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[atshirtaway-deactivated20180320]

From the new Cracked article about asexuality 

“"Imagine if there was a common theme in movies and TV where gay characters found ‘the one’ who made them straight. Read more: http://www.cracked.com/article_21988_6-weird-ways-world-looks-different-when-youre-asexual_p2.html#ixzz3JzvsyKxS“ 

Yes. Imagine if thathappened. Imagine if that was actually a very common homophobic and biphobic trope. Imagine if it was rare for a movie purportedly about ‘lesbians’ not to feature one of them sleeping with a man. 

Yes. What a world that would be. 

[gracklesong]

Julianna: “I once spent a day following a friend of mine around, telling him that if he needed a safe place to stay my house was open to him, because he had weird red marks on his neck and I thought he was being abused. He had to pull me aside and explain to me, an adult, what a hickey is, just so I would leave him alone.”

…what

This societal rejection isn’t all in Julianna’s head, though. In 2012, Dr. Gordon Hodson sampled a group of Canadian university students (a pretty fair-minded group) and a group of anonymous men on the Internet (the exact opposite of that). He found that both groups had a major bias against asexuals. They were less likely to hire or rent an apartment to asexuals, even though, practically speaking, that meant a far lower chance of gross stains on the bedroom carpet.

…yes, the harsh unfeeling world where landlords ask you if you experience sexual desire and react exactly like one group of college students and a bunch of internet trolls in a bizarre hypothetical thought exercise

[suavedemoncrowley]

the struggle is real

[neonstatic]

why are studies on asexuality so poorly conducted…

[averylargecat]

bc they’ve got to be poorly constructed enough to turn sexist micro aggressions into large scale marginalisation 

[estradiol]

do u or ur followers know of any like, etsy shops or anything like that to buy pride merch that isnt mogai/inclusionist?

i don’t

[averylargecat]

it’s so telling that rebelbadges and other places that specialise in historic recreation pins doesn’t have ANYTHING with asexy crap on it. almost like they WERE NEVER PART OF THE COMMUNITY 

[estradiol]

I,

[heterophobiclesbean]

Like what do these people think sexual attraction is?? What is the definition?? Can someone describe it to me??? Or does it have no actual concrete definition and is something anybody can make claims about despite there literally being no definition at all????

[averylargecat]

if it had a definition then some people would, because of that definition, NOT be able to ID as asexual and that’s EXCLUSION 

[enoughtohold]

don’t @ me but these posts about how scary and gross gay men’s sexuality is and how kids will like instantly turn to stone if they catch a brief glimpse of a leather harness which they don’t even know what it is, are boring tbh. this squeamishness about gay culture is old and tired and boring. i’ll pass

[winterywitch]

OP you owe me $100 for making this god awful post that conflates the act of shaming and demonizing of gay male sexuality and sexual history, which is a very real and serious issue that IS perpetuated in so-called leftist spaces a lot, with the act of trying to keep kink between consenting parties only, where it literally fuckin belongs. “children seeing it in public” is incompatible with “everyone is consenting,” and we all know that. don’t sneak genuine issues in with trying to criticize people for keeping kids out of adult kink scenes, that is insidious as fuck and you need to really not do that, thanks. shame on everyone who reblogged this uncritically like it was some epic courageous take when all it’s doing is defending folks doing kink in public where kids can see with the same tired old “kids can take it, they know/don’t know what a sex is XDDD” defense

[cherryseltzer]

you owe me $1000 for conflating aspects of gay culture with like… those straight people who walk their girlfriends on leashes at the mall. you’re fucking 21 dude, you have no idea what you’re talking about, and you are saying a wildly homophobic thing, probably because of your lack of life experience. ‘kink’ get the fuckkkkkk out of here you dork.

[averylargecat]

There WERE GUYS in leather harnesses at the first pride I went to as a Vulnerable Gay Youth if you take your kid to the beach but shudder at the idea that I might be wearing a trans flag jock strap and have my chest out maybe examine that 

[lhrry]

happy pride month id like to thank the universe for not making me straight

[plainsolo-blog]

I thank the universe for making me ACE. I never had to sneak around my parents for boys/girls as a teenager. Adults thought I was an angel. :P

[nekoandgecko]

Wow it’s almost as if aces face no discrimination at all, whereas gay/trans people are murdered, beat up, and harassed for being gay/trans pretty much on a daily basis!

[acebestos]

i had no choice but to “sneak around my parents” because if i was outed as gay i was at risk of abuse but like thank god the asexuals don’t have to worry about wanting to Fuck

[killjoyfag]

aces b like ‘i felt sad and broken until i found the word asexual’ lol and u think gays don’t? grow up

[averylargecat]

they know we do bc they stole that entire narrative and way of talking about it from gay and trans people. like everything else. its not the same level as gay and trans ppl do its the same level as any kid who hasn’t wanted to fuck or date feels 

[blrdnames]

representation doesnt mean anything if its bad. having a trans guy who looks Like A Girl with eyeshadow and lipstick and styled hair and clothing with feminine shapes and cuts, like, if a trans guy could be more easily read as female than male, then its not good. its just, a fucking reminder that no matter how masculine trans guys manage to look, there’re always gonna be people who look at them and see them as feminine, or Actually Women, or literally just, a girl in everything but name. thats what lanque looks like to me. so yeah im not happy about lanque being canonically a trans dude, because when the ONLY canon trans dude looks Like That then its a reminder of all this shit. so thanks cohen. really fucking #woke of you.

[averylargecat]

he doesn’t look like a girl. I’m sorry you got super into your lesbian head canon but letitgo.mp3 

he looks like every other hamsteak troll I don’t know how you’re getting gender off of that chibi lump 

[e8luhs]

anyways dont pretend that lesbians dont have any reason to be upset over the outcome of lanque and dont fucking pretend that a cis guy (cohen) proclaiming that the hyperfeminine softboy is a trans man is anywhere near progressive in the slightest

[averylargecat]

he’s not hyperfeminine, he’s not a “softboy” (as if that has any real definition in the first place) and people are saying you’re being transphobic BECAUSE YOU ARE 

honestly wheres the HUGE representation of feminine trans guys because I can’t name one. it’s nice to see a character who’s not super masculine bc I can relate to that 

[t4t4terezi]

honestly it wouldve been so much better if lanque was a trans woman and a lesbian it wouldve been so easy but instead they had to go the feminine trans man route and while feminine trans guys exist (im super feminine) Hot Take but you shouldnt make your only trans guy super feminine or default trans guys as feminine. idk i just feel super frustrated with this especially because a lot of lesbians were hoping lanque would be a lesbian and his looks are very lesbian coded imo

YES YES YES YES YES

like i said earlier he LITERALLY looks like if sailor uranus and kanaya had a baby i can add pics in a reblog and guess what they both are? lesbians!

also not to mention the fact that jadebloods are strongly associated w/ motherhood and all that like… i know some trans dudes go for carrying their own children but It Aint The Same

[t4t4terezi]

proof

[averylargecat]

ok reach richards 

the answer to all the concern trolling about him being feminine (hows he hyper feminine? we just don’t knoww) is to add another trans guy character 

[seagrot]

as a trans guy the fact theyre confirmed lanque as a trans dude makes me uneasy cause like. he evokes kanayas aesthetic so much? it feels like theyre just taking a butch girl and flipping pronouns and saying "yep thats trans man!"

exactly i just cant see how this was a good decision no matter what angle I use liike..is it extra subversive since jadebloods are entirely about mother/womanhood. like why use a jadeblood? why design the one canon trans dude after sailor uranus, medias most bèloved butch lesbian, or pull elements from revolutionary girl utena, medias most bèloved lesbian anime? why make everyone think the characters a lesbian and then flip it out from under us as if to say Look how woke we are..like what is the message youre sending here. both to trans dudes and to lesbians. snooze

[averylargecat]

he... looks nothing like sailor uranus what are you on 

[phytodragon-deactivated20220614]

im kinda mad cuz they couldve made literally any boy a trans boy. they couldve made xefros or jude or mallek or diemen or really any other boy in hiveswap and the trollcall trans. but the feminine one that wears makeup that everyone thought was a lesbian because of the visual pull from sm/rgu? THAT one is trans. word of god. i dont trust like that

[averylargecat]

lmao some trans guys wear makeup there’s literally nothing wrong with some guyliner 

where’s the sm/rgu visual pull supposed to be he looks like draco fucking malfoy 

[hexstuck]

THANK YOU COHEN FOR MY LIFE

[multi-void-household]

Also this was extremely obvious and everyone who thought he wasn’t should probably examine why thanks 

[t4t4terezi]

sorry what? “obvious” that the feminine-looking jadeblood (a caste known to be largely female) with winged eyeliner and clear lipstick who noticeably mirrors pretty much the single canonically lesbian character in homestuck? hes wearing a suit jacket like a cape he literally looks like the butch from sailor moon

like ignoring my lesbian disappointment for a second, what the hell was obvious about this extremely feminine character being a trans boy? i dont think i’m the one who should be examining my expectations of trans men, thanks.

boys can be feminine! TRANS boys can be feminine, and in fact about a third of all the trans guys i know love wearing makeup just like lanque. but the fact that he is the only canon trans boy is not a good look. not every trans boy wants to be feminine!! a lot of trans men (shockingly) don’t want to be seen as a group of feminine people because (SHOCKINGLY) they’re men whose feminine traits MAKE THEM DYSPHORIC.

giving them one point of representation and having that single character wear a full face of makeup and dress like sailor uranus means that ALL of the trans boy rep in hiveswap (unless/until someone else gets confirmed trans) shows the audience that they think all trans men in real life wear makeup and look feminine!

it’s not about whether real-life trans men who wear makeup and look feminine are valid (because they are, obviously). it’s about what this representation shows about the creators and what it means to the audience, both cis and trans. to a cis audience, it reinforces stereotypes about trans men Just Being Girls Actually. to a trans audience, it hurts because now that you have your canon trans rep, he just looks (and maybe even acts) like a girl. and it shows that whether or not the creators intended his gender to be a bait-and-switch, they only care enough to confirm that this one, extremely feminine boy is trans instead of the dozens of other boys in hiveswap.

[averylargecat]

what does “acting” like a boy mean exactly 

[thecatsaesthetics]

For fellow antis those who are wondering what l*sbianr*y said. Here it is. This shit is disgusting. Who the fuck says this shit about rape victims. She knew this guy was a rapist, supported him, and blamed the woman he raped.

[pascalation]

This is fucking disgusting. Surviving a rape attempt isn’t as easy as just “pushing them off”. Are you kidding? I’m not even gonna list the variables of what a man can pull during rape to immobilise you. Not to mention the paralysing fear you’ll feel. This is the most ignorant shit I’ve ever read. “I’ve been in a fight sooo” oh pls tell me how being in a lil fight before will help you fight off someone (or sometimes multiple people) twice your size and weight trying to r a p e you? How will it stop you shutting down or going into shock? Please tell me how it will stop you freezing in the face of a part of your soul about to get torn from you in one of the most horrific ways possible? Please.

[averylargecat]

wow 

[bimboguy]

the fact that ppl feel the need to attack lesbians because they were dissapointed with lanque is really fucked and i hope yall realize that and spread the word

[snilm]

if i may add on: no one is bemoaning the existence of a canonical trans dude

but acting like lesbians are in the wrong for daring to assume that Lanque’s design looked like a butch lesbian for the past few months is fucked up. it was dropped weeks ago without context and a large portion of the fandom was right there with us in assuming lanque was going to be a lesbian. no one is saying men and more specifically trans men can’t be feminine 

he has Officially been a trans dude for all of 20 minutes, dont hold the past few months against us for assuming anything when we literally had 1 contextless image to go off of… 

[queerwiki-deactivated20180826]

@revolutionarygays im kin with you adding your hot take about a trans male character looking like a sailor moon character means theyre a lesbian to my post and then immediately deleting it

[legislacerator]

i deleted it because you are just too young for me to argue with and i’m not saying that to be condescending, i saw your age and said forget it. you’re very wrong but i truly don’t care

[legislacerator]

i literally don’t care about any of this wrt hiveswap itself other than thinking it’s cool lanque is trans but hoping this isn’t questionable representation, which isn’t my business either way because i am not a trans man, but i really cannot get over how people on this website wait with baited breath for a chance to be mad at lesbians. i literally do not understand what have geeky homestuck lesbians ever done to y'all besides make like, make jokes and write lesbian headcanons/meta or whatever. why are you all this. fucking. mad. it’s so bizarre it comes off like everyone has just been holding in this anger and now they finally have a legit reason to tell lesbians in fandom to “go die” and call them bitches

[legislacerator]

i have a Real Life so when i’m done being annoyed i’m gonna just log off like a normal person but like. some of you really are weird and need to sort your issues out. it’s just homestuck but its so funny how this is literally how people are about lesbians anyways. lesbians are just always mean… overly political…. transphobic by virtue of their identities…. same shit different day different dumbass internet argument. i hope y'all never meet a lesbian in real life because you’re all weird

[astroatlantis]

y’all clowns saying “queer is reclaimed, it’s not a slur anymore, and no one hears it used to be degrading these days blah blah blah”

but looks like queer is, uh, still the

most

used

anti-gay slur when organizing hate speech in just online communities 

[heterophobicmaxanne]

here’s the source, btw: http://users.humboldt.edu/mstephens/hate/hate_map.html

[stfudiscoinfernoed-archive]

And for those of you who think queer is really only used negatively by those above 40, 42 percent of online youth aged 15 to 17 and 36 percent of internet users aged 18 to 29 use twitter. Less than 25 percent of over 30s, and only 10 percent of over 65s, use twitter. That means a lot of these negative tweets are coming from under 40s.