I hate how many parents don't take responsibility for their shit parenting and choices. My grandmother always complains about my mom, how she's irresponsible, lazy, lost a lot of money (she did... got into huge debts that made us poor). But when I ask her how she raised my mom, she gets annoyed and changes the subject ("we can't control everything")... well no. She didn't have to marry some dirt poor alcoholic and have a child with him, she was educated, he was not. She was shocked at how poor he lived... Why marry him? And of course his family had shitty genetics too... Even when they managed to get out of poverty it all went to nothing, they lost everything. She regretted marrying him later but why even do that in the first place? And so my mom was poorly raised and then she poorly raised me as well, also picking some crap man to marry. She was never meant to be a mother, she didn't have any qualities required for it. Having a child is a HUGE responsibility. You can't just pop one out and expect them to grow like weed. Maybe some other animals work like that but not humans. Our psyche is too complex and can get damaged easily by poor parenting.