
Athena, the ancient goddess representing war and wisdom, along with Lilith, who was once Adam's first wife, serve as her most appropriate archetypes.
Similar to these two ancient tough cookies, who embody both the noble ideal of female power and wisdom and the negative, demonized perspective of such strength, the Aries woman is a remarkable being who presents a challenge to the male-dominated world. As the inheritor of such imposing female force, she is not one to be taken lightly.Â
While her male counterpart, who embodies the masculine energy of his sign, can effortlessly express his true self without hesitation, the female of the sign struggles to establish and maintain her identity in a society that has only recently begun, and still only in select Western areas, to grant women the same rights and privileges as men.
Aries women cannot just charge through life like the Ram man can, nor would they want to. Instead, by keeping a healthy distance from situations and people, she gives herself the right perspective to plan her achievements.
Similar to the biblical Lilith, the Aries woman doesnât fit into the traditional patriarchal definition of femininity. For instance, Lilith wanted to be in charge and wouldnât let Adam take on that dominant role, which led her to leave and choose a life near the Red Sea (or the Ocean of Blood, a substance which is under the influence of Ariesâs planetary rule).
In taking from this archetypal example, Aries women likewise seek to establish their own space away from male authority, denying the stereotype of women as submissive figures. They choose to trust in their own instincts and insights.
Her unique preference for isolation isn't just about wanting to be alone; rather, she avoids the company of other women because she sees herself as distinct and desires to be seen that way too, without inviting comparisons. It's not so much that she claims to be unlike other girls, but more that she believes there is truly no one else quite like her.
No woman is as fiercely or obsessively competitive as an Aries. They are always looking to outdo those around them. Plus, they can be incredibly ruthless while achieving their goals.Â
With the Aries woman, thereâs no irony in her straightforward way of living; sheâs not one to make fun of herself. While self-deprecating humor can be charming in others, itâs completely off the table for her. This leads her to maintain a constant guard. Though she can be tactful - since Athena embodies diplomacy - the Aries woman doesnât allow herself any humility, as she sees it as a vulnerability that could lead to humiliation.
While the male god of war, Ares-Mars, is always on the offensive, Aries women are extremely defensive. They maintain a safe distance, drawing fire from others and showing the world valuable lessons in self-protection, if not personal development. The overriding goal of the Aries female is deeply entrenched in her own self-interest.
The 1st House of the zodiac, governed by Aries, represents a worldly perspective along with a sense of individuality, selfhood, and self-interest. These traits are especially significant for women born under this sign. In contrast to many people who flourish through connections with others, Aries individuals navigate life through strong independence, often leaning towards isolation.
Under the influence of Mars, the masculine attributesâboth psychological and physiologicalâare clearly reflected in her character, appearing as the classic tomboy long before she begins her transition into womanhood. From her earliest memories, itâs other women, not men, who seem to her as the âother.â Yet, after reaching sexual maturity, Aries struggles to connect with the boys, and she still doesnât fully bond with other young women either.
Aries women are typically good-looking and confident in the extreme; they appear to be aloof loners rather than social outcasts. Wholly individual, their presence makes others feel like sheep.Â
Sheâs often called a "feminist" from a young age, yet the truth is that political aim is far from her thoughts: Aries has no agenda besides her own.
Yet, she quickly discovers that her nonchalant attitude works wonders in making guys fall to their knees: While the other "Eves" are busy giggling from the sidelines, it's she who catches the boys' attention. Without even trying, she gives off an air of being out of reach, which only drives men to pursue her more passionately.
The energetic Ram dude, charging headfirst into every aspect of life, including romantic relationships, represents his fiery ambitions, making him a force to be reckoned with. On the other hand, the Aries woman is known for her calm demeanor, inspiring those around her to take action.
Ares dives headfirst into the chaos of battle, but Athena stands as a strategist, representing the goddess of "prudent war" and, as her role as the patron of craftsmanship suggests, the art of war.
This is the essence of the Aries woman: She not only goes after her goals and ambitions, she draws them out. She makes others eager to give her success because being widely recognized as unattainable is believed to be the same as being desirable.
Itâs the same story with sex: She ignites interest in potential partners by being confidently laid-back and surprisingly easy to approach, more one of the guys than any other girl. Sheâs brilliant at making herself seem like a coveted prize for those men trying to win her love, which usually isnât something she gives away freely.
Seeing herself as one of a kind, she radiates an aura of superiority that captivates only the most fervent admirers, dismissing any weaklings or wannabes. In the process, she generates disdain among other women, whose feminine styles and societal pleasantries she finds to be quite foolish.
The connection between Aries women and the ages of 0-7 is really significant. The Mars glyph, even though it looks like male genitalia and is found in men's restrooms globally, can actually be seen as a symbol of birth, with the body (the arrow of matter) coming out of the womb (the divine circle). For Aries men, the focus is on the process of being born, which brings about lifelong challenges related to a sense of entitled birthright. On the other hand, for Aries women, itâs the feminine side of the glyph - the womb-like circle - that resonates with her unique human experience: She views life as a creator, often opting to live in a secluded little bubble, nurturing her ideas into existence in the world.
The Aires woman is famous for her creative and skillful way of working, frequently opting to work alone in a quiet environment, at her own pace, and sharing her art with minimal social interaction.
A lot of Aries women are hands-on in the fine arts, particularly when it comes to designing and making ceramics, textiles, and similar items. Additionally, her signature creations often take the form of literature, with words of wisdom falling under Athenaâs realm of diplomacy. There are not many in the zodiac who are as sharp-witted as she is, and writingâwhether itâs creative, philosophical, journalistic, academic, or psychologicalâfrequently serves as her ideal form of expression. To her, the pen holds more power than the sword.
No matter what the task is, one thing is certain: an Aries woman keeps a healthy distance and remains objective about her work, seldom getting caught up or lost in her ambitions. She's a true realist, fully aware of her capabilities, even with a strong ego, as she is ruled by the 1st house.
Aries approaches life like a warrior, rarely feeling intimidated - she might be impatient, sure - but she doesn't let mockery or criticism get her down, viewing them as insignificant opponents she plans to outsmart.
Athena embodies the daughter figure in both myth and literature, as well as in astrology. Similar to Ares, the first son of the Olympian gods, she is the foremost female child of Zeus and enjoys the same privileges throughout her life as the male deities, never needing to marry or wear an off-the-shoulder gown. An Aries woman is quite similar; she often feels either adored or isolated, bracing herself for any potential challenges; sheâs like a child who has just figured out the power of saying "no," which becomes her usual response to any demands made of her.Â
A significant marker of Aries's connection with the ages 0-7 is the Ram female's fierce spirit - she is the eternal "terrible" two-year-old: When she wants something, she simply won't back down from getting it, and she's not shy about throwing a massive fit if she doesn't get her way. To see an Aries woman's cardinal-fire enthusiasm in action, all you need to do is stand in the path of her ambitions, and at that moment, all her Athenian tact will disappear - she'll go to war to secure her goals or plans.
For an Aries, every social interaction feels fresh and exciting, much like a child who is just starting to grasp how to interact with others. Her life is truly a path of discovering how to share, work together, and follow the rules. To be honest, she can be quite self-centered, believing that since she requires so little, she is entitled to take whatever she can findâwhether itâs possessions, chances, influence, or relationships. Additionally, similar to a young child who feels jealous when another kid picks up their neglected toys, she often desires things simply because she canât have them.
Aside from her famous outbursts, Aries is generally pretty aloof. She appears to experience feelings mainly when they relate to her, frequently displaying minimal empathy for those around her. Her stare is as piercing as that of her ruling grey-eyed goddess. She doesnât merely want; she demands, mainly attention - and the freedom to assert her equally powerful will.
Just as Athena burst forth from the head of Zeus, Aries is similarly connected to her father. She represents a feminine version of him, staying true to her archetype as the brainchild of her dad.
Typically, Aries views her dad as a self-sufficient, independent man who has complete authority and freedom in his family life. She thinks, "This is what I want." In this way, Aries's father's lifestyle, mindset, and often his career choices are where she uncovers her personal and/or professional identity.
Although nurturing may seem excessive and somewhat disempowering for the Aries boy, the laid-back style of the Aries girlâs mother creates a base of independence that begins to manifest even prior to toddler years. Although Aries doesnât genuinely harbor any dislike for her mother, she feels a sense of pity for her, believing that she has sacrificed her own dreams and aspirations for the benefit of her husband - a scenario that the Aries girl is determined to steer clear of.
After all, Athena did have a mother, metis (goddess of prudence), whom it was prophesied would bear Zeus a male child to overthrow him, just as Zeus (Jupiter) had overthrown his father, Cronus (Saturn), who had likewise slain his father, Uranus. But Zeus swallowed Metis in the form of a fly to keep the prophecy from being realized.Â
And Aries girl, too, feels her father âswallowedâ up her mother via marriage, but she doesnât rebel against her father. He is, after all, her biggest fan: Like Athena, who is Zeusâ favorite child.Â
The Aries girl may be the son her father never had, even when he does have boys.Â
Often, she comes from a sizable family with numerous brothers, in which her mother is frequently burdened, particularly by the males in her life - a sort of personal patriarchy.
Given how she perceives her parents' relationship, the Aries woman equates femininity with vulnerability and identifies strength with the masculine role of her father. Still, she is hesitant to enter a relationship with someone whose strong instincts might infringe upon her need for autonomy and her identity, which is quite fragile.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied Rising signs as well:
The Aries woman is a fierce spirit who exemplifies what a woman can accomplish on her own, overcoming societal barriers. She is a leader, a representation of power, autonomy, and liberation.
Considering the remarkable black Aries women, it's hard not to be impressed. Think of the incredible singers like Bessie Smith, Pearl Bailey, Aretha Franklin, Sarah Vaughan, Billie Holiday, and Diana Ross. These trailblazing artists are a testament to the strength of the Aries spirit.
This is a fearless crew for sure, highlighted by a remarkable list of Aries actresses - Gloria Swanson, Bette Davis, Joan Crawford, Sarah Jessica Parker, Julie Christie, Emma Thompson, Simone Signoret, Jessica Lange, Robin Wright Penn, Reese Witherspoon, Natasha McElhone, and Lucy Lawless - none of whom, in their lives or on film, could ever convincingly take on the role of a damsel in distress.
In the zodiac, she is the most ascetic female, notably rejecting the feminine accessories that most women would find essential.
When you come across a tall, effortlessly beautiful woman surrounded by men, possibly sipping straight drinks and swearing like a sailor, she's likely an Aries.
Being an Aries is a state of mind: Similar to a fervent but detached character from a Hemingway story, she effortlessly moves through clearly male-dominated spaces, socializing with friends who could easily double as lovers.
To the guys, she comes off as refreshingly unique, a woman who interacts with men and embraces them just as they are - even a self-proclaimed bachelor feels he can be his most relaxed self, knowing he doesnât have to change how he acts around her. She fits right in with the boys, and her wardrobe reflects that.
While she mostly wears jeans and a T-shirt, sheâs one of those women who looks good in just about anything. Of course, she can also wear a stylish and elegant dress and look incredibly feminine.
Her appeal for butch aesthetics adds to her allure, creating a bold contrast with her gentle, lamb-like features. Yet, there's also the 'dark Aries' archetype - a stronger version, characterized by bright, piercing eyes and a raw, almost cave-woman-like vibe.
Aries tends to be taller, slimmer, and have a lighter complexion compared to the rest of her family, no matter their race.
Her hair, which is usually lighter, tends to be fine, dry, and straight; she often wears it long and unstyled or selects a simple, blunt cut or bob.
Yet, itâs this womanâs face, governed by the Aries sign, that captures attention the most: With a notably sculptural bone structure, her face appears wide and flat - itâs not primarily her cheekbones that define her, but the layout of her other features - her round eyes with notoriously bushy brows, a small straight nose, and a mouth situated low on her face, all lending her a childlike beauty that lasts a lifetime.
 Her lips are quite the paradox, full on the bottom yet thin on top; at times, it almost looks like she doesn't have an upper lip whatsoever.
She has a prominent forehead that adds to her wise and noble demeanor.
Her skin usually looks perfect and has a porcelain qualityâtypically free of freckles or beauty spots.
Beneath relatively chipmunky cheeks, Ariesâs jaw is prominent and may even jut forward a bit. She often experiences a lot of tension in this area, and it can become a trouble spot, a place she holds all her stress.Â
Her neck may also have a clenched, slightly strained look to it.Â
She generally has strikingly cool eyes, frequently a light, steely gray or hazel, bordered by a lovely assortment of expressive wrinkles, which can swiftly become crowâs-feet if sheâs not careful, along with a quirky arrangement of small white teeth, shining in a distinctly gummy grin.
Her back and shoulders are strong and straight, her head held high, exhibiting perfect posture that pitches slightly forward, her arms thin and muscular.Â
She typically doesn't have large breasts, but on the rare occasion that she does, they are firm like they're made of muscle - in both situations, she has developed pectorals underneath.
She has a pretty straight figure, which can make her look a bit short-waisted; her hips are almost absent, and she has long legs with strong yet sleek thighs, which is great for being athletic.
Her joints tend to be quite loose, which, while it makes her appear flexible, can also result in a somewhat dangly, puppet-like look. This characteristic is emphasized by a prominent pelvic bone that projects forward, set against her thin, elongated thigh muscles, creating a U-turn space at the crotch - this is the second spot, after her face, that really catches the eye.
She tends to maintain a rather lush bush, opting for a more natural style.
There's no shortage of moisture here, thanks to Mars' centrifugal energy supplying all the delightful outpourings she requires. Just like those nipples, her clit can also get enlarged, possibly because Mars rules both the penis and the clitoris.
She moves with a bouncy step, a little clumsy at times, but never lacking in grace. Thereâs a playful hint of boyish energy that shines through her delicate, sometimes ethereal, feminine shape.
She tends to be pretty direct, a little cliquey, or even quite aggressive during initial encounters, sizing up people she doesn't recognize with a skeptical gaze, and she's not shy about it. She's quite possessive, often found in the company of men.
In a similar way to her concise speech, which maintains a calm and even tone without any emotional fluctuations, she lets out a flat laugh, holding her jaw tight and keeping her body poised and straight.
You can really feel the energy in this woman: She exudes health and appears ready to tackle any physical challenge that comes her way. If she were a tree, she'd be a mix of a willow and an oak - tall, airy, and delicate, yet still robust and strong.
She can be characterized as ruggedly feminine instead of ambiguously androgynous - a captivating beauty, equally appealing and sexually alluring to both men and women.
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Aries Woman Interested in Men:
Describing her as a "man's woman" really doesn't do her justice; she's actually much more comfortable and aligned with men than with women. She follows the same paths as men, engages in the same activities - no double standards, no questions asked.
 Aries is drawn to strong, offering the exciting and adventurous intimacy she desires. Yet, in her effort not to repeat her mother's mistakes, she prefers them to be the quiet type.Â
She isnât one to ever jump into marriage. She prefers to keep her options open.
In matters of sex, Aries is wholly candid, requiring no charm to draw out her passionate urges.
She seeks to satisfy her intense sexual cravings anytime, anywhere, and with anyone she likes. In fact, this bold attitude towards sex is a crucial element in shaping her identity.
To her, men are mostly viewed as sexual objects. She does not plan to fall in love - in reality, she frequently tries hard to avoid it.
The perfect man for her is also a tough individual who has few emotional requirements and a strong sex drive.
As a native of the 1st house of physicality, she cannot forgo sex - it must be an almost daily mainstay of her routine.Â
She often gets involved with older, more experienced guys when sheâs young, not wanting to be anyoneâs high school sweetheart. However, as she grows older, she starts to favor younger guys, who are eager to impress and can offer a good time in bed, but like her, they also donât want to settle down.
When the thrill of singlehood diminishes - for many Aries women, it never will - she will steer away from assertive characters, searching for men who can care for her while being sufficiently submissive to allow her to assert her own will.
She doesnât, like many women, have a mile-long checklist of requisite qualities in a man. For Aries, itâs a trade-off; given that she demands such absolute autonomy in relationships, she canât be that picky.Â
One tendency she sometimes slips into, though it may be unintentional, is to find herself in a relationship that substantiates all her skeptical views on the control men have over women. With her hands raised in defeat, as if to signal that thereâs no point in contesting this age-old battle of the sexes, she will withdraw even more into a solitary lifestyle filled with no-strings-attached sexual escapades.
For Aries, starting a relationship often feels like making a deal, where the agreement is that she will tolerate various flaws and shortcomings in exchange for complete freedom.
Often, she gets involved with a guy who doesnât seem quite "good enough" for her, especially to the long line of men who crave her unique style of detached affection, that chill, friendly connection she appears to offer.
The man she chooses may even be disabled, if not physically, then emotionally or psychologically.Â
Interestingly, while Aries men are often in search of total perfection in a potential partner, echoing the scandalous mythic romance between Ares and Aphrodite, Athena, who symbolizes the opposite of Ares, was greatly revered in temples that she shared with the same imperfect god; some scholars claim they were also sexual partners. Likewise, an Aries woman might build a home with a âlameâ character, whose flaws she unwittingly uses to deal with her guilt over her inability to fully commit.
She is looking for a realistic "working" relationship, as she tends to doubt spiritual ties. This arrangement fits her independent nature while fulfilling her basic need for companionship.
To be fair, there exists a subset of Aries women who feel a compelling need to live together or get married, ironically, to secure practical support for their otherwise "independent" lifestyle. Yet, even when they are completely in love, the usual Aries is unwilling to marry and become legally bound.
Typically, her dream partner is a handyman, because having a rugged, skilled man around the house keeps her fulfilled sexually as well. She prefers not to seek affection elsewhere.
Aries holds a high regard for strong features alongside a strong work ethic - she has no time for a pretty-boy image or dreamy intellectuals in her direct pursuit. She desires tangible qualities in her partner, not fashion suggestions or contemplative reflections. She inherently believes she is superior to her partner, particularly in terms of intellect, so she doesn't desire much proof to suggest otherwise.
Feeling more like a man than many men, she longs for a partner with whom she can express her most feminine side, especially knowing that when she gets out of bed, she is the one who wears the pants.
The Aries woman has a bold sexuality. However, even with her straightforwardness, she is greatly misunderstood, frequently seen as a flirt and a manipulator by men who apply a double standard, not allowing a woman to be as casual in love as they expect other men to be.
In terms of sexuality, Aries tends to act on her impulses and reacts to any physical attraction she feels. She will only pay attention to a man when he can truly ignite her Mars-influenced passion.
Contrary to popular belief of women who may have seen their men swiped right out from under them by Aries, she isnât conniving or even calculated. Instead, she just goes with the flow of the spontaneous cues her body gives her, feeling completely justified in her choices. Her actions lack any romantic or emotional undertones; she's not typically passionate enough to come off as predatory.
She tends to be quite the hypocrite when it comes to sexual relationships: she thinks it's acceptable to have a wandering eye and follow her "honest" urges, but the moment she discovers her steady partner fooling around, all her ideological rants about equality in relationships are thrown away.
Rejection is like a foreign concept to Aries; sheâs the one whoâs used to picking through the male crowd, discarding the less desirable options whenever she feels like it. This one-sided view of relationships definitely comes from her upbringing: Her dad may have gotten away with his side affairs, but her mom would never have thought of doing something like that. The Aries woman expects that same double standard to apply to her own relationships.
She must have, at the very least, what her father enjoyed - usually, she hankers for more. Topping her father is a stock subconscious force - as mentioned, she may enter into the same career as her dad, only to surpass him. Unconsciously, she seeks to emasculate her father for what she considers the foul manner in which he treated her mother.Â
Among all women, the Aries woman has the most pronounced feelings of penis envy. Yet, this can sometimes work in her favor: The strong and quiet partner she often chooses may find it beneficial that she plays the dominant role in their relationship, enjoying her as the driving force in their intimate encounters while he takes a more passive role.
When it comes to sex, she craves instant gratification. If she is single, she usually has a casual hookup number on her speed dial, and in a relationship, she demands it more regularly than any other woman in the zodiac.
Aries is not one to appreciate subtlety; she usually prefers to bypass the small talk and dive straight into the main action. Forget about foreplay: she can never have too much intercourse.
She is a woman in pursuit of her own orgasm. And sheâll think nothing, for instance, of waking up a lover by having sex with them.Â
Her breasts and nipples are usually not very sensitive, often seen as a non-erotic part of her body, or they can be overly sensitive, making her prefer to avoid them.
Ariesâs entire sexuality is intensely centered on her yoni, which longs to fulfill the one or two purposes for which it was uniquely created.
She is very conscious of size. No matter how much love she may feel for a man, the reveal of his endowment must provoke at least a small gasp, or she won't be inclined to move the relationship forward.
Nonetheless, her focus on the physical aspect shouldn't come off as shallow. In fact, another important lesson from an Aries woman is that once this fundamental physical connection is established, relationships can develop in a completely natural, unspoken, and calm manner. Neither person will need to provide emotional or intellectual support. Aries allows other zodiac signs to fill the wallets of sex therapists and marriage counselors.
Typically, not a day goes by without an Aries female getting off, one way or another. She is a notorious masturbator, which she would openly confess - especially when she is by herself, she frequently can't even drift off without a few intentional strokes.
She enjoys pleasuring herself during sex, too, as she believes itâs a waste of time to let the guy handle it. No matter how skilled he might be, he won't be able to satisfy her as well as she can. Additionally, she prefers that he stay focused on his main job, which is simply to ram her, with expertise and thoroughness.
Of course, she enjoys being eaten, yet it will always serve merely as a means to an end, with no unnecessary lingering permitted.
Giving a guy a blowjob ranks low on her list of priorities, since the act somewhat contradicts Aries's no-service principles.
She could explore anal sex, but to her, it seems somewhat irrelevant. The main event is intercourse. Yet, she wonât let herself get bored: she loves experimenting with positions and is an expert in techniques, making her the most thrilling partner around. She never just lies there; her bodyâs design alone indicates that sheâs anything but passive in the bedroom.
In reference to her Lilith archetype, she primarily enjoys being on top - itâs this specific preference that led to the ancient femaleâs marital disputes with the fragile-egoâd Adam.
She will passionately squeeze, pump, and hump her guy with such enthusiasm that he needs to have a lot of stamina if he doesnât want to let down this very demanding woman. Just like she can outdrink most men, she can definitely outlast them in bed, and if that means staying up all night, then thatâs even better - being intimate with her always feels a bit like a competition.
More than any other woman in the zodiac, Aries might enjoy things a bit rough, but she wonât dish out more than she can handle herself. She gets turned on by watching a man squirm and might partake in erotic activities that allow her to dominate those who are clearly more submissive.
She thinks it's thrilling to engage in a sultry battle for control with a self-proclaimed tough guy, whose claim to that title will be challenged by the strength that Aries is known to exert in resistance.
Female sexuality, as Aries would tell you, isn't just about perfume, grooming, and makeup - itâs a primal, instinctive, and frequently fierce experience. Indeed, she is activated on a deep level, and significantly so, by a manâs scent, and she desires the same in return. Often, the more intense the body odor, the more it aligns with Aries and her perfect match, who may also appreciate her decision to skip shaving.
At some stage, Aries's feelings of penis envy will manifest in various ways. If her partner is game, she might flip the script, offering him a memorable time with the aid of a latex tool or two.Â
For her, every sexual encounter needs to have a touch of shock factor, especially when there's a chance for her to engage in some exhibitionism. She gets a thrill from being watched - lights on, shades up - and she has a fondness for public sex, which is really just about her wish for her and her lover to attract attention.
She aims to create a buzz by being seen as very sexual. She might talk about a night of fun with the same detachment as if she were recounting a visit to the dentist. She often boasts about her sexual achievements, believing that sharing these stories will evoke admiration and respect from those around her.
She might even be into the idea of her partner being there while she gets it on with another guy - having him watch her with, say, a younger stud or even someone sheâs chosen from a high-end catalog of paid escorts. However, this kind of behavior is pretty rare, mostly because Ariesâs partnerâs love is too strong to easily allow it.
Actually, her long-term straight relationships tend to be somewhat unbalanced, with the guy taking on the role of the caring, motherly figure. It's worth mentioning that the average Aries doesn't really have strong maternal instincts, which sheds light on why she frequently looks for a man who can take care of her, especially when they're not in the bedroom.
She hardly ever finds the time for basic displays of affection, which could turn into her biggest relationship issue - it highlights why many Aries end up living alone, even if they find satisfaction in their lives as they grow older. Itâs simply too exhausting to summon up those warm and fuzzy feelings that arenât really there.
In several respects, the Aries woman resembles the typical man that women often criticize for lacking sensitivity. Once more, she aligns more with that traditional male viewpoint in life, which, in many instances, makes women seem like the opposite gender. This could help explain why Aries is one of the more bisexual females in astrology.
Compared to most women, she has no qualms about having a threesome with her male partner and another woman, particularly if that woman is quite different from herâvery passive, soft, and seemingly defenseless. She gets a real thrill from watching a feminine woman squirm under her, enjoying the position of the dominant female who is to be taken seriously.
There's a touch of sadism in how she interacts with a woman in a bisexual context, as she exerts a certain dominance, especially with someone who's just starting to explore girl-on-girl encounters. She really gets up close, pushing for oral satisfaction, donning the obligatory dildo.
Even the straightest Aries, if such a creature exists, would likely be intrigued by the thrill of bringing another woman to orgasm, and would enjoy hearing some requests for more (or perhaps less).Â
Aries Woman Interested in Women:
In same-sex relationships, she usually calls for a higher level of tolerance than the heterosexual Aries woman: Attracted to females with intense sexual urges that are comparable to her own, her relationships are often as possessively deep and psychologically complex as they are vibrantly erotic.
Just like straight Aries usually hangs out with a group of male friends, queer Aries tends to surround herself only with other women, effectively shutting out the male world entirely.
In contrast to typical Aries, who tends to show a somewhat bratty dominance when sleeping with a woman, the gay Aries is after something completely different - she usually finds herself attracted to even more assertive women, enjoying the role of a bit of a sex object in the process.
The gay Aries can become very feminine, enjoying the girly things that would send a straight Aries packing. Yet, by completely stepping away from the male gaze, the queer Aries feels free to investigate and even fetishize the female experience without it suggesting she's yielding to male control.
With a woman, queer Aries will do things that straight Aries wouldn't even imagine: slipping into lacy lingerie and daring underwear, putting on stripteases for her partner - the full Playboy-bunny show. From the outside, it will resemble the standard jeans-and-T-shirt look, but underneath could be a treasure trove of the Victoriaâs Secret catalog.
Queer Aries pretty much shares her alpha-female status with a significant other, who she allows to act as the decision-maker and parental advisor while she dedicates herself to her own main role as a cherished and spoiled ingenue, no matter how old she really is.
She often finds herself drawn to older partners, who are both nurturing and a bit rough around the edges, more so than she is. Her partner might even embody a mix of her parents' traits, someone who collaborates with Aries's dad to give her career guidance, just like she chats with Aries's mom about managing Aries's emotional ups and downs.
Generally, a queer Aries likes to be the one receiving in the bedroom, often wanting her partner to be the one who provides pleasure, whether thatâs through oral sex or other ways, ensuring her happiness comes first.
In a stable queer relationship, itâs usually her partner who has to take on the role of strapping on or trying to excite the Aries with equally stimulating toys or methods.
With great delight for her partner, Aries will provide vocal evidence of the unparalleled pleasure this delivers, particularly when meeting the erotic wishes of a more dominant lover.
If her lover is decidedly butch, she will only play the femme even more, forever trying to fulfill the extent of whatever fantasies her partner might possess. Â
She flourishes in a relationship filled with erotic energy, and sheâs willing to do whatever it takes to maintain that electric vibe in the atmosphere.
In her line of work, she will persistently gravitate towards or support an all-female setting - she generally befriends other picture-perfect women, mainly femmes, to connect and socialize.
When she's single, she tends to hang out with other attractive women, focusing on them almost exclusively, as she seeks to catch the attention of more females in her quest for either casual flings or a long-term relationship.
When she's seriously committed to someone, she has a fashionable circle of girlfriends, usually those who, like her, have partners in the background. This allows her to stay in touch with the ever-shifting gay social scene.
Similar to straight Aries, all her friendships tend to flirt with the idea of romance, and she might even take a chance on a brief affair. Yet, because she longs for the genuine adoration of a partner who is completely unbothered, someone who sees her looks and allure as enticing, she primarily keeps her love for that solid emotional anchor waiting for her at home.
She might enjoy the thought of sharing a sexual conquest with her partner, bringing home a lovely gift for them to enjoy. In this situation, she and the third person will partake in sensual activities meant, in the Aries' perspective, to offer a visual delight for her partner, who could then relish the chance to have her way with the newcomer.
On the other hand, except for another woman being involved with either of them by mutual agreement, nothing or no one should ever stand between Aries and her significant other. If their connection isnât fulfilling enough, sheâll leave without hesitation.
Sheâs all about respecting her partnerâs boundaries; if that means no additional partners, then thatâs the deal. After all, Aries doesnât just throw her heart around. When she finds someone to commit to, sheâll do whatever it takes to protect and nurture that relationship.
I just reworked this post and included a lot more content than it had in the past. At the beginning of this series, I found it tough to create a post about Aries women from an impartial viewpoint, since I am an Aries woman. However, now that I am over the halfway point in this series, I thought it would be a good idea to revisit the Aries woman post, as I have established a better format for these posts.
This reading will explore ways to foster growth in your career, romantic relationships, family dynamics, intuition, and overall health.
As this is a general collective reading, some things may not resonate with your personal situation. DO NOT try forcing it to fit. If you would like to book a personalized reading with me, go to my profile and follow the instructions on my pinned post.
Pile One:
What is your current energy? Who are you now?
The Hermit Reversed:
You've been in hermit mode for quite a while now, pile one. Whatever the reason, you've been intentionally isolating yourself from the people and things in your life, and itâs made you feel very lonely. Itâs almost as if you knew you needed to do some internal work, so you took a step back from everything and decided to focus all your energy inward. But that was some time ago, and it feels like you haven't accomplished any of the work you planned to do. So here you are now, feeling stuck and in a darker place than when you first started this journey. You donât know how to escape this self-imposed darkness, and youâre worried that the people in your life have left you behind and forgotten about you. Right now, pile one, youâre in a really dark and lonely place, but choosing this reading is a wonderful first step towards healing. Just keep moving forward, one foot in front of the other. I believe in you, and so do your spirit guides. Youâve got this!
How can you promote growth in your career?
The Emperor Reversed:
I was picking up some strong Sagittarius vibes while doing this reading, so you might be a Sagittarius or have significant Sagittarius placements in your chart. If thatâs not the case and you still feel drawn to this pile, thatâs totally fine. Either way, it seems to me that youâre a free spirit at heart; you donât really like labels or heavy commitments. You prefer to go with the flow, doing what you want, how you want, without worrying too much about the rules. However, as I mentioned in the first question, youâve been imposing a lot of stricter rules on yourself in every aspect of your life because you werenât happy with where you were. Maybe you noticed others thriving under strict rules and thought that was the key to improving your situation. But thatâs not really who you are, pile one, so all these self-imposed rules, especially in your career, are just making things tougher for you. Perhaps you switched to a job thatâs more of a 9-5 office environment, thinking that would help you get your life in order, but it only made you dislike your life even more. What your guides are telling you here, pile one, is that itâs time to release some of these rules youâve set for yourself. Sure, rules can be beneficial, but thereâs definitely such a thing as too many, and thatâs where you find yourself right now. You need to evaluate all these rules youâve created in your career and identify which ones arenât helping you, then let them go.
How can you promote growth in your love life?
Seven of Swords:
The Seven of Swords speaks to sneaking around, lies, and deception. I think maybe in the past, you were cheated on or at least discovered that your partner was not being truthful, which made you wary of new relationships. So, you decided to stay single to avoid getting hurt again. Your guides are saying it's time to change that. Not everyone has hidden agendas or is untrustworthy, and you should start letting people in. If youâre currently in a relationship, you mightâve realized that you were in a dark place and instead of talking to your partner about it, you chose to keep it to yourself, lying and saying you were okay when you knew you werenât, just to avoid worrying them. If thatâs the case for you, your spirit guides are telling you that you need to confide in your partner. Keeping things to yourself isnât working for you, and itâs time to let others in so they can help you figure out how to help yourself. You canât do it all alone, and thatâs okay; asking for help doesnât make you weak.Â
How can you promote growth in your family?
Five of Cups Reversed:
The Five of Cups usually refers to being unable to see beyond the negatives in your life and feeling trapped in the grieving process. However, when this card appears reversed, it indicates that you can actually move on from that negative situation and recognize how much that tough experience has contributed to your growth. So, in relation to your family, this suggests that in the past, you might have only seen your family through a negative lens. This could be due to toxic relationships, the loss of someone close that left you unable to process your grief, or even some form of abuse. Whatever the case may be, pile one, you were stuck in viewing everything negatively and couldnât progress in your life or learn from it. But now, with this card showing up reversed, your guides are indicating that youâre ready to acknowledge that you can leave these issues behind and concentrate on healing. Whether that means forgiving those individuals and working on your relationships, or simply letting them go and moving on with your life, focusing on how you want to create your own family without them. Iâm not suggesting you should romanticize the hardships you faced, but rather that you should give yourself permission to move on instead of lingering on them. Making peace with your pain is important; it doesnât change what happened, but it acknowledges that you canât alter the past and that the only option left is to move forward. Thatâs what you need to focus on now with your family.
How can you promote growth in your intuition?
Nine of Swords:
Isolating yourself has started to influence not only your relationships with others but also your relationship with yourself. You began this isolation journey with the aim of doing some inner work, but you either gave up or never really got started, which has caused your mental struggles to worsen instead of resolving as you had hoped. This has really impacted your intuition. You may have been very spiritual and connected to your intuition in the past, but now, you find it difficult even to feel it. Itâs almost as if youâre afraid to connect with that part of yourself, like you fear what might happen or what might be revealed once you do. Your guides are telling you that you need to get out of your head; you need to confide in someone, talk to them about what is blocking you from truly connecting with your intuition. Ask yourself, why are you afraid to connect with that part of yourself? What is holding you back, and with that knowledge, make your plans to address it. Talking to someone will really help you overcome your fears and anxieties, whether that person is a therapist, counselor, doctor, friend, loved one, or spiritual guide. Itâs time for you to reach out and take the first steps toward healing yourself in every aspect of your life.
How can you promote growth in your overall health (physical and mental)?
Four of Pentacles:
It seems that the strict rules and routines youâve been putting in place, especially regarding your career, have taken a toll on your mental and physical health. The problem is that youâve become so accustomed to these routines that youâre scared to change them, but this is just a false sense of comfort; itâs actually hindering your progress. Your mental distress has begun to manifest as tension in your body, and itâs time for you to connect with yourself and identify where your body is holding this tension so you can start to release it and relax. Once you relinquish some of your control in various aspects of your life, youâll notice how much easier it is to unwind, and then youâll begin to feel better. If you are experiencing any intense physical or mental pain, you should definitely reach out to a doctor, therapist, or trained professional for help.
Bottom of the deck energy:
Knight of Wands:
The card at the bottom of the deck in a tarot reading reveals the core themes and energies of the reading. In your situation, with the Knight of Wands positioned at the bottom, it indicates swift movement, a free-spirited nature, and a surge of energy. This placement suggests that you'll soon experience rapid changes in various aspects of your life, and you'll feel more motivated to embrace these shifts. The Knight of Wands embodies strong Sagittarius energy, which is why I mentioned that you might be a Sagittarius or have important placements in that sign. You might also have Sagittarius influencing your 4th, 6th, 7th, 10th, and 12th houses, as the themes of these houses play a role in this reading.
The colors pink and purple were also popping up in my mind during this reading, so those may have some significance to you, specifically the pastels of those colors.
Extended Reading (Who will your transformed self become after all this development, along with additional tips on fostering this growth)
Pile Two:
What is your current energy? Who are you now?
Four of Wands:
Right now, you are really concentrating on spending time with your loved ones. You are celebrating life and all the wonderful things that are around you. Itâs almost as if you have faced numerous struggles in the past, and lately, you have started to acknowledge just how far you have come and the many good things that surround you, so you are taking the time to celebrate that fully. I was picking up a more serious vibe from this pile compared to the first one. Thereâs a strong Capricorn energy radiating from this pile, and some fire sign energy too. So, you might be a Capricorn with fire sign placements in your chart or have significant placements in either Capricorn or the fire signs. If thatâs not the case and you still feel a connection to this pile, thatâs completely okay.
How can you promote growth in your career?
The Fool:
The Fool in tarot embodies the essence of new beginnings and fresh starts. It signifies an individual who boldly dives into exciting experiences without a second thought. This is the energy you need to harness to foster growth in your career. Now is the perfect time for you to chase a new career opportunity or breathe new life into your current job. Regardless of the path you choose, your guides indicate that the key to achieving career growth lies in adopting a different strategy, as conventional methods have ceased to yield the desired results.
How can you promote growth in your love life?
Five of Pentacles Reversed:
You have been navigating a challenging phase in your romantic life for quite a while now, pile two. It seems to me that many of you have remained single for an extended period, hesitant to open your heart to love. If you are not single, it could be that you have been facing challenges in your relationship, a period where you withdrew into yourself and felt disconnected from your partner. Regardless of the situation, you are now emerging from that phase and stepping into a more joyful and fulfilling love life. How can you encourage this growth? By wholeheartedly embracing these transformations. You appear to be someone who is apprehensive about change, as if you struggle with control and are reluctant to relinquish the reins to allow things to unfold naturally, particularly in your romantic endeavors, and this mindset must shift. You need to permit life to flow into your existence and accept everything as it comes. This is the path to finding happiness in love.
How can you promote growth in your family?
Eight of Wands Reversed:
The Eight of Wands reversed talks of patience, of delays, and being unprepared. For you, pile two, this indicates that you are either currently facing challenges in your family life or have been for a considerable period. It appears that these issues stem from choices you have made, and you are coming to this realization now. You may be feeling a sense of guilt for unintentionally creating these problems, and this guilt has been consuming you. Your guides are reminding you that the past cannot be changed, and fixating on it serves no purpose. It is essential to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and to move ahead with a fresh strategy to resolve these matters. This is the path to fostering growth within your family life.
How can you promote growth in your intuition?
Ace of Cups:
The emotional burdens you've been carrying have obstructed your ability to fully connect with your intuition. Some of you may have never been able to completely embrace your spiritual side because of this. Itâs time to let go of the past and heal your wounds so you can fully accept and access this part of yourself. The key here is self-love, and the first step towards loving yourself is to forgive yourself for all your past mistakes. You are quite hard on yourself, pile two, and because of this, you have been limiting your ability to reach your highest potential. Your guides are indicating that you need to start truly loving every aspect of yourself, including your flaws, to promote growth in your intuition.
How can you promote growth in your overall health (physical and mental)?
Ten of Wands:
You are currently feeling extremely overwhelmed by stress, largely due to taking on too many responsibilities. You're teetering on the edge of burnout, and it's crucial to take action before you completely crash and burn. You might also be facing physical manifestations of your mental strain, such as back pain, tension, fatigue, and slow recovery, among others. All these signs indicate that you are carrying too much weight. Your mind and body are in dire need of rest, and it's time for you to start delegating tasks. Strive to find balance across all aspects of your life to prevent these issues from escalating. Remember, if you are dealing with any severe physical or mental discomfort or anything that causes you concern, it is essential to consult a doctor, therapist, or qualified professional for assistance.
Bottom of the deck energy:
Queen of Wands:
The card at the bottom of the deck in a tarot reading reveals the core themes and energies of the reading. For you, pile two, you are the embodiment of the Queen of Wands energy. You possess an incredible focus and a fiery passion. Your courage and individuality are evident, though at times, you may appear a bit self-absorbed. You consistently stand up for those in your life, no matter the situation, but you have been struggling to do the same for yourself for quite a while now. It is time to take action and ensure you are caring for yourself as you deserve.
Extended Reading (Who will your transformed self become after all this development, along with additional tips on fostering this growth)
Pile Three:
What is your current energy? Who are you now?
The Tower:
The Tower in tarot signifies abrupt changes, a disruption in your life that catches you off guard. This reflects your current state, pile three. You might have just experienced a phase of destruction in your life, or perhaps you are in the midst of it right now. No matter what it is, this change was unexpected and quite traumatic. You were navigating your life on shaky ground without even realizing it, and your guides were attempting to communicate that you needed to make a change before everything fell apart around you. For some reason, you weren't heeding the messages your guides were sending, and as a result, your life has collapsed around you. Now, you are left in the ruins of the life you built, and you donât know how to start over again.Â
How can you promote growth in your career?
Ace of Pentacles:
The aces in tarot symbolize fresh starts, and when it comes to pentacles, which represent the material world, this indicates that to foster growth in your career, a new beginning is essential. It appears you are yearning for something different in your job. You might find yourself in a position that lacks fulfillment, and if that resonates with you, your guides are encouraging you to seek out alternatives that will reignite your passion. If you happen to be without a job right now, your guides are simply suggesting that the current energy is very favorable for you to pursue new employment opportunities.
How can you promote growth in your love life?
The Star:
The Star is all about hope, optimism, positivity, healing, and rejuvenation. You are in need of some positivity in your love life. I am getting some strong childlike energy from this pile, almost like golden retriever energy, but when it comes to your love life, it seems that the optimism you carry in all the other areas of your life is lacking. For whatever reason, pile three, you are pretty pessimistic in love. For whatever reason, pile three, you appear to be quite pessimistic about love. To see growth in this area, itâs crucial for you to start healing the parts of yourself that feel unlovable or that view love as a losing battle.Â
How can you promote growth in your family?
Six of Wands:
The Six of Wands represents success, public acknowledgment, and triumph. It seems your family might not be the kind to celebrate each other's achievements, and this has negatively impacted your bond with them. You might feel like you can never win with your family, as if no matter what you do, itâs never enough, and they always highlight your shortcomings. However, it appears you might be doing the same to them, as thatâs how you learned to express love. Your guides are suggesting that to improve your relationship, you should start recognizing and celebrating each other's accomplishments. Remember, relationships are a two-way street, and it looks like youâre struggling to see how youâve contributed to this declining relationship. Instead, youâve been viewing yourself as a victim who hasnât done anything wrong, which isnât accurate. Once you acknowledge this, you can start to heal this relationship, because reciprocating what youâve been receiving isnât benefiting either of you.
How can you promote growth in your intuition?
Judgment:
The Judgment card represents self-assessment, contemplation, and accountability. It's essential to engage in profound self-reflection to nurture your intuition's growth. You might be too resistant to recognize when changes are necessary in your life, which has led to a disconnect with your intuition. It's time to commit to improvement, to embrace transformation across all aspects of your life, allowing you to start rebuilding.
How can you promote growth in your overall health (physical and mental)?
Ace of Wands:
You are quite the energetic individual, pile three, and it looks like you haven't been channeling all that energy effectively for a while now. This card indicates issues like inflammation, hormonal fluctuations, or a high level of energy that needs to be directed in a productive way. You might feel physically charged, but if that energy lacks direction, it could result in restlessness or overdoing it. Engaging in focused activities, like exercise or creative physical pursuits, can help restore balance. Regarding your mental well-being, the Ace of Wands points out that you're likely feeling excitement, a renewed sense of passion, or a desire to escape from a rut. You might be ready to embrace new ideas, relationships, or goals that bring back your joy. Harness this energy to experience some emotional rejuvenation that propels you forward.
Bottom of the deck energy:
Three of Wands:
 The card at the bottom of the deck in a tarot reading shows the main themes and energies of the reading. For you, pile three, the Three of Wands indicates confidence, growth, momentum, and looking forward. This is your current situation in life, ready to begin anew, simply because circumstances are pushing you to. With all the wands that appeared in this pile, it's likely that you are a fire sign, Aries, Leo, or Sagittarius. I was particularly getting strong Aries energy from this pile, so you might be an Aries or have a notable Aries influence in your birth chart. If that's not the case, and you still felt drawn to this pile, that's perfectly fine.
Extended Reading (Who will your transformed self become after all this development, along with additional tips on fostering this growth)
Pile Four:
What is your current energy? Who are you now?
Queen of Pentacles Reversed:
For a long while, pile four, your attention has been directed towards material wealth, prioritizing it over all else. This has led to a certain level of selfishness, egotism, and insecurity within you. You might believe that accumulating income and valuable possessions will somehow fill a gap in your life and improve your self-image. The unfortunate reality is that this way of thinking has not brought you any relief; in fact, it has likely made you feel worse. Now, you find yourself lacking in many areas because your intense focus on the material world has caused you to overlook the fact that true success comes from healing and nurturing your own well-being.
How can you promote growth in your career?
Knight of Pentacles:
As I mentioned before, your main priority has been on accumulating material wealth rather than achieving success in your career. What I mean by this is that you see success as the gathering of significant money and high-value items rather than experiencing happiness in your work and progressing in your career. Your guides are advising you that to encourage growth in your career, you need to change your focus. Instead of seeking career advancement just to earn more money, itâs time to think about what types of jobs will truly make you happy and work towards that instead of merely obtaining a high-paying job that makes you feel unhappy just for the sake of financial gain. You should consider taking a more measured approach to your career development right now, slow down, and truly evaluate how satisfied you are in your current role. It may be the right moment to look for something that fulfills you on an emotional level rather than just a financial one.
How can you promote growth in your love life?
The World:
The World is the final card in the major arcana. It symbolizes completion, unity, harmony, and a feeling of belonging. You might have recently experienced a breakup, or perhaps there was one in your past that left you feeling disoriented and hesitant to open your heart to love again. Regardless of the situation, your perspective on love may have shifted due to previous pain, leading you to doubt its existence or question whether you will ever encounter it again. Itâs interesting because I sense a strong romantic energy from this pile, as if you truly cherish love but feel uncertain about finding it. The message for you right now is to acknowledge and celebrate the progress you have made in love, and to be open to new opportunities in that realm. Now is the moment for you to honor your love, not merely the concept of love.
How can you promote growth in your family?
Knight of Wands Reversed:
You might have been working on resolving issues with your family for quite some time now, but it seems like nothing has moved forward. You may have sought therapy or engaged in some deep self-exploration, which helped you realize that the dynamics within your family were unhealthy and needed to change. As a result, you took steps towards that change; however, your family members were not ready to accept that any change was necessary, leading them to resist your efforts to heal. Now, you are feeling particularly hurt and angry about the lack of progress in this area of your life, and you may feel uncertain about what to do next. The message for you is that not everything is within your control; your family members are individuals on their own journeys, and you cannot dictate their paths. Itâs a harsh reality, but as much as you may wish for them to change and adopt healthier behaviors, it is ultimately not your decision. You cannot force someone to do something they are not ready to do. The only thing you can control is yourself and how you choose to approach this situation. Once you understand this, you can decide what your next steps will be. Do you want to stay and support them through their journey, or do you prefer to distance yourself and love them from a distance?
How can you promote growth in your intuition?
King of Swords Reversed:
You may be someone who overintellectualizes everything. It can be challenging for you to perceive spirituality and your intuition through a mystical perspective instead of a purely scientific one. This is quite fascinating because I sensed a strong witchy energy emanating from this pile. It seems as though you are genuinely intrigued by spirituality and the occult, eager to delve deeper into it, yet you struggle to avoid rationalizing every aspect. This card appears to remind you that itâs essential to let go of your need to control everything and allow certain things to exist without requiring a cause or explanation. If you truly wish to nurture your spiritual side and connect with your intuition, itâs crucial to strike a balance between rationalizing and acknowledging when something is a message from the spirit just for you.
How can you promote growth in your overall health (physical and mental)?
Nine of Cups:
It appears that you are in a good place health-wise, whether that be emotionally, physically, or perhaps even both. Yet, there is always potential for improvement, and the presence of this card suggests that you should focus on your emotional satisfaction. As mentioned earlier, you have been engaging in significant internal work, which has positively impacted your emotional well-being. However, there might still be some aspects that require further attention, and this card encourages you to continue your efforts because you are making progress. Additionally, it's important to recognize that this card may indicate a tendency towards overindulgence in food and drink, or habits aimed at seeking comfort, which could be relevant to your current situation. You have been experiencing a sense of joy both emotionally and physically, leading you to want to celebrate, but this may have escalated into overindulgence, which is not beneficial. Therefore, to foster further growth in your health, it's essential to monitor your consumption across all areas.
Bottom of the deck energy:
Good Luck Charm (Wheel of Fortune):
The card at the bottom of the deck in a tarot reading shows the main themes and energies of the reading. For you, pile four, this card speaks of change, fate, luck, and fortune. This is showing that you are in a great place right now, but that there are still some changes that need to be made for you to get to an even better place. I was getting strong Libra energy with this pile, so you could be one or have significant placements in that sign. The color purple was also popping up, as well as the song, âRockin' Around the Christmas Tree,â so those things could be significant as well.
Extended Reading (Who will your transformed self become after all this development, along with additional tips on fostering this growth)
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
Masterlist
Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
The Libra woman is the zodiac's activist: She's the most principled person in astrology, and her strong beliefs are a big part of who she is.
If she perceives a wrong, she must strive to right it; she needs to take action to correct it; the world of human justice is where she truly belongs.
Venus is the ruling planet of Libra, just like it is for Taurus. However, in this case, the focus is on the mental and social aspects (air-sign) rather than the material (earth-sign) side of life. So, while the Taurus woman aims for a life filled with beauty and pays attention to her looks, the Libran woman is more interested in elegant ideas - lofty concepts and philosophical thoughts - that she can share with the world.
A Libra woman views the world as a system of divine order, a cohesive space governed by the cosmic law of cause and effect, where justice will, and absolutely must, prevail.
Anyone familiar with a Libra woman would surely agree that when she walks into a room, it feels as if she is sizing up your character and your values in life.
This sharp-witted daughter of Venus almost always acts out of love, but not as a personal choice. Instead, it feels more like a universal rule, something she believes she must do rather than a genuine concern for you.
In symbolic terms, the Libra woman is meant to enhance the world, just as the Libra man is concerned with his own growth. She values every situation she encounters and takes the right actions, or makes quick and, some might say, fitting decisions in response. This is how she navigates her life.
A great example of a Libra woman in film is Amelie from the French film of the same name. Driven by love, she dedicates her life to correcting every visible wrong that affects those around her, while also seeking to hold accountable anyone who inflicts such suffering.
Libra represents the ages 42-49, often seen as the prime of life for women, when they shift their focus from having kids to raising them - guiding, instructing, and equipping them for adulthood. Throughout her life, a Libra woman embodies this prime archetype, consistently adopting the role of a free-spirited, sometimes unconventional, teacher who enlightens and empowers those around her, indeed placing her charges into roles she deems appropriate.
In the same way a mother monitors and considers the strengths and weaknesses of her growing kids, Libra gives a purpose to everyone she meets, particularly those who could be useful to her. Still, she perceives others in their most favorable light - to the point that it can be tough to fulfill her expectations.
At times, she might misjudge, making hasty assumptions, either overestimating or underestimating someone's abilities, or, one of her biggest weaknesses, failing to recognize selfish, hidden motives.
In Taurus, which is also governed by Venus, love, grace, beauty, and charm are seen as physical and sexual traits, passive qualities meant to draw in a partner. For the Libra woman, these nouns evolve into verbs: to love means to appreciate and improve, to grace involves forgiveness and mercy, which are vital to the overall concept of justice that the lady of the Scales passionately embodies.Â
Similar to how Libran writer-philosopher Florence Scovel Shinn called her renowned work on the magic of positive thinking, Your World Is Your Wand, this belief is embedded in the consciousness of every woman born under this sign.
Whereas the self-inventive men of the sign use their ability to create a 'character' thought-form of their own making. In contrast, the Scales women have the gift of projecting their thoughts like spells into the universe, aiming to bring their visions to life. Simply put, Libra has such a strong belief in her well-known ideals that she brings them into existence. This is a force she must control consciously, as even her smallest desires can take hold, demonstrating the strength of her will. As the astrological symbol of karmic actions, she embodies the saying, 'Be careful what you wish for.'
She hardly ever spends time or energy on interests or causes that might not bring her the results she wants. She creates her own path and is not one to remain inactive and let life unfold. Still, her specific plans are often hidden.
On the surface, she appears to have a perfect life, but the reality is that she is a skilled creator, a woman who carefully crafts her path to the opportunities she has been wise enough to seek. She knows - and let this serve as a lesson for everyone - that to get what you desire in life, you must act as though you already own it.
Libra aims to create a perfect connection between herself and her ideal situation, regardless of how ambitious it may be, by convincing herself that she is worthy of it. This requires significant mental effort, but by communicating the right thoughts, she persuades herself and then others that she is truly an exceptional person, made from the best qualities of humanity.
A list of well-known Libra women - such as Gwyneth Paltrow, Julie Andrews, Eleanor Roosevelt, Olivia Newton-John, Catherine Deneuve, Barbara Walters, Kate Winslet, Gwen Stefani, Hillary Duff, Jenna Ortega, Dakota Johnson, Kim Kardashian, and Serena Williams - shows that women born under the sign of the Scales are often seen as, to some extent, beyond criticism: exceptional, if not flawless, goody-goodies. (At the very least, this is how one tends to view them.) In reality, Libra women strongly dislike these labels, even though they must acknowledge their role in shaping such an image. Whether she adopts a noble political position, acts with an air of superiority, or otherwise embodies the role of societyâs moral guide, a Libra woman lives her life on a soapbox, pedestal, or pulpit of her own making.
Libra is the embodiment of art, an ideal state that, despite being forever linked to subjective opinions, is intended to reach absolute truth. For Libra, it is important that her life reflects art, and/or vice versa, endlessly. Without a doubt, both male and female Libras are true artists, but the male is his own most brilliant creation, while the female Scales produces magnificent works from her experiences.
In most cases, a girl born under the Libra sign has a happy childhood with parents who are affectionate yet somewhat detached, or, more frequently, she is raised in a divorced household.
In the first scenario, Libra observes a model marriage where her parents share equal power and influence over her upbringing. The Libra girl usually comes from two strong-willed individualists. Her parents are typically extroverted, liberal, and career-focused, treating the Libra child as their equal. In this situation, Libra is pampered and seen as the ideal child, unlike the Libra male, who must perform to earn this title, and she is constantly made to feel she can do no wrong. With so much confidence instilled in her, the fortunate little Libra born under Venus, known as the lesser benefic, expects her charmed life to last forever.
In the second scenario, where Libra's parents are often in conflict, the home environment is quite different. Yet, her drive for perfection still emerges - and one could say, with great intensity. In this case, her view of relationships is about cutting losses. Unlike the Libra male, whose notoriously mismatched parents usually remain together despite their issues, leading him to rationalize or compartmentalize experiences, the second-scenario Libra girl ironically receives the same message as the previously mentioned ideal Libra princess: she doesn't have to 'make do' or accept the current situation. She learns that situations and people, even those she loves, can be let go if they don't align with her ideal goals. Therefore, itâs not surprising that, right from the start, one feels examined by the Libra woman - as if she is probing your mind with a bright light, assessing your strengths and weaknesses, deciding if you are worth knowing or supporting as a friend.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied to Rising signs as well:
It can require anything from a night of talking to a month of ambiguous interactions for Libra to open up, while always reserving her right to opt out.Â
Libra woman has a stellar quality that draws more men to hit on her faster than any other female on the astrological block. But clearly, her reputation precedes her as she is rarely approached rudely or roughly, as even a complete stranger feels compelled to clear his throat, fix his hair, and be on his best behavior before uttering, or stuttering, his first introductory word.
Undoubtedly, she conveys a mixed message; being mysterious gives the careful Libra the opportunity to determine whether to accept someone into her life or to reject them entirely. The choice is always hers, which might be why people feel an instinctive urge to impress her with their value.
Libra doesnât necessarily manufacture the kindness she appears to radiate. Even when sheâs in a bad mood, she still gives off a vibe of goodness and light. This is both a gift and a burden for Libra: Just as Libran actresses often battle against being typecast in virtuous, if not overly serious, roles, the typical Libra woman gives off an ideal aura that attracts others to her, particularly men, like naughty kids to Mary Poppins. While she is constantly handling menâs advances, they are rarely purely sexual. Instead, Libra appears to be the perfect girl to whom one should propose, though not exclusively to that - she doesnât seem entirely pure or innocent.Â
Many men think that life with the charming Libra lady will be easy - that he has found a heavenly woman who is free from worldly troubles, someone with whom he believes his own dreams and highest hopes will thrive. This is the favorable vibe that Libra gives off. Naturally graceful and calm, she embodies even the most traditional views of femininity while being a strong feminist.Â
She is so graceful and classy that she won't outright tell any of the many men who fall for her every day to get lost. Libra always rises above, handling even the most awkward or tough situations with a kind word, a smile, or her own apology.
Interestingly, when comparing features, Libra women may not be the most traditionally beautiful on the zodiac; they often have an elfin or even boyish look, appearing more unconventionally attractive than one might initially think.
This description does not insult the Libra woman, who enjoys a quirky or distinctive style. Anything that takes attention away from the perfection that people see in her.
She realizes the importance of hiding her beauty, mastering the art of going unnoticed.
Yet, simply stepping out with messy hair and a dull gray sweatshirt paired with ripped jeans isn't enough - she needs to intentionally choose not to look attractive, almost like performing magic by concealing her bright energy. This choice allows her to stay out of the spotlight.
Regardless of how unconventional a Libra woman may look, all she has to do is choose to look beautiful, and everyone around her will struggle to look away.
You can tell a Libra by her smirk that holds back laughter, implying she knows a significant cosmic joke that no one else is in on.
Think about it: Kate Winslet, Suzanne Somers, Heather Locklear, Gwen Stefani, Olivia Newton-John, Kim Kardashian, Bella Hadid, Dakota Johnson, and Jenna Ortega all seem similarly amused when appearing in public.Â
Libra is identified as a masculine sign, which can be observed in her signature square, broad shoulders, her tough, veiny hands, slim hips, and other more pronounced hormonal features like a slight Adamâs apple, a subtle âtreasure trailâ extending from the navel, or a strained, croaky voice that frequently breaks like that of a teenage boy.
However, these characteristics only serve to make her seem friendly, adding a masculine touch to her soft femininity that enhances her approachable nature and stops her high-priestess image from becoming overly uninviting.
No matter her race, she will usually be the fairest of the other women in her family.Â
Her skin typically appears poreless, though sometimes dry and flaky.Â
Her cheeks flush with every registered emotion.Â
Her eyes, regardless of race, are pale: gray-blue instead of bright, hazel-green or gold-flecked brown.Â
Her eyes always seem to be laughing.
She has quite prominent cheekbones on a rounded, somewhat plump doll-like face that rarely looks stretched or thin.
Her lips are shaped like a perfectly drawn bow, just full enough to avoid looking thin-lipped.
She is usually slightly taller than most women, though never towering.Â
She generally fits into all the âperfectâ sizes: a size 6 dress, 34-B bra, and 7 ½ shoe.Â
Most Libras can generally pull off almost any outfit, regardless of the style.
Libra women are typically drawn to more vintage styles that project a classic work-force attitude.Â
Interestingly, the 7th house, associated with Libra, also symbolizes grandparents. The Libra woman often mirrors her grandmother(s) in style, especially if that respected elder had a career.
Tweeds, tailored suits, and other such throwbacks define her trademark style.Â
She is generally long-legged and lanky.Â
Her stomach is usually muscular.Â
She would excel in dance, diving, skating, or other athletics that require exceptional physical control and a keen sense of balance.Â
If she were to take up any sport, it would resemble poetry in motion; even during a demanding physical challenge, she manages to make it look simple, just like she does with every task in her life - with outstanding grace.
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Libra Woman Interested in Men:
Valued for her subtle beauty, she could be at risk of being viewed merely as decoration, elegant arm candy that men flaunt for their own approval or to impress those around them.
In reality, what she really wants in love is to connect with a genuine friend and equal, a free-spirited thinker who appreciates her well-known passion for the arts and everything beautiful, along with her frequently radical political beliefs and ideas about equality.
Even though Libra doesn't wish to dominate a partner, always wanting a balanced relationship, she tends to seem "above" most men.
To her, men typically belong to two or possibly three categories: those who admire her elevated status, usually for selfish reasons; those who enjoy the idea of knocking Libra off her pedestal, thinking she needs to be more down-to-earth; and the occasional guy who, with a similar sense of self-worth, is just right for her.
In contrast to her sister sign, the Aries woman, who often avoids traditional feminine adornments to be seen as equal to men, the Libra woman embraces the femmey, Venus-influenced accessories. However, she believes that enjoying these feminine traits should not confine her to a subordinate role in society.
She accepts her gender differences, yet believes they shouldn't prevent her from being seen as completely equal. It frustrates her that, due to being more attractive or delicately made than a man, she struggles to gain acknowledgment for her intellect, and especially her crucial principles.
Being born under the sole inanimate zodiac sign, the scales, is a phenomenon thatâs hard to overemphasize when trying to grasp the personality of a Libra woman or for her to truly understand herself. For the men of this sign, being represented by the inanimate Scales creates a strong need for a solid sense of self - he often feels inherently unreal or unnatural, grappling with his issues related to superficiality, artificiality, and the plasticity that comes with his famously indecisive nature. For the Libra woman, certainty is not usually a problem, if it ever is. The inanimate aspect of her sign doesnât indicate any lack of reality in her self-image; instead, it highlights a strong desire to leave her mark on the world with her elevated principles. You might say that the Libra man is an idea, while the Libra woman embodies ideals.
She is a true representation of what is good and right, a living symbol and a poster child for the absolute moral codes - laws - that need to be established to ensure social order. She is the most noble-minded woman in the zodiac, but her attractive and charming looks often disguise the seriousness of her activism.
One downside of Libra's otherworldly appearance might be that people perceive her as merely attractive yet superficialâa quick judgment that implies she lacks the fervor, if not the bravery, to stand by her beliefs. In a world dominated by traditional men, Libra fights against being viewed as just a decorative figure in ideological discussions.
To many guys, she looks like the ideal trophy, and only to a handful will she ever look like something different.
She believes her physical appearance gives her away: By looking too much like the "little woman" and, even more frustratingly, "the perfect wife," she attracts a constant flow of men who view her as an ideal choice for a 7th house marriage and a dreamlike life. However, quicker than you can say "two-car garage," Libra figures out how to halt such a man in his tracks.
At times, Libra might get a bit too caught up in wanting to have the upper hand with guys, sometimes going too far in standing up against being treated like a mere trinket.
For this daughter of the astral Venus, a cardinal-air sign that emphasizes the significance of principles, uppercase Love is far more than just a four-letter word to be thrown around. This woman, the zodiacâs judge, expects certain rules of conduct to be followed meticulously.
Every Libra woman embodies a specific romantic perspective, with courtly love rooted in the belief that women can bestow or refuse love and sexual favors. By adhering to a code of chivalry, men could court their lovely ladies.
Interestingly, the medieval concept of 'courtly love' could only have arisen around a Libra diva like Eleanor of Aquitaine. This movement, as suggested by the term, celebrated nobility and a particular manner in which the essence of all passions should be expressed.Â
 As a young woman, Libra garners interest from numerous social climbers and potential power players eager to boost their own reputation through their connection with her, driven people counting on Libra to bring them luck.
Libra has become a careful dater, evaluating the men she encounters as if she were a lawyer determining whether to accept a client's case.
At times, despite her better instincts, she finds herself attracted to that man who values tradition, ready to act as the ideal hostess as long as she believes the relationship will grant her the liberty to chase her own interests - and not all of them are noble pursuits. In reality, Libra is a highly sexual individual.
She is a woman who craves sex just as much as, if not more than, she craves truth, beauty, and goodness. Given that this natural desire may occasionally go unnoticed even by her, itâs not surprising that a manâs quest for her hand in marriage might not be based on physical attraction but rather on a desire for moral improvement. This situation may largely be due to the Libra herself, who, in her eagerness for higher experiences, tends to ignore the importance of her sexuality, stifling her primal instincts in favor of more noble pursuits.
The primary difficulty Libra faces in attaining romantic happiness usually comes not from the idealistic demands men impose on her, but from her own tendency to accept those demands. This vanity is not linked to her physical appearance, but to a belief in her moral superiority.
For a Libra woman, engaging her intellect is a strong turn-on. A relationship that forces her to suppress her mind will inevitably reduce her sexual appetite.
Libra, known for her witty remarks, is often viewed by many men as the classic woman supporting the man, enabling him to succeed in his career (if not secretly doing his work for him beforehand).
Libra is astrologically designed to take up a loved oneâs case, to champion his causes in such a way as will benefit them mutually.Â
So, she is the original creative director, PR or talent agent, uniquely qualified to cast her partner, like a seed, into the ether of public awareness - she stands as the zodiacâs top broadcaster and will go to great lengths to accelerate her main manâs ambitions.
For her, engaging in intellectual and artistic endeavors is intertwined with her romantic commitments.
She generally fulfills the same professional duties as her significant other, and aiding him in his achievements is a key aspect of her own role - naturally, she tends to be involved in the media in some capacity.
She doesn't plan to collaborate with her partner on purpose, because that kind of relationship feels too much like codependency; rather, she aspires for interdependence, where her input can aid him in reaching his goals while also supporting her own desires.
As long as itâs her choice to be a supportive partner, she'll contribute her fair share, and everything feels just right in her world. Unless, of course, she discovers sheâs being taken for granted. Then watch out. Being treated unfairly will always be a shock to her since sheâs perpetually loyal and expects that same loyalty from others. So, as a way to make up for the pain mixed with disrespect, sheâll pursue revenge in multiple ways. In this manner, she truly represents the concept of instant karmic justice.
Even when all appears to be well in her relationship, Libra will only commit in small steps, gradually. This is especially relevant if she has a background from a broken home; her typical detachment is a way to shield herself from the hurt she has felt and seen as a child. Indeed, this distance can result in her being objectified by men, but on the flip side, it enables her to handle those tricky love-work relationships with more objectivity. By not investing too much too soon, she can also keep friendships with her former partners.
Valuing artistic honesty more than any other quality, Libra is attracted to "indies" who have shown their independence by going their own way. This type of person resonates with her passion for freedom - women who only pursue security, in Libra's view, have succumbed to the conventional norms.
Even when going for the guy in the suit, Libra will harbor the hope that her man is operating from a âplaceâ of creative integrity.Â
She usually finds herself drawn to younger, smooth, and perhaps androgynous men, never really being attracted to the rugged, hairy tough guys in the group.
Libra confidently takes the initiative with men, treating sex as something casual. When this impressive woman directly flirts, men tend to view her assertiveness as an appealing exception, convinced she is the modest princess she looks like - until sheâs gnawing on the buttons of his jeans. Itâs only then that a guy will realize that this beautiful girl, whom heâs excited to bring home to his mother, is capable of handling things on her own.
In bed with a Libra woman, there are no rigid gender roles or assigned duties. Her crucial emphasis on equality becomes vividly apparent when she and a youthful Apollo are stripped naked, one gorgeous androgen to another, with only their sexual apparatus to define them.
Taking control of her own satisfaction, she relieves the pressure on her partner as well - yet, she wonât treat a guy like a sex object the way the more aggressive Aries might. Instead, thereâs a strong vibe of mutual pleasure when sharing a bed with the self-reliant Libra lady.
If her objective is to orgasm, sheâll have no problem getting there quickly and then moving on with her day.
Generally, she's not into sexual marathons, not one of those girls who takes pleasure in being 'bored' for hours, pun intended.
Being born under the sign of 'light,' she enjoys extended sessions of foreplay, introducing intercourse at just the right moment, rather than jumping straight into wild sex - this reflects her overall dislike for overly macho guys who she would hate to find out feel the need to prove something.
Her go-to sex position is often sixty-nine: She appears to enjoy giving a guy pleasure just as much as she enjoys receiving it - it's the blend of both actions happening at once, the natural yin-yang, that really pushes her to new heights.
The Type-A Libra is perpetually aware of what she does in bed, and the mental image of herself with a partner is quite enticing for her. Unsurprisingly, she enjoys watching herself with her guy, whether itâs in a well-angled mirror or through a replay of a homemade video.Â
Oral sex is her specialty, and being on the giving end is, well, a heady power trip for her.Â
One of her specific fantasies is to make a pretty boy completely vulnerable, playing with his pleasure, pushing him to the edge, and then pulling back, leaving him desperate for release.
She likes to keep the lights on, gaining excitement through the looks and sounds she elicits from her lover.Â
She really dislikes dirty talk, along with fake moans and groans - she's more of a quiet sexual type, believing that talk is truly cheap. However, once they're done and relaxing in bed, she wouldn't hesitate to critique or compliment the best parts of their performance.
In a serious relationship, she might take charge of her partner's grooming routine, picking, plucking, and perfecting him, making him look even more like her personal PYT.
She is committed to ensuring that she and her partner will attract as much attention as any good-looking couple.
Sheâs a fairly vanilla character, not really into any wild or kinky stuff. However, similar to her Libra brother, she has a strong bisexual side, but the idea of a threesome doesnât excite her much. If she ever considered a threesome, sheâd actually be more inclined to bring a guy into the situation rather than a girl, just out of curiosity to see her partner explore any secret gay fantasies he might have.
Libra Woman Interested in Women:
Libra embodies the essence of gender fluidity: When she's with a man, she comes off as quite tomboyish, resembling one of his male buddies who just so happens to be stunningly attractive. Conversely, when she's with another woman, she takes on a super-feminine persona.
Usually, she finds herself drawn to even more intense and dramatic displays of femininity than her own, women who possess vibrant, extravagant traits and equally ambitious Type-A goals.
Regardless of sexual identity, a Libra woman tends to have a pretty elevated perspective on lesbianism - the romantic bond between two women is way more sacred than any link to a regular guy. This explains why she often avoids mixing girl-on-girl moments into her straight relationships. Women are not to be objectified - men can be, but women should not be.
Sexuality for the Libra is one big gray area (her brain) where anything goes, and labels arenât really a thing.
The woman she is drawn to typically represents the pinnacle of Libra's most profound or extreme ideals. In the presence of such a partner, she might take on a nearly ceremonial role, elevating her companion to the status of a high priestess.
Libra's choice for a female romantic partner could really surprise her friends and family - she tends to go for partners who are radicals, appearing quite extraordinary compared to the daunting norms.
Glamour and a sense of militancy seem to merge in the queer Libra, who appears to have created the idea of the "lipstick" lesbian. The beauty associated with her ruling planet Venus, combined with the assertive masculine energy of her sign, results in a bold sexual agenda that insists on making political statements - as long as they are visually appealing.
The Libra woman, who identifies as queer, believes that women truly are the more beautiful gender, and her own sexual identity revolves around appreciating female beauty.
For every Libra woman, looks are definitely a top priority, but appearances turn into a strangely significant aspect of her relationships: The partner she chooses often resembles an exaggerated version of herself in terms of looks - taller, more voluptuous, dressed in eye-catching cutting-edge styles or unique vintage pieces, adorned with piercings and tattoos, heavily made-up, and expressive in her body language, yet usually sharing the same complexion, coloring, or ethnic background. They appear as look-alikes, but the Libra always stays the more subtle version of the pair.
She loves to make a grand entrance with her partner, cranking up her natural glamour to the max, drawing stares and whispers from what she thinks are envious and admiring spectators.
Parading around gives her a sexual buzz, and although she has a touch of exhibitionism, she never takes it too far. She thrives on the power of suggestion and the art of seduction.
Just as her own sexual orientation isn't exactly set in stone, she finds herself attracted to similarly ambiguous women, leaning more towards bi than gay, and this intrinsic duality brings an exciting spark to Libra's romantic experiences.
She wonât let herself be labeled, thinking that living only as a gay girl is just as restrictive as existing solely within the straight framework.
She and her partner are unlikely to experience heterophobia; in reality, they are not opposed to engaging in the occasional power-play charm of an unsuspecting man - not only for the benefit of his most prized possession, but for the exhilarating experience of seduction.
Not bound by any particular role, she finds joy in making love to a strong, feminine woman, both of them relishing their own femininity and having no desire to imitate how men behave in bed.
Her go-to moves consist of a variety of intense deep kisses, soft licking, light nibbling, expert fingering, seductive blowing, and a blend of sensations crafted to stimulate her lover in every possible way.
Her nightstand is always stocked with some essential items - especially vibrators and double-headed dildos, since she really loves the experience of 'riding double' to achieve a perfectly synchronized orgasm.
No matter how much a Libra may idolize their partner, having an equal partnership is key.
The core of her connections is all about stimulation; interestingly, thereâs a lack of attention given to the nurturing and nesting that typically defines lesbian relationships.
For her, life is meant to be a communal journey rich with cultural events, swap meets, discussions about literature and music, along with other enjoyable or intellectually stimulating endeavors.
Libra and her significant other need to be friends first and lovers second; often, when the romance dies down, she will continue to be lifelong friends with what could simply be one of many former partners.
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
Masterlist
Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
The Libra man approaches life like a painter would a blank canvas. No matter what he does, he feels empowered to create a world based on his idealized visions of life.Â
The symbol for Libra is the balance, reflecting how the Libra guy sees life as an eternal optimist. Heâs always brainstorming ways to improve things for everyone. But he doesnât quite get that looking at life through those rose-colored glasses will just lead to more letdowns.
Libra is the cardinal objective masculine sign ruled by Venus, the planet associated with love and beauty. This is evident in the way the Libra man presents himself as the provider of all things related to Venus - love, grace, beauty, art, balance, and harmony.
Libra is also associated with democracy, another one of the many Venus ideals, which sees power being spread out evenly among the citizenry. This is a great interpretation of the Libran motto "we are,â showcasing the concept of balance where power is shared fairly through votes among everyone.Â
Apollo perfectly embodies the Libra man. As the god of light, he represents ethical strength, which is a clear reflection of a Libra's nature. But remember, light creates shadows too, and interestingly, the ancient Hebrew counterpart of Apollo is Lucifer, which translates to "light-bringer." He tried to take the Sun god's power to share it with humanity. Eventually, he was labeled as Satan in biblical lore, a figure that also connects to the darker aspects of Libra, much like Apollo has his own shadow side. Python, the god of the pit, is often referred to as the inclusive Apollopython.
Yet, it's frequently Scorpio that tends to represent this underworld essence because, as astrologer Dane Rudhyar has said, signs react to the over-the-top traits of the signs before them. And for sure, as Iâll cover in my Scorpio post, Scorpio in many respects symbolizes a reaction to Libraâs famously dreamy perspective on life.
Most people, however, are drawn to the principled and artistic way Libras see the world. Even if it sometimes appears somewhat fake.Â
Libra, as the natural ruler of the 7th house that embodies harmony, equality, cooperation, and agreement, sees order as the main focus.
For Libra, establishing order is definitely the first thing on their agenda.
He just can't stand the darker, more chaotic (you know, subconscious) aspects of life. Plus, he totally loses it if a pipe leaks or if someone messes with his plans. His attention is on those ultra-conscious ideas that can be understood or imposed on the world to promote progress. To him, anything else is just self-indulgent moping.
So, the world of light, covering everything from what we can see to deeper, enlightened thoughts, belongs to Libra.
He approaches other people's problems with a snap-out-of-it mentality. Just as he usually disregards his own darker emotions. However, his strong focus on the sunny side of life might lead to a bigger shadow, suppressing negative feelings that will inevitably need to be confronted.
Libra enjoys basking in the daylight world, which is often about appearances, and he never feels the urge to limit himself to just one interest, especially in the liberal or fine arts.
Furthermore, given the extensive artistic fields inherited from his patron deity, he usually demonstrates abilities in a variety of areas - the word talent is derived from the Latin term talentum, aptly meaning "balance" - without having to concentrate on a particular specialty.
This laying claim across various fields frequently raises eyebrows, earning him a reputation as a dabbler or a lightweight.
To him, the medium through which he channels his talent is of little importance. He perceives everything as poetry - whether in writing, music, painting, dance, decorating, or design.Â
Lyricism is at every Libranâs core.Â
He is filled with ideas that enhance beauty, harmony, balance, equality, and true love in human life.
When John Lennon (who was a Libra) sang âall you need is love,â he may not have realized just how Libran he was being.Â
At its core, love is a form of appreciation that Libra radiates in all directions, valuing each experience in three distinct ways:
First, he evaluates what he comes across;
Second, he highlights the positive aspects, concentrating on and bringing forth the inherent goodness in every situation,
Third, he enhances circumstances, ensuring they are significantly better than when he first encountered them.
In a way, the Libra guy is like a concept: The Scales is the only non-living symbol in the zodiac, while all the others are either human or animal. He embodies his ideals so much, those principles that shape who he is, that the strongest traits of his personality are usually all he reveals to others.
Libra is all about building character, which means having strong principles and also developing a unique, sometimes quirky persona; these two aspects usually come together to create one big, vibrant personality.
Some people might think that the Libra is fake, superficial, or even plastic, concealing his true self behind a crafted persona to keep others from seeing who he really is. But for the artist of the Zodiac, there's nothing wrong with creating oneself.
Many Libran men adopt fairly over-the-top alter egos, lending new meaning to the sign's secondary motto, âWe are.â
Some famous Libran guys include Sting, Usher, Eminimem, Jelly Roll Morton, Meat Loaf, Snoop Dogg, e.e. Cummings, and even John Lennon, in declaring himself âThe Walrus,â reveals that the creation of an alias is a particularly Libran preoccupation.Â
This fascination with characterization has also led many Librans to become playwrights, poets, and novelists.Â
Arthur Miller, Oscar Wilde, Eugene OâNeill, Harold Pinter, T.S. Eliot, F. Scott Fitzgerald, William Faulkner, and Shel Silverstein, to name a few.Â
The mirror-like symbol of Venus represents how a Libra can view themselves, much like admiring a piece of art, allowing them to make adjustments to their persona as they deem appropriate, highlighting the good while hiding any flaws.
He hides the pain of feeling inadequate, since the 7th House represents strong personality traits, which also brings attention to what one is missing. This selective view of oneself leads to a lot of psychological suppression, which is deeply tied to his upbringing in childhood.
He usually comes into the world with parents who argue a lot, or at least grows up during a phase when they're not getting along.
Because he's quite mature for his age, he's often referred to as a "mini-adult" - a nod to his sign's relationship with the ages 42-49 - he sees his parents and everyone else as equals.
In contrast to many children who shy away from parental arguments, the Libra boy takes the initiative to mediate and enhance the situation. He may sit his parents down, one on each side, aiming for reconciliation. His attempts to create peace generally succeed, at least on the surface, leading him to believe from an early age that all issues can be easily smoothed out.
 While his family life looks all good from the outside, some deep-seated tensions are lurking underneath. The tension that comes with navigating any tightrope, whether itâs emotional or not, is what really makes the Libra guy strive for balance.
His parents usually stay together, which helps him learn to justify, rationalize, and keep a balance in the situations he faces and even in his own head.
Focusing on peace, he puts on a goody-goody act for his parents, making sure he doesnât add to their troubles, but instead becomes someone they can take pride in and appreciate, which works both ways.
In his quest to be the perfect child, he might turn into a bit of a fussbudget or even a full-blown worrywart. Scared of any hidden issues, he tends to stay close to home and is especially attached to his mom, often feeling anxious about leaving the nest as a kid because he fears he won't be there to help out if problems come up.
He might just be that child who constantly bugs his parents with the question, "Do you really love me?" This might stem from their distracted ways and his own feeling that heâs not really revealing his true self to them or anyone else.
Thanks to his upbringing, the Libra boy is inclined to think he can set things straight for his loved ones. And because his parents generally stay together, at least for show, heâs conditioned to see this as a relationship model to aspire to.
Even as an adult, he struggles to move on from situations, people, and challenges in his life. With his optimistic outlook, he believes that everything can be "fixed." All one needs, he is convinced, is love.Â
Thanks to his planetary influence, Libra has been drawn to feminine beauty since he was young, usually favoring friendships with girls and steering clear of the rough-and-tumble nature of male bonding activities.
With the onset of puberty, the dynamics shift: Female friends succumb to their developing hormones and turn their attention to the more visibly masculine guys in their circle, frequently leaving the famously androgynous Libra feeling a bit abandoned.
Rejected and even mocked by other guys who might see his artistic side as just a facade, part of the reason he doesn't fit the mold of a typical boy, and now pretty much overlooked by the girls who used to give his life meaning, the Libra feels stuck in the middle of a world thatâs sharply divided by gender.
He's on a quest to discover his niche, exploring within himself for those notorious strong personality traits, anything exceptional that might bring him recognition and, consequently, a place in the social hierarchy.
He's worried about being forgotten by his peers, so he really wants to stand out. He focuses on his talents and aims to achieve something noteworthy that he can show off.
While he may not fit the traditional 'manly' mold, his style will more than make up for it.
With his distinctively Wildean wit, he is the leading intellectual and sophisticate among the zodiac signs.
He could end up feeling some self-loathing (which he, of course, suppresses) if he doesn't feel like he has those desirable masculine qualities, like major muscles or a rugged athletic physique.
He puts on a show as his top way to cope with feeling low. Reinventing himself, or really, recreating who he is, is his strongest tool for getting by.
In a similar way, recreation, in that other sense of the term, turns into his primary goal in life: Embracing a bon-vivant character, the Libran hedonist seeks out all those Venusian delights the world provides, experimenting with everything artistic, if not pretentious, while using his signature witty remarks to charm the high society.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied to Rising signs as well:
Eternally youthful and more cute than conventionally handsome, he can be pretty theatrical, if not outright funny, in the way he carries himself.Â
He takes pride in his personalized style, using it to smoothly navigate different social scenes.Â
Heâs very good at skillfully adapting to any social situation, all the while dressed to impress, to suit any occasion.
The best way to describe him is as a baby-faced pretty boy.Â
He tends to be somewhat taller and leaner than other men in his family, yet he still manages to look positively cherubic.Â
He usually has a pretty round face with a very high hairline.Â
His hair tends to be curly or wispy, though pretty fine.Â
He usually has deep-set eyes with some pretty fleshy lids.Â
He may have dimples.Â
Usually, a straight nose.Â
Usually has thin lips that are slightly downturned with a pretty prominent cupid's bow.Â
His shoulders tend to be curved and narrow.Â
He may be somewhat barrel-chested, with a long torso.Â
He tends to have a short waist with slender hips.Â
He usually is less hairy than the other members of his family.Â
He can be pretty flexible, often excelling at gymnastics, diving, or even wrestling.Â
His genitals tend to be rather textbook in nature, being aptly endowed but rarely overly so.Â
He looks more like a cute, cuddly teddy bear than a macho man, which makes it hard for him to be taken seriously.Â
Even when he is bone thin, there is always something soft about him.Â
He tends to look pretty melancholic, almost like a sad clown who is designed to make others laugh.Â
Having a sharp wit is a natural trait for Libras, and he is well-known for calmly and pleasantly listening to what others say before inserting perfectly timed one-liners. He excels in wordplay, innuendo, irony, and double meanings, although it might take some people a little while to understand the essence of his insightful remarks.
Libra men love to go out and about and socialize; though, in truth, it is more fitting to say they hate to be alone.Â
There arenât many people who get buddy-buddy as fast as a Libra man; he has this tendency to greet strangers like theyâre part of his family - heâs all about inclusivity in every situation.
However, as much as Libra men seem outgoing and cheerful, most struggle with depression and loneliness; they just donât show it in public. This is because of their upbringing, always being forced to put on a show of everything being perfect. Â
Even if he works in a huge corporate hive, he will exhibit a decided flair in both manner and fashion sense. One that is often along whimsical and retro lines.Â
 He usually goes for a more flamboyant style in his clothing. However, he sometimes takes it too far, often clashing colors or patterns, mixing high-end and casual fashion into a thrilling mix, with his outfits serving as a clear way to defy societal norms.
He doesnât just throw on clothes; he carefully crafts his image and his whole life. His hairstyles are often as adventurous as his fashion choices - featuring wedgy mushroom cuts, Prince Valiant bobs, or stylish rocker shags, being some of his preferred styles. Because his hair is often wavy or curly, he might choose to keep it loose, embracing a laid-back hippy-chic style.
To him, a person is who they perceive themselves to be - the notion of being false or insincere is the last thing on his mind. Actually, of all the zodiac signs, Libra might find it hardest to tell even a minor lie; when he tries, he clearly struggles to make eye contact.
His imagination is well-known for being incredibly active, and usually, before he even starts talking, he's already acting out the countless characters that are forming in his mind; it's no surprise that this makes his parents think twice. At such a young age, he appears to be performing rather than just being himself. What his parents fail to see is that all these various characters are actually representations of him.
The Libra man is the representation of life lived as a sort of performance art.Â
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Libra Man Interested in Women:
Since he was a kid, the Libra man has felt like he doesn't quite fit in. His parents, recognizing his extraordinary imagination, lively personality, and playful nature, might label him as "special," but more commonly, he is just seen as "different" or "weird."
As he enters his teenage years, he starts to feel like he can't keep up, particularly in terms of physicality, with the jocks who are catching the girls' eyes.
Interestingly, he might see himself as a well-rounded mix of both traditionally masculine and feminine qualities, constantly having to defend against the criticisms targeting his apparently ambiguous sexuality.
Even the straightest Libra on the planet will have his sexuality questioned by the more simple-minded cookie-cutter population of the world. Â
In his journey towards self-discovery, a lot of Libra boys tend to explore their sexuality with other guys, frequently encouraged by an older boy who picks up on Libra's naturally inquisitive spirit. After all, Libra is on the hunt for that hard-to-find love, in whatever shape it may take.
It's not unusual for even the straightest Libra man to be very accepting of the LGBTQIA+ community, usually because they are recognizing what may only be a purely theoretical bisexuality within themselves.Â
In fact, Libras of both sexes tend to support the argument that all people are inherently bisexual.Â
Overall, he's way too intellectually advanced to make judgments about people based on their race, beliefs, skin color, or sexual orientation. Actually, Libra thinks that his open-mindedness gives him the greatest opportunity to impress others, particularly the women who catch his refined eye.
Occasionally, the Libra man takes on a bad boy image to completely block out that sensitive Venusian energy that he just can't shake off inside himself.
Unfortunately, the Libra guy often finds himself quite unfortunate in matters of the heart. With his wit and charm, he definitely makes for a fun date, but the Libra socialite isn't typically seen as someone who is ready for marriage.
He presents himself with elegance, almost like royalty - as if he just came from a dreamlike finishing school. But why do women find themselves questioning his self-importance? The straightforward explanation isnât that he wants to, but that he often feels he has to, as this behavior is a result of the emotional survival tactics he learned as a kid.
The pursuit of betterment is the most notable thread in any Libra manâs journey. He illustrates for us, through his life, that we donât have to passively accept the âstationâ weâre born into; we have the power to create our own life plan, one that fits the person we believe we can become in our highest self-expectations.
Conversely, the Libra finds it tough to be satisfied with himself or his successes. This is his unique challenge: to learn to value his present situation at any moment if he wants to recognize the worth of his life and truly appreciate it. Libra exemplifies the saying that you need to love what you have to get what you desire. This encapsulates the exact karmic paradox that defines the Libran experience.
He will always have girlfriends, but when it comes to marriage or any lasting relationship, he realizes that women struggle with commitment: Heâs both "too much" and "not enough." It will take a woman with a lot of insight and a ton of confidence to partner with the Libra pretty boy.
For better or worse, Libra tends to view his loved ones in the most favorable way possible - a perfect image that can be tough for others to meet. He holds the same high expectations for those around him as he does for himself, which can often leave his loved ones feeling inadequate when they inevitably don't measure up. Although being seen through the optimistic Libran perspective can be uplifting, it can also highlight oneâs shortcomings.
In a way, Libra continues the Pygmalion story where Virgo, its predecessor, left off: Virgo, aiming to transform a woman into his perfect vision, meticulously shapes her like a Svengali, whereas Libra sees a woman as the completed work of art, much like Galatea on her pedestal, admiring her until his deep admiration brings her to life (and she reciprocates his feelings).
Keeping with this Galatean analogy, Libra is attracted to statuesque women who embody classical beauty, those he considers to be flawless masterpieces.
Libra is going to put the woman he likes up on that pedestal, no matter if everyone thinks Gwenyth Paltrow would be the perfect choice to play her in the film adaptation of his life, or even if she actually wants to sit there at all.
Libra's love and appreciation have the power to deeply transform a potential partner. When a woman gazes into his adoring eyes, she starts to see herself as a reflection of the high standards he places upon her, which motivates her to view herself similarly. The love from a Libra is genuinely uplifting. He doesn't aim to create dependency; instead, he desires for those he cares about to feel both liberated and successful, so they won't require anything more from him or anyone else than mutual, returned love.
Naturally, the overwhelming positivity and brightness that Libra surrounds himself with only creates a darker shadow in his life and mind. He takes it all in, rationalizes it, and compensates for any shortcomings with a frequently exaggerated optimism, if not outright happiness.
For all the toxic optimism he exudes, he represses at least that much disappointment: Half-empty, half-full therein lies the Libra quandary. The Scales tip back and forth, constantly, all day long, as any Libranâs loved one will tell you.Â
Libra truly lives by his motto, "we are," and being in a relationship with him can feel like an endless duet or a dance marathon. Every discussion is heavy with meaning. Every choice has to be made together, as if relationships are a two-person democracy. Thereâs a lot happening in his head, and heâs bursting with plans. On top of that, Libra is known for being anxious and eager to get things done. He has good intentions and high hopes, but every day he sets up an ambitious schedule of activities that he often fails to complete, held back by his own strict standards.
Life with a Libra has its tensions, but remember, this is how he likes it.
Sadly, despite being so hard on himself, he doesn't have to be nearly as harsh on his partner to inflict significant emotional harm. While he may be genuinely appreciative and even flattering, he can also be just as cruel and sharp.
What he struggles with the most in life are his opposing desires for freedom and commitment - both marriage and divorce fall under the 7th house attributes - and he frequently shifts the blame for this dilemma onto someone he cares about when he feels suffocated by overly intimate situations. He wants his cake and to eat it, too, seeking stability and serendipity in equal measure.
For him, sex should be, in a nutshell, beautiful. The vibe, and indeed the lighting, has to be perfect, as his concept of intimacy is rather romantic - no clumsiness or missteps, but rather a leisurely, passionate adventure with plenty of climaxes and a grand, satisfying ending that should always leave him and his partner completely satisfied.
Setting such lofty goals for himself in the bedroom, Libra could be too caught up in his thoughts about how he performs. This leads him to lavishly indulge in foreplay, intent on satisfying a woman early on, almost as a precaution against the anxiety of not delivering a memorable experience during intercourse.
Since Libra is governed by Venus, he tends to be more sensual than overtly sexual, with his intimate encounters being artistically tasteful rather than overtly pornographic.
Libra knows how to kiss a womanâbe it her mouth, neck, or earsâusing sharp breaths or warm exhales to awaken her secret erogenous zones. Heâs a master of the gentle touch, lightly tracing his fingers over her body, allowing her anticipation to heighten the arousal.
He wants his lover to writhe in great expectation before he so much as licks a nipple. It never takes long for the Libra to bring his lover, thus warmed up, to orgasm.Â
A particular specialty of his is the art of oral. His style is slow and steady, deep stimulation mixed with unexpectedly quick and breezy touches, ensuring thereâs plenty of time between his creative tongue-lashings.
If a woman wants a truly dominant man in bed, Libra usually isn't the guy for that. Even if he's well-equipped, he tends to prefer sharing the experience of intimacy instead of taking charge and giving a woman the best night of her life.
Being ruled by Venus, Libra is designed for a sensual approach to lovemaking. By embracing a slow, if-we-build-it-you-will-come mindset, he and his partner can reach incredible heights of pleasure.
Out of all the men in the Zodiac, Libra is the most likely to experience premature ejaculation. Luckily, what he may lack in staying power, he makes up for in prevention if not repeat sexual performances.Â
Unlike many men, Libra is all about considering his partner's pleasure alongside his own. Heâs really understanding, making sure they get to climax first, or even just by themselves.
He really gets turned on by being treated like an object, a tool for a woman's enjoyment. Honestly, nothing excites a Libra more than a woman who just can't get enough of him.
He is prone to liking threesomes, of either the female-male-female or the male-female-male variety.Â
With two women he may prefer to be all but ignored, left to kick back and observe the action - unless, of course, heâs being used as that dildo.Â
Having a bisexual female partner is an especially thrilling possibility for the Libra, as the possibilities are endless.Â
As liberated and sexually ambidexterous as Libra might be, his primary goal will always be unity with one individual. Heâs far more interested in sharing a committed emotional like with a partner in the light of day than he is with what actually happens in bed in the dark of night. For all his self-objectifying, what he truly longs for is love.Â
Libra Man Interested in Men:
Interestingly, the Scales guy is probably more prone to having a homosexual experience than many others, yet he ironically tends to be one of the least likely to label himself as gay.
In a nod to his 7th house of opposites, Libra finds it difficult to merge emotionally with someone of the same sex. He worships male beauty, so physical attractions to men come easily. But at the end of the day, two men in one household tends to strike the Libra man as quite redundant, tipping the Scalesâ precarious sensibilities too far in one direction.Â
Of all queer men, Libra is perhaps the least naturally inclined toward steady relationships.Â
He's into straight-acting, straight-appearing, and straight-identifying men, which means he often ends up with those who are only slightly bisexual.
Many Librasâ first gay experiences are with older, supposedly straight, and invariably married men.Â
With his pretty-boy looks and AC/DC demeanor, Libra has a way of making almost any guy consider a walk on the wild side.
Since he doesn't want to be anyone's househusband, his no-strings-attached sexual vibe works perfectly for those bi-curious guys, creating a private space for them to explore their desires.
With his soft, youthful features that he maintains into middle age, Libra often attracts men who are more dominant. And though he's open to exploring his receptive side, as the Zodiac's mediator, he will eventually seek balance by taking a more dominant role in the bedroom.
A need for order and control prohibits Libra from ever being the consummate submissive.Â
Just like his straight counterpart, gay Libra enjoys keeping things fun and breezy in the bedroom. So, some of the masculine tops he draws in tend to challenge his comfort zone a bit more than he usually prefers.
He is orally adept, though perhaps not especially talented in the deep-throating department.Â
Sixty-nine is standard sexual fare for the Scales guy, again, all things being equal.
He's especially attracted to suit-and-tie conservatives; he fully embraces his freelance virtuoso persona in same-sex relationships, enjoying the thrill of being more wild, if not crazier, than his lover's typical group of friends.
In cases where he has dragged his partner out of the closet, Libra thrills in shaking up the stodgier dinner parties and business gatherings to which his mate might invite him, gauging other peopleâs reactions to his infamously candid comments and liberal political views.Â
Artists, he believes, were put on the earth to provoke, and Libra feels duty-bound to capsize conformist codes of behavior. He typically ends up being the life of the party - and his attendance only augments his loverâs popularity.Â
Queer Libra is a beautiful reflection of his partner, a power that he and his mate might use to their advantage as well.Â
Forever on the lookout for new and exciting experiences, Libra may, from time to time, hope to lure a third party into the bedroom, willing to give his lover an eyeful of his interactions with such a lucky âstranger.â
 Itâs a scenario his partner would be wise to welcome, as, with or without him, Libra will always look to spice up his sex life with an occasional infusion of variety.
For simplicity's sake, I will use the pronouns âhe/himâ for the male versions of the signs and âshe/herâ for the female versions of the signs. This is not to say that the people who identify with the male or female versions of each sign identify with those pronouns. This post focuses on the differences between the sexes (male vs. female), not on gender. Gender is fluid, and I am in no way labeling people with these posts. Additionally, these posts focus solely on the Sun signs of each zodiac; other birth chart placements may cause someone to not fit into everything I have described. That being said, though, if you have significant placements in the sign (Rising, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), you may find that some of these observations apply to you. As always, use your discernment; not everything listed will apply one hundred percent.Â
Masterlist
Mind (how they think). This can be applied to Moon and Mercury as well:
The Virgo woman is giving and nurturing, but equally reliant on others.Â
She projects a good girl image, no matter how hard she may seek to shatter it.Â
For many, striking up a chat with her feels like a form of seduction, while taking her to bed inevitably carries a sense of delightful corruption.
Though she is notoriously respectful with men, with women, she expects to be placed on a pedestal and worshiped with a combination of desire, indulgence, and a dash of envy.Â
Many Virgo women possess cheerful and vibrant personalities, filled with happiness and enthusiasm. Still, there are moments when they can appear distant and unemotional, even putting their closest friendships on hold.
Because Virgo falls into the 6th house of service, the Virgo woman always seems to be willing to do what the people closest to her ask of her.Â
As the manifestation of the mutable earth woman, she is highly adaptable and truly flexible to almost any situation.
Virgo signifies the zodiacal Principles of Compromise and Conductivity. As a result, the Virgo woman is willing to put her own desires aside to cater to the needs of others, aiming for a cohesive flow that meets both common and personal goals. In short, Virgo wants what you want. She exists on this earth to aid others in reaching their aspirations, and in doing so, she creates her own distinguished niche as a valued helper.
Many Virgo women end up in careers such as teachers, health workers, patronesses, and other respected roles that serve others and, thus, the world at large.Â
The enigma of the Virgo woman is the same as that of Earth: she can giveth, but she can just as easily taketh away.Â
Just as you canât pollute the planet without consequences, neither can you take advantage of Virgoâs servile nature and treat her like trash.Â
A Virgo man exemplifies the typical Virgo characteristics of compromise and resolution, aiming to merge the 'male' desire to control the world with the 'female' focus on its conservation.
In contrast, the Virgo woman subtly captures this duality.
While the Virgo man is destined to be a catalyst for change, the Virgo woman is meant to be a conduit of change. She embodies the saying "change starts with me," showing us that how we treat ourselves reflects how we treat the world.
Because of this, she keeps her lifestyle balanced, always having a temple-like respect for her body.
If she feels loved and respected, she will likewise be compassionate and giving and showcase her famous mothering.Â
However, if she feels shafted, taken for granted, or otherwise put at a loss, the world will become a bleak place, not just for her, but for everyone around her.Â
Virgo women seek to protect their inner child in everything they do. Her happiness depends on whether her natural innocence is being guarded or exploited by the people around her.Â
The Virgo woman is the zodiacâs premier mamaâs girl, often the only daughter in the family with whom the mother seeks to bond, often in a cringey best-friend fashion.Â
Her mother tends to be neurotic and overbearing, in an extreme hormonal imbalance or in a sexless phase with her spouse, with whom she lives more like brother and sister than husband and wife, during Virgoâs formative years.Â
Her mom may also seem overly critical of her more passive father.Â
Her mom may âattackâ the habits of the young Virgo girl, particularly regarding hygiene or diet. This would explain why many Virgo women develop eating disorders or weight problems; her self-image is overly determined by the seesaw aspect of her momâs alternate tendency to offer and withhold approval.Â
The Virgoâs mother tries to keep her daughter from growing up (and thus herself from growing old), which often results in an arrested development within the Virgoâs unconscious mind, an area that also fittingly falls under 6th house rulership.
There are many symptoms of this phenomenon: First, the Virgo woman's bachelorette pad usually resembles an upgraded kid's room, filled with all sorts of youthful decorations like stuffed animals, costume jewelry, trinkets, posters, photo albums, and more.
In reflection of her motherâs neuroses, Virgo seems likewise reluctant to mature, forever playing the part of dutiful daughter to an often increasingly destructive, doting mother.Â
While the Virgo man might cling to whatever virginity he has, the Virgo woman seems unable to give hers away. Many men donât realize that sheâs usually the most eager to part with it among all the Zodiac signs. Therefore, she embodies the flip side of virginity: its inherent frustration.Â
Unaware that true love or lust is best when it finds her, Virgo, meanwhile, looks for it in all the wrong places.Â
The Virgoan journey feels like that phase in a woman's life when she might try one last time for motherhood or just accept being single forever. In a way, Virgo carries this spinster energy throughout her life, as if she's always been overlooked and left to wither away.
This is because Virgo rules over the ages of 35-42.Â
Naturally, some female Virgos have discovered strength in skipping relationships with men entirely, choosing instead to commit to a more rigid interpretation of their signâs service principle, becoming nuns and nurses for the world.
In any situation, Virgo comes across as a do-gooder, a sisterly, if not completely saintly, person that you feel you should treat with utmost kindness and care.
Body + Soul (what they look like inside and out). This can be applied to Rising signs as well:
She tends to be big-boned and extremely curvy, and her role as the mutable-earth sign of the zodiac reflects in her stunningly graceful physical form.
Except for her occasional, extraordinary bursts of laughter that ripple through the air, she remains quite reserved, only chiming in on conversations here and there. Still, she sports a somewhat vacant smile that she lights up in a crowded space - itâs her Virgo facade, a grin that implies she lacks strong opinions or judgments, serving as a cheerful defense against being put on the spot for witty comments or discussions.
In terms of discussion, she mostly shares her own experiences, often giving others a detailed rundown of her life. She picks up the conversation right where she left off - similar to a daily soap opera, time spent out of Virgoâs loop doesnât prevent one from tuning right back in.Â
Of all the people in the zodiac, she often resembles a broken record, constantly sharing her thoughts that seem to be broadcast, or at least called out, to everyone on her speed dial.
If you spot a quietly stunning and radiant woman comfortably nestled in a friendly group, looking around in one direction while stealing quick glances in another, sheâs probably a Virgo.
Usually quite shy, she makes a real effort to hide her voluptuous body by wearing low-key clothes, often picking something that looks frumpy, like a nurse's, hygienist's, lunchroom lady's, or prison guardâs uniform - anything that screams unsexy.
Sheâs kind of awkward, which is why she doesnât want to draw attention to herself - itâs like sheâs working through something a bit goofy, usually because she was one of the first girls to hit puberty and ended up taller than most of the boys.
The confident Virgo will own her awkwardness, adding a lively sense of humor that might eventually earn her the title of larger-than-life.
Even as an adult, Virgo might be quite tall, sometimes hunching a little to enhance the delicate look of her already-rounded shoulders.
Despite Virgoâs trademark oomphy presence, there is something fragile about her upper body, as if her spine is just barely up to the challenge of supporting her ample breasts, which, even if not a large cup size, will be dense, full, or heavy.Â
Rarely is she the vigorously athletic type, sticking to more leisurely sports where the pace and competitive spirit are at a minimum.Â
She is deliberate in her actions, not only moving slowly but also cautiously.Â
She wears an emotional sensitivity that suggests to people that she isnât carefree or easygoing.
Large, round, soft puppy eyes are set above noticeable cheekbones that often get hidden by an angelic face.
Her complexion is close to porcelain, yet it's often darker, more olive, or oilier than the skin of her family members.
Her nose is arguably her most defining characteristic, whether it's suggestively plump, long and beaky, or a bit of both. It often extends low, just above her upper lip, which seems less pronounced when compared to her full and pillowy lower lip.
Overall, her face has a youthful vibe, occasionally highlighted by a perfectly positioned beauty mark, a light dusting of freckles, and fine hair that frames a high hairline.
Her hair is thick, wavy, or curly, and often grays prematurely.Â
With a prominent head on a fragile neck and shoulders, she exudes a Renaissance charm, especially with her notoriously weak chin.
Generally, earth signs are known for being bottom-heavy, and the Virgo woman fits right in. Some might even say she's extremely bottom-heavy, especially since her waist tends to be quite small in comparison.
Similar to her facial features that seem to drift, the Virgoan woman's physique has a bit of a hodgepodge vibe. It's like her body parts were taken from various places.
Her ass is always ample to some degree, as are her childbearing hips, and yet her thighs seem always to turn slender, running down to remarkably small feet.Â
Her hands are usually quite small compared to her long, flexible arms that aren't too muscular.
Virgo is one of those rare creatures that look better naked than clothed.Â
Even though she has a curvy hourglass shape, her firm skin keeps everything in place - Virgo hardly ever deals with cellulite or extra fat.
Her genital region seems a bit larger than usual, highlighted by a thick, expansive shock of dark, shiny pubic hair. The skin is bright ruby red and juicy, with the lips being particularly well-defined.
Her nipples are generally large, darkly colored, and insistent, changing shape and tension often during sex.Â
She tends to don non-synthetic, comfortable clothes, earthy shoes, and oil fragrances.Â
She doesn't hold back when it comes to treating herself; in her usual understated way, the pricier things she indulges in might not be obvious. Beneath those crunchy Birkenstocks, she's rocking a fancy pedicure; her 'natural' hair color is kept up at a high-end, exclusive salon, and her makeup-free look is actually the result of a mix of premium creams.
Body art is also often concealed beneath Virgoâs bulky garments - many may be shocked to find elaborate tattoos or piercings on one who seems so untainted.
Her grooming efforts are focused on preserving the luster of youth rather than presenting any sort of glamorous image.Â
Now and then, sheâll "miss" when it comes to accessorizing, opting for over-the-top, gaudy jewelry or kid-like items such as macrame bracelets, beads, or a Mickey Mouse watch, believing theyâre cool.
Even when she's all dressed up, there's nothing too fancy or perfect about how she looks. She believes that by keeping it casual, she'll draw in those rugged, outdoorsy types (who still have that boyish charm) that usually catch her eye.
Sex + Sexuality (what they are like in bed and what they look for in a mate). This can be applied to Moon, Venus, and Mars as well:
Virgo Woman Interested in Men:
Virgo takes on a nurturing, den-mother vibe with guys, which risks her being stuck in that non-sexual role of being the cautious one and caretaker.
She usually steers clear of hanging out with other women, preferring to stick with her guy friends; and even when she hits college, sheâll still be around the guysâ dorm, drawn, to some charming alpha male she hopes to get close to while pretending to be just one of the guys - but more often than not, it doesnât work out for her.
Virgo's style of sibling love is reciprocal, with men often cherishing her mainly as a sister, giving in to the collective delusion that no one is good enough for her, not even themselves.
She puts in a lot of effort to show men she's interested, hanging on to every word he says, leaning in during the chat, fully engaged, and showing off her cleavage, listening like she's completely captivated. She believes she's making it obvious that she's open to romance, but really, she just makes him feel comfortable, earning her the not-so-great title of being 'easy to talk to'.
It is a testament to the Virgo womanâs angelic spirit that a guy wonât readily âjump her bones,â despite her often blatant invitations to do so.
It takes a self-assured gentleman to recognize her subtle signals and sweet, albeit awkward, way of flirting, finding pleasure in her old-fashioned demeanor and demure beauty.Â
A Virgo woman instills both wonder and fear in the hearts of men.Â
Sheâs a blend of sacred territory and a stunningly sexy bombshell, capturing the conflicting perspectives many men hold about womanhood, like Madonna and a whore, all combined into one jiggling, juicy package.
And despite her den-mothering, she can never really be just one of the boys - one look at her says she couldnât roll with the punches of a casual fuck between friends.Â
This down-to-earth goddess can't simply "give away the farm" without creating almost unbreakable emotional bonds.
She is not only a whole lotta woman physically, she also places tremendous expectations on what another female might simply consider a crush.Â
To many guys, she comes off as pretty intimidating, particularly to the laid-back "boys" she wants to hook up with, for whom the idea of dating her feels like looking into a deep, dark void.
First, some of those guys she goes for doubt their ability to sexually satisfy such a voluptuous woman.Â
Secondly, given that she seems to view relationships as sacred, "entering" a Virgo is like forcing your way into a temple that most men believe they aren't worthy of stepping into.
Sheâd never suspect herself of making others feel insignificant - sheâd just read it as rejection and internalize her pain, adding to those charming, burning, yearning feelings deep inside.Â
Itâs not until years later that she finally appreciates the value of this natural weeding-out process, with lesser men-boys really kept at bay.Â
As befits her mutable-earth status and the 6th house quality of conformism, the Virgo woman is designed to blend, indeed contour, herself to any given situation. So, when it comes to relationships, she naturally seeks to fill existing holes in a manâs life, making herself useful as a tool for healing any ailing areas, whether it be professionally lagging or in need of rehabilitation of personal habits.Â
She is, in effect, attracted to men on the basis of their potential, to whom they might become, rather than who they already are.
She is the top consultant for her partner, identifying obstacles and putting systems in place for positive transformation. She just can't help it: She's motivated to support a guy in his goals and to assist in healing any issues he faces, whether personal or professional.
She's got a thing for brainy and sometimes oddball types - intellectuals, inventors, poets, and writers. Her goal is to ensure that a man channels all his energy into his creative pursuits, happily stepping in as his right-hand woman to give him the boost he needs to succeed.
But be careful: The 6th house rule of dependency goes both ways. A guy might see his Virgo partner as someone whoâs totally under his control, but she can also turn into a crutch, unintentionally supporting any bad habits he has.
Above all, a Virgo craves to feel needed, even though she'd be better off just wanting to be desired. Consequently, her relationships can sometimes feel like an addiction. A guy who might have been attracted to the Virgo woman could end up obsessing over how useful she is in his everyday life and work life.Â
Similarly, her romantic relationships might function like business partnerships where practical matters come before any kind of passionate exchange.
Such blurred relationship lines are part and parcel of the female Virgoan experience.Â
In typical Virgo fashion, she could even take it to the extreme by transforming herself into a hapless man's likeness, literally mirroring his characteristics, likes, routines, and mannerisms, effectively becoming his female twin.
Deep down, she might think that if she basically becomes an extension of the person she loves, he won't consider breaking up with her.
In the meantime, as she fills in all the obvious gaps in his life, she might not even notice that her own is going surprisingly empty.
While she desperately wants to, it seems that no other woman has a tougher time fully dedicating herself to someone else - the reason is pretty straightforward: she often doesnât feel entirely in possession of herself, having hardly taken the time to address her own needs.
Thereâs no one, not even the adaptable Gemini, who can be more of a changeling than the Virgo woman. Sheâs like a hollow vessel, waiting to be filled, and she seems to lack personal boundaries, which can be a bit dangerous, especially for other women.
Blatantly becoming the people she idolizes, her mimicry borders on body-snatching.Â
In a general sense, being a mosaic like this is a good thing - Virgo is sharp and observant - she notices the positive traits in others and blends them into her own personality.
A lot of her identity has been borrowed from others, and sometimes in the wrong way: just like she might adapt to a man's actions, becoming a perfect match, she also takes on traits from other women she looks up to.
Programmed to receive, this empty vessel can actually become a vacuum, sucking up to people in every sense of the word.Â
Having very few friendships with girls, her path is littered with women whose identities she has embraced and then, as a consequence, discarded.
Everyone, male or female, whom the Virgo encounters becomes another small portion of herself.Â
The heterosexual Virgo woman may brush off every woman she comes across, but when it comes to the men in her life, she gets creative, transforming them into individuals who can truly support and enhance the broader world.
She may view a man as her very sustenance, surviving off that which he might yield creatively or financially.Â
She may nurse her man into financial health, but she will simultaneously milk him for her fair share of the bounty.Â
After taking advantage of a guy and turning him into someone more capable and productive, she's also gained the ability to ruin him and his reputation.
She might look all sweet and innocent, but donât be fooled; she knows how to tap into her Mercury-driven communication skills and will definitely put a stop to anyone whoâs crossed her, thanks to that 6th house hex.
The irony Virgo must ultimately face is that the man for her is one who doesnât need her to blend or fold so fully into his life.Â
Virgo is drawn to guys who have a bit of a rough edge - think tough guys, rockers, bikers, tortured artists, or those unpolished heroes just waiting to shine. Except, most of these types will likely get caught up in the same troubled relationship patterns with our nurturing Virgo den mother.
Yet, there exists a unique type of guy, one whose job or creative pursuits donât require any adjustments, who still shows those raw male traits that make the Virgo fall head over heels at first glance - usually men who are a bit older than the college crowd she usually goes for. A man who knows himself well, with no gaps for the Virgo to fill, is her ideal, though heâs also the toughest match.
Whether mature in actual years or in emotional attitude, this type poses the perfect detour to all Virgosâ codependent behavior, prompting her to yield that symbiotic energy of hers into more strictly loving and sexual veins.Â
It may take years for her to make such a love connection - many a Virgo woman doesnât settle into a healthy relationship until she is in her Virgoan-ruled 35-42 years.Â
A guy who doesn't need her Ms. Fixit act pushes her to channel that energy into a mutual emotional and even spiritual bond.
The planet Mercury embodies the principle of intelligence in the universe, and here, in the earthly sign of Virgo, its influence manifests as a physical intelligence. This means the body is aware of how to execute its designated functions - like digestion, ingestion, and gestation, which are all human capabilities that occur on the unconscious level of the 6th house. Thus, when it comes to the act of sex, Virgoâs body knows exactly what to do - it could even be said that it has a mind of its own, sometimes even surprising Virgo herself.
When it comes to sex, Virgo feels almost magically transformed, boosting her confidence and helping her connect deeply with her true self. This allows that inner child she often guards so fiercely to mature and enjoy physical pleasure.
Sex puts Virgo in touch with parts of herself she wouldnât otherwise experience.Â
Hooking up with a Virgo woman can be quite a challenge. Even though she's not exactly a fitness fanatic, chances are that most guys will wear out long before she does.
Focusing solely on results won't help him at all. With her, it's really about savoring the journey, creating excitement, and balancing give and take.
Virgo can only respond in her unique, extraordinary manner if her physical intuition indicates that her partner is truly invested in her, both literally and figuratively.
If all systems are finally go, the reciprocal energy can be mind-blowing: Virgo perfectly syncs with a guy's every move, adding just the right amount of anticipation with her own subtle thrusts, raising the intensity bit by bit, enhancing the experience while keeping the rhythm intact.
At first, it might seem that Virgo is someone who just lies there. But any such impression is often more a reflection of a manâs shortcomings than any on her part.Â
For Virgo, the movement starts off gently, deep within, where her body instinctively flirts, tightens, and ultimately draws a man in, all without her even realizing what's happening, as the sensations flow through her body to her mind, rather than the other way around.
If a man doesnât tune in to these natural workings and instead seeks to assert his own rhythmic directives, they will never get in sync.Â
Fittingly, the Virgo wants to serve more than just please, and her inclination towards submission is an exciting twist for any romantic partner.
She has a thing for the dark side, frequently turning her bedroom into a dungeon-like space, complete with candles that she uses to expertly drip wax on her partner in just the right spots.
Leather, typically part and parcel of attracting those motorcycle men for whom she will always have a weakness, is a particular Virgo fetish.Â
Virgo is a notoriously âcheap date,â most often preferring to hang at home and smoke a big fatty as a prelude to an evening in bed - Virgo, the zodiacâs own little hellâs angel, revels in stoned sex.Â
Virgo Woman Interested in Women:
In queer relationships, a Virgo woman often sheds her submissive traits and embraces a more diva-like persona.
Queer or not, she rarely feels a need to impress other women in the same way she does with men.Â
She doesn't chase after women, opting instead for a more traditional and reserved feminine approach during courtship.
She comes off as intentionally unclear and lacking depth in her emotions, which makes a woman either make bolder moves or just give up due to fear or confusion.
Virgo is attracted to strong women, those who unapologetically take charge.Â
She derives power in being the silent partner, ruling the roost while reveling in the femininity that so appeals to a lover.Â
She could be the ultimate homemaker, making their shared space beautiful, enjoying beauty treatments, potions, and fragrances.
In the relationship, she will likely be quite reserved, perhaps realizing that her natural shyness and even her lack of expression are interpreted as a component of a rich feminine enigma.
The Virgoan secretary of the zodiac is definitely an expert in keeping secrets, instilling confidence in her significant other, and perpetually reinforcing their relationship.
She is a boundless well of solace and insight, a nurturer of cozy home vibes, perpetually motivating her often more experienced partner to pursue endeavors that will lead to joint success.
Her infectious laugh and infamously broad humor, especially, make a lover forget all the strife of life.
She has a thing for, just like with all her interests, the classic elements of femininityâthe outfits, the cosmetics, the alluring lingerieâsure that her wildest fantasies will be greeted with admiration and wonder.
 She knows sheâs a catch. And she likes to be paraded around, a prized reflection of the power her lover must possess over her - when, more often than not, itâs she who has her lover, if ever so gently, under her professionally varnished thumb.Â
When it comes to sex, the queer Virgo finds herself getting served - passivity only drives her lover to please her all the more.Â
Virgo enjoys being seduced by a woman, playing that Virgin role to the hilt, empowering her partner to introduce new sexual acts, positions, and techniques over time.Â
She portrays a pretense of purity, as if her prudish boundaries were forcibly being pushed forward toward new delights.Â
When it comes to a Virgo's lover, the instigator's role transforms into a sexual reason for existence: The excitement is found in the ongoing act of deflowering the zodiac's Virgin in different ways.
In this sense, the whole of the queer Virgoâs sex life is one continual role-playing game.Â
Much like her heterosexual equivalent, she can take her sexual ingenue persona to the next level by frequently engaging in bondage scenes - obviously, sheâs cast as the captive damsel in distress.
As servile as the heterosexual woman of this sign may be, the queer Virgo is far less accommodating, perhaps even unwilling to perform oral sex.Â
Another thing to keep in mind is that for a Virgo, penetration is key, and their lover might want to use a strap-on to fulfill the Virgo's intense craving for physical unity.
The Virgo lesbian is usually exclusively female in the company she keeps, though she generally gravitates toward a circle of primarily straight friends.Â
Her sexuality isn't the thing that defines her, and like all other elements of her personal life, it's a private, somewhat secretive matter - far too valuable to be treated casually.
She perceives her queerness as a type of super femininity, which means she requires the love and attention that only another woman can offer.
Virgo sees herself as the ultimate woman, which makes other women appear a bit inferior to her. This is at the heart of her queer sexual identity: being so incredibly feminineâthe peak of what a lover desiresâshe aims to evoke both admiration and jealousy.
The Queer Virgo woman is both proud and modest, ready for any sexual adventures her partner, who must introduce fresh and exciting erotic situations, might bring her way.
What actions can you take at this moment to prioritize your self-care?
As this is a general collective reading, some things may not resonate with your personal situation. DO NOT try forcing it to fit. If you would like to book a personalized reading with me, go to my profile and follow the instructions on my pinned post.
Pile One:
What is your current emotional state?
Ace of Air (Swords):
Out of all the energy I channeled for this reading, you, pile one, are in the best place mentally. Thatâs not to say that you havenât been struggling and still donât struggle daily, but with an Ace coming out to represent you currently, you are at the start of a journey. Aces in tarot are usually accompanied by a burst of motivation, a spark of inspiration that gets the ball rolling for you on this journey, whatever it is, depending on the suit. The Ace of Swords talks about a breakthrough of sorts, a moment of clarity, and a new idea. This is why I say that you have been and probably are still struggling. You have been on a difficult path, one that you are just now starting to reach the end of. You may have found that in recent weeks or days even, you have been feeling much more motivated to get things done; you also may have discovered that your previous ways of taking care of yourself and viewing yourself are no longer aligned with who you are in this current moment, which is where this burst of motivation comes in for you. You are excited to focus on yourself for the first time in a while.Â
What do you need to do to tend to or heal yourself?
Fortuneâs Wheel:
As I mentioned above, you have just started to be more willing to accept change in your life, particularly regarding your self-care. You have new ideas of what you think will work best for you. The Wheel of Fortune solidifies that for you, what do you need to do to tend to or heal yourself? Accept change in your life, especially when it happens unexpectedly. You may experience some unexpected events in your life in the near future, and your guides are telling you here that these things were sent to you on purpose to aid you on this journey. You need to accept them with open arms. Donât fight the changes that are coming.Â
What is something that you are repressing and must accept?
9 of Fire (Wands) Reversed:
You seem to be someone who struggles with change, whether it's because you have control issues or simply because you are afraid to break out of your routine. Whatever it is, pile one, you need to break these habits because change is coming into your life, and it's fast approaching. You know that this is something you need to do, but you've been holding off on it, too afraid to let go and accept it. This needs to change, pile one, because you are on the last leg of this journey, and the last thing you need to do is accept what your guides have been trying to send you. You've been getting that spark of energy that comes with the start of a journey, and it seems that you're there, but you still have one foot stuck in the past, and that can't be if you genuinely want to move forward.
What in your life needs to change?
6 of Fire (Wands) Reversed:
Your drive and motivation are centered on getting recognition for your efforts, regardless of what they may be. You aren't doing these things to better yourself and feel good about yourself; you're doing them so the people around you think you're good. This mindset is not a good one to have, pile one. Your guides tell you here that you have not been getting the results you want because you refuse to start doing these things for yourself rather than the people around you. Your guides remind you here that you can be the one who gives you the recognition you crave. Focus inward rather than outward. Start receiving happiness and pride from yourself rather than those around you.Â
What do you need to distance yourself from?
9 of Air (Swords):
You have been isolating yourself during this rough time you've been in. This may be because you don't want the people in your life to see you as vulnerable or 'weak,' which then causes you to sink deeper and deeper into yourself without actually doing the work you need to because that would require you to address your emotions. You do not do that, preferring to pretend nothing is wrong instead. You've been letting your fears and anxieties control your life for quite some time now. This is what you need to be distancing yourself from. Address these emotions and try to understand why you're experiencing them. It is also worth noting that the Nine of Swords talks about nightmares, so you could have been experiencing some pretty intense nightmares lately. Â
What needs to be welcomed into your life?
4 of Water (Cups) Reversed:
During this period of isolation, you may have lost your passion for self-care. You used to care a lot about how you took care of yourself and how you presented yourself, but it seems that that was lost in the darkness youâve been living in. You grew bored with your routine, feeling disconnected from it, as if it no longer matched who you were. The Four of Cups reversed shows a moment of sudden clarity, almost as if you just woke up one day and realized this was something you needed to change. Maybe that has already happened, or perhaps this reading is what makes you aware. Whatever it is, this card here tells you that choosing happiness needs to be welcomed into your life.Â
What should you be proud of?
4 of Fire (Wands):
 You have cultivated a loving community around you, and that's something to be proud of. There may have been a time in your life when you surrounded yourself with people who didn't align with you, leading you to fall into toxic patterns. Now, however, you have learned from that mistake and make it a point to surround yourself with people who make you feel happy and secure. Your guides tell you this is something you need to address, as it may seem like it's not a big deal to you, but you need to realize that it is.Â
Bottom of the deck energy:
10 of Water (Cups):
 The bottom of the deck energy always talks about the underlying theme of the reading, and for you, pile one, it is the Ten of Cups, which is the card of happiness. As I said at the start of this reading, you are in the best place compared to the rest of the piles. You have been stuck in that darkness I talked about for so long, and now you're starting to emerge from it, which is bringing much-needed light to your life. However, as I mentioned, you are not entirely out of that darkness, as part of you is still stuck there, and that's why you were called to this reading, because you needed that nudge to get you entirely over into the light.Â
Some of you may also be drawn to nature, or your guides tell you you must go outside more often. They may also communicate with you through the wind.Â
With this pile, I was getting strong air sign energy, so you could be or have major placements in Gemini, Libra, or Aquarius.Â
The colors, yellow and green, may also be significant for some of you.Â
Extended Reading
Pile Two:
What is your current emotional state?
Ten of Swords Reversed:
You are in a dark place, Pile Two. You have hit rock bottom and have been stuck there for quite some time now. Some of you may feel like there is no way through this, while others have started to see how you can come out. Whichever one you resonate with the most, you are still in this darkness. Some of you may have also been called to Pile One but chose this one instead. That is a good thing because Pile One will represent you once you fully accept that it is in your hands to come out of this darkness, but I donât believe you are there yet, Pile Two, which is why you were drawn to this pile the most.Â
What do you need to do to tend to or heal yourself?
Seven of Swords:
You have some strong escapist tendencies, Pile Two. Whatever you do, the root of these behaviors lies in your reluctance to face your problems, choosing instead to push them aside, believing that they will resolve themselves. Your guides are telling you here that what you need to do to heal and tend to yourself is admit that this is something you do and accept that it is something you need to change. Once you do that, Pile Two, you will be one step closer to healing yourself from these wounds. Â
What is something that you are repressing and must accept?
Ten of Wands Reversed:
This is the second Ten to come out for you, Pile Two. Tens in Tarot represent the end of a cycle or journey, and having multiples come out in the same reading is a clear sign that you are going through this right now. The Ten of Wands Reversed shows that you are repressing the fact that you know that you have been putting too much on your shoulders, thinking you can handle everything on your own, and this mindset has sent you into this downward spiral. You know this is a bad habit, yet you continue to do it because you are afraid to address the issue for whatever reason. You would much rather shove it away and ignore the problem than actually do the work to fix it.
What in your life needs to change?
King of Pentacles:
The King of Pentacles is a disciplined leader, driven, ambitious, and wildly skilled at meeting even their loftiest goals. The success embodied by the King of Pentacles isnât achieved through sheer luck, however, but by working hard and taking the time to master skills. When he comes out in a reading, he represents someone materially successful in a significant way. This is who you are, Pile Two, and this is something that needs to change. You focus too much on your work and financial gain rather than on your emotions and mental health. You need to start shifting gears and put the energy that you are putting into your work into your mental health.Â
What do you need to distance yourself from?
Ace of Swords:
The Ace of Swords is the card of sudden breakthroughs and focus. What this means for you Pile Two, is that you need to quit spending all of your energy focused on your next project at work and focus that energy inward. You may be a Capricorn or have significant Capricorn influence in your chart, because this is something that Capricorns are notorious for.Â
What needs to be welcomed into your life?
Three of Swords:
As I have said multiple times in this reading, Pile Two, you are someone who refuses to acknowledge your feelings as they arise. This behavior has caused them to well up inside of you, and now you feel like all that darkness is controlling your life, and you donât know how to get out. Spirit tells you here, Pile Two, that you need to face these emotions head-on and allow yourself to feel them for once. Understand that the pain you will feel when facing these issues is only temporary. Everyone goes through rough times in their lives, and these situations usually lead to tremendous personal growth. Remember that this pain won't last forever, the sun will come out again, and things will be okay.Â
What should you be proud of?
Three of Pentacles:
 You have just completed something you have been working on with a group of people. Your spirit guides tell you that you should be proud of this. It may have taken up a significant portion of your life and a great deal of work, so your guides say that you should take a moment to celebrate this. If that does not resonate with you, Pile Two, it could be that you are just a great networker and someone who works well with others, and your guides are telling you to be proud of that.Â
Bottom of the deck energy:
Two of Swords:
The bottom of the deck in every tarot reading shows you the overall theme of the reading. In your case, Pile Two, you are facing a difficult decision. Youâre having trouble making this decision, which could be because you lack clarity. You are stalling and avoiding making a decision altogether, but this reading reminds you that you canât do this forever. This problem will not magically go away. The solution requires you to step back and center yourself to see things more clearly.
Extended Reading
Pile Three:
What is your current emotional state?
Eight of Swords:
The Eight of Swords pops up in a reading when you're feeling stuck or trapped, like you're in a tight spot. It might feel like you're caught between a rock and a hard place right now. This card carries a vibe of loneliness; whatever struggle you're facing, it seems like you're in it alone. You might be feeling down, isolated, and even worn out. It seems to me, Pile Three, that this sense of isolation is something you've created for yourself. I'm picking up on some strong, unevolved Virgo energy from this pile, so you could be a Virgo or have Virgo in a significant spot in your chart, like a Virgo Moon. But if you don't identify with that but still feel drawn to this pile, itâs likely still meant for you; just remember to take what resonates and leave the rest.
What do you need to do to tend to or heal yourself?
Three of Wands:
The Three of Wands is a card that celebrates exciting collaborations and creativity. Itâs all about friendship, togetherness, and innovative communities. With this card appearing here, itâs a nudge to be social. Go out with your friends! Spend time with your family. Take a break from overthinking and just have some fun.
What is something that you are repressing and must accept?
High Priestess Reversed:
With The High Priestess reversed, it seems like your intuition is trying to speak to you, but youâre not listening. Is that intentional? Maybe deep down, youâre aware of the truth but not ready to face it. The more you ignore your instincts, the more intense their call becomes, and it can get pretty uncomfortable. Acknowledging brutal truths can be challenging, but itâs time to stop avoiding them. You canât spend your life pretending things are different from what they really are. You can confront this and deal with it head-on.
What in your life needs to change?
The Hierophant:
The Hierophant represents all things traditional. It recognizes the importance of hierarchies, structure, and organized tradition. It speaks of conformity and social belonging. When it comes out in a Tarot reading, it indicates a lot of instability in your life. It tells you here that this needs to change. Itâs time for you to find some solid ground through tried-and-true methods. It also tells you that you need more friendship and companionship. You may have been unfocused, listless, and lonely, and the people in your life can help you. You have been retreating into yourself during this hard time, and it is time to remind yourself that there is strength in community.Â
What do you need to distance yourself from?
Five of Cups and Eight of Wands:
The Eight of Wands is the card of quick movement, and while it can often symbolize a good thing with the Five of Cups coming out alongside it, this is not a good thing for you. There was a major opportunity that came into your life very quickly, something that you were very excited about, except it didnât work out for whatever reason. Because of this, you have been wallowing in your pity party instead of moving forward with your life. Your spiritual team is telling you here that things are not as hopeless as they seem; this feeling will pass. You can allow yourself to be sad for a while if you need to, but donât let regret or disappointment consume you.Â
What needs to be welcomed into your life?
The World:
The World comes out in this reading to tell you things are falling into place beautifully. A long journey is being completed. Your first instinct may be to run from this, but that would only further your suffering. You have learned so much on this journey; youâve come through trials and tribulations, and can now turn the page and begin the next chapter of your life. Youâve reached a place of cultivated knowledge and maturity, and now is the time to share that story of personal growth with others. This card coming out tells you that you should welcome this change into your life. You should tell the tales of your experiences, so that other people can learn from what youâve been through. Youâre in a coveted place of strength and self-reliance, after all, and you have the power to help others get there, too.Â
What should you be proud of?
King of Pentacles Reversed:
I pulled some extra cards to get some more clarification on this card here, and the Nine of Pentacles as well as Strength came out. As I said above, Pile Three, this darkness you are in is one of your own creation. This opportunity that fell through in your life fell through because you were far too focused on the material gain that would come from it, rather than what could potentially go wrong if you took it. With the Nine of Pentacles coming out with Strength as a clarification for the King of Pentacles Reversed, your spiritual team is telling you that you need to be proud of your ability, not to let this darkness eat you alive. You have the strength to get through this by tending to the garden you have cultivated in your life. This garden is your mental health as well as your material wealth. You have spent the majority of your life tending to this garden with your hard work and determination, and one lapse of judgment will not destroy it all. A weed has grown in your garden in the form of this opportunity falling through, and your guides are reminding you of something you have always known: that you can fix this problem; it is not the end of the world. Your guides say that you should be proud of your ability to pick yourself back up and move forward. Yes, you may have let it consume you for a minute there, but that is an unusual thing for you, and you always knew in the back of your mind that you could get through it.Â
Bottom of the deck energy:
Nine of Swords:
The Nine of Swords is the card of intense anxiety. When it comes up as the bottom of the deck energy in this reading, it means that in all areas of your life, you are experiencing some pretty intense emotional anguish, maybe even nightmares. Your anxiety is the worst it has ever been. But as this reading has established, it is important for you to acknowledge why you are in this state and to work on calming your mind right now. Remember that things arenât always as bad as they seem. Your guides are on your side and are helping you through this.
