VENUS SQUARE URANUS(book one)🌻
These people are often what I like to call the dual natured lovers-due to the duplicity of their nature. At times they’re loving, passionate and almost drugged by the idea and the physical and communal aspect of love and relationships yet a hidden spark-a dormant emotion hidden beneath the surface seeks to run away to hide from the sheer intensity and overwhelming prospect of what it is that they seek. Some people describe those with this aspect as erratic and “freedom” lovers who seek a come and go type of romance when in actuality that’s never the case. These are real people with real hearts and souls who do seek intimacy the same way we all do but depending on where Uranus is sitting this may be a particular situation that clashes with the love they desire. These natives love incredibly hard and have a hard time letting go of someone once they’ve let them in-and despite their aloof and cool demeanor they do secretly crave attention and a lover who will be there through it all with them-they know it more than anyone else how inconsistent and strange their behavior can be and often times they isolate themselves from the prospect of love with others out of a fear of being labeled as “non-committal” or “icy” they are one of the most in my personal experience loving souls in the world.
They fly between emotions constantly and are seemingly always shifting from caring to the famed “disappearing act” to most this can seem maddening as they often do this once they feel as though they are losing base with their hearts and their minds and that to them is frightening and often the cause of the “disappearance” be it female or male with this aspect they fear love with anyone even family and the idea of surrender. Often times they can love someone deeply and still abandon that person out of the feelings that are aroused by said individual.
* Women: can be independent and willful, but also childlike and spunky-they have a very non traditional outlook on life and present themselves in a very rebellious and authentic way to others. They don’t present the image of the nurturing type and can seem like a free spirit. Love confuses them and often times they don’t like intrusive friendships-they keep a distance and at times you won’t even notice it. They crave love but also don’t know what to do once it’s there. They’re not promiscuous but often times are either serial dating or avoiding overly emotional flings all together. They have huge hearts and crave love deeper than most but the idea of it escaping them is what pushes them away from the idea-they don’t fear the Boredom as much as they’d like to think it’s a defense mechanism and really they just fear pouring their all into someone and being left along the road-weak and vulnerable. Relationships with other women are often fleeting and irrational. Women in her life can be revolutionary-unique-detached and smart witted-but also humanitarians and confused.
* Men: can actually be opposite-they are often curious, mysterious and cold. They present a social persona and can seem charming and flirty-they are easy to relate to and even easier to fall for but once more this is a projected image rather then their inward makeup. They are independent types to a point but also crave intimacy. They can seem self sufficient, but also crave some one whom they can rely. They seem unmoved but really Beneath it all they’re afraid and often at odds with their heart and their mind. They often get entangled in of and on again love affairs but usually only with someone whom they’ve fallen for; if love isn’t apart of the equation they’re even worse serial eaters than the women. But it’s for a fleeting emotional satisfaction than it is sex related. They can be senders of mixed messages and struggle with opening up no matter how much they may love you. Intimacy is a drug for them and often times they can be huge softies but Uranus creeps up and makes them fly 100000000 feet away from you at the drop of a hat. As mentioned above their relationships are often up and down and full of confusion and drama but be it as it may it shifts as to who is the one who exhibits this more as often their partners act out Uranus.
- Men and women of this position are sooooooo caring and have hearts that are very sensitive and giving-many would be snatched up by the idea of love due to the imbalance this square creates-imagine being at war against your heart and your instincts. They want one thing but their instincts in an attempt to rescue them make them run away. Once evolved though these natives are both spontaneous and courage in matters of the heart-they don’t necessarily become any less erratic but they do learn a better way about articulating that they need space to gather themselves(they often need a lot of space and sometimes even just a few days means a lot to them because they feel things so deeply and need time to get back into their groove) but they learn to communicate and truly learn to become much more intune with their hearts desires and their minds needs. They’ll still keep you guessing as it’s in their nature but they’ll learn to understand that it’s not only them anymore it’s someone else too.
Uranus and the house it falls in is soooo important to look at-as that’s the house that triggers the disappearing act.
- Uranus in the houses:
1. If Uranus falls in the 1st-7th house axis there will be a trigger based on a confusion of ones own self(1st house) or how one interacts with others or their shadow side(7th house) that could cause them to “leave”
2. If Uranus falls in the 2nd/8th house axis it’s a matter of their worth and value and maybe losing it(2nd house) or their own personal relationship with their sexuality and how it relates to them(8th house) that could cause them to “leave”
3. If Uranus falls on the 3rd/9th house axis it’s a matter of their siblings/distant relatives and also their own relationship with their minds and upbringings(3rd house) or their beliefs and more religious backing that can cause them to “leave”
4. If Uranus falls on the 4th/10th house axis it’s trickier-it can be a issue with close family and their childhood triggers and own emotional issues(4th house) or the pressures of their image and the expectations of others in the real world(10th house) that will cause them to “vanish”
5. If Uranus falls on the 5th/11th house axis it’s a matter of their views towards children or at times their children in general and maybe creative venture or endeavors and maybe having to give those up(5th house) or their relationships with friends and those they hold dear(11th house) that cause them to “leave”
6. If Uranus falls on the 6th/12th house axis it’s often a matter of the interruption or disruption of their daily lives and or over stimulation(6th house) or the overwhelming and sometimes intrusive aspect(12th house) that causes them to “leave”
- In the venus signs:
* Venus in Aries/venus in libra: can be passionate and pursuing one moment and distant and non responsive the next. Flies between insatiable to avoidant. Can deeply crave love yet as a defense mechanism be bored the moment interest is expressed back. Can seem like the fire burns out-from nowhere. Once elevated though! A very active and adorable lover-who isn’t as in your face as most Aries venus but also isn’t in any way predictable in their methods of pursuit.
* Venus in Taurus/venus in Scorpio: shifts from slow moving to moving too fast so to speak. Often unsure of their own level of interest and because of this either project it onto others or go quiet. There can be a tug of war between controlling their emotions and surrendering to them all together. Love extremely hard despite Uranus influence but can often be easily overwhelming by just how much they do “care” and because of this they run away a lot after a big emotional moment in the relationship. ESPECIALLY sex. Once evolved they are still on the timid side but they let themselves go a lot more! They Allow themselves to be submissive to the love more but although they’re still going to be odd and hard to read they’ll just learn to give themselves space every so often.
* Venus in Gemini/venus in Sagittarius: They’ll be more or less the same as most you would meet of the sign so you would think-but in actuality they are very emotionally responsive and a bit perplexing-they can crave the more intimate aspects of relating one moment and seemingly fly into a more cerebral plain field almost as a scapegoat to the oncoming intimacy. Once evolved though they allow their minds to shut off and open up a bit more-words aren’t used as a means to a escape but as a means to get close. They still will need moments of independence from time to time but it won’t be something rooted in selfishness.
* Venus in cancer/venus in Capricorn: There will be a noticeable paradox between clingy and emotive and aloof and detached. They’re either wanting to hold you or to be out of sight. They often have a deep need for love and intimacy but are deeply afraid of the more bare and naked aspects of what that means and can immediately grow disgusted with the same emotions they were just expressing once expressed back. Much like Taurus and especially Scorpio Venus they love hard but often too much and they need moments to take it in and breathe. Now once evolved they are often caring and open souls they surrender to their feelings but also know when it’s time to distance themselves.
* Venus in Leo/venus in Aquarius: Ah so here we have a opposition and a conjunct like feeling. Those with Venus in Leo will feel at odds with their passionate loving nature and often leave others perplexed by their intense nature yet the seemingly quiet burnout that simultaneously exist. They’re either all in or all out in a matter of seconds constantly shifting tones. While those of an Aquarius venus already have met Uranus often from the beginning but still with aqua venus their is a disconnect from Uranus since it’s square and they because of this come across as more emotional and needy at times yet cool and unreachable even more than most aqua venus. For both of these signs once evolved with this aspect their is a lovely give and take between passion and love and freedom and alone time-they learn that it’s okay to want and it’s also okay to want to be alone. Love is important but so is your own personal time.
*venus in Virgo/venus in Pisces: here there is a strong craving for love in the daily setting for both of these signs. They want you all the time and they want to be connected to you but there’s an aspect of them that is always out of reach and sometimes intentionally so-they often fly between consistancy that leads up to the sudden “disappearance” they can be deeply tender and sacrificing but often times the sacrifice is the warning sign of what is to come which is often them leaving for feelings of inadequacy on their end or unconscious desire for space to “recharge” once evolved they learn to balance their energies better and learn that they can have you in their daily life but they also don’t have to choose between their daily life and having you at the same time! They learn that it’s okay to take some days to yourself so long as you express those desires to your loved ones.
This was very long but I feel like many with this aspect are painted so poorly and I just wanted to take a moment to express that they love even harder than most of us! But like many Uranus aspects they’re often misunderstood. This is an aspect found in a lot of men and women who struggle with their sexuality in their earlier years and often times this aspect describes their early struggles and hot and cold confrontation with their own sexuality and what it means to them-loving these women and men young can be tough and full of trials but it does not make them any less capable of love and devotion but a lot of individuals soul searching and growth is needed! But if these natives do pull the disappearing act and you do truly love them? Be patient! Try and be understanding and be firm in a loving way! Challenge them to be better and to confront their shadow-love is never easy but if you’re willing to put in the work that these natives deserve then you’ll have an incredibly devoted and loving partner at your side always! (As a disclaimer this isn’t a “gay” aspect indicator and honestly yes a lot of people across the spectrum have this aspect and I firmly believe as someone with a lot of Uranus myself? Uranus is just a higher vibration that allows people to tap into the many colors of humanity be it gay-straight-bi and so on. We are complex human beings and grouping us in small little boxes seems like an almost alarming underestimation of what humans are capable of?
