Daddy's Babygirl ❤️

NSFW 18+ Only! This is a space for me to share things with my Daddy. Here you'll find all sorts of things that relate to our #D/s #24/7D/s #MarriedD/s #Daddydom #babygirl

[cognitivebloom-deactivated20260]

My submission is not a costume I put on. It is not a scene or a script. It is the truest shape of me. It was forged in the tight grip of constant control, in the silent pressure of expectations, in the endless weight of responsibility pressing down on my shoulders. Submission is my body's and mind's answer to that strain.

It is the place where I lay everything bare, not just my skin, but my pride, the tension in me, all the restraint I carry and open myself fully to something greater than my own will. In that surrender, I am finally allowed to rest in the arms of desire without shame. This is not play pretend. This is release.

[lilithstemptation]

[chattingwiththelightkeeper]

Leadership in a D/S dynamic is not about asserting dominance for personal gain, but about creating a bond where the submissive feels cherished, supported, and guided toward their full potential.

[thesargasmicgoddess]

It's like they get my kink or something. 🤣🤣

Honestly, I rarely enjoy losing, but this is the one situation in life I lose with pleasure 🤭

God bless the men who love feisty women ❤️

[smurfettewrites]

Logical fallacies

You cannot effectively shame me for engaging in a dynamic relationship with my partner.

It's quite the conundrum when somebody whose opinion could not possibly matter less to me attempts to shame me for the way that I experience love with my partner. You can sure try, and maybe that will make you feel better about yourself, your situation, or your experiences, but it has no bearing on me or how I live my life.

There is nothing inherently wrong with being in a relationship that both recognizes and embraces a power exchange. For a power imbalance exists in most relationships, and pretending it does not only serves to cause conflict. Many relationships would benefit from understanding the power dynamic within and working with it instead of against it.

PRDom and I met at a time when I was steadfastly not searching for a relationship. I was, in fact, adamant that I was in no way, shape, or form ready for one. I debated for a couple of weeks before I said yes to hanging out. My sister gave me the push I needed, telling me to just have fun. While I knew before I met PRDom that I was drawn to D/s, I certainly was not searching for a Dom when we met in the office that fall. He just happened to be one, and we just happened to enjoy each other's company, and then we fell for eachother.

When it comes to kink, there aren't many things that he has done to me that I have not experienced before in some fashion. Well, besides making me have fireworks on purpose because he asked for feedback until he got me there. The difference? We do kink safely. Consent is king. We started it safe and keep it safe by asking for, understanding, and respecting boundaries and limits.

Unlike my prior relationship, this one is incredibly healthy. The level of communication we have is unmatched in literally any relationship I have seen modeled in front of me in my life. We do not argue, we do not let things go unsaid, we do not raise our voices at each other, we are not unkind to each other. We support each other, we push each other to new heights, we celebrate each other's successes.

Our relationship started with learning each other's boundaries, needs, wants, likes, and dislikes. As it has unfolded, we continue to stay curious about each other. Becoming more vulnerable, open, and forthcoming as time goes on. We have found an easy cadence with each other, an understanding of the nuance of each other's needs, and how we can fulfill them for each other. We are committed to continual improvement in how we interact with each other.

To discount all of that because sometimes he calls me his whore? To tell me that all of this is wrong because I enjoy being helpless every once in a while? To tell me I'm gross or disgusting because find catharsis in some form or another when he spanks me? To tell me that all of the good I have experienced in this relationship don't matter because I allow him to lead me?

To that I say: Get. Fucked.

The nature of our relationship and our commitment to do it right has expanded the depths of our emotional and mental intimacy beyond what I ever thought was possible. D/s gave us the language we needed to truly communicate and a reason to keep doing so. It's not just "spank me harder," it's also "I know you didn't mean it, but when you use xyz word it really hurt me and you need to remove it from your vocabulary when speaking to me." Then we follow through and respect the boundary. It's not just "tell me what to do and punish me when I'm bad," it's "help me hold myself accountable for the goals I'm striving for in a way that works for me and for us." Then he helps me stay on track towards those goals.

Hypocrisy runs deep in many people who want to shout from the rooftops that engaging in D/s specifically makes one an objectively bad person. That allowing someone to have power over you makes you "weak" or "childish." That allowing somebody to submit to you makes you "manipulative" or a "failure." They don't consider that there is already a power imbalance when one person makes more money, when one person is passive in decision making, when one person is saddled with household responsibilities, etc. Somehow, because I chose it, embraced it, and live by it, it's wrong, but when it just happens, it's right? Somehow, because I choose to recognize a power exchange and communicate effectively about it, to let it guide us to a healthy place instead of allowing it to become a point of contention that makes me a bad person? Those thought processes are flawed at best.

Furthermore, some of the same people that demonize power exchange revel in "owning" their partners, romanticize tying up them up and having their way with them, boast about degrading them because it's expected that they are a whore for them but God forbid they have any fantasies of their own. They cherry pick their own kinks as perfectly acceptable, all that is right, and expect to have them catered to, but when mine are done safely inside of a D/s context theose kinks are suddenly gross?

They cannot explain how being spanked in a way that doesn't leave severe marks for an agreed upon offense is "wrong" while they will beat you black and blue, but only for fun and that makes it "right." They cannot explain why having a fantasy about being forced is "wrong" when later they will tell you that you are going to take it whether you want it or not and somehow they think that's "right." They cannot explain why choosing to have rules in predefined, consented to areas is "wrong" but will fight like hell to show the power they hold over a person that was never earned and somehow that is "right."

You cannot shame me for choosing this dynamic when it has brought me the healthiest, most constructive, growth filled relationship I have ever had, or even seen. Just because you don't understand it or don't like it doesn't make it bad or wrong, it's just different.

-smurfette

[slowdowniwantthis-deactivated20]

Get fucked so hard I can't control the noises I make >>>

[itsthelittlestuff-deactivated20]

I don’t know how I’d function without being praised 24/7.

[sadd-n-subbyy]

if he's not gonna let me babygirl my way out of some situations he's not the one

[to-whom-1t-may-concern]

That babygirl stuff be my kryptonite 😂

[to-whom-1t-may-concern]

I can only hope that we as dom/sub trust each other so much that we will try our best not to hide ourselves when we’re in pain, for it’s a bit unfair that we shared many laughs together, but we cried alone.

[to-whom-1t-may-concern]

All Dom/me Should Know:

Your submissive loves to be held by you.

Learning and being patient with your submissive is important.

You must trust your submissive.

They feel safe and comfortable with you.

They love submitting to you and pleasing you.

They trust you with their life’s.

Always be proud of them and praise them when they do good and correct them when needed.

Never forget to listen to your submissive’s wants and needs.

Support their dreams and be there for them even on their darkest moments, for they will do the same for you with no hesitation.

Be sure to remind them that you love them more than anything.

And NEVER let anyone hurt them.

Please feel free to add more friends. ❤️

[to-whom-1t-may-concern]

I don’t want to just dom her sexually. I want to be there when she’s feeling like everything in the world is against her, I want to give her a bed time that I know she’ll try to break only to talk to me more, I want to hold her hand while we go for walks making sure she’s always on the side further from the street, I want to support her dreams and only encourage her to go after her goals, I want to make her feel like she’s a complete goddess, even when she tells me she looks like a goblin, I want her to trust me so much that she allows me to see her completely naked…. And I don’t mean her body. I want her to know that things won’t always be perfect between us, we’ll have our ups and we’ll have our downs, but what I can promise her is that as long as she’s trying I’m staying. I just want her to feel like she can completely trust me and for her to know I will never give up on her.

[pleasurewhore-deactivated201802]

Vulnerability

There is nothing easy about surrendering yourself to another person. Anyone who tells you otherwise, who tries to convince you that submission is a weakness, doesn’t understand the nature of strength.

If being a submissive was a switch I could flick on and off, I’m not sure that I would turn it on most days. Making yourself vulnerable is a terrifying thing. As humans, we spend our lives building walls to keep out hurt. We construct mechanisms to defend us against vulnerability, hoping to protect our hearts. But, as FDR famously said, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”

To be a submissive is to invite someone behind those walls. To cast off your armor, lay down your weapons, and crawl into the arms of another person, trusting that they will not betray you.

To submit is to choose each day not to recoil, to not construct new walls, or draw your weapons. It doesn’t mean that we aren’t scared. It doesn’t mean that some days it won’t be the hardest thing we do. But it does mean that each day we choose submission over fear, not because we are weak, but because we are strong.

[smurfettewrites]

32. Have you ever found that your dominant makes you feel submissive without intending to? How does that experience compare to when they try to make you feel submissive on purpose? 

He is tall, I am short. Often he will stand next to me or in front of me, and I am reminded of how smol he makes me feel. For some reason that will make me feel submissive even if it doesn't directly make me think about how he can toss me around. He's not doing it on purpose, he's just existing as a tall man. This same thing does not happen with other tall people, even the other tall person I've been with. It's just him, and when it happens I get the tiniest rush because the feeling it brings is a little secret when we are out in public and it happens.

Sometimes, he will make me feel submissive when he guides me to wherever he wants me to be with a hand to my waist, or the small of my back, or his hand wrapped around my arm. This is generally also going to bring on a little thrill when it happens in public because nobody else knows how it makes me feel. I don't let anybody else touch me like that. Unless I'm walking into traffic, do not push me, grab me, or pull me. PRDom has shown me time and time again that when I am in his hands, wherever I land, it is going to be a safe place. My ex used to push me specifically because he knew I hated it, and he thought it was funny to see me get so mad from being forced off balance. It made me cautious of anybody physically touching me because so often it was in a way that I hated. I do not allow many people to touch me at all, but PRDom is the only person allowed to move me in any way. He only does it to either keep me safe when I'm about to walk into something, through unsteady terrain, or to bring me closer to him. It means something that he's allowed to touch me to reposition me, either where he wants me or how he wants me. So even when it's innocent, it still makes me feel submissive.

There's also the way he talks to me that will sometimes make me feel submissive even when he isn't trying to make me feel submissive. Like when I get surprised by a no to a question I've asked that I didn't think was me really asking permission. The little flash of surprise might be followed by disappointment at having been told no, but it's always followed by a little warm submissive glow. He's relatively direct with me where he might not be so much with other people, especially in giving instructions, for me they are a lot more do it this way with far less information as to why and a lot more because I say so.

These all tend to give me a mildly surprising warm glow because they remind me of my submission usually in small ways or the feeling comes out of left field because I wasnt expecting to feel submissive.

When he intentionally makes me feel submissive, I generally feel a different range of emotions. He does not typically make me feel submissive on purpose in public, but he does sometimes when correcting me or giving me The Look™️. Usually, those moments are usually going to make me feel slightly sheepish because they are corrections, but I also feel seen and paid attention to which makes me feel cared for. Away from the public there's of course, the erotic side, which will make me feel used (in a good way), cared for (because my sexy needs are important too), praised for being "dirty" by wanting it so bad, etc. There's also the giddy side of things when he has me procure items for sexy time.

There's also the deep emotional moments where he's not necessarily trying to make me feel submissive but he is asking me to submit to him in baring my soul to him. Where I have to spill on what might be bothering me, or tell him about the things I dream for, or tell him what I want to change in out dynamic. The expectation is that I am open and honest, but sometimes he has to pull it out of me. Those times, it feels a bit like a trust fall, but I always land safe.

-smurfette

[amysubmits]

I know it can seem cliché, or even cheesy. 

But the magic of D/s really is found in communication. In my view, the most powerful thing a Dominant can do for their sub is to make themselves a really safe person for their sub to be extremely vulnerable with…and the best thing a sub can do for the dynamic is to be really honest. 

If you can both throw out expectations of what you feel you ‘should’ be or what you wish you were for whatever reason, and instead be really honest about who you actually are. What makes you tick, what makes you feel dominant or submissive (in extreme detail), what turns you on, what scares you, what makes you insecure, what triggers you have, what shortcomings you have, what makes you feel loved, what builds your confidence, etc etc etc. Once you know each other in extreme detail, you can customize your interactions to hit all the right buttons and avoid all the wrong ones and it feels like magic. 

[katsdom]

The above requires extended and repeated conversation. Just because you have discussed a topic once doesn’t mean it’s done. Come back to it again and again. Look for the nuances that appear with repetition. As a dom, it can be a challenge to be vulnerable and expose your weaknesses and doubts and fears. But you need to. And your submissive will NOT think less of you for doing so. They will love you more. And subs typically have a VERY hard time expressing their needs and wants. Their natural bent is to give, to serve, to meet the dom’s desires, not to ask for what they need. So they need to hear again and again and again, that it’s not merely OK to ask for what they need and want but that they serve their dom best by doing so.

[onedudesview]

With the death of oneguysview and the birth of onedudesview, alongside multiple recent revelations within the community here, I think I'm finished with Tumblr D/S. I'm certainly still going to continue in the lifestyle in my personal life, it may very well pop up in writings and the such, but I'm just not going to put the energy into a BDSM blog any longer.

I no longer feel that Tumblr is a place where we can trust the dialogue about BDSM to be safe or honest.

[seekingmyinnerself]

Another casualty. I can certainly understand that.

A few good people around here but most of tumblr is just people playing at it with no real idea of what it is really about. A lot of doms(?) misunderstanding and/or unwilling to view submissives as people deserving of respect, expecting everything, but giving little, and wondering why they keep getting left alone or only find “unsuitable” subs.

No realization of what it takes to get to those pictures. No desire to learn. And if they want to…so much bad information.

I read once that doms tend to stay/demand the lifestyle for their whole lives, subs submission lasts an average of 5 years. (Average: lookup that word up before you riot.)

It takes a much greater toll on a sub, both physically and emotionally, and sometimes financially as well, to give everything for someone else’s pleasure only to be told they are not true subs as they age, gain knowledge, have health issues, or their needs, desires, and limits change over time. As they inevitably will. Subs bodies may sustain lifelong health problems. Wannabe/fake/domineering doms suffer little. They give little. They move on easily.

Without knowledge and outside support, bdsm relationships can be very hard to maintain, especially for the new and naive. Without a safe place to turn for knowledge,advice, and support, the only way out, is out of the lifestyle for many. Many of whom were drawn in by enticing words and pictures but do not really want this. Thinking they would have the perfect dom/sub in no time and life would be exciting and perfect forever. Not realizing this not just kinky sex, but a real relationship with all the good and bad that can happen, not a quick fix for their lives.

And some come purposely looking for a sugar daddy and to take advantage of real doms.

As more and more good, intelligent, writers and bloggers leave, there are less and less places for accurate knowledge.

Good journey and a happy life.

Thank you for all that you have done.

[cherishedproperty]

Good D/s is highly dependent of finding the right details for the two being involved, right?

100%. Different relationships thrive with different rules, and I know some D/s couples who have no official rules. I can’t think of really anything that is an absolute requirement to be able to call yourself a D/s couple.

Even in my own relationship, our D/s has evolved significantly over time. We’ve added some rules and have gotten rid of others—even things I used to think of as “requirements” of D/s. For example, I don’t ask permission to masturbate or have a solo orgasm anymore. We realized a while ago that it had become a point of friction for me in the dynamic, so we got rid of it. Sometimes we talk about bringing it back, but we haven’t. And I feel just as much his submissive without that in place.

So yeah, every couple has to find what works for them—what is sustainable and brings joy, while feeding the power exchange connection. None of the hallmarks you see on this website or anywhere else are required. If they don’t bring you both joy, don’t bring them into your dynamic.

[polybabygirlbunny]

Absolutely! Find what works best for everyone in the relationship and continue to evolve!

[polybabygirlbunny]

When a scene goes wrong.

I wanted to share a story of something that happened a few months ago. I've been with my Daddy for three years years now and we are very good together. Very rarely do we plan a scene. We just go with the flow and good stuff happens. We communicate very well during play. Well I told him earlier in the week I wanted to play rougher than normal. When I got to his house he asked me if I still wanted to play rough and I said yes. So I did some cock worship and then after a little bit he laid me on the bed and started going to town. There was pain (which I like) and he was very grabby with his hands and I honestly don't remember what else was going on but it was rough and it was also in a play style we hadn't tried before. He's been rough before plenty of times but this felt different. I didn't like it. I was laying there trying to take it in and see if he it would get better and it wasn't getting better. He pauses after a couple minutes to check in and I can't remember what he said exactly. It was something like are you OK, or do you like this? I hesitated for a moment to answer but one thing that we have worked very hard to learn is to stop if it's not working or it will quickly turn into a bad situation. So I shook my head no and then I started to cry. I had been holding myself very tensely and he stopped and I just lost it. He laid beside me and held me and I cried. When I have big emotional reactions to play he just holds me and lets me feel it out and usually by the time I'm done I'm able to express what caused the outburst. In this case I was immediately overwhelmed. Usually when we play we start slow and work up, but when he got me in the bedroom he immediately went to town with rough stuff and my head was not yet where it needed to be to be able to handle that kind of play. I didn't have time to sink into it. We were able to shift and do more gentle play time that night, but we didn't do what we expected.

The point of this whole big story though is we are experienced partners, we tried a new thing and it didn't work. We had to communicate. I am very experienced in kink and I still got overwhelmed. You have to communicate and that's probably the biggest thing I've learned from kink. Communication is unbelievably important in your relationships as well as in the bedroom. But learning to communicate is not an over night process either. It takes time and work, and even after many years requires intentional effort.

[mr-arcturus]

Ding

[archangelsdomainxxx]

THIS!!

This weekend I have a scene in the making with someone special to me that’s going to involve me being a little rougher than I have been for a while which while I’m looking forward to it, I’ll absolutely stop, or change the means, or whatever I need to do to make it an enjoyable experience for both of us.

OP is right - communication is absolutely KEY! You can be in a dynamic or relationship for years and things can still be new, but can still go wrong too even if it’s something you’ve done a thousand times; sometimes you can take an impact, sometimes you can’t. Sometimes you can enjoy having hot wax dripped and scraped off, other times you just want to cuddle.

No two scenarios are the same, and the trust to do a rough scene or any scene for that matter can only come from communication. So talk first, sound it out, check on the day if you’ve planned ahead whether there are any problems or if it’s still okay (and that goes for both parties) cos believe me, while it might not happen overnight, with time you learn how to communicate without having to make a sound, and that’s when things get truly amazing.