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Contrast. Dom/sub. Fashion, life and aesthetic talk? Also, random thoughts.

The contrast. Hi, I am just a girl with a blog who wants to share her thoughts. There is something so incredibly fascinating when I am seeing opposite aesthetics, and today i am focusing on this specific one. The contrast between the “rough” and the “gentle/soft” and what it means to me.

So, in my opinion, the "rough" aesthetic goes WAYY to well with the opposite. Black and pink/violet/baby blue/ pastel colors and so much more. I want to say that i do have specific kinks, though pdflia and rpe and such are strictly prohibited here on my blog. Kinks should be explored with a trusted partner, while both parties are over 18 and they consent to it. Now back to where i was, i do think that maybe my kinks are influencing this, and making me quite wild every time i see something like:

because to me, aesthetically and speaking about fashion, it just clicks well in my head. Another thing about it is that I do tend to go a bit crazy when i see it. To me, dressing like that it's purely about emotion! Its a way of expressing how i feel inside. It's not an infantilised state, or feeling, please don't get me wrong, but it's about being able to soften when someone strong enough can hold you and to me, it works by dressing a certain way. It's about letting go, just existing with someone who knows you can do it all alone, that you can handle it, but wants to do it for you anyway. Just because you can do it all alone doesn't mean that you should. Maybe that's why i am so into this aesthetic as well because it feels like as a woman i can be soft, while he, looking all rough and capable, can handle it. I do not dress like that now, i used to, back when i was in a relationship. It was not good not what i wanted so i ended it but that's for another day. A man who appears "rough" it's verry attractive to me. He does't really have to dress a certain way. I think it's not even about the clothes, but the strict, powerful and composed energy he actually has underneath all those layers of fabric. Lately, as i mentioned, i go a bit crazy when i see it because there's this part of me that's begging me to be free, yet these days i find less and less what am i looking for. You absolutely cannot be all soft and dolly with a rough man who doesn't know how to act and handle a woman and her physical and emotional needs. To be fair, men are stupid, most of them and i am so damn done with them that it makes me sick. But, there are good men out there. Men who find comfort and purpose in leading, in a dom/sub relationship, who find it fulfilling. If he just throws rules at you and threatens to punish you thats a fucking insecure clown who doesn't know what to do with himself.

If a man doesn't make your life better, then he is completely wasting your youth and time. There are a lot of men who dress, talk and look like they have it figured it out and stuff, but they just look like it. A real man would want to be your partner first, to know you inside and out and then and only then, you can talk about kinks. Someone who truly wants something serious with you won't tell you he's a dom in the first 5 seconds. You can recognise them "in the wild" lol, by how they speak. It's usually slower, more controlled and never loud. They don't need to be loud to be understood. They won't scream and beg for attention, they know they own it and they act accordingly. Also by how they dress. They can be "rough" like this, or classy, or minimalist. Usually, a dom isn't flashy. Haven't meet anyone like that so far. I can only say that, as a submissive 22 year old who craves THE REAL DEAL, rough men who are only soft to you are, in my opinion, the best out there. Ugh i deviated from the subject a bit but y'all got the point, i think.