I just wanted to say how brave and courageous you are with your journey. You’re impacting a lot of people’s journey and lives including mine as well. If you don’t mind, how is your romantic/sexual life with this journey? I’ve been talking to this guy but he doesn’t know I’m transgender and I’m a little worried/scared.
GKSKFJDJ thank you ,,,, i am glad to know i am a positive influence <3
my romantic sexual life has been ,, complicated , but in recent years have simplified greatly . it’s kind of difficult because no matter what stage you are in your transition, you’re always having to balance and distinguish between people who genuinely like you for who you are , and people who like you *despite* who you are
if i’m being fully honest , i became kind of a whore in college— i think the combination of not knowing how to have positive perceptions of my body combined with the desire to present and feel as feminine as possible caused me to seek out mind-numbing interactions in which i could try to validate myself while being overwhelmed enough to drown out my own perceptions of myself .
eventually , especially once i got more comfortable with my body , i think i calmed down significantly , and started seeing people a lot more on my own terms , and i think i have a much healthier relationship with my sexuality in general now .
but more pertinently to your question , i think the people i have met have generally always been more open minded than i have expected . you’re always going to be more one person’s type and less of someone else’s , but i think that’s the case for everyone . in this sense, i think my romantic involvements have been relatively normal ?
in your case, i would definitely be careful first , but you shouldn’t let the fear of someone’s perception keep you from expressing your feelings or finding love . no matter who you are , it’s always good to prepare yourself for the chance of rejection , and especially as women , it’s always smart to prepare for the chance of violent reciprocation . so just be sure to take precautions , but otherwise , i think you should always try to branch out !
overall , although there’s been setbacks , i’ve always found that taking chances (with the necessary precautions !) has led to better experiences for me . being trans might make things harder , but in the end , we’re all just people , if that makes sense
i’m sorry if this answer is a little rambly— i’m a little out of it at the moment , and i’m not good at answering broad questions , but i appreciate you asking !! hope things go well for you <3