romance is dead and i kicked its teeth in

this is my aro blog where I talk about being aro and look really cool doing it. Sometimes i talk about weird/creepy stuff so be warned. ask me if u need anything tagged *:･ﾟ✧ used to be aroshinsou and raccoonaro ✧ ･ﾟ:* [agender | no pronouns | aro ace | 25 | ♏️]

[ryebreadedd]

happy aromantic visibilty day to one of my fav fandom wiki comments

[saturncoyote]

The most frustrating part about giving my own characters sexualities and labels is that i always feel like it gives the impression that these characters are aware of this information and would actively use these labels for themselves when that is rarely ever the case

They do not know what aro or ace means, that dude would never describe himself as trans, that other guy is nonbinary but they got a job so they don't care about that right now, she's bisexual but if you ask her she'll just tell you everyone has a beautiful soul and move on, they use multiple pronouns but not out of choice people just keep on guessing and she doesn't mind and honestly kinda enjoys it but he's not telling you that

Ooc They're gay or bi or aroace or bigender or whatever the fuck but in-universe they're looking you in the eyes and telling you that every man on earth secretly wants to kiss other men and that's just a desire you gotta live with and that it's completely normal and they will not for a second question what this implies about themselves

[crowycawcawart]

heartless

[finzerr]

“shhhh dw” i say as i infect you with my aroace grace propaganda

and rocky disgusted by all human romance things. i think kissing would be terrifying to him.

[arowitharrows]

Shout-out to aromantic people whose lives are so fucking busy that they periodically forget what day of the week it is. today is Wednesday, June 5th. Happy Aromantic Visibility Day.

[arowitharrows]

Today is Thursday, June 5th. Happy Aromantic Visibility Day.

[arowitharrows]

It's June 5th again!

[arodabi]

Damn i really am checked out

Ace flag redesign drama and I’m just hearing abt it now

[cormorantcolors]

I went to aromantic planet and everyone there knew you

[guardianspirits13]

aro(sp)ace

[guardianspirits13]

In case it wasn't obvious :)

[tuherrus]

you don't even have a dog

[arodabi]

Some aro cryptids for pride month!!!!!

[anistarrose]

[ID: drawings of cryptids in the aromantic colors. The first image is the Fresno Nightcrawler, wearing shorts with an aromantic flag pattern as it kicks out its long legs. It's surrounded by exclamation marks.

Second is the Mothman, colored in mostly black with green and white accents. It's staring at the viewer, and has a :D smile emoticon next to its head.

Last is Nessie, who has a neck fin with webbing in the aro flag colors. It's swimming, and has hearts next to its head. End ID.]

[arodabi]

Redraw of some art i did,,,,,,, 6 years ago?

Damn I’ve had this blog for a while lol

Anywaysssss old version under the cut!

[manuciruja]

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

[manuciruja]

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

[endcrys-art]

This pride month I need every aromantic to get more annoying about being aromantic

[starsandscars81]

“Love is love” okay but can we talk about people whose identities don’t focus on feelings for another person? Pretty please???

[genderkoolaid]

just a pride month reminder:

if you are making something featuring multiple flags and you put in the asexual flag, you better put in the aromantic flag.

if you put in the aroace flag, you better put in the aroallo flag.

fighting aromantic erasure starts with YOU 🫵

[genderkoolaid]

for reference:

^ the aromantic flag

^ the aroallo (aromantic allosexual) flag

& just btw, aromantic erasure is so bad that on pubmed, many of the very few studies that have looked into aspec people specifically, categorize us as a type of asexuality. from this study:

Our findings highlight that aromantic people wish for aromanticism not to be considered a part of asexuality—a practice that has dominated contemporary literature (Antonsen et al. 2020; Carvalho & Rodrigues, 2022; Clark & Zimmerman, 2022; Hall & Knox, 2022; Zheng & Su, 2018). Many participants clarified the distinction between their sexual identity and romantic identity and highlighted that though they may be connected for some, they should be considered independently as unique contributors to an individual’s identity and experience. This aligns with a previous aromantic community survey that showed 72% of the sample did not identify with asexual terminology (AUREA, 2021a). In combination with our findings, this suggests that a tendency to conflate and describe these identities as the same or linked may be to the disadvantage of a significant portion of the aromantic community.

this is why it is so important to include aromantic people as our own group and to specifically include non-asexual aromantics. i hope y'all can understand how frustrating it is to be erased through a group that is already erased.

asexual representation is sparse? all aromantic rep is asexual and most of the time people don't even bother to remember that "aromantic" is its own thing. i can't count how many times i've seen a character talk about not experiencing romantic attraction, only for people to go "wow asexual rep!" even though sexual attraction was never brought up.

asexual community & resources are sparse? when i try to look up groups for aromantics, i get resources on "ace & aro groups" that are literally all asexual-focused. at best asexual-focused with a mention of aromantic people. which isn't really helpful when you are aroallo and don't really want or need a group that is clearly meant for alloro asexuals and aroaces.

asexual history is sparse? i've literally never seen anything even trying to talk about aromantic history. the most impactful thing on aro history is that one tumblr post talking about a woman at a nursing home who heard the term and realized her best friend was likely aro. see above with the character situation as well.

my point here is not "aros have it worse than aces" because we are both aspec and both get fucked over by the same forces and in fact, a LOT of asexual aromantics are also very frustrated by aromantic erasure! i've even heard some people talk about not identifying as strongly as asexual, even though it fits them, because they feel their aro identity is more important to them but gets constantly erased by their asexuality.

my point is that it is so fucking disheartening to be aro even in queer spaces that are trying to be asexual-inclusive, even in supposedly aspec spaces, because it swiftly becomes apparent that people see your entire identity as just a footnote for asexuality. so many people never even realize they are aro because they aren't asexual and don't realize that you can be aro but not ace. i dealt with some really intense arophobia as a teen after realizing i was aro, feeling broken and alone. it hit much harder than any internalized homophobia or transphobia did for me at the time. i did not meet another person who identified as aromantic irl until this year. any resources and community that i had as a queer teen, as a trans teen, did not exist for me as an aro teen and does not exist for me as an aro adult, really.

and big problem is that, because people think of aromanticism as just a footnote of asexuality, they implicitly assume that more asexual rep, more asexual resources, more asexual visibility will automatically serve aromantics too. and when it doesn't work like that, aro people continue to suffer as a result.

things have improved over the years and i hope will continue to! but i really need every queer person to become more aware of aromanticism & arophobia & how the queer community contributes to it & hurts aro people. hence why i am so testy about when people will include the ace flag but not the aro one. YOU 🫵 will care about your aromantic siblings and consider us this pride month!!!!!

[eldritch-emojis]

aro | ace | aroace

aspec | demispec | greyspec

aroacespec | arospec | acespec

[julietianboy]

[ id: a set of nine emojis against a transparent background of the above mentioned flags, with rounded edges. Individual descriptions below:

1) Aromantic, it has five horizontal stripes, in the following colors: green, leaf green, white, gray and black.

2) Asexual, with four horizontal stripes, in the following colors: black, gray, white and purple.

3) Aroace, with five horizontal stripes, in the following colors: Light orange, yellow, white, sky blue and navy blue.

4) Aspec, with the flag being divided into four squares, with a four pointed white star in the center. The colors are, from left to right, then right to left: black, green, gray and purple.

5) Demispec, with four horizontal stripes, the two middle ones being much thinner, in the following colors: white, green, purple and light gray. To the left is a black triangle, pointing to the two middle stripes.

6) Greyspec, five horizontal stripes, in the following colors: gray, slightly darker gray, light gray, dark gray and white.

7) Aroacespec, with four horizontal stripes, in the following colors: aqua green, off-white, purple and dark cyan.

8) Arospec, with five horizontal stripes, in the following colors: green, leaf green, pale yellow, cyan and dark cyan.

9) Acespec, with four horizontal stripes, in the following colors: Dark blue, light purple, pink and off-white.

End id ]

[aquaspiderart]

The Mothman Pride Collection is now live!!!!!!!!

Let's get this project funded and unlock all the designs!!! Happy pride, and let's hit the ground running!!