[atypical-dysphoria]

Atypical Dysphoria

pt: atypical dysphoria

Hello and Welcome to my blog! This is a blog to spread awareness for atypical dysphoria, give advice, tips and general safe space for atypical dysphoria havers!

You can call me Helix, I use it/ae/xe & he/her pronouns! some important notes about me is i am plural, autistic, adhd haver, BPD haver, and multi disabled (chronic pain & fatigue especially). Please be patient and kind!

Things I Do · Current Inbox · Atypical Dysphoria Flag

Anons: 📯

[stupidwittlebaby-deactivated202]

Shoutout to folks with dysphoria that can't be fixed.

To folks with gender dysphoria that is so specific, no combination of HRT and surgery could give you the correct body (at least with where medical science is now).

To folks with species dysphoria, who were straight up born as the wrong thing.

To folks who can't figure out why they're dysphoric. Something doesn't fit right, but why? What would be better?

To folks who struggle with depersonalization, who know that no matter what their body looks like, or how much they like how it looks, it'll never be exactly right.

I hear you.

[shrubmogai]

atypical euphoria - a term for those who have body/species/mind/etc euphoria, outside of gender euphoria. for example, one might get euphoria from wearing animal ears or daydreaming or anything else. this is intended for those who have little/no atypical dysphoria but do get body/species/mind/etc euphoria, however those with atypical dysphoria are free to use it of course. i noticed a lot of focus on just dysphoria and, as someone who doesn't experience atypical dysphoria but does experience atypical euphoria, i wanted to coin a term that makes me more comfortable.

color meanings:

light green - all types of atypical euphoria (body, species, mind, etc)

yellow - euphoria and happiness via non-harmful transitioning

white - unity between everyone who experiences atypical euphoria

lavender - acceptance of oneself and one's internal identity

light blue - those who experience some amount of atypical dysphoria

dark blue - those who experience no atypical dysphoria

disclaimer: i am anti-radqueer and anti-transid, however, i can't stop those who are radqueer or transid from using this term/flag as long as they agree with the meanings. i would prefer if radqueer/transid folks not interact with this post as well. "harmful transitioning" includes things such as "race transitioning" and faking disorders, as those harm others.

[atypical-dysphoria]

"This User has Addiction Dysphoria" userbox

[atypical-dysphoria]

Hi could you do a “this user has addiction dysphoria” userbox?

📯Anon

queued!

[hydor-coining]

Plural Euphoria Flag

A flag for those who experience any kind of plural-related euphoria in any way.

Term coined by Rue of SOA on 1 June 2024. Flag made by Charles of SOA on 25 June 2024.

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Plural Dysphoria Flag

A flag for those who experience any kind of plural-related dysphoria in any way.

Term coined by Rue of SOA on 1 June 2024. Flag made by Charles of SOA on 25 June 2024.

[desirfictional]

desire2010s tips pleas ,, ? (leaning towards 2010-2014)

ofc! here you go:

♡ watch youtube videos from the 2010s (you can make a playlist to keep track of the videos you like to rewatch them)

♡ engage with media that was popular in the 2010s (and look back at old fanfiction from that time period if you want lol)

♡ look at and save a lot of memes from the 2010s

♡ play old games or older versions of games that were out during the 2010s

♡ wear fashion that was popular in the 2010s

♡ look back at old posts from the 2010s and try to mimic the typing style

♡ use a fake social media app like twinote or a private discord server and pretend its the 2010s (or you could even make a discord server with other people and you could all pretend its the 2010s in there)

[desirfictional]

desirbite tips that dosent involve another being?

ofc, here you go:

♡ bite a pillow, stuffed animal, shirt, chew toy, etc (make sure its clean!)

♡ when you eat foods, bite them very hard (be sure to pick foods that wont hurt your teeth if you bite them really hard)

♡ chew on harder foods (like suckers or peppermints) or ice

♡ lightly bite yourself on the arm or somewhere else that it wont hurt (dont bite too hard, make sure not to break the skin at all)

♡ make biting motions with your mouth when you arent chewing anything

♡ if youre desirbitten you can also draw bite marks on yourself or lightly bite yourself (or buy plastic vampire teeth and use those to mimic being bitten)

[desirfictional]

desiramabtransfem tips please

I'm not AMAB or transfem so lmk if any else has any additions/corrections to this, but here are some tips based on transfems I know:

♡ Have the transfem flag in your pfp/bio or tell others you're transfem (if you're transfem of course- Since being transfem isn't exclusive to being AMAB, this isn't appropriative or transphobic or anything)

♡ Shave your face, legs, etc

♡ If you specifically desire to be pre-HRT but are not AMAB, buy a binder and a packer. If you want to be post-HRT, buy fake boobs (you can just search "fake boobs for cosplay" on amazon or something like that) or just don't bind, and if you want to be post-op don't pack if you don't have a dick and tuck if you do have one (be sure to say safe though, don't do it for too long)

♡ Try to voice train to make your voice a bit deeper, OR if you're able to you can go on T and then voice train to make your voice lighter again (for the first option, it can be helpful to pick a specific person to try to mimic to voice of)

♡ Engage in things common in transfem communities (catgirls/puppygirls, that one shark plushie, thigh highs, etc). Be sure not to perpetuate any stereotypes- Don't do things exclusively because they're "transfem things", do them because you enjoy them (and don't do things you don't enjoy)

♡ Join transfem communities, watch transfem youtubers, read up on transfem experiences, and just become as familiar with the community as possible (this is especially helpful if you can find transfems outside of the internet)

♡ Please remember that all of these things are optional, and don't reflect what every single transfem does/is like. Don't perpetuate stereotypes - and keep in mind that you aren't perpetuating stereotypes if you're just doing what you enjoy.

[meeb-motes]

I know you said no requests for characters, but does desirae count? i would love emojis of wish! (any theme)

(Desirae doesn’t count 100% feel free to request us to make emojis of our ocs :3!)

Desirae flag holding (desirdae, desirharmful and desirharmed) e-m-o-j-i-s

Pt//Desirae flag holding (desirdae, desirharmful and desirharmed) emojis//End PT

since y-o-u didn’t specify what type u wanted I just did like emojis of wish holding flags

BTW feel fee to request more desirae holding f-l-a-g emojis (it can be any flag 4 anything) they r rlly fun to do!

-03 with help from momoko(<-added the p-t)

[redacted-coiner]

Dissomei Mascot

Name: Xorath

Pronouns: It/Ix/Iz/Xem + Any Neos

Age: 101

Species: An alien brain within a lava lamp

Condition: Autistic , HPD , Alice in Wonderland syndrome , Alien hand syndrome , Atypical Dysphoria

Gender: Transxennienull , Jellyfish , Aetherine , Aliengender , Gleepic , Frialienic , InviBrainScanic , Lavalampobjehead , Lamplavic , Phoslavalampial , Sweetalienmulviboard , Dissomeifuckoff

Attraction: Pan , Dissomei 4 Dissomei

Dissomei: Dissobody , Dissotall , Dissomoonling , Disso80scade , Dissoxenofession , Dissoartstyle , Dissocandyorgans , Dissoxenoality , Dissosynth , Dissothirdpersonspeak , Dissohyperverbal , Dissolanguage , Dissovideogame ,

Other IDs: Internet Hearthic

@dissomei-culture-is , @kiruliom

[redacted-coiner]

Xorath Icon things

Using both new and old designs of the Dissomei flag! Also check this for info on Xorath!

@dissodic-archive & @kiruliom

[buntress]

⌖ What Is Non-Harmful Transitioning?

[PT :: What is non-harmful transitioning?]

As the term Desirdae has become more popular, a thing I have noticed is people not understanding what "non-harmful transitioning" means. Which is quite fair! It's a very, very vague term that can be used in a multitude of ways. So, in order to curb this slightly, I feel it necessary to elaborate on what, to me at least, non-harmful transitioning entails. If the original coiner, @ghosting-plural-userboxes or @desirdae-archive would like to add anything I would love that! Ty for making this term btw, it's been genuinely so helpful <3

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⌖ What is harmful transitioning?

[PT :: What is harmful transitioning]

I think in order to get into what non-harmful transitioning is, we should first get into what qualifies as harmful transitioning. So, to me, harmful transitioning is as follows ::

Transitioning by using methods of self harm, such as cutting, burning, bleaching ones skin, etc.

Transitioning by harming others, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually // metaphysically.

Transitioning by putting yourself in traumatic situations, such as putting oneself in a situation to be groomed, assaulted, physically or emotionally harmed, etc.

Transitioning to have a disorder // disability one does not have, such as harming oneself in order to acquire a physical disability or enacting stereotypical behaviors to "act" as if they have a certain mental illness or disability.

Transitioning in a way that harms minorities of all kinds. Such as using blackface, yellowface, asianfishing, etc in order to "transition" towards different POC identities.

Transitioning to hateful and bigoted ideologiess that harm others.

Simply put, transitioning in a way that actively harms yourself or others is harmful transitioning.

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⌖ So, what is non-harmful transitioning?

[PT :: So, what is non-harmful transitioning?]

Having gotten some basics of what counts as harmful transitioning out of the way, let's get onto examples of non-harmful transitioning!

Dyeing ones hair as a form of transition.

Partaking in more foods of a specific culture in order to feel more comfortable, while acknowledging one is not part of that culture (this enters a grey area with headmates, as not everything is black and white)

Accepting ones disabled traits, that they already have, and learning that no matter how they experience it, it is enough.

Learning more about cultures in order to feel more comfortable with yourself, while still acknowledging you are not a part of that culture. (Again, gets muddy when it comes to headmates)

Getting piercings, body modifications, etc done by professionals as a form of transition.

Starting HRT or other forms of medical transitioning.

Getting cosmetic surgeries (nothing that would change the appearance of your own race, of course) done by professionals as a form of transition.

And likely many other ways to do it that aren't harmful! There are really, truly, so many ways to go about this that aren't harmful I promise you. I can think of an infinite number of ways to do this stuff non-harmfully.

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⌖ What makes Desirdae different from TransID?

[PT :: What makes Desirdae different from TransID?]

Simply the means of which one may transition. Desirdae is firmly anti-harmful transitioning for any reason while TransID is pro all forms of transition, harmful or not. You can see this in terms like transnazi, transrace, transplural, and many transharmful identities that it is often encouraged to transition into these things, despite the harm such things do. Desirdae, on the other hand, actively discourages harmful transitioning. So while things like Desirharmful, Desirskintone, etc do exist it is actively said by the creators that one should not harmfully transition into these terms. I will say, many do not make it clear that for some terms there is no way to non-harmfully transition*. But I chock this up to people being, rightfully, tired of constantly having to explain their experience with this term isn't inherently harmful. But it is still an issue I believe should be fixed when possible. * [PT :: there is no way to non-harmfully transition]

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I understand the worries many have towards Desirdae. We do not want just another TransID clone to take over and create yet another space full of radqueers who push for things like legalization of non-consensual relationships or what have you. That is a fair worry to have, and it was a worry I initially had as well. But in exploring these terms and the community that they have fostered, I have found that this is quite the opposite. It is a community based purely on consent, recovery, and a safe space for people to speak on their issues where as radqueer and transID often push anti-recovery and anti-consent rhetoric. This is the key difference between these two terms, I believe. One feeds into harmful behaviors and seemingly pushes people to the worst versions of themselves while the other is more of a "hey, I understand these feelings, I feel this way too, it's not OK but we can recover together."

If I missed anything, am incorrect about something, or if one has questions I myself am more than happy to answer. While this is not a term and community I created, it is one I am happy to be a part of and want to grow into something helpful.

Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a lovely day. Remember to be kind, anger towards fellow mentally ill queers does nothing but push the agenda of the oppressors <3

[redacted-coiner]

Xorath Emoji/Emote!

Using both new and old designs of the Dissomei flag! Also check this for info on Xorath!

@dissodic-archive & @kiruliom

[atypical-dysphoria-culture-is]

Atypical Dysphoria Emoji Codes

[PT: Atypical Dysphoria Emoji Codes]

Note! I plan to update this over time but for now these are the basic ones! If you have any I don’t have listed, please inform me! For more infomation check this out!

Term Codes

Dissomei : 🧠🚫🫀

Desirdae : 💫☁️ or 🌟🫙

Intusui : 👤💠

Atypical Dysphoria Codes

Atypical Dysphoria : 🧠🌀

Coping Atypical Dysphoria : 🧠🌀💚

Xenic Dysphoria : 🧠⭐️

BIID / Disability Dysphoria : 🧠🦽

Neurodiverse Dysphoria : 🧠🎭

Species Dysphoria : 🧠🐾

Age Dysphoria : 🧠🍼 or 🧠🍾

Time/Era Dysphoria : 🧠🕰️

Race Dysphoria : 🧠🖐️

Nationality Dysphoria : 🧠🏳️

Addiction Dysphoria : 🧠💊

Moral Dysphoria : 🧠⚖️

@atypical-dysphoria , @desirdae-archive , @dissodic-archive , @intusui

[atypical-dysphoria]

If it doesn't already exist could you coin a term thats like a dissomei version of trans-sexuality. Because I genuinely feel like I'm meant to be a different sexuality than I am and it gives me lots of dysphoria...

i dont coin terms! but intusui maybe helpful? (link)

[atypical-dysphoria]

[[Image ID: an anonymous ask that reads "for anon: there is actually dissotation, if that may work for you! here's a link to it"]]

A dissomei archive blog

Arissogender ♡Simplified by kiruliom♤ An Arissomei/Arissodic term that refers to a disconnect a person feels towards their gender due to a

[desirfictional]

desirenderman tips pls :3?

of course!! here you go:

♡ wear a black wig or dye your hair black

♡ if you cant change your hair color, buy a black beanie or cap or wear a black hood

♡ wear purple contacts

♡ if you dont like contacts, wear purple makeup or purple glasses/sunglasses (you can buy non-prescription glasses if you want)

♡ also put on black eyeshadow and/or black lipstick

♡ wear a lot of black clothes, especially stuff that covers a lot of skin (hoodies, sweaters, long skirts, pants, boots, gloves/fingerless gloves, etc)

♡ try to wear clothes that are baggier to give yourself a more slender silhouette

♡ paint your nails black/wear fake black nails

♡ wear platform shoes to make yourself taller

♡ avoid touching water as much as possible (drinking from straws can help with not having water touch your lips as much)

♡ avoid eye contact and ask people not to look you in the eyes