I'm fucking sick of looking at plural communities or plural tags and seeing people talking about forcing their headmates into dormancy. "I want to force my persecutors into dormancy" "we forced our old host into dormancy" "can we force all the non-helpful alters into dormancy" "I don't want to go through the effort of establishing healthy communication with the whole system can I just force some of them into dormancy" "We forced an alter into dormancy and he came back and hates us all, any advice" "If you're dealing with a persecutor and they won't listen to reason you should try forcing them into dormancy" "I forced my alters into dormancy but it didn't make them go away what should I do" " This alter was annoying me and so I forced them into dormancy lol" "We don't bother giving our fragments identities we just force them into dormancy" "This alter triggered another alter's source trauma so we forced them into dormancy" I feel like I'm on the fucking truman show what the fuck are you talking about? What the hell do you mean? Why are you all so fucking obsessed with it? What is wrong with you guys? Don't you understand how fundamentally fucked up that is? Hello? Am I talking to myself right now?
Desirdolljoints: a desirdae (link) term for when one desire/yearn/wants to have doll joints. This may be due to atypical dysphoria, alterhumanity, being an alter with dolljoints in headspace, etc.
Colors taken from the dollcoric flag, tagging @radiomogai
PoserID / PoseID : "a term for desiring to be perceived as something that, for whatever reason, you are not & cannot (or do not want to) actually be. the 'reason' typically being: the desired identity goes against your morals / belief system / culture / etcetera."
i consider this a subtype of PersID and, potentially, OstensID. anyone can use this term of course, though pls read my BYF if planning on following me. i personally am coining/using this in the context of Dissomei identities, but again, anyone can use it.
prefix is simply "Pose-" or "Poser-" depending on which one sounds better to you or that you prefer. "poser" is usually viewed as a negative trait, but i don't really mind it much. i enjoy reclaiming it!
alt text IDs welcomed & needed.
alt. flag i didn't really like. anyway, flag / color choice rambling below:
ohhh wait i like the idea of a split flag like. to kind of represent the conflict / disconnect.
idk why i went with this color combo lol i guess i wanted the poser parts (yellow) to be kind of like. silly i guess ? like kind of lighthearted even if the identity itself u want to be perceived as isnt but then it contrasts/splits with the dark black/grey to indicate like. "Realism" i guess where it disconnects with ur actual identity which realism i typically view as more gritty. and then the eye circles things r frkm the perception id flag since im basically considering this a subtype and the masks r like. self explanatory i think
Unorthaid, a umbrella term for identities that can be used to explain, relive, understand, ones personal Atypical Dysphoria and/or Atypical Euphoria. This may be commonly used by induvial who are, BIID, Munchausens , Systems, Alterhumans, Experiences Delusions, Alterative Beliefs, Regression, etc.
This term is made to be a replacement for the now retired term! The definition's are different and should be accounted as such! This is just made to make talking about any/all the terms together easier.
Identities that can fall under this are: (not all)
Dissomei , Intusui , Desirdae , Alterpathy , Aldernic , Chronosian , Multiself , (SAFE Non RQ) TransIDs, etc.
This most likely is not the complete list, but I don’t plan to edit this post for it. Terms under this are up to those who choose to use it. I will not force anyone too and will only truly do so for my own products, if you choose too have fun!
nichelink: a newly coined niche relationship/relationship dynamic that differs from social norms, but is consensual and aware of potential risks.
differ from the norm: this is flexible and vague on purpose. see the ‘examples’ section.
probably niche: niche, probably not many people will identify as this, it’s just now been invented and posted on tumblr dot com, but it’s still a valid want and identity label.
aware of potential risks: this is inspired by the kink phrase Risk-aware consensual kink or risk-accepted consensual kink (RACK), and it means that everyone in the relationship is silently nodding and acknowledging there might be risks. you don’t have to prove yourself to others on this, don’t feel expected to tell everyone your personal business on how you’re managing this risk, because it’s not their relationship…
consensual: this is inspired by the kink phrase Consensual non-consent. basically it means that everyone in the relationship agreed to have the relationship play out a certain way, and the relationship may play out (maybe in a sort of roleplay-like fashion) like it’s non consensual, but everyone in the relationship is both expecting this to happen and still has the ultimate say on if things need to 100% stop or if it’s time for them to leave the relationship.
newly coined: i want to make it clear that existing relationship dynamics shouldn’t be shoved into this label because that feels disrespectful to those existing words, so essentially this means that existing words for it didn’t 100% describe this dynamic, so you can’t just say xyz thing is actually this term. (however, if you find one of these describes something you've already been doing for years, it's perfectly fine to start identifying with this of course.)
examples:
relationship where one person is treated as if they are an object owned by the other/s in the relationship
relationship where one person is treated as if they are a deity, and the other/s in the relationship are their followers
relationship where one person is treated as if they are a pet owned by the other/s in the relationship
relationship where one person is treated as if they are a child adopted by the other/s in the relationship
relationship where one person is transforming the other/s in the relationship into something
labels under this umbrella have a Ratings System.
All-Ages: a label that is suitable for all ages.
16+: a label that would be best if it was only used by people 16 years or older (bodily). this doesn’t mean that it’s NSFW or something, but should be used when the term has something pretty intense or serious about it which probably shouldn’t be practiced with younger people. all terms under this umbrella that involve identity modification or training are inherently 16+.
18+: a label that is inherently not suitable for people under 18 years (bodily).
grammar:
nichelinking: the state of being in this kind of relationship with someone else. “we’re nichelinking,” “we might start nichelinking”
nichelink: 1) the specific terms themself. “i coined a nichelink,” “definition: an all-ages nichelink where you…” 2) the relationship itself. “our nichelink,” “his last nichelink”
nichelinker: someone who participates in nichelinking.
there is currently no word for having a nichelink-related crush on someone, suggestions welcome.
inspirations
neurowiry
relationship anarchy
roleplay
found family tropes
desirdae
dissomei
my own personal experience of becoming someone’s “dad” - i made a friend in high school who i came out as transgender too, and then as a joke based on how people in the undertale fandom called toriel “mom,” we began referring to me as my friend’s “dad.” this joke stuck and then started genuinely being a serious part of our friendship. reflecting on this made me realize that there’s actually lots of relationships in life that’re similar, where you refer to each other as something unusual and it feels like it changes the entire status of your friendship. i liked the idea of making a word someone can use for this kind of friendship/relationship if they wanted.
i did a lot of writing about what this term means and can be used for and it ended up being long so you can read it on this page. (updated 1/10) here are some of the faq questions (but not all, so please read that page):
is this a k*nk thing?
no, it’s not intended to be. there are plenty of nichelink terms usable by anyone at any age. however if you’re an adult and you find a term appealing and start to use it because of k*nk things, more power to you, go right ahead.
is this anti r*dqueer?
i don’t find it makes sense to say that something that isn’t a stance term/blankqueer term is anti this or pro that. but this term was inspired by r*dqueer “consensual abuse” relationships, and i did start working on this because i saw that there were a lot of people who craved a specific relationship dynamic or way of being treated who felt like they couldn’t get that outside of the r*dqueer community, so i wanted to make a risk-aware and safer alternative that is not attached to a harmful community known for abuse, transphobia, racism, etc.
if you crave being treated a certain way, yes even in a “harmed” way, this term is welcome to you.
can i coin my own?
not yet. i’m still working out the kinks (🥁✨) on definitions and guidelines. i also have a big list of terms i’d like to coin for it. you can send me a request at least.
can i post this term on…
wiki/term definition sites: yes, and you don't have to ask, but i would like to be informed.
pinterest/other social medias: no, never, i'm not comfortable with someone else posting my term for me. go ahead.
definition ﹕ a desirdae subcategory for those who desire/yearn/want to be worshipped/a worshipper in someway due to ones trauma, exotrauma and/or mental illness. flags by @inktroject. ♬
pt: definition: a desirdae subcategory for those who desire/yearn/want to be worshipped/a worshipper in someway due to ones trauma, exotrauma and/or mental illness flags by @/inktroject. end pt.
transition stance ﹕ this subcategory is strictly anti non consensual transitioning and in support of finding better/healthier coping mechanisms or finding an informed, consenting party who is willing to help with transition aware of the risks. ♬
pt: transition stance: this subcategory is strictly anti non consensual transitioning and in support of finding better/healthier coping mechanisms or finding an informed, consenting party who is willing to help with transition aware of the risks. end pt.
id: a transparent banner with a drawing of papyrus as miku on the right side. in a magenta gradient, it says "this blog has no dni, follow your own!". in a blue gradient, it says "be civil and do not include my edits in drama." end id.
𖦹⠀︵ definition ; a desirdae term for when one yearns/wishes for/desires uncanny valley - like features, or to be considered an example of the uncanny valley effect.
pt: a desirdae term for when one yearns/wishes for/ desires uncanny valley - like features, or to be considered an example of the uncanny valley effect.
⌓⌓ tagging ; @radiomogai , @spectrral ( ask to be added )
𓈒 anyone can use our flags, but please check our dni before following. this term is pro non-harmful transition and strictly anti - radqueer.
