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technically we’re ALL, always LARPing, because the Self is only a construct,

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ill fight an anthropologist ill fight a psychoanalyst i dont give a shit

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When a cis woman says something along the lines of “suck my balls” or “suck my dick” as a way to respond to male power/dominance/foolishness, I always feel at least somewhat uncomfortable with it.

First of all, it’s equating those body parts with men/maleness/masculinity, and that’s a cissexist frame of thinking that alienates transfemme bodies.

Secondly, as a trans woman, I’m often targeted specifically for my genitals, and if I were to try and claim those sort of phrases, I would not be met with a very positive response, and at worst, I might even be met with violence because of how pervasive transmisogyny is in our society.

I understand that we all want to turn the tables on men when they’re being shitty to us. I wanna shout “suck my dick” to all the assholes who catcall me when I’m out riding my bike or when I’m walking to the corner store, but I don’t because the repercussions could be dangerous.

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Thanks for flagging this in response to quoting Beyoncé’s “sorry” on Nightly Show. Privilege makes so many things difficult to see, so the perspective is appreciated. But it still an embarrassing oversight. I hope you can accept my apology. Side note, highlighting the issue with these common phrases takes courage. Especially given how many cis women (myself included) aren’t aware of how transmisogyny seeps into our daily speech and can get defensive when called on it. These conversations are necessary, so thanks again for holding those of us who fall short, to a higher standard.

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I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.

So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.