my head is loaded

name: ar, they/he, tim stocker enthusiast and apologizer, jontim are... good...

[hqbits]

starts sobbing violently

[sarcasticscribbles]

I've been thinking of a very complicated Jon/Tim dynamic and it's my new brainworm

[rimouskis]

alright, question for the esteemed jury (though I imagine this will be a uniquely american, if not perhaps also canadian, experience):

are you familiar with the children's game that involves slapping hands around a circle while singing a song that begins "down by the banks of the hanky panky"

and if you are, how did the rest of the song go for you

[awakefor48hours]

If you were a character in a movie/tv show/book series/etc, would tumblr consider your character to be "good rep", "forced diversity," "bad rep," or something else in the fanbase

Good rep

Forced diversity

Bad rep

Something else

Combination of 2 or more

All of the above

I wouldn't be considered as rep in a series, I just want to press a button

Voting ended onOct 20, 2023

Please consider reblogging for a larger sample size

*For clarification for "rep" I just mean anything people look for representation. This could be a character who's neurodivergent/trans/gnc/person of color/etc.

[archivists-axe]

ironically the closest thing to a found family in tma were Julia and Trevor, avatars of Hunt (the entity that was explored as a intense suspect 24/7, search for a prey in your pack and e.t.c.) and a bit of The Cult of the Lightness Flame with Agnes, avatars of Desolation (the entity that was explored as a destruction of any emotional bonds)

[sluttyjonahmagnus]

jontim au with desolation tim and it's about the obsession. tim does not forgive him and looking at him fills him with an explosive rage but no he has to be near him. he has to make sure jon fears him. he has to be the one that can hurt jon in the worst ways but no one else can. any other avatar gets their grubby paws on him to mark him or whatever elias wants gets eviscerated because tim killed him once and he'll do it again and no one is allowed to try

jon is all that's left of tim's life from before the explosion and after danny. there's nothing else. and that in itself feeds the desolation but it's feeding on tim. and he's in an endless cycle because of it. and jon loves him and loves and loves and loves and tim can't handle that. because it's his very core to take everything away from jon and to make sure he himself has nothing left to take away but there's always jon.

there's always jon.

[regularlesbian]

fun fact: any policy on drugs that isn’t harm reduction is going to cause addicts to suffer and die

[uncanney]

fun fact: Drug addiction is a public health issue, and approaching it as if it were a law enforcement issue is prejudicial to addicts and will result in their suffering and death

[jumpingjacktrash]

if you just assume addiction is a method of self-medicating, you’ll pretty much never be wrong.

now, not everything people self-medicate for actually has a proper treatment. i’m pretty sure the reason my uncle made sure to be slightly drunk at all times ‘to round the sharp corners off of things’ was sensory processing disorder. i have that too, and i just kind of accept that i’m going to randomly get my brain sandpapered from time to time. there is no medication for that. all you can do is dull your senses. i’ve chosen not to, but i can’t blame him for his decisions. when a ringing phone feels like getting hit upside the head with a frying pan, liver damage sounds like a fair price to pay.

anyway, it seems really self-evident to me that people don’t enjoy living the life of an addict, they do it because the alternative looks worse. people don’t get addicted to substances just for funsies. they start making a habit of taking something because of insomnia, or grief, or headaches, or depression, or seething undirected rage and terror they can’t put a name to – something that they can’t ignore or shrug off. and for whatever reason – lack of access, lack of knowlege, lack of money, or it just plain doesn’t exist – they aren’t able to apply the Approved Correct Remedy. they use what they can get.

addicts aren’t some weird otherfolk who inexplicably just Do Drugs because they’re Bad. addicts are you with a problem you can’t solve.

[mikkeneko]

these facts aren’t fun but they are pretty important

[severeannoyance]

Even funner fact: the entire public health field has been full throat screaming all of this for decades, and yet law enforcement priorities have clotheslined change at every turn.

[birdifulhuman]

Look guys! They're kissing :3

Anyways, I'm normal about Vampire!Jon. LOL

[goldenhawk-k]

i love jontim. tim just so desperately wanted to take care of jon, let him have someone to trust, wanted to be his friend. but jon refused, and in the place love should have grown, resentment flourished.

[goldenhawk-k]

i love jontim. tim just so desperately wanted to take care of jon, let him have someone to trust, wanted to be his friend. but jon refused, and in the place love should have grown, resentment flourished.

[dogfestivals]

i feel crazy does anyone get me

[iamdealwithit]

DO NOT USE TUMBLR LIVE

So I've been warning people to not use the tumblr live feature and i had this discussion in the notes of one of the people i warned

said person already used live themselves and was not aware of what all TumblrLive's partner MEETME collects with its feature and i wanted to take the time to make a post going over the privacy policy for anyone who is interested

for the first part here MEETME talks about how creating an account (downloading) (or having a tumblr account that auto updated to include the tumblr live feature (which is a vast majority of the tumblr mobile population in the US rn)) automatically makes any information they collect visible to any of the partners they have

the three partners mentioned there Skout Flurv and Boy Ahoy are all dating sites that promote primarily their location tracking fuck all knows what they want with your live data most likely they want to advertise singles near you??? but MEETME's other current partners are apps like PlentyfFish Zoosk Chispa and Badoo which is Match.com and Bumble

the main important parts to notice from section ii of the privacy policy is the location information limit mobile ad tracking and do not track signals the rest of the section mainly puts the onus of revealing private information that can be used maliciously on the user ie. don't share your password say your full name in a live video where you live etc.

as far as the location information goes what its saying here is that they collect the location information when you first register for tumblr live when you first log in and whenever your phone is on even if youre not using tumblr live

what does it use this information for??? well advertising purposes of course!!!

now they try to get around saying they dont track your location or share it with other users by using this word precise several times now what that means is they have a rough geotag of your location

(your ip address they dont say here its your ip address but in later parts of the document they do in fact say they collect your ip address and if you want an idea how close an ip address can get to your exact location enter your ip address in google maps sometime)

theyre being intentionally vague about that so when you see on the live tab something that says near you you could probably not follow that exactly to said persons house but you can damn well be you will at the very least find their city

heres a reminder to all of you who havent most phones now bury in the settings an option to disable adID do it now!!! but remember that TumblrLive can still use all other information they gather they do not at all process do not track signals so you arent safe there and what data would that be that they can collect other than your location and adID??? glad you asked!!!

this is a non exhaustive list which means there is DEFINITELY other data they collect about and from you

so they collect:

your email and phone number

any info in your tumblr bio

any metadata connected to any photo youve ever uploaded

adID

ip address

cookies and beacon

which devices you use

which features you use

which pages you visit

which chats you use

anything in your private chats or posts

anything from any connected social media accounts

how well ads are doing

what youre interested in

and in some cases even your biometric information

and what do they do with this information???

ads of course

and to give anything they want to cops :)

i dont make this post in order to like ruin peoples fun when it comes to this new feature or to try to talk down to anyone or make anyone feel stupid or anything im not here to make fun of people or belittle anyone but i think its real fucking important people know what privacy rights they are forfeiting by having their phone on right now with this new feature

also everyone please feel free to give a kind fuck you to tumblrs current ceo @photomatt

[captain-acab]

TLDR: DONT USE TUMBLR LIVE

This is a lot of text just to tell you the main thing you can do is DONT use Live.

BUT YOU CAN DO MORE. YOU CAN BLOCK ITS CONNECTIONS FROM YOUR PHONE ENTIRELY.

Step 1) Install a DNS-based adblocker if you don't have one. The best one available on Android and iOS is Blokada. It's free to use and straightforward to set up.

Step 2) Block any domains that look related to Tumblr Live. So far I've blocked:

api.gateway.tumblr-live.com

auth.gateway.tumblr-live.com

tmg-stream.gateway.tumblr-live.com

video-api.gateway.tumblr-live.com

video-live.gateway.tumblr-live.com

assets.video.tumblr-live.com

But if you see any others that look suspicious, block them too!

Now you'll no longer see those tumblr live ads in between posts, and if you go to the Tumblr Live tab, it will simply show nothing!

[captain-acab]

I see there's some confusion, so let me clarify:

You want to install Blokada 5, which is free. If the first thing you see on Blokada.org is "Cloud" or "Plus," you need to scroll the page.

"Blokada 6" is their set of premium cloud-security and VPN apps, which require a subscription. These are not needed to get system-wide adblocking on your phone!

[zoesupreme]

staff literally took these images down and deleted op's account like within the last few hours I've seen this post multiple times today with OP still active and the images still there

[hotvampireadjacent]

LMFAO the images were literally just part of the terms of service highlighted. Staff is so mad.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

list of users gone because of scortched earth

partyjockers: for pointing out that there are hairy potty fans on staff and making the connection that it's the reason trans women keep getting flagged as mature

iamdealwithit: for pointing out that tumblr live literally steals your data and ip address and sells it to advertisers and the police back in December 29th of 2022, and was active up until seven hours ago today (September 5 2023) because that post started circulating again

both these people had the images from their post completely erased, their blogs completely wiped, and in partyjockers case the original post was wiped from the history of the site as well as any reblogs.

it's very strange that this has only happened twice to my knowledge and it only occurs when people point put staff's complete ineptitude and active malice towards it's userbase.

anyway screenshot this post just incase they start getting trigger happy. once is absolutely horrible censorship and should never fucking happen. twice sets a precedent that they will use this again.

[hashtagloveloses]

if you’re a new tumblr user from tiktok or IG or something and only like posts and dont reblog them yeah people will think you’re a bot and block you but you will also make this website actively worse. they want “algorithmic” users like you, served recommended posts through likes, not people who just follow each other and respond to the direct chronological feed. there is a reason this website is still better than the rest, even with all its problems, do not ruin this

[hashtagloveloses]

ok i need to make this clearer: if you do not reblog posts and only like them you are contributing to this site actively getting worse and becoming like all the apps you hate. keep likes to things you just wanna keep off your blog. reblog everything else. ESPECIALLY fanart, which always needs a reblog.

[hashtagloveloses]

and FYI: what i’m saying here is backed up by tumblr themselves. they admit this publicly.

if you want a good RECENT (as of the end of February 2022) overview of what is going on behind the scenes at tumblr, it is basically what i’ve been saying for years: the core staff is tiny, constantly not being listened to when they advocate for us, the community, and working there is a nightmare:

The inside story of how Tumblr lost its way

And how it can find itself again for a new generation.

[taikeero-lecoredier]

Reblogging to encourage people instead of only liking is really not that fucking hard if you dont want people to be discouraged cuz their stuff get zero interactions and 99% useless likes and be driven off the Platform.

[pixel-mess]

Thank yall for this! I thought reblogging wasnt good because that it just puts stuff out there that is already out there, but now i am going to reblog bc I learned and stuff ig. IDK what i was going to say

ig thanks bc now im not scared to reblog out of fear of hate

[glbtrx]

I challenge you, describe the Inheritance Cycle plot in the worst way possible

[archivists-axe]

the worst way to meet your stepfather (but hey shiny rock!)

[theeye-watches-deactivated20231]

Dear Arkansas Daughter by LADY LAMB is LITERALLY JONTIM’S SONG.

“You with the dark curls,

TIM??

You with the water colour eyes.”

JON.

“You who bares all your teeth in every smile.”

Tim is 100% the type of person to have a loud laughter, he smiles widely, baring all of his teeth in his smile meanwhile Jon has a much more relaxed calm smile, hardly ever showing teeth unless he’s laughing.

“He says, “I can always hear you sing I wanna hear you speak to me.””

JON ISN’T THE FRIENDLIEST GUY. IT ISN’T A VERY RARE CASE HE CAN BE HEARD YELLING AT SOMEONE FROM HIS OFFICE, TIM CAN ALWAYS HEAR HIM YELLING AT SOMEONE BUT HE JUST WANTS TO ACTUALLY SPEAK TO JON AGAIN.

“While a stranger braids my hair back out on the street.”

LITERALLY ALL I CAN IMAGINE AT THIS IS TIM SITTING WITH SASHA, AND JON SITTING WITH MARTIN WHILE MARTIN IS BRAIDING JON’S HAIR AND JON AND TIM LOOK LIKE THEY’RE GLARING AT EACH OTHER AND THATS WHAT THEY’LL TELL EVEN THEMSELVES BUT THEY’RE NOT. THEY’RE STUDYING EACH OTHER TRYING TO SEE IF THE OTHER IS HAPPIER WITH THE NEW PEOPLE THEY’RE WITH SPOILER ALERT THEY ARE NOT. JON MAY CARE FOR MARTIN BUT HE IS A COMPLETE STRANGER COMPARED TO TIM.

[mishzar]

and when the web is spun, will you find yourself the spider or the fly?