You never know, when you say goodbye, if itâs the last time. Last time for who? For what?
Every time is the last â for that particular goodbye, wearing those clothes, at that airport. Me in my black dress â nightgown, fifties housecoat, funeral uniform. It passes for anything.
My daughter in her fuchsia track shorts and faded green t-shirt almost as soft as her luscious little arms. She was complaining, as usual. She was hungry. She was tired of traveling.
Her complaints were especially unpleasant since they only pointed up how innocent she was of how bad everything could get. The Legos are boring? Imagine no toys of any kind.
The chicken nuggets are too hot? Just wait. Theyâll cool and by then, I hope she can learn to like lizard blood and shoelace chewing gum, because thatâs whatâs coming.
A fierce zip of pride bites my heart. She demands more because she knows thereâs more in the world and she believes she should have it all. She knows what she wants: what she wants.
She believes the world is coming to her, not veering definitively away. She still thinks we can choose between ice cream flavors, bless her that she has so many possible flavors in mind.
Between stuffed animals and dolls. Which color lunch box you want for the whole school year. What school year? I think. Will first grade exist this coming fall?
She still thinks that what she thinks will affect what she gets. She still believes tantrums might get her her way. She doesnât know yet that nobody gets her way.
Weâre all lucky if we get anything at all, come dinnertime, come night, the next morning and the next hot morning, the next endangered livingspace if we get to stay there. We canât carry all that stuff. But she doesnât think of it as stuff.
She thinks of it as what she wants. Lifeâs been consistent â me resisting her demands, me in my black dress, cutting my hair to make her paintbrushes. If something happens to me, who will help her believe her beliefs?
She believes her desires â as erratic and irrational as a six-year-oldâs desires can be â nevertheless have intrinsic value. A thread of hope wound, inextricable, all around and through her very person. I believe that, too.
One of these mornings Iâll say goodbye, a routine goodbye when I go to the FedPlex warehouse to work or pick my rations, and in my absence she will lose that thread, come to fully understand what she wants is impossible in our world.
All of it, any of it, the tiniest thing, impossible.
I wonât have known but Iâll be walking away from my daughter for the last time, coming home (wherever home is) to someone new, someone broken off from my old girl, six years old.
Here, I tell her, providing a pencil with a pristine, unsharpened end, chew on this. Nobodyâs touched it yet. Itâs all yours, darling.
Somewhere Iâll find a blade to sharpen it, and weâll find a scrap for drawing, a bit of napkin or a smooth, light stone. For now, you can chew on it. Soon youâll be able to draw whatever you want.
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