yikes :/

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[jinmaeda]

[handwritten in ketchup: “DESPACITO”]

This is an example of hate.

[beware-the-cishets]

i wish the split attraction model wasn’t invented and asexual still meant not experiencing sexual or romantic attraction of any kind. it would be so much more useful. i wish people didn’t feel like they need to divulge private information about their sexual attraction/libido/wants to anyone other than sex partners. non ace people can not want to have sex too, so “coming out” as ace is nothing normal aquantices need to know about.

[nevsky-shit]

Alternatively: SAM was only a thing inside ace community, and people openly stating they’re asexual were doing this to help other ace ppl to understand themselves and share their experiences.

[beware-the-cishets]

too bad the ace community had to be a shithead and make shit like “asexual h*moromantic” and “asexuals can’t be heterosexual!! they don’t benefit from homophobia! they’re lgbt!” and spread mogai shit so that impressionable young people now identify as “demiheterosexual panromantic” huh

[nevsky-shit]

I’ve literally argued with “heteroromantic homosexual"© dude so…

[definitly-not-a-spy]

Wait what is wrong about Asexual Homoromantic though? Like… What is wrong with that? Also, its logical that you cant be asexual and heterosexual. It goes a bit against one another. Heteroromantic, sure, that works. Also, stop generalizing, for fucks sake. The fuck does this mean, what do we have to do with Mogai retards just because they copy our label to feel fucking special? Why is that our fault? The fuck?

[tara-the-artist]

If you’re asexual and don’t feel romantic attraction either, thats cool. But theres also nothing wrong with using the SAM. Im asexual and heteroromantic. Not trying to be special or anything. It just feels nice knowing there’s specific terms that describe a part of me.

[beware-the-cishets]

just say you’re straight lmao.

[beware-the-cishets]

i wish the split attraction model wasn’t invented and asexual still meant not experiencing sexual or romantic attraction of any kind. it would be so much more useful. i wish people didn’t feel like they need to divulge private information about their sexual attraction/libido/wants to anyone other than sex partners. non ace people can not want to have sex too, so “coming out” as ace is nothing normal aquantices need to know about.

[nevsky-shit]

Alternatively: SAM was only a thing inside ace community, and people openly stating they’re asexual were doing this to help other ace ppl to understand themselves and share their experiences.

[beware-the-cishets]

too bad the ace community had to be a shithead and make shit like “asexual h*moromantic” and “asexuals can’t be heterosexual!! they don’t benefit from homophobia! they’re lgbt!” and spread mogai shit so that impressionable young people now identify as “demiheterosexual panromantic” huh

[nevsky-shit]

I’ve literally argued with “heteroromantic homosexual"© dude so…

[definitly-not-a-spy]

Wait what is wrong about Asexual Homoromantic though? Like… What is wrong with that? Also, its logical that you cant be asexual and heterosexual. It goes a bit against one another. Heteroromantic, sure, that works. Also, stop generalizing, for fucks sake. The fuck does this mean, what do we have to do with Mogai retards just because they copy our label to feel fucking special? Why is that our fault? The fuck?

[beware-the-cishets]

that’s.. because you’re using the fucking split attraction model -_- yall are so dumb

[beware-the-cishets]

i wish the split attraction model wasn’t invented and asexual still meant not experiencing sexual or romantic attraction of any kind. it would be so much more useful. i wish people didn’t feel like they need to divulge private information about their sexual attraction/libido/wants to anyone other than sex partners. non ace people can not want to have sex too, so “coming out” as ace is nothing normal aquantices need to know about.

[beware-the-cishets]

@thorscourse transmeds don’t get to reblog my posts pls delete it so i can block you -_-

[beware-the-cishets]

i wish the split attraction model wasn’t invented and asexual still meant not experiencing sexual or romantic attraction of any kind. it would be so much more useful. i wish people didn’t feel like they need to divulge private information about their sexual attraction/libido/wants to anyone other than sex partners. non ace people can not want to have sex too, so “coming out” as ace is nothing normal aquantices need to know about.

[nevsky-shit]

Alternatively: SAM was only a thing inside ace community, and people openly stating they’re asexual were doing this to help other ace ppl to understand themselves and share their experiences.

[beware-the-cishets]

too bad the ace community had to be a shithead and make shit like “asexual h*moromantic” and “asexuals can’t be heterosexual!! they don’t benefit from homophobia! they’re lgbt!” and spread mogai shit so that impressionable young people now identify as “demiheterosexual panromantic” huh

[zendiscourse]

not saying they don’t exist, but does anyone actually know someone who’s ace, cis and straight? like. genuine question here

[beware-the-cishets]

yes, several

[pinkyena]

The LGBT community: asexuals aren’t oppressed!!

Also the LGBT community: *opresses asexuals*

[pinkyena]

Like maybe oppression isn’t exactly the right word, but probably the closest I can think of to use???? Oppression doesn’t automatically have to mean being killed and beaten.

Just treat aro/ace folks better please.

[beware-the-cishets]

totally wrong word to use here buddy. try again.

also nice try pretending like the lgbt community as a whole has ever hurt asexuals

[queersona]

“most inclusionists are pedo apologists”

…I think 100% of the inclusionists I follow are anti maps and csa survivors

[discourseful]

let’s see! you’ve reblogged from:

courteousmingler, a pedophile apologist who is also just an awful fucking person:

https://anna-hates-meanies.tumblr.com/post/175554466729/courteousmingler-courteousmingler-remember

vaspider, who says “antis” against drawn CP are just as bad as their sexual abusers (not linking proof of your reblog because searing “vaspider” on your blog shows PLENTY of results),

you PERSONALLY said you were with fatfae/angryfae, a self-admitted “ex” pedophilie who consumed drawn child pornography for YEARS and only started unfollowing CP blogs when called out on it:

https://anna-hates-meanies.tumblr.com/post/167665202209/hey-so-uh-notevenshitpostingcansaveyounow-and

here’s receipts on fatfae’s pedophilia and everything else they’ve done:

http://discourseful.tumblr.com/post/171135397413/about-fatfae

receipts on CM, vaspider/periegeisvoid/golbatgender, and a couple other popular pedophile apologists:

http://discourseful.tumblr.com/post/168360346318/yall-if-you-reblogfollow-courteousmingler

[diylycanthropy]

its always weird to see ppl say that society is Hypersexual (ignoring that thats a disorder and bad phrasing) and nothing else, just cause like, you’re missing a key part of society’s attitude towards sex - there’s a co-occuring obsession and complete derision for sex. 

i know, as someone in a long relationship for a young teenager (15/year and a half), so many people pestered us about our sex life, asked when we were banging, etc. and this is at the same time that my mom wouldn’t even let me go to his house, while his parents were home, because she was scared i’d get pregnant (but refused to put me on birth control for my super heavy periods). and when i’d send anons to people i really liked on tumblr, asking them if it was wrong/”slutty” to have oral sex when you were 15, people would say yes! and these people were not much older than me, 19 or so. i was passionate about sex ed while writing long tumblr posts about Why Not Being A Virgin Would Be Bad. 

or like, i’d sext with adult men when i was a minor, and there’s nothing like that to make you feel the dual validation and disgust for sexuality. i felt validated by those men, i felt attention and felt liked, i was able to hide my dysphoria in feeling objectified, and i also had a constant secret that i knew could fuck up my life if others knew, because there is such shame and hatred for sexuality. 

society’s oppositional views about sex are related to co-occuring control & objectification of women, and to a lot of respectability politics surrounding marginalized ppl (ie gay people are only not sexual deviants if they eschew pda and focus on The Love in a very sterilized manner, but also gay spaces can be very sexual), etc. those things can’t be divorced from each other, and to only present one half of that is disingenuous. 

[zendiscourse]

whenever the ace discourse gets brought up people sure love to act like all of society isn’t hyperfocused on sex

that literally from birth you are constantly shown that sex is a vital part of a relationship, of being a human- not having had sex is mocked and looked down upon, and it is literally expected of people to have sex

i’m not saying its the same as being gay. but just because it’s not ‘as bad’ doesn’t mean it’s not harmful

ace people are taught that they are broken. that there’s something wrong with them- and again, not saying it’s the same, but doesn’t that sound familiar? because yeah, it’s not the same, but it still has the exact same tone of ’you’re not ‘normal’’

at least keep that in mind, and stop pretending it’s not a thing

[beware-the-cishets]

this is an issue that effects all people, regardless of wether they’re ace or not

[zendiscourse]

okay responding to both you and @clumsyairbender & @officialmimikyuu (who i can’t tag for some reason, gdi tumblr) bc i’m too lazy to separate it and it is more or less, the same answers anyway

first of, i never said it’s aphobia! and you’re right- it’s the by product of a broken system, with all of the things you mentioned

but

i’m specifically talking about the way it affects asexual people. and it affects us a lot differently! like, obviously there’s overlap, and again- i’m not saying it’s aphobia, or even that it’s oppression. i’m just saying that it is an issue in the same vein as oppression (not the same) because a lot of people act like the only issue is ~mean people on tumblr~

so okay: the way it affects asexual people differently, is that for us, we don’t get it. like, yes. some non-ace people have a lowered interest in sex. but in general, they are still. interested in it? and that’s the key different

like, yes: ace people can be into sex, can have it, and some even have a sex drive, but that’s not in general. in general, asexual people don’t have a sex drive.

like, seriously- it’s a huge lack of understanding, a huge just. missing point? it’s not the same as oppression, i am not saying it is, but when everything is geared towards sex- when it is literally shoved down your throat, it can be fucking awful

it tells us that we’re broken. that there is something fundamentally wrong with us, because we don’t like sex- we aren’t interested. it is in the same vein as gay sex, just kind of flipped- the way public ignores/shoves it on your face is like they’re saying you’re broken, there is something wrong with you

yes, it doesn’t affect everyone that way. but it’s still there, it’s still happening. and what i’m saying, what i would like, is that people keep that in mind. this isn’t about whether or not asexual people are lgbt- this is about the fact that, a lot of the time, people try and pull the ‘oh your only issue is being called a plant lol’

it’s not the same. it doesn’t have to be. it’s just a thing that happens, that affects asexual people in a specific way, different from how it affects gay people, or bi people. that is all i’m saying

oh, you’re right! that actually is a really good idea! like, in general, i think society needs to be more open about sex. as far as i know, it’s a huge problem in america, but i think even here in europe, it is an issue- it needs to be taught properly, and also like, more widely? like it’s not just straight sex. it would definitely help normalize things

[beware-the-cishets]

i’m not denying the prevasivie oversexualization in american society. what i am saying is a lot of the things you’re mentioning aren’t specific to ace people because it’s a combination of factors, including misogyny and hypermasculinity

this isn’t exclusive to ace people. it really isn’t.

[zendiscourse]

petition for people to stop saying cishet aces, and just say straight people, god, please just do that instead, you don’t gotta include the ace when you specifically talking about straight people, like

it’s okay. you can say straight

[beware-the-cishets]

we include it cause people can’t seem to wrap their head around the idea of ace people possibly being cis and straight and therefore oppressing lgbt people

also, straight trans people are lgbt.

[zendiscourse]

i didn’t even mention trans people

and secondly, the fact of the matter is, that you’re talking about straight people oppressing you. you aren’t talking about how asexual people do it- it’s straight people. like, i obviously can’t stop you, i just feel like it’s an unnecessary addition, since you are, specifically, talking about how straight people oppress you

[beware-the-cishets]

straight cis aces still oppress us tho lol and aces are kinda the topic of the discourse so

and no. we’re not talking about just straight people we mean cishet. straight trans people don’t oppress all lgbt people.

[zendiscourse]

petition for people to stop saying cishet aces, and just say straight people, god, please just do that instead, you don’t gotta include the ace when you specifically talking about straight people, like

it’s okay. you can say straight

[beware-the-cishets]

we include it cause people can’t seem to wrap their head around the idea of ace people possibly being cis and straight and therefore oppressing lgbt people

also, straight trans people are lgbt.

[gadyukina-archive]

if aroaces wanna call themselves lgbt: cool

i dont care. its your right to say what you are.

[beware-the-cishets]

cishets don’t have the right to force themselves into lgbt spaces

[zendiscourse]

whenever the ace discourse gets brought up people sure love to act like all of society isn’t hyperfocused on sex

that literally from birth you are constantly shown that sex is a vital part of a relationship, of being a human- not having had sex is mocked and looked down upon, and it is literally expected of people to have sex

i’m not saying its the same as being gay. but just because it’s not ‘as bad’ doesn’t mean it’s not harmful

ace people are taught that they are broken. that there’s something wrong with them- and again, not saying it’s the same, but doesn’t that sound familiar? because yeah, it’s not the same, but it still has the exact same tone of ’you’re not 'normal’’

at least keep that in mind, and stop pretending it’s not a thing

[beware-the-cishets]

this is an issue that effects all people, regardless of wether they’re ace or not

[mr--moth-deactivated20181113]

Okay okay I’ve seen a lot of shit about aces not being lbgt going around and I honestly do not get it? “There’s just cishets” no they’re asexual. I honestly don’t understand why ace just automatically equals straight in some of y'all brains??? Can we please tackle actual issues in this fucking community and not this obvious bullshit?

[beware-the-cishets]

aces aren’t inherently lgbt. lesbian/gay/bi and or trans aces are.

cis and het aces benefit from homophobia and transphobia

[thorradical]

i hope any truscum/transmed knows that they’re wonderful, and deserving of love and respect. their views don’t make them a “”“traitor”“” to the LGBT/trans community, or a bad person at all. sending love to those who need it💞

[beware-the-cishets]

truscum and transmeds can go shit themselves lol thanks

[snugbat]

wrow dont cut yourself on that edge

[beware-the-cishets]

gonna bleed all over ur white shirts

[deadacc91831837]

lol fuck off thanks xx

[beware-the-cishets]

lol did u mess up which blog to reblog to or are u some random who had to intervene with ur genius response

[beware-the-cishets]

i wish the split attraction model wasn’t invented and asexual still meant not experiencing sexual or romantic attraction of any kind. it would be so much more useful. i wish people didn’t feel like they need to divulge private information about their sexual attraction/libido/wants to anyone other than sex partners. non ace people can not want to have sex too, so “coming out” as ace is nothing normal aquantices need to know about.