[autisticjoy]

this is a sideblog for autism and mental health stuff, mostly. my brain is soup, tagging is hard. (link)

disclaimer!! i am in no way an expert on anything except my own experiences and opinions; i’ll gladly try to help and offer advice when i can, but i’m just some guy with an autism blog (link)

if i ever reblog a post that’s a bit sus or straight up bad, let me know and i’ll look into it.

i dont have a DNI but i will block if someone is annoying or i dislike them or i for any reason want to. i try to follow others’ DNIs but if you follow me thats on you. feel free to ask what my Spicy Opinions on a topic are if you’re wondering though.

[autisticjoy]

oh its so nice being able to reply from sideblogs now, top tier feature tumblr 👍

[autisticjoy]

hjghjsdfgghjsd. HELP what to do if someone confesses to having a crush on you and you love them very very much but also you have no fucking clue if what you’re feeling is romantic or not

[autisticjoy]

mmm yes the four sexes: male, female, pregnant, and breastfeeding

[autisticjoy]

ok im like mostly kidding (but am i 👀) but like. what if i medically un-came out, said my boobs were too big and uncomfy in a very womanly way, got a massive fucking boob reduction, and reduced like 75% of my day-to-day dysphoria

[autisticjoy]

ughhh i hate being autistic and trans when its hot out bc any clothes that alleviate dysphoria feel heavy and constricting but any clothes that feel comfy make me want to hide in a cave the rest of my life theres just no fucking winning

[autisticjoy]

had to skip breakfast for a blood test and oh my god i used to go to school just feeling like this??? teenage me had powers i no longer comprehend

[autisticjoy]

i’ve found that a great way to get myself to do something i want to do but executive dysfunction won’t let me is to write myself an extremely achievable to-do list not including the thing, so in order to avoid the stuff on the list my brain immediately latches onto anything else to do, which if i’m lucky includes the thing

[autisticjoy]

besties i finished my book oh my god i cant believe it actually worked

[autisticjoy]

i’ve found that a great way to get myself to do something i want to do but executive dysfunction won’t let me is to write myself an extremely achievable to-do list not including the thing, so in order to avoid the stuff on the list my brain immediately latches onto anything else to do, which if i’m lucky includes the thing

[randomslasher]

No matter what a post on tumblr tries to tell you, your moral and ethical stances will never be determined by what you reblog and what you scroll past. Don’t let manipulation tactics force you into doing anything you don’t want to do.

[randomslasher]

I find it very interesting to note the times in which this post has a sudden resurgence. It often follows very stressful, upsetting events, where a lot of “REBLOG THIS OR YOU SUCK” posts start appearing on this site. 

So I’ll say it again: it is okay if you come to tumblr to escape upsetting news. It is okay if you’re just here for fun and fandom. It is okay if you do not want to use your tumblr as a place to read about or spread the current events that are circulating. It is okay if you need a place to decompress and just relax. There are other ways to be involved in/support causes and you are allowed to set boundaries on social media platforms without it being indicative of your belief systems. 

Your beliefs, values, ethics, and moral stances are not determined by whether or not you reblog something. 

[autisticjoy]

my mom asks why i dont talk to her more in depth about my gender but every time she asks about it she always inevitably turns it around into a discussion about trauma which inevitably turns into a discussion about her trauma and her trauma is valid and she should address it but it is not my gender so it’s not that i don’t want to talk to her about my gender, it’s that i fucking can’t!!

[sanguinewolves]

everyones ok with autistic people having weird facial expressions until its smiling when youre sad or uncomfortable and not just flat affect…

[bare1ythere]

You know a character has really hit their gender out of the park when they're popularly hced as transmasc AND transfemme

[churchyardgrim]

“if you’re not angry you’re not paying attention” used to be such a powerful phrase but now it’s more accurate to say “if you’re not angry you’re probably exhausted by 5+ years of Panic Outrage Mode and are nearing the limit of your emotional range for reacting to this shit”

[museonwheelshasmoved]

The fact that this is pre-covid haunts me

[siriosa]

the datestamp is a killer, yeah

[annabelle--cane]

"don't treat me like a child" also probably don't treat children like that

[angelsonthesideline-deactivated]

[trans-bowser-deactivated2023090]

This isn't really a hot take, it's just a bad one. I really hate takes like these especially since I know they almost exclusively come from autistic/ADHD people with low support needs. Regardless of how accepting society was of me as an AuDHD person, I would still struggle in many different ways even with accommodations. I struggle taking care of my needs, I struggle with executive dysfunction and time management, I need help and support in my day to day life that I would need regardless. Even in a non ableist society, I would still have speech, executive dysfunction, coordination, and language issues; I would still have learning, and socialization disabilities. Even in a non ableist society I'd need support. While I'm not a fan of "disorder" language, denying that autism and ADHD can and are disabling for people erases the experiences of autistic and ADHD people who need more support in their lives due to autism or ADHD. Capitalism is an issue and makes things worse, but I'm not going to be magically abled or just "neurodivergent" if we suddenly lived in a society where capitalism no longer existed.

[ratliker1917]

I feel a lot of people have moral systems that are completely detached from centering avoiding real harm to real people and are mostly based on completely arbitrary obsessions with symbolic and abstract "wrongs" and gut feelings, and then they join progressive politics and make an absolute fucking mess out of everything with their weird little moralist obsessions that actually don't help improve anybody's life or serve any purpose besides making a few people feel morally superior. This is why for example anti-kink politics went from having a pretense of being about protecting vulnerable women from abusive men to just being very blatantly "if you have ever done kink at all you're ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew".

[ratliker1917]

I think if you cannot describe the mechanism through which an action brings harm to real people then you probably don't have an actual argument as to why you consider the action in question to be immoral, and even if you can, you might find some people don't agree with your definition of harm or find the evidence for the existence of this harm mechanism to be lacking. Secular morality is a lot more complex than a lot of angry social media users might want you to believe it is.

[fiction-is-not-reality2]

On this topic: The Myth of Harmless Wrongs in Moral Cognition