A Rose isn't perfect without thorns

Anna's personal blog. My interests are all over the place but I blog BNHA, KNB, Undertale, Voltron, Mystic Messenger and Tokyo Ghoul. Cosplay and Nsfw things are included. I'm in school so a queue is going on! Triggering posts and or Spoilers happen.

[trxy-land]

sakura pawky 🌸

[queerplatonicpositivity]

I started a new remote job last week, and I'm the only genderqueer person at the company (and the first person who uses neo pronouns that anyone on my team has ever met, apparently).

So far:

Manager carefully wrote down spelling and pronunciation of my pronouns and told everyone on the team to respect them.

Coworker apologized privately for misgendering me (I hadn't told her yet) and said she will practice.

Guy on another team valiantly tried to use my pronouns and ended up saying something like zirzs-zhizz (I DM'd him and thanked him for trying and linked him to a practice site).

Teammate told me he has written out my pronouns and how to use them in a sentence and literally taped it to his monitor so he can practice.

Teammate also referred to me as compañere after I linked to a comic about gender-neutral endings in Spanish (whole team except me + 1 other person speaks Spanish as first language and they held all meetings in Spanish before the two of us started).

I am so stoked that people are actually trying. 💜🤍💚

[transmasc-nightwing]

It's important to remember this kind of stuff, especially with the world the way it is now. When i started my current job and i told HR about my name and pronouns, she called me to ask which locker room i wanted to be in and told me where all the neutral bathrooms are (which is all of them except the locker rooms).

I've had to come out to my team a couple times because of new hires and whatnot but every time it has gone well. People aren't perfect but they try and they correct themselves. I usually just get nods of understanding and a couple of times people have asked me questions to understand better.

When one of my employees misgendered me despite me directly correcting her and I documented it, the site director texted me at MIDNIGHT to apologize and assure me that he and HR would handle it. The operations manager sent me a similar email the next morning.

We aren't alone. People care. People understand us and are on our side.

[startledoctopus]

i was starting a new job, and before i went in for my first training in the afternoon, i talked to my mom on the phone. she was very excited because a nonbinary person who used they/them had just starting coming to her kungfu classes. "i got their pronouns like a pro because of you, so i got to surprise them with this 60 year old lady being super smooth with their pronouns."

later at my onboarding, a younger coworker surprised me by asking for my pronouns (i hadn't yet considered whether i wanted to be out at work) and i automatically replied they/them. my new boss, standing next to me, went "oh excellent! my youngest is nonbinary, i got this."

not only is people making the effort for you special and beautiful, you're also making life easier for those who come after, in a beautiful pay-it-forward loop-de-loop of pronoun teaching

[soranatus]

“Trans people can’t take a joke”

[eviethekiwi]

so true tho, all of a sudden alllllll these guys care about the integrity of women’s sports…

[asgardian-viking]

not just sports but the whole women´s rights debacle…. you got these dudes who never gave a flying fuck about feminism or dismissed rape culture or any other legitimate issues but suddenly they´re all concerned about trans women in the women´s bathrooms? or about this? “Back in my day, they just let tomboys be tomboys exist instead of convincing them to be trans…..” And i´m like: “ Bitch, were were you when some of us got bullied for merely be gender non conforming in our teens in the good old days? ”

[felderwin]

NEED a dating app setting that filters out people in the US military

[catgirl-kaiju]

when you're autistic and/or adhd, letting yourself get weird and a little embarrassing is an important part of unmasking and finding your authentic self

never be ashamed to just exist authenticly and don't be an ass about other people living without a sense that they need to hide parts of themselves from the world.

[mostlysignssomeportents]

Nazi-puncher fined $1

Jeffrey Winder appealed his guilty verdict after punching “Unite the Right” organizer Jason Kessler in Charlottesville the day after protester Heather Heyer died. A jury determined Winder should serve no jail time and pay the lowest fine possible.

https://boingboing.net/2018/09/07/nazi-puncher-fined-1.html

[wilwheaton]

Keep punching Nazis.

[natural--blues]

Turns out punching Nazis isn’t just moral, it’s shockingly affordable.

[drst]

Finally a hobby milennials can afford.

[petalsbleedingbeak]

It’s always a good idea to punch a Nazi

[sweatermuppet]

wishing that life were "what it used to be" nullifies your ability to craft right now into something worth being nostalgic over one day

[sweatermuppet]

allow yourself time to mourn but do not let despair make you negligent

[gauntletqueen]

some fools be like “i play games to escape my responsibilities” then pick tank or healer

[lesbianralzarek]

in my greatest fantasies i am able to help people

[gnomer-denois]

In my fantasies I can prevent people from being hurt, even if it means I get hurt in their stead.

[thewereshark-deactivated2025062]

In my fantasies i dont have to know how to aim

[windingpathways]

I'M PREGNANT AND NEED TO NOT BE. PLEASE HELP

fuck okay so I can't believe I'm making this post, but here we are.

despite birth control and my best efforts, i'm pregnant.

i can't handle this right now for a lot of reasons-- i'm going through a divorce, i'm deeply in debt due to the marriage i'm trying to end, barely staying afloat as it is working multiple jobs. i'm multiply disabled and so far have been EXTREMELY sick every day to the point of being unable to function. i don't have the time, money, physical and mental health, or resources to deal with a pregnancy, let alone a baby.

on top of all that, i have an infection they can't treat while i am pregnant, so they're trying to get this terminated as quickly as possible. i have an appointment set for Tuesday, 3/28/23 at 2pm.

my insurance does not cover abortions except in proven cases of rape or incest. all this to say, I need to somehow scrape together $600 by Tuesday for the abortion itself, plus cost of transportation. it's also been difficult to eat lately and i've been living off yogurt and the few other specific things i can keep down, so help restocking the fridge would be amazing.

i am of course gratefully accepting donations but am also just getting started as a content creator and i'm happy to do custom pics/vids etc as well.

c*shtag/v*nmo are both $wanderingivy

contact me privately for more info

please boost if you can

[egberts]

“So if little girls experience their menstrual cycle in 5th grade or 4th grade, will that prohibit conversations from them since they are in the grade lower than sixth grade?” asked state Rep. Ashley Gantt, a Democrat who taught in public schools and noted that girls as young as 10 can begin having periods.

“It would,” McClain responded.

Unbelievable. Link to article.

[ranidspace]

The first ever suicide prevention hotline was created in 1935 bevause a man conducted a funeral for a 14 year old girl who ended her life because she got her period. She didn't know what it was and assumed it was a STD. Learning about periods and sexual health is life saving. Republicans are unapologetically just evil.

[heyheyvey]

McClain said the bill’s intent is to bring uniformity to sex education across all of Florida’s 67 school districts and provide more pathways for parents to object to books or other materials they find inappropriate for younger children.

[robotlyra]

If “grooming an underage person” becomes the new go-to accusation that gets trotted out any and every time an adult makes any mention of sexual topics in the presence of a person under the age of 18, I wonder if it will eventually become functionally impossible for any adult in a position of authority to act as an educational reference for sexual health matters.

[robotlyra]

I was going back through my tumblr archives and found this post from five years ago and now I need a drink. 

[chum-personable]

where’s that dodgeball when you need it

[twistedpictures1-deactivated202]

hey you should ask your doctor about MAOIs. my SSRIs weren’t working so we tried those (i’m on nardil) and it did wonders for my mental health. just saying as a suggestion because based on the fact that you put the fucking onceler on my dashboard in 2022 the meds you take right now don’t work

WHAT

[giltspark]

[rongzhi]

English added by me :)

[sixpenceee]

Hamster escapes prison | source                          

[inima]

certified freak. 5 days a week (im in a union)

[tiktoks-lost-n-found]

[phillystrega]

I respect a doctor who has likely had to answer a lot of stupid questions about transition surgery and has just reached the end of his rope.

[liberalsarecool]

Conservatives do not want a debate or a conversation. It's non-stop bad faith.

They are taking 'kill the messenger' literally.