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dog eating a hot dog at the mariners game

#meeeee

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Four year old beekeeper distracted by a roly-poly.

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“Why do so many bisexual girls want so desperately to be lesbian?” - I see a lesbian tiktoker ask, (and then also proceed herself to answer, which it’s definitely NOT her place to do on our behalf IMO).

Hmmmm. I dunno, perhaps it’s because every piece of sapphic history pre-1980 is constantly stripped away from us and claimed as ‘lesbian-exclusive’… despite that fact that bi women were considered lesbians during this time??

Because I wondered, for so many years as a bi girl with primarily sapphic attraction, why there was so little sapphic culture for Bi women.

Why lesbian women seemed to have such a rich history and diverse range of identities, communities, signifiers and fashion…. And for us, there was just a void.

I never understood why lesbians had butch-femme, violets, lavender, lesbian fashion history and we just had nothing. No words except bisexual. Nothing more specific than ‘bisexual woman.’

Because that simple language wasn’t enough to explain me and the depths of my sapphic-ness. Not when (due to the split-attraction model) my attraction for women vs men is like 85-15.

Not when my sexuality centres women.

It couldn’t explain the specific love I felt for butches and how I revelled in my femininity as their counterpart.

It couldn’t express how I actively chose to perform my femininity for a female gaze. For a sapphic gaze.

It couldn’t explain how I constructed my femininity like an art piece, like a drag persona. How I revelled in the dressing up for other queer women and performing femininity in a sapphic space.

So when, out of interest one day I started reading about lesbian history and the butch-fem(me) community…

(something I’d never allowed myself to do before, unable to bear the heartache that this culture just wasn’t meant for me)…

…You can imagine my fucking surprise when I found out that for the history of so much of this ‘lesbian’ culture, bi women were considered lesbian too.

That when we were split from the lesbian community, bi women were severed from our own history. Our own culture. Our own inheritance.

And because the modern-day lesbian community kept the word that had once described all of us, our shared history was slowly rewritten, reanalysed and reinterpreted to fit the new more exclusive definition of ‘lesbian’. And bi women were disinherited from our own culture.

But it wasn’t that there was ever a void in Bi sapphic culture. It was that sapphic history had been anachronistically reanalysed to quietly ignore and erase the existence of women who loved women, but not exclusively. Women like me.

Women who had helped create butch-femme culture in the 1940s/50s. Women who now, even though they may still be alive… would no longer be considered femmes by teens on the internet.

Women who may have lived their whole lives as femmes, lived the butch-fem(me) dynamic, would now be excluded from the very label they helped create.

And it’s heartbreaking. It truly is. To find a word and an identity and a history that you feel describes you and everything that you are, and that you have every right to claim…

…But that people want to gatekeep. To erase the nuance and complexity of a community and a whole history. To silence bisexual women and sever us from our own history and sapphic lineage.

Well sorry, I’m not going to be silenced anymore. Because that Tiktoker made me realise something.

If bisexual women keep conceding our shared sapphic history, terms, and culture then of course young bisexual women will wish that they were lesbian.

Because in comparison, our culture is impoverished, our place in sapphic history forgotten.

And that’s the saddest thing of all. That beautiful young bisexual women feel the same way that I felt. That there’s something lacking about bisexual sapphic identity. Something missing.

And the only way to change that is to refuse to be silenced. To hold your ground. To be that greedy bisexual and hold on tight to our history and to our language.

Bisexual femmes will not be erased, nor will we be silenced. We deserve the language to adequately describe our identities and experiences. And we have it, because we never lost it in the first place.

So hi, I’m a bisexual femme. Nice to meet you.

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alexa play neck deep

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I want to try so many little hobbies. Candle making, soap making, basket weaving, wood carving, book binding, baking, weaving, I want to try them all.

thatscavlife

I almost made a post about this the other day (unless i actually did and totally forgot) but there’s so many

I was going to make a list, but then i realized this is a good time to share this book

Making Stuff and Doing things is a whole collection of old punk DIY zines about making and doing just about anything, even things you probably never knew you wanted to do.

Book binding? In there.

Making bowls from old vinyl records? I made a whole ton for my brother’s grad party last year.

Basics of guitar? Making rubber stamps? Silk screening? Composting? Homemade beer, root beer, and wine? Soymilk?? Quill pens??? All in there.

Since it’s more punk, it doesn’t have a ton of the folksy, cottage vibes/hobbies, but it’s all about being resourceful and sustainable, which they both have in common.

If i ever need to do anything I’m not sure of, I double check this book to see if there’s anything in there. It’s one of the only books on diy I’ve ever needed.

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Handbook of basic life skills for a young punk or activist, or anyone without a lot of money.Following some of the advice in this book could

You can download the entire book as a PDF in the link above.

#reference #hobby books #diy guides #zines

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WHY YOU SHOULD WRITE HORRIBLY:

1. You’ll never write anything if you don’t

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Ok!

birdwarde

he's waiting for his husband to return from sea

puddingcatbeans

to be perfectly honest. i don't care if it is cheesy or cliched or idealistic. i like stories where the core of it is about kindness, the warmth we can offer others and the gentleness we receive in return. maybe the moral of the story IS love triumphs. it better fucking be

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Rhian Symes - Looking at Me Looking at You. 2016. Watercolour.

#art

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writingmaz

Writing Tips

Punctuating Dialogue

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➸ “This is a sentence.”

➸ “This is a sentence with a dialogue tag at the end,” she said.

➸ “This,” he said, “is a sentence split by a dialogue tag.”

➸ “This is a sentence,” she said. “This is a new sentence. New sentences are capitalized.”

➸ “This is a sentence followed by an action.” He stood. “They are separate sentences because he did not speak by standing.”

➸ She said, “Use a comma to introduce dialogue. The quote is capitalized when the dialogue tag is at the beginning.”

➸ “Use a comma when a dialogue tag follows a quote,” he said.

“Unless there is a question mark?” she asked.

“Or an exclamation point!” he answered. “The dialogue tag still remains uncapitalized because it’s not truly the end of the sentence.”

➸ “Periods and commas should be inside closing quotations.”

➸ “Hey!” she shouted, “Sometimes exclamation points are inside quotations.”

However, if it’s not dialogue exclamation points can also be “outside”!

➸ “Does this apply to question marks too?” he asked.

If it’s not dialogue, can question marks be “outside”? (Yes, they can.)

➸ “This applies to dashes too. Inside quotations dashes typically express—“

“Interruption” — but there are situations dashes may be outside.

➸ “You’ll notice that exclamation marks, question marks, and dashes do not have a comma after them. Ellipses don’t have a comma after them either…” she said.

➸ “My teacher said, ‘Use single quotation marks when quoting within dialogue.’”

➸ “Use paragraph breaks to indicate a new speaker,” he said.

“The readers will know it’s someone else speaking.”

➸ “If it’s the same speaker but different paragraph, keep the closing quotation off.

“This shows it’s the same character continuing to speak.”