I am a person. I am alive. i can think, and I can feel. I desire that others and myself will be granted the freedom to be every aspect of what it means to be human, and so I’m willing let go of eternal comfort for eternal life.
"It's important that the misconception that Catholicism is synonymous with ineffective birth control is laid to rest."
"The debate is not between contraception and NFP, it's between contraception and chastity."
Though the question remains: "how am I supposed to show them I love them without sex?"
Chastity makes it so you have to stir up within yourself creative ways to express love.
This one form of intimacy comes intuitively natural to us: sexual intimacy. Others may not be so discreet, not so at the forefront of our minds, and thus need to be explored and learned for ourselves... Chastity teaches us these. It does this by giving us the freedom to have time and space to learn them, rather than always prompted into action and preoccupied with the first desire that vies for our attention. It gives us room to accomplish so much more than we could think of with our first inclination. We can be more thoughtful, more purposeful, more real with each action we take.
Chastity lets us explore the full spectrum of human love and affection, instead of always going with the first thing we can come up with and taking the depth of our ability to desire unity for granted. It can run far deeper, and run over into areas of our lives beyond physical unity, or that which seems most apparent.
We can own it, embrace it, and love people through it, this desire of ours. We can use it as a tool for even greater good, instead of just being pushed around by it out of fear that it cannot be controlled. Have a little more faith in yourself, please? :) http://explorersfoundation.org/glyphery/122.html
Although sexual intercourse will be advertised always as new, interesting, and captivating, "they are trying to make up in techniques what they lack in substance". It is true, that sex is all of these things, but it is not the ONLY thing that has all of these qualities. Thus, sex will never rectify the need to express such intense love for another person in a VARIETY of ways. Sex alone is not variety, although it is promoted to be such by constantly dividing it into parts.
It's our human attempt to make it seem infinite by showing infinite divisions, although it still is is not infinite in its external applications. We do not exist in a constant state of sexual intercourse. However, if we were to still rest on the faith that sex is universal in its nature, we either shut up our feelings of affection into this one area of life, as if were the only area that mattered, and thus never allow ourselves to be fully alive with love at all times... but only when we are having sex. Or, we try to bring sex into multiple arenas of life, so that we can feel this way without finding new varieties of expression to match other situations... and thus compromise our freedom to explore the vastness of human emotion.
Does this sounds like our society? Maybe just a bit? *rolls eyes*
Your ability to be chaste always, in your sex and in your abstinence, is a testimony to the fact that there is more to love than sex. That there is more to intimacy than physical proximity, and that there is more to unity than sexual encounters. Which we all profess to be true, as seen in the ideas and dreams we surround ourselves with, but we do not match our lifestyles to show it while we are awake and living it out. Thus, we end up fighting to preserve something in the world we don't even preserve in ourselves.
And then we get sad when it doesn't seem to work and when we encounter seemingly insurmountable logical absurdities in our moral divergences with other people. And then we give up, or we fail in our high dreams by trying to achieve them with base and irrational means, contributing our part in the demise of others and the propagation of unequal societies. (Thx Darwin <3) Accomplishing nothing because we lack the space and time to do so when we follow only what we are first presented with. (Thx again, Darwin) Going with our first inclination as the only thing possible, and then get confused by people who see more possibilities.
Let's rectify those absurdities right now, so that we know what to do from here on out:
Sex is a form of unity, rather than unity a form of sex. Sex is an expression of love, rather than love an expression of sex. Furthermore, you can love completely and fully without ever having sex, either with a specific person or ever in your life (if that were the condition you were in) simply because sex is not a requirement for full and complete love to exist.
Love is far bigger, and unity far more diverse. Chastity is your testimony to this. It demonstrates to others that you are governed by more than what is at the forefront of your mind. Unity of all of you, no matter what situation you are in. You may love just as purely and intensely in ALL of them.
Said in another way, you are free from ever being forced to give up any bit of your love for the other. It may burn always, forever, with no logical absurdity to extinguish your efforts as a rational. human. being. That is why purity is so beautiful, chastity so necessary, and marriage so sacred.
As far as couples and sex is concerned:
Chastity, and periods of respectful and thoughtful abstinence, "keep you from taking your [spouse] for granted, because [they're] not always accessible to you. It helps [both of you] to be better lovers, because not every kiss needs to lead to the bedroom, that [you] can learn other forms of expressing intimacy." You can love without sex. Not all sexual intercourse is an expression of love, and not all sex is loving. Love can exist in its entirety without sex, because sex is only one means of expressing love. Practicing chastity makes this apparent.
Sex is a beautiful and clear expression prompted by a certain situation. Clear, and rational, and thus able to reflect the larger pattern in its outward form. Just as chastity allows us to do when we are in other situations.
Could you imagine the stability of a marriage that knows so many ways of expressing love that are not sexual?
Or a world that didn't rely on sex to show each other how much they love each other? Maybe we'd be unified as a species, like that beautiful and strong marriage. One that was bonded by love in both instances of sex and instances of abstinence, always chaste. We would have true variety in human endeavors, and allow people to flourish just as they are. #vocations
Maybe we'd actually get somewhere instead of going around in circles. And we wouldn't sacrifice the lives of other people to satisfy our own selfishness.
Have we forgotten that sex is not something universally experienced by all people? Yet individuality, humanity, and virginity are? We are born in a state of chastity, and as virgins, and we go on to have sex later in life. We don't have to give up our chastity when we experience changes in our marital state, because we had it from the very beginning of our individual person. We can let our purity and our individuality guide us, and thus our chastity too. Because it all comes from the same source. We can be exactly who we are, and we never have to change or give up who we were born as.
Not everyone will go on to have sex, and not everyone needs to (Thx again, Darwin) so stop basing your morality in something that cannot apply to all people by its limited nature.
No matter how many ways you divide it, re-categorize it, and define it, it will never become universal. It will just be more defined.
And you lose the chance to define the rest of the universe you live in, because you are far too preoccupied.
#lovewins #beauty #love #chastity #liberation #sacrificallove
Who's to say someone else won't take that opportunity of your weak will to keep you that way? If our society never focuses on anything else... maybe we're being kept that way. Weak and preoccupied and busy and unaware, and we're smiling and going along with it as we are lead to our grave.
Shutting ourselves out of our rational mind, out of our creativity and imagination, and keeping far away from any opportunity to make the world a better place for someone being crushed under our opulence,
Because it FEELS GOOD. And we would sacrifice freedom before we'd sacrifice comfort. Yet we'd be willing to sacrifice the freedom and comfort of someone else to keep our own.
If you gave me the choice between abstinence and sexual love as our society presents it, I'd choose abstinence every time. Because the infinite inward divisions to make up for a lack of outward growth may contain a partial good, but are simply not good enough.
I'd rather stay completely me as an individual and as a singly complete person than be partially in a relationship.
I'd rather be a clear sign of human freedom as a single person than sacrifice this for the comfort of a relationship. How could I bear the thought of keeping others trapped and miserable because they’ve never been shown a way out... if I chose to stay inside even though I see it?
I'd rather love in a way that doesn't compromise my ability and desire for logic than give away my ability to reason.... to sacrifice the tools I need to clearly approach and proclaim the universe for the fleeting comfort of my emotions.
I want both, in a singular system. I want them to be united in me instead of assuming only one may be the real me. I want the the full spectrum of what it means to be human, and so I’m willing let go of eternal comfort for eternal life.
And so I will love in a way that permits the existence of both, as parts of one system instead of two debating realities I must fight between or give away.
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