Wayward Traveler

The truth is always far more interesting to me, confess something to me. Tell me things you don't tell anyone else.

[brokendreamsandpyramidschemes]

[dailypsychologyfacts]

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[liaarmani]

so disrespectful..

but so legendary.

[feeldiver]

that’s wild up

[dippedgaming]

This is the visual representation of changing your Netflix password on people.

[joyfulpiefactory]

spot the difference

[indygnation]

why are you booing me, i’m right

[chnaot-deactivated20170316]

[playdead1991]

“Ladies this is the last time to stand before me and save yourself from elimination.”

[itchycoil]

Whenever you’re feeling sudden calm its because I took your voodoo doll out for a picnic on a grassy hill

[roachpatrol]

thank you

[fentymylove]

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[treygotguap]

U send a meme to a Girl thinkin it’s gonna make her day and make her laugh but she just gon open the message, read it, save it, leave u on read, then send it to another nigga with the caption of laughing emojis

[gothgough-deactivated20180531]

[suprchnk-archive-deactivated202]

this is exactly why i don’t send memes til marriage

[ouijaboarding-blog]

Sending a long meaningful message and getting a one word reply

[juuliaroberts]

Spring: *arrives and presents dick prints in basketball shorts in windy Spring weather*

Me:

[quotemadness]

I need to be alone for certain periods of time or I violate my own rhythm.

Lee Krasner (via quotemadness)

[earthstory]

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No one knows exactly why otters do this — but it’s completely mesmerizing.

[disneyprincessmodelworld]

[b00otyfriedrice]

I love her ?

[jehovahhthickness]

I’m not hitting or beating my kids.

You can’t force morals on to people.

All you can do is hope and pray that your kids grow up and stay on the straight and narrow.

[jehovahhthickness]

“Punishment only suppresses behavior”

[jehovahhthickness]

Ok now that I’m on the subject of disciplining children.

What the fuck do you do if talking to your child doesn’t get through to them???

[sunnyhunnibun]

Talking usually will work if you’re trying to understand the child AND setting boundaries in place. Tell me why you are angry xyz, now you can’t push things over but you can punch a pillow. Give options and if those don’t work when you do punish lay out that you gave them options, give them a chance to take them but I’d they don’t then it is a time our or grounding or what have you.

My only source is being a teacher of 2 year Olds for a year but it usually works wonders

[jehovahhthickness]

What if they refuse to talk and tell you why???

[sunnyhunnibun]

I’d give them space but let them know that you’re there for them. Honestly speaking when a child trusts you, even if they don’t want to speak in the moment, they will eventually come around to talk to you. Because they know you won’t judge or yell or make them feel bad. Usually. And if they’re like throwing a tantrum it’s one of those, okay I see you’re upset, we need to sit down so that we can calm down. I’ll sit with you. Do you need a hug etc.

I used to have a lil girl that threw massive tantrums and she couldn’t /wouldn’t talk in the moment and you’d have to get down on her level and ask, do you need a hug/squeeze a hand/etc. She’d answer yes and want you to squeeze her until she calmed down and was able to vocalize why she was mad.

[twilightsky15]

*laughs* that’s cute. Guys you can’t reason with a child they are going to do whatever the fuck they want regardless of how much you talk with them. If your child is being a bray and throwing a tantrum what are you going to do? Try to loudly talk to them gently over the sounds of their screaming and crying?

[imperatorkhaleesi]

…do you not understand that a child is a human being with a brain and feelings and they just need to be TAUGHT to manage those feelings?

Do you not remember what being a child is like?

Do you not understand that if you don’t teach them how to deal, and how to talk things through (which they are FULLY CAPABLE OF, as news flash, children GROW UP TO BE ADULTS, WOW I KNOW, SUCH A SURPRISE) they’ll turn into jaded, mean, hostile assholes? Just like you?

Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with y’all? Kids are small human beings who haven’t been taught to reason yet. THEY CAN LEARN. THEY DO LEARN. WHY ARE YOU ALL SO EAGER TO FORGET THAT YOU WERE ALSO CHILDREN ONCE?!

Like honestly, I don’t love kids, but I remember what it was like to be treated badly by an adult. It fucked me up. Stop creating a self fulfilling prophecy by being an asshole to kids and then pointing at their reactions as if it justifies your fuckass behavior.

[rhyolitepebble]

If your child is being a [brat] and throwing a tantrum what are you going to do? Try to loudly talk to them gently over the sounds of their screaming and crying?

Yes exactly. Do just that. The more a caregiver can stay calm in the midst of a child’s crisis, the more comfortable the child will feel being honest about the feelings they are able to express. Once children trust that you are listening to their real needs, the cry for attention will decrease and clearer communication can develop. That’s how parenting/caregiving succeeds. But having patience and compassion.

I have worked with hundreds of kids in classroom settings, home settings, wilderness camping, and more. Kids are figuring out who they are, and the constant expectation that they behave like adults is unreasonable and harmful. Physical punishment and yelling quite literally stifles emotional development and quashes their sense of self. Instead, meet them where they are at.

If one cannot stand the noise, make sure the child is safe and then leave the room. If you are at a store or other outing, leave your cart and go home. Pull over if you are driving, and let the child sit in the car while you stay outside until they have calmed down.

Do not interact with children if you cannot refrain from hurting them or yelling. Harming a child will not help them learn to be a better communicator nor will it help them mature faster.

It will, however, teach that child to fear, hate, and be disgusted by you.

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[manyblinkinglights]

Reblogging for the inclusion of options for people feeling attacked and overwhelmed by noisy children—if a child is pushing you into reactive behavior, you need to learn how to disengage and get a hold of yourself. You aren’t helpless and you aren’t trapped, you’re big and strong and fast and no, you DON’T have to tolerate horrific behavior being blasted at you by a kid—you can separate yourself from the situation!

[curlicuecal]

Yep. It’s hard, and few people have the spoons to manage the ideal, emotionally mature reaction all the time, but if you model it as an adult your kids will start learning from you. Sometimes it’s good to check in with “would I think this was an acceptable way to interact with children I was babysitting or being paid to teach?”

Babysitters and teachers get to go home at night and take a break, yes. This lends some emotional recovery time. But they also know that they can deal with children–lots of children all at the same time!–without any physical harm, abusive language, or even prolonged yelling.

I’ve worked with children aged 2-16 and college students from 17+ and I’ve only had one occasion where anything remotely physical was necessary to maintain a safe and respectful environment– and that was just getting a program head to step in and separate an 8 year old from the other kids until he could calm down from a complete meltdown.

As for my part, I used to have tantrums as a kid. Fall on the floor, screaming, crying until I couldn’t breathe tantrums. My mom had a variety of strategies for dealing with them, but she always said she never held it against me when I’d say “I can’t stop” because she knew I really couldn’t. I literally didn’t have the emotional skillset to always handle all my feelings at the time. And you know what did stop them? I got older and figured it out.

Like, seriously, tantrums aren’t even fun for the person having them. They’re awful and scary and overwhelming and miserable. NOBODY present is having a good time. Kids absolutely do not want to be having them. But the toolset for handling overwhelming feelings is *learned.*

[thelittleblackfox]

Being a kid doesn’t deny you basic human rights. Yeah, your kid is having a tantrum, yeah, your kid isn’t doing what you want them to right now. But guess what? That doesn’t give you the right to treat them like shit.