The crimson fucker

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[blondewolf28-deactivated2024012]

Word of Advice

Never waste your time on people who make your life stressful, harder, or painful. Never waste your time on people who drain you emotionally or mentally. Never waste your time on people who make you dread waking up in the morning or living. Never waste your time on people who make you feel small, insecure, weak, vulnerable. Never waste your time on people who hurt you verbally/physically. Never waste your time on people who don’t make you happy.

If you have toxic people in your life, be it family member, friend, or partner, speak up. If you’re a victim of a toxic person, it is not your fault. Toxic people are extremely good at making you feel like the whole thing is your fault. They’re good at getting inside your head and know how to manipulate you to do what they want when they want. Toxic people know how to make you feel bad so they don’t feel guilty about the ways they made you feel.

It is not your fault.

Reach out for help, talk to someone you know and trust. Don’t be silent. Stand up for yourself.

Cut toxicity out of your life. You don’t deserve it. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to feel loved. You deserve to love yourself.

[the-secret-law]

6 Toxic People To Get Rid Of

Those who are manipulative. Ever noticed they have a tendency to act the victim, even when they’ve hurt you?

Those who excessively use passive aggression. “Fine.” “Whatever.”

Someone who never accepts blame, never apologies and avoids making positive change.

People who complain about EVERYTHING. “Life seems out to get me!”

Those who always cancel on you, even when you need them most. (Plus they never show gratitude when you are there for them!)

Those who are overly critical, all the time. Friends should be honest but shouldn’t destroy all your confidence.

[phantomkissing]

“Be careful who you expose your weaknesses to. I’m not saying to be so guarded you don’t open up to the ones that are close to you. I’m saying keep your eyes open. If you let someone know what hurts you, pay attention to whether they use it against you or help to strengthen it. Someone who claims to love you yet manipulates your weaknesses does NOT love you. And guess what? They never will.”

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[julstudies]

things i wish i could tell my parents

you tell me that i should have an idea of what i want to do with my life, then crush my dreams when i finally figure it out.

you tell me that i should love myself, then insult me with everything you have when i screw up.

you tell me that i should be happy with my body and then tell me that i’m only “not hungry” because i’m trying to lose weight.

you tell me to love the way i look but try and get me to wear makeup and change the way i look.

you tell me to be accepting and love everyone but shun me when i have friends that aren’t the same race, gender, or sexuality as me.

you tell me to use my words but then call me weird for expressing myself with words on paper instead of verbally.

you tell my to speak up but you never listen.

you tell me to be patient when you have no idea how to be patient with your own children.

you tell me you don’t have favorites but then force me to stop doing my homework to cook while my brother who is failing all his classes wastes his life away on video games.

you tell me to make sure my brothers do the right thing but then turn a blind eye when they’re not.

you tell me that making money matters more than being happy with what i want to do when you’re not only broke, but unhappy.

you tell me that i’m only human, that i’m not perfect, and that i need to calm my “ego”, when you make me feel worthless for being human and making mistakes.

you tell me to lose weight even though i’m the only one in the family within the “healthy” weight range.

you tell me to smile but all i see is a frown mirrored on your face.

you tell me that anger is not good for me when you get angry over the simplest things, causing me to be angry as well.

you tell me that depression will get me locked up in a mental hospital but you do nothing to help me.

you tell me that you love me but you show it in ways that are abnormal. in ways that make me feel like i don’t belong.

i see all of these posts about how you should “love your parents” and “treat them right”, but what about posts for people with toxic parents and family? i do love my parents, i do. and when i’m rich and successful i’m going to be the one taking care of them. 

please, if you feel like your parents REFUSE to understand you (not that they don’t understand you) talk to someone. your voice deserves to be heard. and if it won’t be by your parents, let it be by someone who wants, who demands to hear your glorious voice.

[riffatmatinpoetry]

“In 2018 no more going back to the people that have hurt me over and over again. Enough is enough. I am walking away and wishing you the best.”

— Affirmation of the day.

[sweaterpawlarry]

“Some toxic friendships jump back and forth between great and awful—that inconsistency can be a red flag. “The unpredictability takes a toll on you,” says Levine. “It can make you anxious, nervous, or depressed when you don’t know what to expect from a friend whom you’re supposed to rely on.”

— 7 Signs You’re in a Toxic Friendship

[thelovergirljasmine]

[depressionsdaughterxx]

How to Recognize Toxic Friends.

This can also be used for family members or anyone else .

Your friendship is one sided: You feel like all you do is give, and all she does is take..things are always on their terms, their needs, their timetable-then it may be time from this so-called “friend”

She is resentful or jealous of your successes: True friends will always applaud your success and tay joy in your wins. If they are acting either of these when you’re having a moment in the spotlight, that’s a very poisonous relationship. 

Her needs take priority over yours: You may be having a bad day, or you dealing with a lot of stress in your life, but even still, you find yourself constantly listening to whatever their issues are instead of the other way around. Friends support friends. 

They are possessive of your time + attention: Do they make you feel bad for wanting to hang with your boyfriend? Other friends +family?  Proper boundaries are a healthy relationship, but if they are being too dependent + needs , then the boundaries need to be reinforced. 

They put you down or give you backhanded compliments: Your friends are supposed to boost your self confidence and make you feel better around them. Don’t waste your time on people who belittle you. 

They are manipulative: Guilt tripping and shady behavior are not characteristics of a healthy relationship. If you get the sense that they are playing against you, someone else, or toying with your emotions then they don’t have your best interest.

* DO NOT FEEL GUILTY OR BAD IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO REMOVE THEM FROM YOUR LIFE. YOU DO NOT OWE THEM AN EXPLANATION. DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.

[yellowsugarwords]

warning signs of toxic, abusive friends

given events in my personal life, I made a list of red flags showing that one of your friends or several might be manipulative and abusive.

when you express the ways in which they have hurt you, they blame you, yell at you, and make you out to be the “problem”

they get upset for things you do but do those same things themselves, ie: hypocrisy

they treat you differently than other friends, ie: they’re meaner

if you’re always the one that reaches out to them and they tell you that you aren’t trying hard enough if you ever stop

they bail, ditch, or ignore events that are important to you

and get mad at you if you call them out on it

they use you to get things (money, gifts, attention) but never return the favour

they knit pick the smallest of issues and blow them out of proportion

they twist situations where they wronged you into you wronging them

they “team up” with other people against you, meaning they turn others against you

they never say sorry

when other people in your life don’t understand why they are angry with you, or actively tell you that you’re not doing anything wrong, ie: only the toxic friends are the ones that have these issues with you

they use your weaknesses to their advantage to harm you or win a fight

I know it’s hard, but run. they are not worthy of you, no matter what they trick you into believing.

you are not a broken mistake. you are not unworthy. other people will love you. they have convinced you of otherwise.

[binah-lance]

can we please stop acting like abuse only happens in romantic or familial relationships? platonic relationships can be incredibly toxic and unhealthy, and just because you’re strictly friends with someone doesn’t mean they can’t abuse you.

if your friend hits you, for whatever reason, they are abusive.

if your friend makes you do whatever they want and makes you feel guilty for trying to give your opinion, they are abusive.

if your friend makes you feel bad for trying to talk to them about your feelings, they are abusive.

if your friend tells you that you’re stupid, ugly, worthless, ect., they are abusive.

if your friend gets mad at you for hanging out with people they don’t like, they are abusive.

if your friend tries to make you feel guilty for cancelling plans when you had a legitimate reason (like health issues, homework, family drama, ect.), they are abusive.

if your friend pressures you to do things that you aren’t comfortable with, they are abusive.

if your friend purposely makes you feel bad about yourself or makes you feel guilty for the things you like and do, they are abusive.

if your friend touches you in a sexual or sensual way without your consent, they are abusive. even if they do it “jokingly.” even if you’re both straight members of the same gender. and especially if they keep doing it after you make it clear that you’re uncomfortable. (this is a big one)

keep an eye out for red flags in your platonic relationships just like you would in a romantic relationship. if you have a friend who does any of the things on this list, please talk to them about it. let them know that their behavior is hurting you and is not okay. and if they don’t get better, cut them out of your life. letting go of toxic people is an act of self care, and you are not selfish or cruel for cutting ties with someone who hurts you. 

[turtwig387]

After getting out of a toxic, abusive, manipulative, or what have you, kind of relationship, friendship, etc,

It’s okay to miss them

It’s okay to miss what you had

It’s okay to wish it didn’t happen that way

It’s okay to to be upset about how they treated you

Ita okay to be upset about it being over

It’s okay to be angry about how they treated you

It’s okay to have feelings about the situation and even about them still.

It’s okay to cry about it even though it’s over, or cry about it even because it’s over.

You can cry, you can get mad, you can express your emotions.

It’s okay.

But it’s not okay to go back to them. It’s not okay to apologize to them for how they treated you. It’s not okay to hurt other people because of how they hurt you. And it’s not okay to hurt yourself.

Please please please I know that you might still be hurting from them and from what they did and becuase it’s over, but the hurt won’t last forever. You’ll heal and you’ll be better.

They don’t deserve you.

You deserve better. You deserve good things. You deserve healthy love and healthy friendships and healthy activities.

I hope moving on, even if it’s painful, comes to you soon. I hope you’ll start to feel better soon. I hope you feel like you can go on, soon. <3

[platonic-suggestions]

Friendships can be just as toxic as any other type of relationship. It’s okay to cut toxic friends out of your life. You don’t have to suffer through it just because they’re your “friend.” I know it’s hard, but better people will come.

[hxrrymybae]

no more toxic friendships or relationships, only toxic by britney spears.

[vanemuine-deactivated20240324]

If someone tells you that they don’t like to be touched, that’s not an open invitation for you to keep touching them because you think it’s funny.

[gayscifinerd]

You deserve someone who actually gives a shit about you. Someone who doesn’t just see you as an extension of themself. Someone who would actually be afraid to lose you. Don’t let anyone else make you believe otherwise.

[gloupblog]

I think the key to long term happiness is actually to acknowledge something is upsetting you, something has hurt you or made you angry. But after acknowledging it, you need to make the conscious decision to let it go. Breathe, give yourself 10 minutes to think about how to deal with the situation, then forget about it. Why waste your energy? Why waste an otherwise good day on one annoyance? I feel like nothing is ever as bad as it initially seems. You need to move past that initial negativity and find a way to be happy again. Find a friend who never fails to make you laugh, focus on the good shit and keep living your best life x

[nikitaagupta]

thats the thing about time, no amout is ever enough. you always want another day, or another week or even another entire year. and the worse part is you don’t understand the importance of time unless it’s already running out and you feel like chasing it. thats the thing about time. ask someone whose been diagnosed with cancer or is waiting for months to meet their loved ones or is away at war. ask them because they understand time better than we do, we who have it in abundance. thats the thing about time, its hard to understand and even harder to appreciate when you have it. i wish i had more time with you, more time to make more memories. thats the thing about time, its always running out.

time//nikitagupta