demimondaine

Who is this irresistible creature who has an insatiable love for the dead? 💟 i dont know who i am anymore.

[unbothered-and-bored]

DOPE SUGAR BABE MASTERPOST

Helpful tips/ tricks that i’ve been researching. 

I’m looking into being a sugar while im in college, but i want to make sure i know EVERYTHING i can about the lifestyle before i go out there and do it. This is a list of the blogs/posts I’ve been reading through that i think are helpful to me. 

It’s a long list. D:

(dont worry, all these links will open in a new tab.)

A note one net worth vs. annual income

A note on messaging on a SB/SD site

Internet safety

Sex work resources 

For an SB who didnt go to college or is out of college or even one who is in college. AKA: the hustlers MBA (I love this.)

How to appear rich (This is extremely helpful.)

Sugar survival kit

Dont sell yourself short, hunty.

You’re not ready if:

SB hacks

VS model makeup

Literature

A note on sexual protection

Free styling guide

What makes a good SB

Think about this before you accept your allowance offer.

MAKE SURE YOU WANT TO DO THIS

Got lowballed?

The sugar BAYBE mentality 

Allowance talk

Closet classics (buy these before you buy those hot pink 6 inch red bottoms)

*another really good research masterpost* 

100 ways to be elegant~

Help on a first meeting.

Creating the perfect profile

What to do with your allowance.

Terms you should know.

Sugar Commandments

The psychology of persuasion 

Invest in yo'self

Important things to notice on dates

More tips on budgeting

A note on social media safety (IMPORTANT)

Getting ready for a date tips (makeup, hair, etc.)

Thats all i have for now, Ill add a few more in a few hours. Hope this helps anyone! Cheers!

[abnormallyattrctive]

This text works every time

Hey handsome. How’s your day going? Just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking about you. Your smile, your face, other…things😏. Have a fantastic day.

[stepfordsugar]

The Ultimate Guide To Being A Sugar Baby

*** Hey guys, I just updated this! Please keep coming back to my page for the most updated links. I just thought I’d post this for anyone not familiar with my blog. Happy reading. ***

The Ultimate Guide To Being a Sugar Baby

Opinion Pieces

Staying Humble And Gracious How Being A Bad Bitch Hurts Your Sugaring Plus Sized Girls In The Sugar Bowl Why I’m Scared For Aspiring Sugar Babies Dear Minor Aspiring Sugar Babies My Warning To Those Approached My Journalists and Filmmakers What Is A Good Age To Start Sugaring? Why No Job Is “Beneath” You Do I Have To Be Conventionally Attractive To Be A Sugar Baby?

How To Become a Sugar Baby Beauty Sugar Baby Makeup

Mind Is Being A Sugar Baby Right For Me? Advice To New Sugar Babies Sugar Baby Reading/Media List On Etiquette Education If You’re A Shy Sugar Baby Fashion Affordable Clothes For A Starter Sugar Baby Affordable Clothes For A Plus Sized Sugar Baby Sugar Baby Fashion: The Casual Date (Spring)

How To Find a Sugar Daddy

Warm-Up, Practice, and Training Freestyling Guide My Routine For A POT Date How To Ask For A Platonic Arrangement Sex Free Sugaring Sending Your First Message to a Sugar Daddy Sites I Love, Sites I Hate Do I Need To Live In A Big City To Find An SD?

How To Keep A Sugar Daddy

What Your Sugar Daddy Is Paying For Date Night Ideas On Flirting and Seduction What Normal Relationships Can Learn From Sugar What To Do When You’re Falling In Love With Your Sugar Daddy How To End An Arrangement

Safety and Privacy Basic Online Safety Tips Indicators of Aggression and Violence Should I Post Full Facial Pictures? Public Face Pictures How To Remove Personal Information from Pictures Should I Use a Fake Name? Enrolling for an SB Site With A School Email

How To Hustle What Do I Say When __________? How Much Do Sugar Babies Make? When To Ask For Your Allowance What Makes A Successful Sugar Baby? When To Use A Card When You’re A Cash Only Sugar Baby

My Favorite Places In…

San Diego

Misc

Returning Items to Your SD After An Arrangement Should I Fly Out To Meet An SD? Should I Send Sexy Pictures To My SD?

[little-spn-obsessed]

Tips for Job Interviews:

So people are graduating high school/college and I thought it would be a good idea to compile a list of solid interview tips so you’re not only surviving on that MSG Ramen diet.

1.) Research: Know at least a little about what position you are applying for. Sounds obvious, I know. But I mean about the company or organization itself. You’re applying at Subway? Know a little bit about the company’s history or what a Sandwich Artist is.  Applying at a store? Know that clientele that frequent the store, etc. Applying for a desk position at a college? “I was amazed at the new addition to the library and the dedication to student life and improvement just stood out to me that this is a university driven towards student success and something I would be proud to be a part of and strive for.” It’s like giving the hiring manager a high-five. Says why you chose them. Make them feel desirable in interesting to you.

2.) How to dress:  When it doubt, always overdress. Nobody is gonna not hire you because you wore a nice suit to a gas station cashier interview. You’ll be taken more seriously than the khaki shorts and white t-shirt you were wearing to that cookout yesterday. Not sure what colors to look for? Black is your safest bet. Black and white are neutral if you have absolutely no clue. Pro tip:  If you listened to number one and know the color of the uniform, try and incorporate that into you clothing selection because it helps hiring managers to see you like their co-workers. (e.g., If you’re applying at a hospital where the unit wears, say, maroon scrubs, try wearing a maroon top or tie.)

3. Behavioral Questions: It’s inevitable. Most jobs are going to give you a series of behavioral questions to gauge you as a person. It is what will divide you from other candidates. What’s a behavioral question? Here’s some examples: “Name a time when you provided exceptional customer service”, “Describe an instance when you had to resolve a problem/confront a coworker/maintain professionalism”, etc. Come PREPARED to name instances. Have about 3-5 in mind and get ready to tweak any of them to fit the frame of the question. Practice speaking in the mirror, to a friend, record yourself etc. But practice saying it out loud because you don’t want to stumble. (InterviewStream is a helpful website!) Answer completely! Explain how your response fits the mold through the story. Tell how you felt at the time and the outcome of what happened. It’s to figure out you as a person. (e.g. “I did ___ for a customer/client/patient/whatever. They were having suchandsuch issue and while what I did was so mundane, it really made their day. It was something that comes so naturally to me that I didn’t realize the impact it would make and it felt good to provide a service that wasn’t simply a run-of-the-mill thing we normally did working for ___). You feel me?

4. Critical Thinking Questions: Some jobs may present you with critical thinking questions the require pause for thought. An example for if you were, say, a nurse: “You have four patients. One with pyelonephritis and no signs of infection, one with a fractured femur with no pain, one with a fractured hip and leg who is leaving tomorrow, and one with diabetes mellitus and an open wound ulcer. A PCA tells you the the fractured hip patient has a blood pressure of 90/60 but says she feels fine, the charge nurse informs you that your pyelonephritis patient is having difficulty breathing and is sat at 89%, another PCA tells you your DM patient is difficult to arouse, and your fractured femur patient is screaming that he is rating his pain a 9/10 and is disturbing other patients. What do you do, who is your priority, and what is your plan of care?” A tad overwhelming. The interviewer is looking at you, you’re processing your options, there’s a lot going on. Take a breath. It’s OKAY TO ASK FOR A MINUTE TO THINK. IT’S NOT A TIMED EXAM! Voice your thoughts! Give complete responses. Even if saying “I would take vitals” sounds OBVIOUS, still say it. Go through your thoughts out loud because you may forget something that speaking it aloud could help. “I would take vitals” would lead to “I would perform an assessment” to “by listening to her lungs and taking his glucose” etc.

5. Body Language: Be open! Have your body turned towards your interviewer, look him/her in the eyes when you respond to a question, smile, nod, do not interrupt, sit up straight, know what you’re doing with your hands and feet (e.g. if you’re a chronic knuckle-cracker/hand rubber, fidgeter, etc.). Body language is one of the most helpful ways an interviewer can gauge your interest.

6. Strengths and Weaknesses: Strengths are easy. Everyone can come up with a good strength (Flexible, self-starter, love constructive criticism, love to learn, great team worker, etc.). Weaknesses though? Weaknesses are tricky. Rule number one: DON’T BE THAT DOUCHE THAT SAYS SOMETHING TO THE EFFECT OF “I work too hard” because nobody is impressed. But don’t also say something like “I am not a morning person” because what if they need you for mornings? No. Find a sweet-spot. Find a weakness that can be improved and isn’t a mere personality trait. Explain the weakness and how you have worked to improve it in the past and what has been effective. (e.g. I have issues with time-management. I have learned to get tasks done as soon as they are delegated to me rather than putting them off. or I have learned to prioritize which tasks will be the most time-consuming and which can be handled quicker so that all of the tasks get effectively completed.)

7. “What are your long-term goals/how long do you plan on staying here/where do you see yourself in x years”: Ah. Do I confess to McDonald’s that I have no intention on making a career out of this and that I only want to work here for the summer and risk not getting the job? Hell no. Don’t lie but don’t be completely truthful either. Keep it open-ended. If you intend on using this job for a bit of cash, have something else in mind as your end-game, or plan on using this job as a stepping-stone, that’s just fine. But don’t go on record as saying something like “Oh I intend on working here for a few years” because you know you’re lying. Say something to the tune of “For as long as I can/am able”. Be creative in your phrasing. Unless they ask you to specifically name an amount of time, variations of that response tend to work. Important thing to note is WATCH WHAT YOU SAY HERE. If you want to go far in the company, say that you want to pursue leadership opportunities and such. Do NOT say “I don’t want to just be a ____” because that is condescending and rude. 

7. “Do you have any questions for me?”: ALWAYS. HAVE. QUESTIONS. Always have them! Even if it is something that you already know about, ask. Here are some go-to questions I have for interviews “Are there any leadership opportunities available?” “How long is orientation?” “Are there more ways for me to become involved or any committees I can join?” Having questions shows INTEREST. 

Feel free to add more tips, people!

[mangosandmulberries]

1. Never leave cookies in the oven too long. Even if they’re still really soft, take them out after the recommended time. When they cool they will harden. Trust me, no one likes cookies that taste like rocks. 2. Always take a jacket. Even if you think you’ll be fine. Even if you’ll be inside. Even if there’s a heater. Bring your jacket. 3. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help when you need it because everyone needs help sometimes. 4. The best pancake recipe is 1 cup equal parts flour and milk, ½ cup sugar and a pinch of baking powder. Add chocolate chips for extra deliciousness. 5. Go outside every day. Even if you don’t want to. Even if you have to use all your strength to drag yourself out of bed. The sunshine might not cure your problems, but it’ll do you so much good to breathe fresh air. 6. Don’t let your hobbies fade away. Keep reading, keep drawing, keep singing, keep painting, keep running. Keep doing what you love. 7. Carbs are not the enemy. They fuel your brain. So eat those potatoes and that rice and don’t you feel guilty about it for one second. 8. I know it sounds cliché but time really does heal all wounds. Give yourself 6 months and it won’t hurt so much, trust me. 9. Be kind. There is no reason for you to put someone down. 10. Learn to love yourself loudly and unconditionally and never apologise for it. 11. If you ever find yourself involved with someone who treats you like you’re nothing, run for the hills and never look back. They don’t deserve you. 12. Rose hip oil is a miracle worker. Gently rub over your face each night before bed and your skin will feel like silk. 13. Drink. Three. Litres. Of. Water. Every. Day. 14. Take pictures. Document everything. One day you’re gonna want to look back at all of this, make sure you have the photos to look at. 15. Let go of anything that weighs you down. The past is the past and there’s nothing we can do to change it. Every day is a another chance for us to do better, to be better. 16. Spend as much time as you can with the people who make you laugh. 17. Set up goals for yourself and keep yourself motivated in whatever you’re doing. Always have something to work towards. 18. Try to make your bed every morning. Yes it’s a hassle when you’re half asleep but there is no better feeling then coming home to a nice clean freshly made bed, especially if you’ve had a bad day. 19. Treat yourself but also look after yourself. Eat lots of fruits and veggies and move your body then dance all night and have a doughnut as a midnight snack. Life is about balance. 20. Never be afraid to love, even if you’ve been hurt before. Live life with an open heart and you might be vulnerable but you will experience so much joy.

words of advice from a 19 year old (via mangosandmulberries)

[lolmaleoppression]

I learned a new word yesterday that defines my sexuality:

Tricksexual

Definition: only feeling sexual towards those who pay to play.

I think a lot of sex workers end up feeling tricksexual when they realize that 99.9% of the dating pool is made up of people who aren’t worthy of their free time and sexual energy.

[citysugarbabe-blog]

Sugar Daddy date ideas

Obviously to start out with you have coffee, drinks at a nice/fancy bar, lunch/dinner. Once you start to get closer and more intimate, dates I have had or am planning for the future are:

- wine tasting at a vineyard, or tasting scotch at a distillery, or beer in a brewery

- for bars, take him to a secret speakeasy he doesn’t know about, or suggest he gets a room at a luxury hotel with drinks in the bar beforehand 😉

- couple’s spa/ massages, champagne and plenty of private time

-if your SD likes clubbing, invite your hot girlfriends (make sure you can trust them not to steal him away) and have him get a table at an exclusive club.

-have him take you to Vegas to gamble! He should give you some money to play with, and maybe you can win some more to take home

- shopping at boutiques/department stores (pick things out for him too! Make sure it’s not just all about you. Choose things you think look good on him and tell him he looks sexy, that way he’s less likely to feel like you’re using him.. though of course you are) Also, you can ask him to pick out clothes that he thinks look good on you (or lingerie 😉) that way, you can play it off as him buying you new clothes for his own enjoyment! Tell him “I can’t wait to wear this for you..”

- if you’re not shy, take him to a sex toy shop.

- have him take you to a concert or play in the VIP section.. maybe you want to see Jay Z, Beyoncé or Kanye on tour? Or maybe he enjoys Broadway?

- for the more refined SD maybe ballet or the opera.. if anything it’s a nice excuse to get dressed up in black tie and look stunning. If you don’t know anything about it read up on whichever show you’re going to and the careers of the performers, and make it sound like you know what you’re talking about!

- for the sporty SB’s go skiing, play tennis or even better, golfing. If you know how to golf that is a huge plus in the SD world because it’s a sport that many businessmen enjoy and use to close deals! Use going golfing with him to close your deal 😉

- if you don’t want to play a sport then you can at least go to a game with him! What’s his favorite sport? Football, soccer, baseball, basketball? Maybe he can get court side seats! And again, read up on the sport so you’re not constantly asking him to explain what’s going on. Nothing is more annoying. You don’t have to go overboard and pretend you’re a huge fan, as that’s annoying too if you’re faking it, but at least have a general idea of how things work.

- upper class sporting events include polo (veuve clicquot polo classic for example), Wimbledon or the US Open, or the Masters golf tournament. These tickets are generally more expensive, and you should dress nicer.

- cooking classes! Learn how to cook each other’s favorite meals

- gallery openings and museum exhibitions, or charity galas. This depends on whether your SD wants to introduce you to his friends and society (assuming he is part of society). Even if he isn’t, you can buy tickets to major art events such as Art Basel in Miami. Or attend an art auction by major auctions houses such as Christie’s or Sotheby’s

- Getaway for the weekend to the beach! Remember, if he’s kind enough to book tickets and arrange everything, it’s your job to make the weekend as stress free and relaxing for him as possible. And long walks on the beach, while cliched, are still very romantic! And take care of him while you’re there - for example make sure his drink is always full (you order with the waiter so he doesn’t have to) and put sunscreen on him, throwing in a little massage.

- My SD took me in a helicopter to the Hamptons. Got to see this incredible view of New York as we were flying out (and on the way back as well)! Or for the more adventurous pairs.. sky diving?

- have him rent a yacht for just the two of you for the day/weekend (or if he owns a yacht, even better)!

- for the traveling SD, have him take you along on his business trips. London seems to be a common destination for these types, as does NYC, LA, and Hong Kong.

- take a short weekend road trip if you can’t travel for longer. For example, go to Nantucket from Boston for the weekend, or drive to Napa if you live in California

- stay up all night kissing and talking until the sunrise is a sure fire way to make him fall in love with you and have him wrapped around your little finger

- more couple vacation ideas include going glamping on safari in Africa (not like camping at all - it’s like a five star hotel with air conditioning etc that just happens to be in a tent rather than a building), going salsa dancing in South America, scuba diving in the Maldives or Fiji, or shopping in the souks in Marrakech!

- you can always surprise him by showing up at his door with movies, a bottle of wine, and wearing a coat with nothing underneath!

You can really make memories to last a lifetime with your SD footing the bill, and it’s a win win for all as he gets to go on dates/vacations with a pretty young thing and make memories as well!

And remember, it’s his experience as well, especially since he’s paying for it. You should be low maintenance and non fussy - to an extent. Obviously your plane tickets should be first or business class, but don’t kick up a fuss if he takes you to Italian instead of Sushi, for example. ALWAYS, ALWAYS BE GRACIOUS AND GRATEFUL!!! if he wanted someone nagging him and being bitter/bitchy/passive aggressive about stupid details, he’d get a girlfriend or a wife!

Any other suggestions?

[unstoppablejezebel]

Back Into the Sugar Bowl

I keep going off every so often because these type of men just DRAIN me. Sorting through them is such a task. But then I try to date Vanilla men so I can have dick, and companionship, but the motherfuckers are just as draining.

So I’m staying in the bowl *for the next year* and pushing myself as hard as I can. So, my very rudimentary initial goals:

Keep a few CL ads on rotation, until I get my second phone back on and restart Tinder.

Keep track of the results on CL. The ads I’m using, the times of day the more serious POTs respond, etc.

Once I get my first POT to run me some money I’ll get the second phone back on at the cheapest plan, just to have Tinder on there, and start that back up.

Go freestyling once a week somewhere in the city.

Go freestyling ANY day I have a POT date, either right before, or right after.

Once the second phone is covered, get business cards.

Begin a file of men that I find… interesting.

Read a book a month on finessing.

Begin by finishing up Ho Tactics.

Then read Seduction by Robert Greene.

And dassit. For now. I’m really busy with work, starting school back out, and for that and a host of other reasons I think the best thing for me is a couple of Sponsors/Spoiled GF situations, so we’ll see how it goes.

[diaryofchylatte]

“1. Live below your means. You cannot become debt-free if you spend more than you earn. It’s that simple! Financial stress relief is called “money in the bank” or “positive cash flow.”

2. Decide where you want to spend your money. Don’t let others decide for you. Know how much money you are bringing in, how much goes out and to where it goes. If you are not satisfied with the answers you get from this exercise, now is the time to change your spending habits. You (and your significant other) are ultimately responsible for how your money is spent.

3. Pay your bills on time, every time. Managing monthly bills is an essential part of staying debt free and maintaining a good credit rating. If you find this difficult, come up with a system to ensure that bills are not paid late.

4. Set financial goals, both short- and long-term. Having goals in place makes it easier to make the necessary spending cuts to get what you really want. Without reasons to cut spending and save, you will constantly be under pressure to spend money you don’t have for things you don’t need.

5. Use credit only as a tool and with a plan. Figure out how and when you will pay the balance. Imagine building a house without a plan or blueprints. That’s what your financial house will look like, too….“

Read the blog post because there’s 2 ½ more steps. Boost this to every hoe you know. Paid hoes only

[edennebelle]

Reasons why I love SD's over 50 👴🏿👴🏾👴🏽👴🏻

1. They generally have more money built up over a lifetime.

2. Their kids are more than likely adults by then. which = more freed up money for meee, lol.

3. They tend to have finer taste.

4. They’re usually more charming/nicer/ less offensive. I think after a certain age men just know what to and what NOT to say.

5. They’re usually more giving/accommodating because they’re USED to taking care of family, wives, kids.

6. They pose less of a physical threat.

7. They generally have more money, built up over a lifetime, lol.

8. They tend to not be as pressed/thirsty for sex.

9. Massive and varied rolodex of connections.

Feel free to add on. “SDs” under 40 give me pause for some reason. Just, no 🚫.

Even in my vanilla dating life, they mustn’t be under 30 for a similar set of reasons.

[londonsugarliving-blog]

How to ask for a allowance

My previous post/ question was asking how to ask for allowance and I get it so much so heres a post to answer everyone in one go.

But before then I just want to break it down 

Arrangement əˈreɪn(d)ʒm(ə)nt [COUNTABLE/UNCOUNTABLE] an agreement or plan that you make with someone else

A plan between two people: So when his listing off what he wants from you, when he wants to see you, where etc you can pose the question to complete the plan

An Agreement between two people: This should be mutual! So when his listing off what he would get from your arrangement then thats your time to shine and tell him what you want too

Do not let him make you feel like you can’t ask for your side of the arrangement to be brought up into conversation. Its supposed to be a arrangement of two parties so if your not able to say it or get it…  It’s not a arrangement and your just doing it for the fun of it

Tell him 

It would be good to arrange everything so its clear

It would be good to sort out a allowance so you can get to know each other without having to sort that out after

Or just ask about it without any excuses as you have the right to just ask like he will

 (Here are some examples below)

What are your ideas to a allowance you would be happy with?

Really looking forward to meeting with you on Wednesday, totally forgot to ask but do you have a allowance in mind?

Oh you know we forgot to talk about allowance?

What kind of allowance did you give your last SB?

Thanks for the message, my interests are blah blah, I found out the site by blah blah , what are are you looking for? Did you have allowance in mud?

You’re not keen on allowances… ok well maybe gift me every time we have a date is better then? At least it would be more relaxed and then we both don’t have to worry 

I agree, I don’t think it should be all about the money… and connection is key but when I join the site I was hoping for a relationship with gifting or allowance, just let me know what you would be happy with?

No, you’re not paying for my time but when I join the site I was hoping for a relationship with gifting or allowance,It would just really help at this point in my life, just let me know what you would be happy with?

So I have just giving you PURE gold girls! Repost and let me know your allowance clap backs 

& Just remember you didn’t join to be anyones doormat

PS: I will try to answer more frequently

London Sugar Living

xoxo

[londonsugarliving-blog]

I save my money, thus when SD ask me "Are you short on money?" I always automatically responded with "No." But I do want extra cash. How would you answer his question?

Your savings are your savings. So pleased to hear that another sugar is saving.

Please see your savings as a completely separate entity and don’t tell him about it. Its none of his business and the arrangement should be rewarding to both parties. Its not dependant on if you have savings or not. He wouldn’t offer if he didn’t have the spare cash to give you.

Your SD should be contributing to your lifestyle piggie bank ideally (I do know some sugars are using it to live, but this is dangerous you should never depend on a man let alone a sugar daddy!). 

So except his offer, since he so kindly offered.

You don’t need to be on the street begging or have to give a answer like “ you need the money”. But you could say is that it would be really helpful (helpful towards a big purchase you have on your wish list) doesn’t matter its helpful.

Keep it easy and leave out the details.

Hope this helps

London Sugar Living

xoxo

[neysqueen-deactivated20141018]

I CAN’T BREATH

[saccharinebabe]

The Psychology of Persuasion for Sugar Babies.

As a possible psych major, I thought I’d pass on these concepts I learned last year in class that are important for any sugar baby to know about. These are tips and concepts that will allow you to persuade a POT or SD into giving you what you want.

Foot in the Door- ask for something small; when they give it to you, then ask for something bigger. They have already said yes to you, and are therefore more likely to continue to say yes to you. Use this when out shopping, or when asking for an allowance raise. EX. Ask to go to one store for something you “need.” While your there and their buying you that thing, pick out other stuff too. Again, they are less likely to refuse you because they already agreed to buying the first item. The suggest popping into another store “while we’re out.” Same concept with allowance. Say something along the lines of “the allowance you’re giving me is already so generous, but another $1,000 would really help me out”

Door in the Face-  make big request, when they refuse, ask for something smaller. It will seem reasonable in comparison, and they will be more likely to say yes. When asking for an allowance, ask fore more than you really want. Best case scenario, they agree to it. But if they don’t, when you then ask for your REAL desired allowance, it will seem like a bargain in comparison, and they are more likely to agree to it.

Other tips

Repeated exposure to something makes it more appealing. Seeing your POT a few times before agreeing to an allowance may be in your best interest.

Agreement and praise make you more convincing. During your date, compliment your POT and agree with what he says, even if you don’t really agree. This makes him easier to persuade.

On that note, people with low self esteem are more prone to social pressure. If you think your POT has low self esteem, praising him makes him more likely to do what you want.

Context is important. Pleasant surroundings make people more agreeable. Have the allowance talk in a nice place when your POT is in a good mood, it will work in your favor.

[reality-escape-artist]

How do you tell people? How do you tell them that you’re exhausted even though you slept for 10 hours? How do you tell them that you need a break from talking and smiling and simply being near them? How do you tell them that although you love them, you so desperately need to be alone tonight?

Midnight thoughts (I’m burnt out)

[phoenllx-deactivated20170625]

Could you explain what sugaring is/ what it usually entails? Im interested in getting into sex work and trying to find the right line of work for me :) thank you for your help and your time!

Sugaring is a form of sex work.

The types of sugaring arrangements vary greatly. At one end of the spectrum you have platonic sugar babies, who essentially serve as a confidant/therapist/event companion. At the other end of the spectrum, you have FSSW sugar babies, who essentially act as repeat escorts (meaning they have a set schedule for when they meet with their SDs, generally for sexual activities.)

Most sugar babies have a set allowance they receive per month/week. The more you meet/provide for the SD, generally the higher the allowance is.

My last sugar arrangement lasted a little over a year. I received $4000/month in exchange for 2-4 dates. It was a platonic arrangement (Meaning we didn’t have sexual contact), but finding SDs who only want platonic arrangements are rare. The only reason I had one was because he was a regular I met trough stripping; he was fairly old (75) and widowed, so he couldn’t really perform sexually, but he greatly enjoyed having arm candy for his retirement events and a friend to talk to, so he was willing to pay me handsomely to basically be on call for any work events that popped up.

[softgloom]

list of Moods I have:

???

“this is the worst I’ve ever felt and I’ve never been sadder than this single moment in my whole life”

“this is the best I’ve ever felt and I’ve never been happier than this single moment in my whole life”

ANGER

?????

fear !!