too old for lullabies

♡ Eli

[shisasan]

Alexei Antonov

[aguidetolivingwell]

[jamesusilljournal]

Hände (vorm Gesicht), Sigmar Polke,  1968

[freelittle-soul]

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Looks by J. Nana Park from their thesis collection “In-Between”.

Models: @/orsonbeann , @/_mmmmill , @/opheliaosullivan , @/internet_baby

Film / Photography Director: @/_soeun_park_

Photographer: @/xinming_lia

Assistant: @/lqw_lam , Justin Tang

Makeup: @/soda_mua

Hair: @/m_a_s_a_k_i__

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Various ‘Flesh Fashion’ pieces by lemaine

[mazzystargirl]

so true bestie (homoerotic) 

[thestuntkid]

[kimironside]

[rifles]

Mallorca, Spain 1958

[a-titty-ninja]

[flores-da-d0r]

[hatin]

[ambiguities]

[bakwaaas]

Damien Florébert Cuypers / Kyutae Lee / Katherine Lam / Holly Warburton

[bongcop]

[toastbutteregg]

sharing this cause i wish i learned this sooner

[saltedcaramelwound]

But did you really forgive them if you aren’t willing to let them back into your life

[illvminavt]

[edgar-allan-possum]

Forgiveness is letting go of your anger at someone. It doesn’t mean you have to trust them again.

[urbanfantasyinspiration]

People often confuse forgiveness for reconciliation

[sinnahsaint]

My abusive ex once tracked me down and said he had done so because of a 12-step program telling him to make amends. He apologized. I told him “I’m glad to hear you’re getting help. Thank you for the apology.” He then tried to add me as a friend on Facebook. I told him “I accepted your apology but we are not friends. I hope your life continues to improve. Goodbye.” and thankfully he fucked off. I have to tell you though… I was sweating bullets the whole time.

I am honestly glad if he is getting help(I only 70% believe he was in the program and only 40% believe he will change because of it)…. but not only does an apology not heal the damage he caused… it certainly isn’t enough for me to risk further damage.

I owe him nothing. I didn’t even owe him a response to the apology. I did that for me because that is who I want to be. I want to be the person who can set healthy boundaries while being compassionate to those who have wronged me.

Hate is a heavy burden to carry for someone you don’t even like, so I choose not to hate. I do choose who I let into my life however, and there is a high bar.