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Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.

Therefore, I present to you:

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

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This would’ve been great an hour ago

elliesgaymachete

If your anxiety includes rapid heartbeat for no reason then it may help to exercise! It helps for me because I’m focused on whatever moves I’m doing and breathing, and it gives my heart rate a reason to be that high so that I can start the slow cooking down process and (hopefully) bring that heart rate down with it. Look up a quick cardio workout on YouTube or something and just do it in your room!

systlin

This is so, SO true.

All ‘doing something relaxing’ ever did for me was give my brain MORE free time to FREAK THE FUCK OUT.

noriannbraindripshere

I like how this boil down to grabbing something then tell the brains weasels to GO FETCH YOU PIECES OF SHIT

systlin

I mean.

That’s basically it tho.

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Osamu was so damn right…still they are a lovely team anyway..

But can we all take a minute to appreciate this beautiful mentally stable ray of sunshine?

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End of an Era : It’s your turn now

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When Anime Hits Your Soul

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Kacchan and Deku - Surprising opposites (spoilers for anime-only watchers)

Something that I really like about Bakugou and Midoriya’s rival dynamic is how their fighting styles are both the opposite of each other and the opposite of what you would expect.

Midoriya is always muttering some strategy or other and he’s got his notebook full of ideas and different counters to fighting styles so you’d expect him to be really good at targeting weaknesses and having multi-layered plans and back-up plans to have a sure victory.

But it’s actually the opposite. His low self-esteem leads him to not care about his own well-being and the majority of the time he ends up relying on the brute strength of his Quirk alone and badly injures himself by being too reckless with his power. Like he does strategize, but he always seems to fail at accounting just how much damage One for All does to his body, and with his battle with Chisaki he completely disregarded the limits altogether by having Eri on his back. Which seems like a practical plan but not really a good plan if you think about the fact that he has a small, emotionally distressed child with a difficult-to-handle Quick on his back during the entire thing. A lot of the time he usually goes into the fight with some kind of sound, logical plan but then when it goes awry, he almost always finishes with a huge SMASH to end things quickly and usually ends up broken in the end. Yes, he wins, but yes, he’s done. Most of his plans come with too much risk to himself.

You’d also think that as someone who has spent a long time observing people, he’d be good at discerning emotions and the intentions of other people, but due to his big heart and naivety he lets his guard down a lot and is surprisingly reckless when it comes to defending others and acts before thinking. Like how he charged in when Bakugou was captured by the sludge villain. Or like how even though he knew what Shinsou’s Quirk was he just rushed in out of anger because Shinsou had insulted Ojiro.

I would have thought that Midoriya would have been smart enough to understand that Shinsou was just trying to rile him up, but nope. Just… just charged right in there screaming like an idiot. This scene was even more frustrating because a lot of us viewers expected him to know better.

On the other hand, Bakugou is loud and brash and always emotionally straightforward with what he approves and disapproves of. You’d think that he charges into battle recklessly without any regard to his personal safety as long as he can win, but he’s the one who strategizes for maximum efficiency.

His fighting style is incredibly self-preserving, with his costume designed to minimize the risks his body takes and his actual fighting style in the Databook is listed as “Hit and Away”, meaning that he gets one good hit in, then backs away and waits for or creates another opening to get another good hit in. Plus, he’s a quick thinker in battle and both discovers and targets weaknesses within a single fight, like with Tokoyami and Kirishima. And it’s not that he doesn’t take risks at all, but he usually thinks of the consequences of his actions before actually performing them. In other words acting after thinking. Like how he realized during his kidnapping that even if he blasted them all away with a huge blast, Kurogiri would have been able to counter him. So he didn’t do it and tried to think of another strategy.

He always seems really closed off towards other people and rarely gives a damn about what they think, but he was the only one who could tell that Shindou (from the Hero Exams) had bad intentions towards their class.

He’s also an occasional Mr. Exposition, explaining things like Quirk limitations or knowing about the rival Hero schools. And he’s surprisingly observant towards other people’s feelings. Like how he could tell that Kirishima was depressed and tried to cheer him up (twice) and more recently he seems to be keeping a close eye on Todoroki and his family problems.

And the best part is that even though their fighting styles and certain personality aspects are the opposite of what you would expect, they make sense.

Midoriya is a total newbie at using his Quirk and he’s always been on the sidelines when he was Quirkless so of course he wouldn’t be able to account for the damage he could take to himself, nor would he always be able to have a logical Plan B if his first plan went awry. And of course, if he’s never been in a fight before, he’d have a hard time both thinking and moving at the same time like Bakugou does. Which is part of why he froze up during the U.A. entrance exam. In a way, his weakness is similar to Yaoyorozu’s. Both great thinkers, but actions can be difficult to do at the same time.

Bakugou on the other hand is a veteran with his Quirk and possibly has the best practical Quirk control in the class. He’s also been in a lot of fights when he was younger, so he’d be better at finding strategies to win and he’d know how to minimize damage because he knows how much damage he can take. His thinking is almost completely instinctual, like an animal surviving in the wild. Like how he immediately knew that running away from All Might was impossible, so the best thing to do would be to fight (well, not the best thing, but the more practical thing. He probably would have been more clear-headed if anyone but Deku had been his partner).

So Midoriya’s body acts before he can think (as pointed out by All Might) and Bakugou usually acts after he thinks. Midoriya is actually the really reckless fighter who often injures himself and Bakugou is actually the really cautious, quick-thinking fighter (though he does make some questionable decisions when he’s lost his temper). And you’d never know it by looking at their daily behavior alone.

It’s such an interesting contrast, and I appreciate Horikoshi for writing it as such.

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New art, of Deku and Kacchan, by Horikoshi.

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#todoroki dabi

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DID HE MAKE IT??

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he makes it

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THANK FUCKING GOD

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Ok I saw a rb of this with some context and I only remember like half of it so I’m also using Google I may get some of this wrong

But apparently the “first errand” thing isn’t just a cute little fact about the little kid, it’s a totally real thing done in Japan to teach kids that they can like rely on the community to offer assistance if they need it. They send their kids (like 2-3 years old) out alone to perform a relatively simple errand like going to a convenience store and buying a carton of milk. (There’s even a tv show where a camera crew follows children as they accomplish this first errand.) It’s not uncommon to see kids as young as 6-7 riding the subway alone because they’ve gained this sense of independence that comes from knowing that there will be people to help out if they need it.