sometimes marriage looks like this: going grocery shopping together and finding that your hubs snuck the prettiest cluster of baby’s breath into your cart. long, honest, open talks that fill you up and make you feel safe and heard and cared for. spontaneous weekend trips to the ocean. sweet words. all the kisses all the time. trust. growth. hugs when you get home from work.
sometimes marriage looks like this: staying up til midnight arguing; tears, dark eyes, crossed arms. shaky communication skills. circular conversations that leave you drained. feeling betrayed. feeling distant. feeling alone. feeling misunderstood. selfishness. pride. unmet expectations. unforeseen change.
the challenge is to love, respect, and honour the other person in both scenarios: no more and no less. love should not be conditional. love shouldn’t shift based on circumstances.