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| Name : V | Age : 29 | Pronouns : whatever | Autistic | This turned into an autism blog with a sprinkle of kpop and other things. I vent about things a lot.

[apofiss]

Seashore🌊…arts from the last year! ^o^

[aw-tysm]

This whole bullshit meme about neurodivergents face backwards in a shower, just has me wondering what kind of weird ass showers you all have, because everyone keeps talking about how if they face the shower then they're getting water in their faces.

This feels less like a neurodivergent thing and more like a "I don't have a shower head that is adjustable" thing or a "I'm actually too short compared to the shower head" thing.

[alchemistangel777]

[aw-tysm]

My mum does a good job at keeping my reality grounded. I think I would be a lot worse off if she didn't do that for me.

She doesn't dismiss my struggles or experiences, but she does remind me often that I am not the only one who experiences these things. That autistic people are not the only ones who experience these things or have difficulties with them.

She knows my struggles stem differently from hers and others. She knows that I do need support and she will help me where she can. But she does not allow me to ever think that autistic people like myself are the only ones who could ever struggle the ways that we do or experience the things that we do.

It is eye opening, honestly. It allows me to see people in such a different way than others might. It allows me to see people as people with their own set of unique difficulties. That some of those difficulties may look like mine. That some of their experiences will look like mine. Despite them not having the same disability that I have.

Most of all, it's a good reminder that I am not alone in this world.

[aw-tysm]

It is kinda frustrating when people immediately claim "neurotypical" towards people who aren't treating them well or are treating them differently. Like neurodivergents couldn't possibly do that to other neurodivergents.

Everyone is capable of ableism. We need to stop assuming that people treating us poorly are all just "horrible neurotypicals".

Plus, the whole point of invisible disabilities is that you can't actually tell when someone has an invisible disability. No matter how good you think your disability radar is, you're never going to accurately spot them all.

[whatagrump]

Apparently a lot of people get dialogue punctuation wrong despite having an otherwise solid grasp of grammar, possibly because they’re used to writing essays rather than prose. I don’t wanna be the asshole who complains about writing errors and then doesn’t offer to help, so here are the basics summarized as simply as I could manage on my phone (“dialogue tag” just refers to phrases like “he said,” “she whispered,” “they asked”):

“For most dialogue, use a comma after the sentence and don’t capitalize the next word after the quotation mark,” she said.

“But what if you’re using a question mark rather than a period?” they asked.

“When using a dialogue tag, you never capitalize the word after the quotation mark unless it’s a proper noun!” she snapped.

“When breaking up a single sentence with a dialogue tag,” she said, “use commas.”

“This is a single sentence,” she said. “Now, this is a second stand-alone sentence, so there’s no comma after ‘she said.’”

“There’s no dialogue tag after this sentence, so end it with a period rather than a comma.” She frowned, suddenly concerned that the entire post was as unasked for as it was sanctimonious.

[thewritinggrindstone]

And!

“If you’re breaking dialogue up with an action tag”—she waves her hands back and forth—”the dashes go outside the quotation marks.”

[writing-is-a-martial-art]

Reblog to save a writer’s life.

[jaydove-writes]

Thank you

[localcanadiancryptid22]

Oh my god thank you. No wonder grammarly keeps complaining about my punctuation when I boot my writing up into word counter

[tofublock]

spirited feast! 🍱

[this-is-neuropsych-ableism]

Friendly reminder that sensory processing disorder and autism are two separate conditions.

[PT: Friendly reminder that sensory processing disorder and autism are two separate conditions. /End PT]

95% of autistic people have SPD, but autism can occur without SPD. Those 5% of autistic people still matter, and shouldn't be told they're "not actually autistic" because they don't have sensory issues.

Additionally, SPD can occur without autism. SPD can be genetic, neurodevelopmental, from incidents occuring during fetal development/birth, from brain damage, and/or in response to trauma (particularly isolation or neglect, ie, tactile processing disorder can result from touch starvation.)

And SPD is an umbrella term for a lot of conditions as well - a person with SPD may only have one of these, or they may have multiple.

Types of SPD include:

-Sensory modulation disorder, in which a person has over-responsivity, under-responsivity, sensory seeking, or a mix of them. This could be tactile, visual, auditory, olfactory, gustatory, vestibular, proprioceptive, interoceptive, or a combination of multiple or all. -Sensory discrimination disorder (SDD), in which a person struggles to understand the details of their senses. This can have a variety of symptoms, such as mixing up senses (ie; mixing up nausea and hunger) being unable to identify something "obvious" when slightly altered (ie; unable to recognize a basketball when half of it is covered) processing senses out-of-order or without proper clarity (ie; processing the sounds of talking, but not being able to identify the words being spoken), etc. Subtypes include tactile DD, visual DD, auditory DD, olfactory DD, gustatory DD, vestibular DD, proprioceptive DD, and interoceptive DD. -Sensory-based motor disorder, in which a person struggles with movement due to sensory issues. Subtypes include postural disorder and dyspraxia.

All of these can occur in allistic (non-autistic) people. So don't automatically assume that a person with SPD is autistic, and vice versa.

[aw-tysm]

"I'm autistic and I suspect this other person is autistic, too. But I absolutely hate the way this person behaves. They keep doing -lists potential autism things- and it really pisses me off."

Interesting. Please tell me more about how you hate autistic people despite being autistic yourself.

[puppyms]

The craziest thing is seeing ppl be like but I have to buy stuff. To be a fan I have to buy it. Or else I'm not supporting the artist :( like oh my god no you dontttttttttttt all these motherfuckers will still be rich this isn't a guy selling his cd while busking be serious

[puppyms]

Listen to Seungmin!!!!!!!

[aw-tysm]

so many of you getting angry at other people using our terms and using them incorrectly and you guys can't even use our own terms correctly either.

[aw-tysm]

I... I'm tired. I'm so tired. You can't tell anyone anything. No one wants to listen. Misinformation keeps being spread.

I mostly just want to crawl into a hole. I don't have the energy.

People keep saying these things are only an online experience, but I keep seeing it happen in real life, in real time. This stuff spreads and we're just letting it.

I used to be fine with people knowing about my disability. But now I kinda just want to keep quiet and not let anyone know. Mostly I just don't want anyone with the same disability as me to know, because they just don't understand and they don't want to understand.

Why am I getting more support and patience from the professionals helping me who don't even have my disability, than from the community I'm supposed to be a part of. Why do I get more support and understanding from people in my life who just don't have my disability. Why do people who don't have my disability take me more seriously and are willing to listen to what I say on my disability and take it into consideration to help me.

The same people who get accused of not being helpful, are more helpful than anyone I've met in regular society with the same disability as me.

(The people with the same disability as me who do understand, are often the ones with carers. The ones who need people to advocate for them. The ones who are hidden away from society. The ones you only really meet in places specifically designed for only us and not regular society. The ones who are forced into silence as what we experience isn't palatable or "right". But we're all tired and we're harder to find because we're kept away.)

[aw-tysm]

How dare I have the controversial opinion of "The levels are a DSM-5 thing and is used in other countries".

Instead of the correct opinion of "The levels were only created for insurance purposes and are only used in US".

[aw-tysm]

Just because companies love taking advantage of people, doesn't mean that certain things were created specifically for them to do that.

Most of the time, things are created and companies will find a way to take advantage of that and use it against people regardless of that not being the original purpose.

But yeah, I'm definitely wrong and the rest of the world doesn't exist.

[aw-tysm]

If my higher support needs for autism is due to other co-occurring conditions, then your low support needs is also due to other co-occurring conditions.

Autism doesn't exist. It was just co-occurring conditions in a trench coat.

[aw-tysm]

How dare I have the controversial opinion of "The levels are a DSM-5 thing and is used in other countries".

Instead of the correct opinion of "The levels were only created for insurance purposes and are only used in US".

[aw-tysm]

You know what was super shit?

I went to a friend's birthday party, which was nice because I don't usually get invited anywhere. But this friend, despite not hanging out with them or talking to them, still decided to invite me. They thought of me enough to invite me.

But I just felt so bad for her. She's described herself as "the invisible one" when she was in school. However, she's still "the invisible one" even within her group of friends.

Half the people cancelled on her last minute. The people that were there basically split off into their own group without her and held conversations that didn't even try to include her.

She tried to say things several times, but people kept talking over her. I tried my best to notice when I was doing this and tried my best to make sure I allowed her to speak as well. It's much harder for me to do this being autistic, and everyone else at that party was not.

There were only 2 others and myself that were talking to her during the party.

It was super shit because it just hurt to watch. It also hurt because I know what that feels like. I know what it's like to be on the edge of the friend group, to be the outcast. I know what it's like for everyone else in the group to be far more important than I ever will be and I have to just accept that.

After the party and we were all leaving, two of the people from the party turned to me and said that it was nice to see me again and they hadn't seen me in ages, and that we really needed to catch up. These two people though, are the same ones that have excluded me from everything they've done. I'm just not a thought in their mind for anything and they had the audacity to say that. I hate fake politeness like that. It would have just been better to say bye and leave without anything more being said.

[monstersovka]

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