K Loses Weight, Finds Themself

24 year old, RNY gastric bypass patient from the Midwest. This blog follows my journey to health (physical, spiritual, and mental), as well as some other personal, political, LGBTQ, and nature-related posts. I don't post body-spo because it's not realistic for me or my goals. Surgery Date: 6/15/15 HW: 310 CW: 164.4 GW: 155 They/them, or he/him, please!

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Yes, I am taking selfies instead of doing my dishes. Does this make me look bony or strong? I think @journey-to-the-throne tagged me for an SDS awhile back, but its been a really long couple of weeks. Lets tag @fatmaninalittlesuit, @chubbybunnyvsg, @adrianaology, anddddd @nofearinfailure. Whatchya'll up to?

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PHOTOS OF DOGS TAKEN WITH FISHEYE LENS APPRECIATION POST

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I'm so proud of you and so happy that you're finally embracing yourself! You're such an amazing person and I've only ever wanted all of the happiness for you! ❤️💕

Oh my gosh, thanks so much, love!!! The support I have received from ya'll has been so, so pure.

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💥🌫

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HAND.SOME.

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Women who are beyond done with all of this shit.

(via)

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And we're not a fuckin' Pepsi commercial, either.

[journey-to-the-throne]

135x6x2 bench went bangin

Then did some pump work

-Shrugs 115x3x8 -curls kept it like 15x4x10 -pushdowns w/ bar & rope alternating 100x4x10 -lateral raises 15x3x15 -military presses 75x5x3 for some easy peasy

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Duuuuuuuude 😍😍😍😍

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He’s not how much his arms can bench press,          Or the weight on the bathroom scale.

He’s not what his favorite sport is,          Or his passion for cooking.          Or the way he holds a paint brush.          Or how his hair fans arcoss his forehead,          Pushed back, pushed in.          Or even the way he folds his towels.                    Thirds, half, seams meeting at the                 edge.

He’s not his handwriting with the purple pen he uses. The scent of his cologne, or the scent of his candles, smoked vanilla and tobacco.

He isn’t the past he keeps in a shoebox under his bed. But he isn’t ashamed of it, either.

He isn’t his soprano climax,          or the short cut of his underwear,          or the low cut of his neckline,          or the V-cut of his crotch.               Exactly how the space               between his legs swells,               pulses. The way he pees, or where.

He’s not the nude-pink of his fingernails. The length of the hair on his chest, or the stubble on is face, or his smooth legs, or his curly eyelashes.

He’s not

                            a joke.                             a news story.                             a political statement.

He isn’t his giggly laugh. What keeps him awake at night. The songs he sings in the shower.

He definitely isn’t the letters in his name. The letters printed on his driver’s license. The letters wound and braided in his chromosomes.

He’s not the fat distribution around his hips.     The curve of his waist,        of his chest,         or his spine.       The way he rocks his body     when he dances, grinding on the notes like poles.

He’s not the way he fucks.

He’s not some pawn to move where its convenient. He’s not your gay, token friend. He’s not here to fulfill some fantasy. He’s not what YOU think a man should be.

He is simply,

                                                               a man.

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If helping some college kid out with a photojournalism class means double fisting ice cream cones at union station then I’m in

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The beauty of yoga lies within the soul

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DEAR TEENAGERS AND YOUNG ADULTS BECOMING SEXUALLY ACTIVE FOR THE FIRST TIME:

1. DEMAND condom use 2. Hold your partners accountable for what happens in the bedroom. None of this “baby I can’t control myself around you” or “I just wanted you so bad” bullshit. 3. Coercion is real and it’s very scary and hard to identify in the moment. Establish a dialogue with your partner. Be clear on what you both want. Be clear on what you don’t want. Your boundaries should ALWAYS be respected. 4. Sex can be really emotionally and physically over-stimulating the first few times; don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask your partner to slow down, take a break, or even stop. 5. Focus less on pleasing your partner and more on exploring your partner. Everyone’s body is different and there are no “tricks” to better sex. Chances are, if you psych yourself out worrying over how well you’re “performing” then nobody’s going to have a good time. 6. Ask questions, offer suggestions. Despite what porn has probably taught you, talking during sex isn’t weird or taboo. Your partner isn’t a mind reader. They don’t know what feels good to you. [Pro-tip, a looot of people without clitorises aren’t fully aware of just HOW sensitive a clitoris is. They can be a little rough with them. Tell them to chill!!!!] 7. Your sex life is YOUR business. Don’t ever feel ashamed of how many or how few sexual partners/experiences you’re having. Do what you want, touch the people who want to touch you back, forget the rest. 8. DON’T FAKE YOUR ORGASMS!! Don’t fake your orgasms!! DON’TFAKEYOURORGAMS!! If your partner isn’t getting you there, let them know! Tell them how!! 9. There is more to sex than orgasms. Sex is a really cool way to establish intimacy and trust, to have a fun time, to relieve stress, to explore a person’s body and bring them pleasure. Don’t get me wrong, orgasms are really cool and good, but your sex life is going to be a lot better if it doesn’t revolve around them. 10. LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY!! This goes for everyone, but ESPECIALLY if you are a person in possession of a vulva, you have been discouraged and even actively kept from vital knowledge about your anatomy! Do some google searches, buy a human sexuality textbook, masturbate. 11. Virginity is a useless concept. It’s completely okay if your virginity is something important to you and I’m not trying to belittle that idea. Just, for the record, in the grand scheme of things it’s not a big deal. Literally nothing about you changes just because you bumped uglies with someone else.

This has been a public service announcement from your friendly internet poet.

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Does anyone else close your messages window after sending a scary text, because maybe if you can't see it, it can't see you?

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What did my day consist of? Fucking amaziness. All day.

- Church with my best friend - Awesome deal on PERFECT chairs at Goodwill. - Sketching in the city. - Cuddles with the man. - Sunset patio yoga with my other man. - Breaking out the clarinet. - Dancing. Like, REALLY dancing. As close to contemporary dance as I can get lol. - Painting. 2 at once. Messy. I have paint every where.

Intermittent dinner, coffee, dancing, tumblr breaks.

Today has been good from the beginning.