I have thoughts and none of them are in order.

Nerdy moron who likes to ramble inanely and sometimes I make mediocre drawings. This is my personal echochamber to scream into and should not be taken with any level of seriousness. Miscellaneous wankery ahead.

[archerygun]

Too Much feels like a really interesting answer to the weird depiction of English people in nineties/naughties rom-coms because the general criticism by English people to those films is usually “That is an unrealistic depiction of the average English person, there should be more rom-coms about the working class” (which is a totally fair point).

But Too Much takes almost the opposite route. Instead of a nice, romantic man who is working class, they instead show what it would REALLY be like to date the people who sound and move in the world like Hugh Grant. They show some of the more bleak aspects of Britain’s modern upper class, and how absolutely unappealing the whole thing is and I LOVED it.

The depiction of Felix’s family (+ the neglect and child abuse) is really interesting. The wedding/party where everyone is performatively progressive but it’s all either to advertise their own work or to maintain politeness while inviting a known rapist to the event is painfully accurate to the types of people I’ve met trying to break into the creative industries. The mentions of racism + general implications in a lot of Felix’s descriptions of his backstory are pretty good as far as someone without that experience can say.

Choosing to double down on the charming posh man type love interest and strip back all of the niceties you get on tv is a genius idea for an American TV show about the U.K. that’s supposed to represent the idea of expectations versus reality.

[junefiress]

im no longer warning people about the sixties sfx in tos instead grabbing them by the shoulders and screaming there are aliens made of bubble wrap and latex and so much glitter. most of the episodes are blatantly filmed in southern california or three rotating sets featuring either pink orange or blue rocks. people jump off walls and pirouette when they get "punched". the ship beeps. a lot. too much for realism. spock goes into heat. dont worry about it. the point is there is no BUT. im not going to say "its very silly but its fun" ENOUGH! it's silly AND it's fun!!!!you will learn to love it all because when was the last time you looked at bubble wrap and a back garden and saw another world? remember how much fun it was? do you want to try again?!?!! do you want to play!!!!

[jerreeeeeee]

not every mutual fits neatly into an archetypal medievalism but there are some mutuals that im like yeah addressing you as “my liege” would come strangely naturally

[jerreeeeeee]

what mutual is prev

my liege lord

my loyal knight

my wise wizard

my evil advisor

my brother in arms

my lady muse

my wild mermaid friend

my fellow alchemist

my dashing rapscallion

my monstrous foe

Remaining time: 2 days 11 hours

[dyk-this-musical-song]

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Do you know this TV Show Song? #16

I know the song and the show

I know the song but not the show

I know the show but not the song

I may know this

I have never heard this

Voting ended onJun 2

[archerygun]

The internet has been fairly normal to me all things considered because my main interactions online are drawing feedback or laughing at serial telly/the weather together but the type of interactions I was having daily in secondary school included a close personal friend telling me she imagines the lovechild of her favourite fictional characters would be exactly like me and getting offered LSD by another friend’s evil ex every day.

[archerygun]

Ethan experiences U.K. weather part 1 (the heat… god…)

Based quite unfortunately on a real conversation I had when I was like 9 and condescendingly asked an American from the rainiest city in the USA if English weather was an adjustment. Humbled so bad I made it into a skit almost 10 years later.

I’m microdosing learning how to draw backgrounds by overcomplicating silly little two panel interactions like this it seems.

[archerygun]

Ethan experiences U.K. weather part 1 (the heat… god…)

Based quite unfortunately on a real conversation I had when I was like 9 and condescendingly asked an American from the rainiest city in the USA if English weather was an adjustment. Humbled so bad I made it into a skit almost 10 years later.

I’m microdosing learning how to draw backgrounds by overcomplicating silly little two panel interactions like this it seems.

[specialagentartemis]

this isn't really the same thing as intentionally/unintentionally a-spec characters but it is interesting thinking about how intentionality does dramatically change how characters read regarding a-spec identities and themes.

So: repurposed vaguely Kinseyesque scale describing your aromantic and/or asexual protagonist's awareness of and relationship to their own aromanticism/asexuality:

Unaware That This Is A Thing People Can Be. Type specimen: Carl from Dungeon Crawler Carl. Has never once considered that "not wanting romance or sex" is a thing people could feel, let alone identify as. He is normal, which means straight. It's just a coincidence that his relationship with his girlfriend was a disaster and now he's just way too busy in this new nightmare dystopia world for any of that! Anyway!

Aware They Have These Feelings, Assumes Everyone Else Also Does. Type specimen: Doug Eiffel from Wolf 359. Firmly believes that his aro-allo experiences are universal and everybody else is just better at acting like a functional human being than he is. Being a huge movie nerd also leads him to believe that "romance" as we understand it is massively exaggerated for drama in movies and people in real life don't actually do and feel that stuff any more than they mind-meld or can use the Force. He's just a fuckup at everything; why wouldn't relationships be included in that? For most of the show if you told him about aromanticism he would NOT be comforted about it, he'd probably take it as a diagnosis that his fuckup-ness regarding relationships was innate and incurable. (This doesn't have to be negative; this is also where Andy Wheyface from Arden falls and he is having a GRAND old time.)

Aware They Have These Feelings, Realizes That It Sets Them Apart From Others, Doesn't Conceptualize It As Part Of An Identity. Type specimen: Ryland Grace from Project Hail Mary. His reaction to other people having sex is mostly "why would you do that." His single attempt at a serious romantic relationship didn't work out and he has a nagging sense that there is something in him that can't maintain serious relationships; attributes it to cowardice and fear of commitment. Ironically he does know what asexuality is. He's a middle school teacher in 2020s California, he has absolutely gotten LGBTQ+ Sensitivity Education at least in "pamphlet listing queer identities" form, he for sure has students with pride flag pins on their backpacks and pride stickers on their notebooks, and he is also not immune from the Culture War Bullshit around gender in schools. Knowing that asexuality exists did not even slightly lead him to apply this to himself.

Aware They Have These Feelings, Considers Them Significant, Attributes Them To Some Existential Feature Of Their Existence Rather Than A Personal Identity. Type specimen: Murderbot from The Murderbot Diaries. Murderbot is very confident it does not want anything to do with romance or sex, and it attributes this to Being A SecUnit, and romance and sex are Human Things SecUnits Don't Do. Has not yet realized that this is an itself thing and not a SecUnit thing. Probably willfully at this point.

Considers These Feelings A Significant Aspect Of Their Selfhood, But Doesn't Name It. Type specimen: Sister Carpenter from The Silt Verses. Clearly confident in who she is and what she wants in her personal relationships, recognizes that as something that makes her different from others and out of step with what others expect from her, and is basically like, that's their problem. She knows who she is. Sometimes other people try to make it her problem but she has so many other problems that societal amatonormativity keeps getting pushed lower and lower on her list of Problems.

Recognizes Themself As Aromantic/Asexual As A Personal Identity. Type specimen: Nova NoStar from InCo. Clearly considers this part of her identity, but is allergic to talking about her feelings even at her therapy android's insistence and besides that's not anybody else's business is it?

Publicly Identifies As Asexual And Describes It With Period-Correct Sexual Orientation Language. Type specimen: Sally Grissom from ars PARADOXICA. The only character I've ever heard come out as asexual and lay out the definition in terms of sexual orientation and attraction to another character on-air that made me go "yeah she would do this, this is in character for Sally." Strongly feel like she would be an active commenter on the 2010s ace blogosphere. Would get in an argument about the correct definition of asexuality on AVEN.

X. Their Culture Conceptualizes Intimate Relationships In A Fundamentally Different Framework Than We Use. Type specimen: Breq from the Imperial Radch Trilogy. Whatever model of gender and sexuality the Radch is on it is NOT ours. Breq is still not interested though.

[redstonedust]

love wearing all black in public i hope no large gaseous heat emitting orb in the sky comes along and makes my day worse

[rpfofficial]

levels of mutualship :

the closest thing to real soulmates you can find

we fought in the same trenches and have a warrior's bond that carries over into every stage of life

friend i sit next to in every class and pass notes to/whisper to constantly

academic peer/colleague that i respect and have a little intellectual crush on

neighbour in the same apartment block that i say hi to on the stairs

neighbour across the street who i wave at every morning and evening

we're regulars at the same bar

i can't even remember who you are but if you weren't here there would be something fundamental missing

[canid-sys]

which mutual is prev?

the closest thing to real soulmates you can find

we fought in the same trenches and have a warrior’s bond

friend i sit next to in every class and pass notes to constantly

my little intellectual crush

neighbor in the same apartment blog that i say hi to on the stairs

neighbor across the street who i wave to every morning and evening

we’re regulars at the same bar

i can’t even remember who you are but you’re fundamentally important

nuance/prev is bald/tags

Voting ended onMay 30

i polled it 👍

[indigosfindings]

how do you pronounce the honourific "Ms." in english

"miss"

"miz"

other

unsure/see results

Voting ended onMay 21

[mortalityplays]

really good "shocking number of people are confidently objectively demonstrably completely wrong" poll

[3liza]

i am losing my fucking mind

[avocado-moon]

#we dont use honorifics in my first language so whenever i have to select options (usually for flights) im always so confused#like what is actually the difference between miss and ms#i like miss bc it sounds more historical and im a historian so

"Miss" means an unmarried woman. "Mrs." means a married woman. (both of these have origins in the word "mistress" as in "mistress of the house".)

"Ms." - prounounced MIZ, btw - is a third option popularized by gloria steinem in the 70s - mainly through her feminist magazine Ms. - which is meant to be a neutral term, usable for any and all women regardless of marital status (hence the soul destroying irony of the tags above). it gained wider general acceptance when geraldine ferraro, the first woman to be nominated as VP on a national major party ticket, started using it widely to avoid confusion, since she was married but used her maiden name professionally. eventually over the years it came into common use though i do think the brits are a little more critical of it than americans (as far as i'm aware lol)

[avocado-moon]

"obscure facts only a tumblr user would know" and it's one of the most influential institutions of second wave american feminism. PLEASE open the schools

[onbearfeet]

Hi. I'm an unmarried woman in her forties. I use Ms. and pronounce it "miz", though I don't correct people who accidentally use a soft S. I use Ms. because it's no one's business but my own whether I'm married, to a man or anyone else, and that's what Ms. means. It means fuck off, my marital status is irrelevant, just as it is for every man who uses Mr.

I've had people (usually children) ask me at work if I'm a missus or a miss. I have replied that I am a miz, full stop. And when they pressed for which one I was REALLY, I have replied, "Why? Are you going to treat me differently depending on whether there's a ring somewhere?"

That's what Ms. is for. That is its linguistic function. It says, "This is an adult woman," and nothing else. Nothing else is necessary, and in my case, nothing else is desired.

I also use miz for other women unless and until they express a preference for something else because I don't magically know everyone else's marital status when I meet them. That's a courtesy—I'm declining to assume marital status and allowing them to decide whether they wish to declare it.

Also, I've taught English and worked as an editor for twenty years. I am quite literally the grammar police. This use of Ms. is a standard construction. If you didn't learn it in school, someone failed you.

[squeeful]

“Obscure facts” Boo boo I was taught it in elementary school. One with a state standardized curriculum.

Ms. is marriage-neutral and it’s pronounced Miz. It is deliberately different from Miss.

[summergoodwife]

On principle I do just assume people's schools sucked in this regard and didn't teach them it (even if it's "standard" that's not a guarantee) but that only goes to show how much we're missing when it comes to feminist education.

In the current global climate that's so defined by reactionary antifeminism, maybe it's time we start getting loud about Ms. again? So that everyone knows what it was made for, and nobody can ignore why.

[your-local-fools-treasury]

ah yes, cuz english is the only language on the entire planet and everyone knows everything about

who care how someone says Ms.

"oh but it's pronounced like miz"

shut the hell up, it doesn't mean crap

"oh but it's common knowledge that it was part of a feminist movement"

in USAmerica maybe, not in any other country in the world

English isn't the default language, heck, it's not even the first language of most people on the world!

it's the most spoken SECOND language, and trust me, they don't have time or care to teach the difference between Ms. and miss and Mrs.

because at the end of the day, it doesn't matter crap

what do matter is EVERY OTHER PART OF GRAMMAR

and if you dare to be like

"oh but how about history class"

I can assure you, there are more important things in history you need to learn about than one teeny tiny thing from the usa

[janmisali]

were you aware of Ms. ("Mizz") as a deliberate alternative honorific to both Miss and Mrs. that doesn't specify marital status? and are you a native English speaker?

yes I knew that, English is my first language

no I did not know, English is my first language

yes I knew that, English is not my first language

no I did not know, English is not my first language

[show results]

Voting ended onMay 28

^ poll to see if being aware of this is in any way correlated with being a native english speaker

[mysweetoddbird]

sorry but once you notice how often ppl use a southern accent as shorthand for being unintelligent you can never unsee it. classism is baked so deeply and why are you acting like anyone who talks the way my grandfather talks is stupid.

[in-the-drowning-deep]

ditto cockney accents being used to denote stupid and evil. why are you acting like someone who talks like a member of the working class is irredeemable and an idiot.

[origami-butterfly]

Northern English accents also- particularly the north east, and rural Yorkshire.

[writingraccoon]

Missy under my mini table (this morning, and also right now (18:50)) (ignore the mess)

Sweet sleepy kittyyyy she has never done anything wrong

[writingraccoon]

Missy under my mini table (this morning, and also right now (18:50)) (ignore the mess)

Sweet sleepy kittyyyy she has never done anything wrong

[archerygun]

Been sort of motivated for ages by the U.K. local elections (+ me and my friend hating back and forth on a tv show we’ve both watched) for like a slice of life low stakes political drama/comedy about an angel who has been on earth for yonks and decides that rather than gentle guidance the way forward is to make political change. By becoming councillor of a constituency in the middle of absolute nowhere in like the midlands or something.

Crucial to note that most of her coworkers are like yeah that’s the weird communist one. Doesn’t she know none of this is gonna matter in the grand scheme anyway.

Second character is another one I came up with shortly after who is kind of my wish fulfilment fantasy about getting a job. He’s never been to Earth before and couldn’t get assigned to a mentor so he snuck off, intending to land in a major city or somewhere interesting or important. Instead he’s crashing on this poor woman’s sofa and being enlisted to hand out campaign posters.

There’s also a third player in this dynamic that I’m still developing so maybe I’ll post them when or if that happens.

[milkyenthusiast]

uhhhh.. jsyk, that user you reblogged from... 😬 yeah they have really huge tits. like h cups at least, probably higher. yeah, and they're open about it too, they're not even trying to hide them or anything. sorry, you probably weren't aware, but just thought i'd let you know 😬😬😬

[llyfrenfys]

God forbid Wes Streeting makes it in but we had Queer Harmer for Kier Starmer. What's Streeting's (since he's arguably worse).