a place for aros and aces in fandom

submit and search for media that does not focus on romantic or sexual relationships | credit to aroacespagans for the idea | check out aros-in-fandoms, who also picked up on this idea! | (taken from aros-in-fandoms) DNI if ex.clus.ionist / tru.scu.m/tr.ansm.ed / m.ap / n.om.ap - if I see you, you will be blocked. | no rpf recs

[arofandomrecs]

I really wish there could be an Aromantic character in some sort of media. That isn't robotic. I want an emotional aromantic character whose trying to live life. Who gets lonely and just wants to be friends with people. I want an aromantic character who laughs and cries like anyone else. I want a humanized aromantic. One I can relate to.

(Sorry it took so long to reply, RL is....not great.)

I agree 100%. Like. We’re slowly getting more representation for the lgbtqia+ community so I’m hoping that we get something SOON but. It’s always depressing to see your identity in piecemeal and sometimes not see parts of it at all in mainstream media.

<3

[lezbeon]

Aromantics deserve respect. If you say you support aros, then you need to support all of them. Support the ones who don’t want any sort of partnership. Support the ones who are both aro and ace. Support the ones who are romance-repulsed. Support the ones who are deemed “stereotypical”. Support aromantics.

[arokaladin]

support the aromantics who aren’t asexual. support the ones who see being aro as a huge part of their identity, the ones who see being aro as the biggest part of their queer identities. support the ones who ask for you to think critically about our society in ways that may be difficult for you, the ones who make you have to earn the right to call yourself an ally. support the ones that are angry. support aros who are disabled, neurodivergent, poc, and respect how they tell you those experiences intersect. support us please.

[arodabi]

Telling ppl ur aro is like spinning a wheel that has on it: “person thinks ur a child”, “person thinks ur evil”, or “person understands fucking nothing and expects you to teach them”

Feel free to add on too

[jeffreymarsh]

If you are ace and/or aro

Or you’re feeling LEFT OUT of Valentine’s in any way

I see you. I love you

💛🌈

[aroaesflags]

Revised aroace flag after some conversation among community members! The old flag I made can be found here, but I decided to change it after some criticisms that I received. This was primarily made with the experiences of aroaces who don’t split their attraction in mind since that’s how I feel and why I made it in the first place (also why it’s not purple and green) but any aroace-spectrum person can use it.

Ap/hobes and Ex/clusionists don’t interact

Color meanings are under the cut!

Keep reading

[catchymemes]

[supreme-leader-stoat]

I feel like this video transcends the language barrier.

[maswartz]

WELCOME BACK! For those who logged off, this is what you missed.

1. @staff made a post pretty much saying “Your stuff isn’t getting deleted, just hidden from everyone but you” and “Yeah we know you hate the term “female presenting nipples” but we ain’t gonna stop saying it” 2. If a blog has a pixelated icon that means they got hit by the ban, you cannot view that blog outside the sidebar. You cannot even view their archive. Allegedly if you follow the advice in this post it’ll be fixed but only if it was an accidental flag (aka a real sfw blog) 3. The post Staff made including examples of what was ok to post. It got flagged. 4. Yes, the bots are still here. Yes they are still stealing posts and putting porn links on them. Yes there are still ads with stuff more sexual than they allow in posts. Yes innocent things are still getting flagged. 5. So yes, the site is still here and staff are still morons.

[imbigsowhat]

@staff all you had to do was get rid of the damn child pornography. THAT IS LITERALLY ALL WE FUCKING WANTED

[trekkitkat]

Loki struts into the Afterlife “Sister! Did you miss me?”

Hela;

I give it a week at most before she sends him back. 

[secondaryblogfortrickster-grrrl]

Headcanon that’s how he comes back xD

Loki coming back to Life like

[imagines-by-loki-and-kylo]

Thor: *in tears* Loki…, how? How did you survive?” 

Loki, clicking his tongue: It seems our dear sister hates listening to me singing ABBA non-stop 

Thor: I’m glad you’re back, you little shit.

[spicyshimmy-blog]

fights in the s’chn t’gai household must be wild. like “father, i find your behavior illogical” “my son spock, it is your behavior that is illogical” two weeks pass without them speaking to each other at all after those intense accusations were flung

[onetobeamup]

[petr1kov]

“I find your behavior toward me unsatisfactory.“

“I find your statement disrespectful.”

[nonbinaro]

“you’re just playing hard to get!” false. i’m playing impossible to get

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

clap your hands if you’re BISEXUAL and A LITTLE BIT OF A DUMBASS

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

stomp your feet if you’re PANSEXUAL and kind of A DUMB BITCH

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

strike a pose if you’re ASEXUAL and SORT OF AN IDIOT

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

say hell yeah if you’re AROMANTIC and a bit of a TRAINWRECK

[arofandomrecs]

Hey i just got to say i didnt know you were bigender and thats awesome cause im bigender too! (Demigender specifically demiboy which is mostly like a subpart of bigender) but still thats super cool.

\o/ That’s awesome!!! Yeah I just recently figured it out (like....a month ago) and I’m really happy :) Thank you ^_^

[arofandomrecs]

DIY for the Criminal Mind by WerewolvesAreReal

Parker, Hardison, and Eliot are youtubers. And also criminals, incidentally

Leverage | 2,394

Notes: Can be read as the start of a qpr. (That’s certainly how I read it.)

[arofandomrecs]

Would you guys be interested in cards like this or just a text format? Or both, that’s also an option.

[arofandomrecs]

Might change my card format to look better on a separate page I can set up for recs but I’ll most likely use the text format as default. :) ty!

[arofandomrecs]

DIY for the Criminal Mind by WerewolvesAreReal

Parker, Hardison, and Eliot are youtubers. And also criminals, incidentally

Leverage | 2,394

Notes: Can be read as the start of a qpr. (That’s certainly how I read it.)

[arofandomrecs]

Would you guys be interested in cards like this or just a text format? Or both, that’s also an option.

[arofandomrecs]

DIY for the Criminal Mind by WerewolvesAreReal

Parker, Hardison, and Eliot are youtubers. And also criminals, incidentally

Leverage | 2,394

Notes: Can be read as the start of a qpr. (That’s certainly how I read it.)

[arofandomrecs]

I would like to correct what you said about transmeds. Transmeds (at least from what Ive seen) dont want to dictate peoples experience being trans they just want to make sure being trans is still medicalized so we can afford surgeries and have insurance cover it. Ive never seen a transmed tell someone they arent trans. I'm not trying to dictate someones experience being trans on this account I just want to spread ace/aro positivity because I too am ace/aro.

All I have to go on is the person calling themselves truscum*, which means (among other things) they think you have to have dysphoria to be trans, and transmed, which, according to the definition I found online, is again, someone who believes you have to have dysphoria to be trans, basically saying if you don’t have it, you aren’t trans. That is trying to dictate someone’s experience in how they are trans. Like, I’ve never interacted with a transmed on this topic to my knowledge to get an explanation for why they call themselves that, just, like I said, going off the definition online.All the articles I can find about what transmed/truscum means is that you have to fit a certain definition of trans: limited to “those who experience body dysphoria, desire a “binary” medical transition, and are pursuing hormones and surgery.”And if you don’t believe that, and are in fact mistakenly using the term, this is a moot point. But the fact is someone calling themselves a transmed is, either mistakenly or on purpose, expressing those exact ideals.I am personally bigender and trans - I’m male & nonbinary. Therefore, according to the definition offered here, I’m not trans enough. Maybe individual people think only part of what’s included in the definition, but that is still attempting to dictate how someone experiences being trans. But that doesn’t change the fact that someone calling themselves that makes me uncomfortable, on a blog I run, and I’m not going to expose myself or my followers to that. To be honest, I should have taken a screenshot of the original ask and blocked the person on anon, which is what I will be doing from now on. Learning experience.If the transmeds you’ve interacted with haven’t expressed any of these ideals, then one of two things is true: 1) they are claiming the term in error or 2) they are like terfs, who can sound like completely reasonable people with some of their ideas, until you realize that they mean “only certain x type of people are included”.*They include that in their explanation which is why I’m including it. Still extremely confused about the ask.

[suiqune]

This is also absolutely my understanding of the term. No idea about the coverage thing - I currently have no coverage of any type so I’m the worst person to ask lol.

I equate them to TERFs, to be honest. There is a lot of overlap (from my third party understanding) between all three. It’s all about being x enough to actually be able to call yourself that.

I hope the people the anon here is talking about just…..mistakenly using the term! That is something that happens. If you scroll back through this blog, I mistakenly used genderqueer/queerplatonic interchangeably completely on accident and not meaning anything bad by it, and went back and corrected it as soon as I had it pointed out what I’d done when my brain mixed up the two similar sounding terms (that it had apparently decided Meant The Same Thing, brains really are just glitchy computers).

[arofandomrecs]

I would like to correct what you said about transmeds. Transmeds (at least from what Ive seen) dont want to dictate peoples experience being trans they just want to make sure being trans is still medicalized so we can afford surgeries and have insurance cover it. Ive never seen a transmed tell someone they arent trans. I'm not trying to dictate someones experience being trans on this account I just want to spread ace/aro positivity because I too am ace/aro.

All I have to go on is the person calling themselves truscum*, which means (among other things) they think you have to have dysphoria to be trans, and transmed, which, according to the definition I found online, is again, someone who believes you have to have dysphoria to be trans, basically saying if you don’t have it, you aren’t trans. That is trying to dictate someone’s experience in how they are trans. Like, I’ve never interacted with a transmed on this topic to my knowledge to get an explanation for why they call themselves that, just, like I said, going off the definition online.All the articles I can find about what transmed/truscum means is that you have to fit a certain definition of trans: limited to “those who experience body dysphoria, desire a “binary” medical transition, and are pursuing hormones and surgery.”And if you don’t believe that, and are in fact mistakenly using the term, this is a moot point. But the fact is someone calling themselves a transmed is, either mistakenly or on purpose, expressing those exact ideals.I am personally bigender and trans - I’m male & nonbinary. Therefore, according to the definition offered here, I’m not trans enough. Maybe individual people think only part of what’s included in the definition, but that is still attempting to dictate how someone experiences being trans. But that doesn’t change the fact that someone calling themselves that makes me uncomfortable, on a blog I run, and I’m not going to expose myself or my followers to that. To be honest, I should have taken a screenshot of the original ask and blocked the person on anon, which is what I will be doing from now on. Learning experience.If the transmeds you’ve interacted with haven’t expressed any of these ideals, then one of two things is true: 1) they are claiming the term in error or 2) they are like terfs, who can sound like completely reasonable people with some of their ideas, until you realize that they mean “only certain x type of people are included”.*They include that in their explanation which is why I’m including it. Still extremely confused about the ask.