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[bellflowergarden]

currently reading : factory girls - leslie t. chang

🪽 fond of oversharing and talking about the mundane. currently (very unfortunately) fixated on BNHA and killing games aka danganronpa & yttd

🪽 some posts are 18+ ! [block #nsfw 🪶]

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[koiagain]

you like fanart of a character maybe Two times and suddenly ur tumblr page thinks u want to read them taking it up the ass

[navy-leader]

Have been trying out new methods of shading and it's actually pretty fun, but it also makes me feel like this

[52stations]

these days you cant even relate to morrissey because he was looking for a job and then he actually found one

[anancientheart]

there’s something about becoming older where everything feels finite. summer isn’t endless, love isn’t eternal. you move homes, your favorite boots fall apart, your dog dies. everything feels consuming and beautiful when it is believed to be eternal. now it is all precious. everything. and there is a melancholy that comes with it.

[eraserheadadult]

the situation with harry potter is kind of unprecedented in some ways imo because it is maybe the largest media franchise in history to be created & owned by a single person who still has direct creative control over it. who is also a billionaire with significant cultural/political influence. like the usual "no ethical consumption under capitalism" type excuses shatter on impact when the bigoted author in question is logging onto twitter every day saying explicitly that when you buy the tim hortons ravenclaw donut she is using your donut money to fund the genocide of trans people. like with big franchises usually there's at least a little more diffusion of responsibility than this

[ceilidhtransing]

I cannot emphasise how fucking dangerous it is to start equating “any discussion at all of misogyny as it affects cis women and/or everyone assigned female at birth and/or who grew up in the social role of “girls” and/or who has a uterus” to “terf shit”.

To everyone in all those categories, the impact of misogyny on both the world at large and their own lives is extremely obvious. It's just... the state of things. And the vast majority of the time, when some cis woman is talking about, say, experiencing reproductive oppression or health inequities because of her uterus, she really isn't making some “point” about trans women. Only a minority of cis women are truly terf-brained, and most of them aren't even thinking about trans people when they talk about these things; they're just talking about obvious facts of their reality.

But if cis women start to get the message that “the stance of the trans community is that talking about misogyny as it affects people with uteruses and people who had girl-gendered upbringings is terf shit”, a hell of a lot of them - because remember, the vast majority of cis people know nothing about trans issues, barely consider us at all, and don't actually know the ins and outs of “the trans debate” - will conclude, “Oh, I guess I'm a terf then, if that's what that means. Because I'm sure as hell not on the same side as anyone who tells me I can't talk about how having a uterus has impacted my life.” And at that stage, they're not actually a terf, in any meaningful sense of the word; they're just a cis woman who has had a lifetime of misogyny and wants to talk about that. But if they're told that that makes them a terf, they'll start mixing with actual terfs. They'll start gravitating towards shit clearly aimed at further radicalising the terf-curious. They'll see people get rightfully called terfs and think “they must be part of my group, so I'm likely on their side and what they're saying is probably reasonable” and they'll see people say “fuck terfs!” and think “wow, we're being insulted just because we want to talk about how being raised as girls or having a uterus has affected us? I always thought there might be something off about the whole trans rights thing...” Their language and thinking will drip more and more with bizarre terf dogwhistles. And before you know it, Normal Cis Woman Who Never Really Thought Much About The Whole Trans Thing has become Radicalised Terf Wombyn Who Hates Trans People.

Am I “blaming trans people for our oppression”? No. I'm not implying that the reason every terf became a terf is that a trans person called them a terf. What I'm saying is that we cannot allow “talking about misogyny” - specifically in the ways that it affects cis women, those assigned female at birth, those who grew up being treated as “girls”, and those who have uteruses - to become “terf shit”. We cannot cede that territory to terfs. We cannot allow the general discourse to assume that “being a terf” just means “wanting to talk about menstrual health inequalities or the impact of having a “girl” childhood”. None of this is “terf shit”, it's just “talking about misogyny” shit.

And sometimes, people who talk in ways that get accused of being “terfy” are actually talking in ways that are more trans-inclusive! Maybe that person is saying “people with uteruses” instead of “women” because they're very specifically talking about people with uteruses, and don't want to imply that that category is exactly the same as the “woman” category, which would be transphobic! “I really hate how people with uteruses don't get taken seriously by doctors; I've been trying for years to get a hysterectomy because of my horrific periods and no doctor will do that for me because they're too concerned about my hypothetical future husband” is someone talking about medical misogyny in a perfectly trans-inclusive way that doesn't assume that uterus = woman and woman = uterus. It would be actively less inclusive if they'd said “women” instead of “people with uteruses”. “I really hate how we uterus-owning large-gamete-producing wombyns keep having to share our single-sex spaces with these big hairy male-socialised trans-identifying males” - now that is terf shit. They're not the same thing!

Trans people need feminism. Trans people need a trans-inclusive feminism. Trans rights - in every “direction”: trans women, trans men, absolutely everything else besides - are a feminist issue. But it seems like some people have got so single-focused on transmisogyny that it's as if they have completely forgotten or dismissed the existence of regular misogyny - a problem which is very, very, very far from being “fixed” or “over”.

Right now, cis women are a pretty important base of support for trans people. They are statistically far more likely to be friendly to us than cis men are. But some of the discussions I see among “transfeminists” are so incredibly alienating to anyone who wants to have particular discussions around misogyny that I'm worried we are going to be pushing impressionable cis women into the arms of genuine terfism, not the supposed “terfism” of “bringing up that you have a uterus in any way is terf-coded”. (And none of this is even to get into the fact that, if you listen to the way some people speak, cis women talking about misogyny is absolutely fine, while anything a trans man says about experiencing misogyny is all bollocks. Hmmmm... I wonder why that apparently is... I wonder what biases may be leading them to that conclusion...)

Talking about forms of misogyny that don't always overlap with the features of transmisogyny is not necessarily trans-exclusionary or terfy. It absolutely can be, when it is being done by actual terfs, but a lot of the time it really isn't. And that is ground we absolutely cannot afford to cede. All of us fucked over by cisheteropatriarchy need each other as allies. Cis women and trans people of all genders should support each other in our often deeply intertwined fights. This recent trend to call anything that even, like, acknowledges the political implications of having a uterus “terf shit” or “terf-coded” or whatever does not end well for any of us.

[sunsbleeding]

[ceruleanheaven]

religion is so fucking funny the world is just too beautiful there must be a higher entity behind all this. lets oppress women

[imdrinkingmiso]

rage bait works on me because I was never meant to have a phone or see a screen of any kind

[despazito]

[seirxi]

creatures

[medelinlupa]

Windows' smartscreen

[atomicwrongs]

Having your interests mocked as a kid and general low self esteem will have you insulting the things you like even when they're generally considered very good. Because you like it, and historically when you like something it's stupid and not worth anyone's time. So you will say nonsense like "I recommend this book/game/film, but it's okay if you hate it, it sucks, I really enjoyed it but that's because I'm an idiot" and you are recommending them the Citizen fucking Kane of that particular media type. And importantly: you need to stop doing this it is killing you

[speedlimit15]

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[girljeremystrong]

when you reblog a post about life being hopeless as an acknowledgement that your own life sucks and then your mutuals reblog the same post from you and tag it with the name of a hockey player it's like oh. so it's just me and this millionaire bastard in canada

[partingglances1986]

If you enjoyed this book you should read every other book in the world for extra textual context. All things are intricately related to one another.